I don't like being pregnant, necessarily, but I've been through worse. I do feel like my body has been hijacked, I'm mad at my giant inconvenient boobs, I get stuck on my back trying to get out of bed, etc. But I also get an excited flutter with every kick, punch, and roll (even if it makes me run to the bathroom to pee). I get to be the only person who experiences the budding personality of this little person for a handful of months, and I'm sure I'll miss getting to keep her all to myself once she is born.
I tell my friends who are on the fence about having kids that I 'don't recommend' pregnancy and that I will never try to sell them on getting pregnant. It's not for everyone. My friends who want kids, I'm honest! You won't always like it, you will struggle to do things that were once easy and your body will change more than you can imagine. You will be tired. You will have moments of panic where you realize your life is about to change completely (esp. with a first baby). But it can be really fun when your baby starts 'interacting' in the womb. I'm in this pregnancy for the outcome, but there are still some really enjoyable moments.
Plus, she makes my skin look absolutely fantastic. I appreciate her for that as well!
I completely agree with this point. Pregnancy is frustrating and uncomfortable but having my son all to myself is something I wouldn't trade for anything, even if it means I don't always keep down my breakfast and I get winded walking to the bathroom (like 40 times a day). I am excited to get him out of here and meet him face to face, but I also know I will miss this time so I try and be grateful for it and know that all the barfing and sweating and itching and crying are completely worth it.
Maybe I shouldn't have bought that very tight-fitting, halter neck ball gown for the military ball my husband has when I will be a whopping 37 weeks pregnant. Pregnant people shouldn't be sexy, right?
I love wearing my tight clothes, I feel way better about my pregnant body when I'm in something form fitting than I do when I'm wearing something baggy. Show that shit off @Nerdchild!
I also agree that feeling him move is something that is so special. My friend made the point to me yesterday that she misses having her daughter with her all the time. Something shifted in how I thought about pregnancy in the past month or two, where it became very clear to me that I have a son, and that for now he is mine to carry and appreciate and love. Soon he'll be separate from me, and while I'm excited to meet him and share him with my husband, I'm sure I'll also be sad to close the door on this time we have together. My grandma told me recently that she still thinks about feeling her babies move, and her youngest is in his late 40's. It's a real blessing and it definitely outweighs all the shitty parts of pregnancy.
I love wearing my tight clothes, I feel way better about my pregnant body when I'm in something form fitting than I do when I'm wearing something baggy. Show that shit off @Nerdchild!
I also agree that feeling him move is something that is so special. My friend made the point to me yesterday that she misses having her daughter with her all the time. Something shifted in how I thought about pregnancy in the past month or two, where it became very clear to me that I have a son, and that for now he is mine to carry and appreciate and love. Soon he'll be separate from me, and while I'm excited to meet him and share him with my husband, I'm sure I'll also be sad to close the door on this time we have together. My grandma told me recently that she still thinks about feeling her babies move, and her youngest is in his late 40's. It's a real blessing and it definitely outweighs all the shitty parts of pregnancy.
Oