Ok, here's one that I just got into via a FB post from a good friend. She was referring to the Kesha situation (which makes me sooooo ragey I can't even handle it!), but I found myself on a very strange side of the issue. The judge ruled that rape is not a gender-based hate crime. Knowing myself, I would assume I would be ready to tear that judge a new one and I am, but not for that specific ruling. I also do not believe that rape is a gender-based hate crime.
Hear me out: as I understand it, a hate crime is committed specifically against someone based on religion, race, gender, etc, correct? While you can definitely say that Kesha was raped and that she is a woman, I don't know if you can conclude that she was raped BECAUSE she is a woman. While rape is sexual in nature, it is at the root an act of violence that uses sex as a weapon, just like a sniper chooses to use a gun and a slasher chooses to use a knife. Guns and knives can be used for acts other than violence, just as sex can (and should) be non-violent. There are cases where some rapists are non-discriminatory and will attack people regardless of gender (these assailants tend to target pre-pubescent children). Rape is not committed "because someone is a woman". Men can be victims as well. Rape is committed because the assailant desires power and control over another and uses sex as a weapon. Rape is definitely one of the most atrocious crimes that someone could commit, but I do not think it can be classified as a gender-based hate crime, especially since a victim could be gender fluid and the rapist may not even know (or care) the gender of the person they are attacking. Rape is not about sexual attraction or orientation; it is about violating someone else's body in order to gain control and a sense of power.
So I hear what you're saying: rape isn't necessarily a gendered crime, and so can't be a hate crime. The problem is, while the first statement is true, the second does not follow from it. What I mean is this: The vast majority of rape is conducted towards women, or people who identify as female (be them trans or girls, etc). Rape is sexual in that it uses sexual body parts, but is rooted in power - men (usually, yes, I know women can and do perpetuate rape, but the vast majority of rapists are men) thinking they have dominion over women in such a way that their wants supersede her bodily autonomy. Taken in that way, it is a hate crime directly in that definition you posted. That is, rape is a tool used by one gender to dominate the other in an illegal manner because that first gender thinks the second gender is less than fully human.
Now to the assertion that rape isn't always a gendered crime: sure! That's true! But that does not mean it's not a hate crime when it occurs as described above. In the same way that not all white-on-black violence is a hate crime, but certain white-on-black violence is.
So here is my take on this: First, I find it interesting that the Judge essentially does agree that Kesha was raped (yes finally! Oh, wait. .. nothing will be done about this? Well [censored]!). Second, I think it is a very hard thing to do, to see rape as a hate crime, because we live in a patriarchal system that promotes male interests over female interests - it's very hard for males (and females, I have lost count of how many times a girlfriend has empathized with her abuser) not to empathize with another male - his life was so promising, that could have been me, it doesn't happen that often, she must be lying, etc. So it's an uphill battle to take rape seriously at all, never mind to see it in such an objective way as to say, Oh yeah - it is predominantly a hate crime because it dehumanizes female-identifying people based on their gender. But, just because it's an uphill struggle doesn't mean we shouldn't struggle to make it right, so I carry on ... Finally, we already have studies and agreements worldwide recognizing the rape as a tool of war, positioning it as less and less a sexual act and more as a power statement by dominant men (See the latest cases of Bosnian and Korean women vs. their respective invaders) - so I have hope that eventually rape will be treated with the same gravitas as related hate crimes.
Aaaaaaand since I am pretty sure I'm going to be mostly alone on this, I'm saying this is my UO this week If not, however, my second UO is that turning into a meat eater (from being a pescatarian for nearly 11 years) because of this pregnancy has made me absurdly happy ... even if I am morally conflicted.
As someone who has been both a working mom and a SAHM, I have to agree with the sentiment that quantity time =/= quality time with your kids, necessarily. I hate to admit it because I'd love to be a rockstar SAH parent, but it's hard to be "on" all the time when your kid is your primary responsibility 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.
I'm not saying one choice is better than the other, just making an observation based on my own experience.
I think maternity clothes are fugly. Why so many garish prints and colors? Why can't maternity clothes be in basic neutral colors? I have so many maternity clothes that if they were made in my normal non-pg size I would never, ever wear.
Horizontal stripes much?
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I think maternity clothes are fugly. Why so many garish prints and colors? Why can't maternity clothes be in basic neutral colors? I have so many maternity clothes that if they were made in my normal non-pg size I would never, ever wear.
Horizontal stripes much?
Stripes are trending outside of maternity wear as well.... have been for several years now.
I don't like taking baths. I don't find it comfortable or relaxing and it kind of grosses me out.
DH teases me because I only bathe with a purpose-- like reducing swelling-- then I shower quickly afterwards. I don't feel clean if I've just been sitting in all of my stuff with soap. And I clean the bath right before I bathe or right before DS takes his nightly bath...because drains are gross. I may be a bit of a neat freak.
I don't like taking baths. I don't find it comfortable or relaxing and it kind of grosses me out.
DH teases me because I only bathe with a purpose-- like reducing swelling-- then I shower quickly afterwards. I don't feel clean if I've just been sitting in all of my stuff with soap. And I clean the bath right before I bathe or right before DS takes his nightly bath...because drains are gross. I may be a bit of a neat freak.
I ALWAYS shower after taking a bath! MH also thinks I am nuts, but it is weird to think I am basically sitting in a soup of my own filth and soap residue.
I don't like taking baths. I don't find it comfortable or relaxing and it kind of grosses me out.
DH teases me because I only bathe with a purpose-- like reducing swelling-- then I shower quickly afterwards. I don't feel clean if I've just been sitting in all of my stuff with soap. And I clean the bath right before I bathe or right before DS takes his nightly bath...because drains are gross. I may be a bit of a neat freak.
I ALWAYS shower after taking a bath! MH also thinks I am nuts, but it is weird to think I am basically sitting in a soup of my own filth and soap residue.
I didn't know that taking a bath that wasn't immediately followed by a shower was even a thing!!! I would feel so dirty. @kbrands7 my H would sometimes surprise me by running me a bath on nights when I had to work late. It took all of my willpower not to ask if he had at least rinsed out the tub before he filled it. I'm sure the answer was no anyway!
When I lived back home I used to shave in the tub and then shower to wash my hair and my parents use to think I was crazy... or maybe it was vice versa. But regardless I never did it because I thought of a bath as 'sitting in my own filth' ewwww. Thanks! lol
Just a short point: both @laurenmdrn16 and @AmmyBelle are right about rape being/not being a hate crime, at least according to the ICC.
It depends on context: e.g. Male-inflicted rape is frequently used as a tool of genocide, both against women (both as a show of dominance and as a way of polluting a gene pool) and against men (as a way of shaming them).
And the patriarchy definitely counts as a context wherein rape would often be considered a hate crime. But it isn't inherently one.
I hate calling people (ANYONE) ugly, fat, gross, annoying, retarded, stupid, etc...
DH does it. We will be in the car and he will say "look at that guy!" And point out something he finds weird or unappealing. I ask him not to do that. I really don't want my daughter picking up this nasty habit of judging people over things that are either petty or not in their control.
I got stretch marks during puberty and I've been up and down on weight (large part due to early adulthood binge drinking). That felt pointless. I now feel like my body has purpose. It's created a whole human! So the weight, the marks, they just seem more worth it. Not so much of an excuse for excess cushiness but a reason for it. I want LO to snuggle into me and all my fluffy goodness. In my mind that's just how moms are (not meaning that a toned and chiseled woman can't love, care, and comfort her child the same).
I love this! I've always been very self-conscious of my body and dieted/exercised constantly; I definitely looked awesome, but never felt good about myself. I've always been terrified of what pregnancy will do to my body. Now, I'm actually kind of excited about what I'll look like and also feel like my body has a great purpose of growing a tiny human, and isn't just something that exists for other people to look at.
Also, throughout pregnancy I've really come to enjoy eating and exercising for my health, *not* because I want to look a certain way. It's much more pleasant, and I'm looking forward to continuing with it once LO is born.
@kurrant My ex and current SO both did/do that. Like my SO now will even comment on actresses on TV or movies and be like "damn, that chick is ugly!" and it's usually someone I find beautiful... so I turn to him with a dumbfounded look on my face and ask what the hell he sees in me then!
@kurrent, you would hate our house. I hate to admit it, but DH and I critic everyone. It is something we need to work on before the baby picks it up, but it is almost a hobby for us. We suck.
@kurrent, you would hate our house. I hate to admit it, but DH and I critic everyone. It is something we need to work on before the baby picks it up, but it is almost a hobby for us. We suck.
I have to admit that this is one of my worst habits! Usually it is about how dumb people are. I am realizing that I am a total snob when it comes to intelligence and can be super critical when people just don't think (which is insanely ironic because I am a complete idiot right now with this baby brain!). Especially while driving I will make very judgmental comments about people who don't know how to drive properly and just the other day I heard my son say "Red means stop, buddy! Use your brain!" to another car. Oooops, I guess he is already picking up my road rage.
@kurrent, you would hate our house. I hate to admit it, but DH and I critic everyone. It is something we need to work on before the baby picks it up, but it is almost a hobby for us. We suck.
I have to admit that this is one of my worst habits! Usually it is about how dumb people are. I am realizing that I am a total snob when it comes to intelligence and can be super critical when people just don't think (which is insanely ironic because I am a complete idiot right now with this baby brain!). Especially while driving I will make very judgmental comments about people who don't know how to drive properly and just the other day I heard my son say "Red means stop, buddy! Use your brain!" to another car. Oooops, I guess he is already picking up my road rage.
And then when I pass them, I have to look and see if they look as stupid as they drive. And when I look and realize they're 100 years old, I feel horrible and lecture myself about being a better person.
But at least you say "buddy." My diction is far more colorful. I reeeeallly need to work on this.
DH and I definitely critique how people act, but not really how they look. If we're in people-watching mode, we also tend to come up with a variety of scenarios why the person may have acted a certain way...which is maybe worse, maybe better. I don't know.
So, I can understand the appeal of destination weddings (even though I know they can be a pain), but I don't understand this new trend of destination bachelor/bachelorette parties. I don't really want to spend a crap-ton of money traveling to some exotic location just to party and get hammered.
Then again, I don't get the point of going on vacation just to get shit-faced the entire time. I (very briefly) dated a guy who would spend thousands of dollars going on all these exotic trips, and would literally spend the entire trip drunk. Didn't experience the local culture, didn't sight-see or learn anything, just partied and drank with strangers he'd never see again. Seems like you could do that at home for a lot cheaper.
I don't really want to spend a crap-ton of money traveling to some exotic location just to party and get hammered.
Haha. I feel like this describes my honeymoon which I am planning round 2 of next summer after a total lack of a good vacation since then (summer 2014). Exotic location + alcohol = my idea of a good time. Sign me up! But in relation to a bachelorette party, I semi-agree with you. I had a good friend go to Cancun several years ago for hers, and I wanted to go so bad, but I just couldn't afford it at the time.
So, I can understand the appeal of destination weddings (even though I know they can be a pain), but I don't understand this new trend of destination bachelor/bachelorette parties. I don't really want to spend a crap-ton of money traveling to some exotic location just to party and get hammered.
Then again, I don't get the point of going on vacation just to get shit-faced the entire time. I (very briefly) dated a guy who would spend thousands of dollars going on all these exotic trips, and would literally spend the entire trip drunk. Didn't experience the local culture, didn't sight-see or learn anything, just partied and drank with strangers he'd never see again. Seems like you could do that at home for a lot cheaper.
I can see your point... But for example... My best friends all live in different states and there is no way we would skip each other's bachelorette parties. Since most would have to fly or drive 8 hrs anyway we all choose somewhere fun for a long weekend (Nashville, Vail, West VA, Chicago). I don't get to see them very often so it's essentially in lieu of a trip to just go visit. We all also deal hunt like champions to keep cost reasonable.
@yogahh I think Chrissy Teigen is more funny and honest than good looking, but she is kind of overkill lately...
Another UO - I can't stand when people gift items at a shower that obviously can't be used for MONTHS...i.e. sippy cups, 12-24 month clothing, etc. Or when people register for those things...
@Charla I'm a Hoosier too and Indiana is so backwards it's sick! I just moved to Tennessee a couple of months ago (Lived in Indiana for 21 years) and this place isn't much better. Pence is an idiot and I have no idea what they are doing.
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@yogahh I think Chrissy Teigen is more funny and honest than good looking, but she is kind of overkill lately...
Another UO - I can't stand when people gift items at a shower that obviously can't be used for MONTHS...i.e. sippy cups, 12-24 month clothing, etc. Or when people register for those things...
Really?? Yeah, I can definitely see that being unpopular . I thought it was awesome when people gave me clothes for older ages rather than having 10 million 0-3 month or newborn outfits! Things start getting expensive when you have to buy all the clothes. It was also great being gifted sippy cups and spoons etc, too, because when the time came to start DD on solids I didn't have to agonize over what kind to get--I just opened my cupboard and used the variety of things I knew had worked for my friends.
So, I can understand the appeal of destination weddings (even though I know they can be a pain), but I don't understand this new trend of destination bachelor/bachelorette parties. I don't really want to spend a crap-ton of money traveling to some exotic location just to party and get hammered.
Then again, I don't get the point of going on vacation just to get shit-faced the entire time. I (very briefly) dated a guy who would spend thousands of dollars going on all these exotic trips, and would literally spend the entire trip drunk. Didn't experience the local culture, didn't sight-see or learn anything, just partied and drank with strangers he'd never see again. Seems like you could do that at home for a lot cheaper.
I've gone to a number of destination bachelorette parties and I more or less just think it's an excuse to take a trip with your good friends. I had mine in Vegas and 10 friends came just because it was a good excuse to go with our group of GF's, not solely because it was my party.
I think it's fine to let loose a bit on vacation, but I like to take in a lot of activities, so being hungover is not super conducive to being active. I'm with you that I wouldn't want to be blackout drunk the entire time. I could casually drink throughout the day though!
The quote box machine isn't working for me but on the topic of talking about people's looks...
I just can't say negative things about the way people look. I don't necessarily like it when people do it around me in person, either. I can definitely perceive who I believe to be attractive or not and will only comment on the better half of those thoughts (in a respectful way).
You can't always help the way you look and I've been on the receiving end of some really hurtful comments (beginning way back in middle school when everyone is just awkward) and it KILLS your self esteem. I won't say things like that out loud even about a celebrity. Just my two cents.
Now, I'm no saint - people piss me off to no end and I am easily annoyed with certain behaviors and I will critique that kind of stuff even though I shouldn't. I can also see how some celebrities are way overrated but that's as far as I'll go appearance wise. Maybe somehow I feel like behaviors can change while appearance is set and there's only so much you can do there.
And, but, also...I still wish to be eating some bacon right now.
@yogahh I think Chrissy Teigen is more funny and honest than good looking, but she is kind of overkill lately...
Another UO - I can't stand when people gift items at a shower that obviously can't be used for MONTHS...i.e. sippy cups, 12-24 month clothing, etc. Or when people register for those things...
haha someone gave our LO his first matching backpack/lunch-pail/sippy cup...as it is freakin' adorable, I was like yeah better store this somewhere since it will be awhile before use it!
@yogahh I think Chrissy Teigen is more funny and honest than good looking, but she is kind of overkill lately...
Another UO - I can't stand when people gift items at a shower that obviously can't be used for MONTHS...i.e. sippy cups, 12-24 month clothing, etc. Or when people register for those things...
haha someone gave our LO his first matching backpack/lunch-pail/sippy cup...as it is freakin' adorable, I was like yeah better store this somewhere since it will be awhile before use it!
More so the idea of having to store it that long annoys me more than being gifted the item. Its a sweet thought but my MIL got some 18 month pajamas for our shower. Now I need to remember to put them somewhere I won't forget about them!
@yogahh I think Chrissy Teigen is more funny and honest than good looking, but she is kind of overkill lately...
Another UO - I can't stand when people gift items at a shower that obviously can't be used for MONTHS...i.e. sippy cups, 12-24 month clothing, etc. Or when people register for those things...
haha someone gave our LO his first matching backpack/lunch-pail/sippy cup...as it is freakin' adorable, I was like yeah better store this somewhere since it will be awhile before use it!
More so the idea of having to store it that long annoys me more than being gifted the item. Its a sweet thought but my MIL got some 18 month pajamas for our shower. Now I need to remember to put them somewhere I won't forget about them!
I got some bins to put the larger sizes in...I figure that I will need to put the NB/0-3 month clothes away at some point, so I can just switch those out for the larger sizes in the bins. Not sure if this is helpful but I got some long plastic bins for under the crib on amazon...that way I can remember where the extra clothes are when it's time to use them but they aren't taking up space in a drawer.
@kurrent, you would hate our house. I hate to admit it, but DH and I critic everyone. It is something we need to work on before the baby picks it up, but it is almost a hobby for us. We suck.
This. DH and I work in law enforcement. If we weren't able to get it out I think we'd explode.
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Then again, I don't get the point of going on vacation just to get shit-faced the entire time. I (very briefly) dated a guy who would spend thousands of dollars going on all these exotic trips, and would literally spend the entire trip drunk. Didn't experience the local culture, didn't sight-see or learn anything, just partied and drank with strangers he'd never see again. Seems like you could do that at home for a lot cheaper.
DH and I pretty much only vacay in New Orleans for this purpose but no where else really.
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@yogahh I think Chrissy Teigen is more funny and honest than good looking, but she is kind of overkill lately...
Another UO - I can't stand when people gift items at a shower that obviously can't be used for MONTHS...i.e. sippy cups, 12-24 month clothing, etc. Or when people register for those things...
Really?? Yeah, I can definitely see that being unpopular . I thought it was awesome when people gave me clothes for older ages rather than having 10 million 0-3 month or newborn outfits! Things start getting expensive when you have to buy all the clothes. It was also great being gifted sippy cups and spoons etc, too, because when the time came to start DD on solids I didn't have to agonize over what kind to get--I just opened my cupboard and used the variety of things I knew had worked for my friends.
The time also sneaks up on you so it's nice to already have that stuff instead of agonizing over it when the time comes and not having the tools you need at the time. It's a bit frustrating when you don't have the room for it all though but in the end it pays off.
Been married since 2009. Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter) Several MCs DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
My UO is when people complain about things that have obvious solutions. Dizziness, swelling, BH, and dry mouth? Drink water. Feet hurt, swelling, BH, out of breath? Sit down AND drink water. Your belly button disappeared? You're pregnant.
Been married since 2009. Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter) Several MCs DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
My UO is when people complain about things that have obvious solutions. Dizziness, swelling, BH, and dry mouth? Drink water. Feet hurt, swelling, BH, out of breath? Sit down AND drink water. Your belly button disappeared? You're pregnant.
I have a hot one this week, but I don't know if it'll be a UO for you ladies or not.
I am from Mississippi, and I consider North Carolina my second home. This week, Mississippi's Governor signed the religious freedom act to essentially target gays and allow businesses not to serve them without being sued for discrimination. Some business owners feel that the shouldn't have to service those who are "living a life of sin." This is mind boggling to me - doesn't this go against Christian principle? I don't think being gay is a ticket to hell, but even if I did think like these people, aren't we all sinners in theory? Isn't every single one of your customers including yourself living in sin in some way? Additionally, knowing Jesus' story and background, I don't see how anyone thinks he'd be cool with using Christianity and his name as a way to discriminate. It seems so contradictory to me. And the big kicker? The Governor's son is gay! He signed something into law that discriminates against his own flesh and blood.
I wonder if people who support these things are truly "Christians" or just bigots looking for a tool to discriminate.
I completely agree with you. It's really sickening to me that they think it is okay to do that. Jesus/God loves everything. Christian is supposed to mean "Christ like" I sure don't see that in these people. They don't love everyone and aren't treating everyone how they should be treated. I feel like this is a violation of people's rights in so many ways.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
I don't like Divergent. I couldn't get through the first books. I wanted to punch the main character. "Hey don't do this!" "Oh don't do it... ok.. I'm gonna do it anyway." While I KNOW this is how teenagers act (I work with them after all). It annoyed me. That being said, if you loved it, great! I love it when people love books- even if I don't (I also despise Twilight)- but don't get mad at me and act like something is wrong with me for not liking a book you love.
Twilight is some of the worst writing I've ever read in my life.
I agree- and I hate that its completely ok that Edward is basically stalking her. That's not ok, and no teenage girl should be taught that it is.
I liked reading Divergent and Twilight. I also have liked all of the movies. I think it is NUTS how obsessed girls (and grown women!) got over Twilight though.. seriously people, it's just fiction.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
I don't like taking baths. I don't find it comfortable or relaxing and it kind of grosses me out.
DH teases me because I only bathe with a purpose-- like reducing swelling-- then I shower quickly afterwards. I don't feel clean if I've just been sitting in all of my stuff with soap. And I clean the bath right before I bathe or right before DS takes his nightly bath...because drains are gross. I may be a bit of a neat freak.
I ALWAYS shower after taking a bath! MH also thinks I am nuts, but it is weird to think I am basically sitting in a soup of my own filth and soap residue.
Same here. Unless you're showering after a bath, baths are gross! You're just chilling in your own filth. I actually took a bath tonight after work for the first time in FOREVER because of my sacroiliac acting up.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Re: UO Thursday 4/7/16
Now to the assertion that rape isn't always a gendered crime: sure! That's true! But that does not mean it's not a hate crime when it occurs as described above. In the same way that not all white-on-black violence is a hate crime, but certain white-on-black violence is.
So here is my take on this: First, I find it interesting that the Judge essentially does agree that Kesha was raped (yes finally! Oh, wait. .. nothing will be done about this? Well [censored]!). Second, I think it is a very hard thing to do, to see rape as a hate crime, because we live in a patriarchal system that promotes male interests over female interests - it's very hard for males (and females, I have lost count of how many times a girlfriend has empathized with her abuser) not to empathize with another male - his life was so promising, that could have been me, it doesn't happen that often, she must be lying, etc. So it's an uphill battle to take rape seriously at all, never mind to see it in such an objective way as to say, Oh yeah - it is predominantly a hate crime because it dehumanizes female-identifying people based on their gender. But, just because it's an uphill struggle doesn't mean we shouldn't struggle to make it right, so I carry on ... Finally, we already have studies and agreements worldwide recognizing the rape as a tool of war, positioning it as less and less a sexual act and more as a power statement by dominant men (See the latest cases of Bosnian and Korean women vs. their respective invaders) - so I have hope that eventually rape will be treated with the same gravitas as related hate crimes.
Aaaaaaand since I am pretty sure I'm going to be mostly alone on this, I'm saying this is my UO this week
I'm not saying one choice is better than the other, just making an observation based on my own experience.
I do like bacon.
I just think it's overrated
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EDD 1: May 12, 2016
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ok actually none say bacon is overrated - just that it's overdone and on the downward trend
Married: Oct 20, 2013
BFP 1: Aug 31, 2015
EDD 1: May 12, 2016
DD1 Emma born May 12, 2016
An Honest Account of New Motherhood (with Postpartum Anxiety, Depression, and OCD)
BFP 2: October 07, 2019
EDD 2: June 20, 2020
DS: Born 5-17-16
Horizontal stripes much?
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Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
@kbrands7 @laurenmdrn16 Ya'll are really killing my love for baths right now. Haha.
When I lived back home I used to shave in the tub and then shower to wash my hair and my parents use to think I was crazy... or maybe it was vice versa. But regardless I never did it because I thought of a bath as 'sitting in my own filth' ewwww. Thanks! lol
It depends on context: e.g. Male-inflicted rape is frequently used as a tool of genocide, both against women (both as a show of dominance and as a way of polluting a gene pool) and against men (as a way of shaming them).
And the patriarchy definitely counts as a context wherein rape would often be considered a hate crime. But it isn't inherently one.
DH does it. We will be in the car and he will say "look at that guy!" And point out something he finds weird or unappealing. I ask him not to do that. I really don't want my daughter picking up this nasty habit of judging people over things that are either petty or not in their control.
Also, throughout pregnancy I've really come to enjoy eating and exercising for my health, *not* because I want to look a certain way. It's much more pleasant, and I'm looking forward to continuing with it once LO is born.
But at least you say "buddy." My diction is far more colorful. I reeeeallly need to work on this.
Then again, I don't get the point of going on vacation just to get shit-faced the entire time. I (very briefly) dated a guy who would spend thousands of dollars going on all these exotic trips, and would literally spend the entire trip drunk. Didn't experience the local culture, didn't sight-see or learn anything, just partied and drank with strangers he'd never see again. Seems like you could do that at home for a lot cheaper.
@yogahh I think Chrissy Teigen is more funny and honest than good looking, but she is kind of overkill lately...
Another UO - I can't stand when people gift items at a shower that obviously can't be used for MONTHS...i.e. sippy cups, 12-24 month clothing, etc. Or when people register for those things...
BFP 10/2/13, EDD 6/3/14
Gave birth to my beautiful son, Owen Robert on 6/4/14!
BFP #2 8/28/15, EDD 5/5/16
I think it's fine to let loose a bit on vacation, but I like to take in a lot of activities, so being hungover is not super conducive to being active. I'm with you that I wouldn't want to be blackout drunk the entire time. I could casually drink throughout the day though!
I just can't say negative things about the way people look. I don't necessarily like it when people do it around me in person, either. I can definitely perceive who I believe to be attractive or not and will only comment on the better half of those thoughts (in a respectful way).
You can't always help the way you look and I've been on the receiving end of some really hurtful comments (beginning way back in middle school when everyone is just awkward) and it KILLS your self esteem. I won't say things like that out loud even about a celebrity. Just my two cents.
Now, I'm no saint - people piss me off to no end and I am easily annoyed with certain behaviors and I will critique that kind of stuff even though I shouldn't. I can also see how some celebrities are way overrated but that's as far as I'll go appearance wise. Maybe somehow I feel like behaviors can change while appearance is set and there's only so much you can do there.
And, but, also...I still wish to be eating some bacon right now.
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!Same here. Unless you're showering after a bath, baths are gross! You're just chilling in your own filth. I actually took a bath tonight after work for the first time in FOREVER because of my sacroiliac acting up.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!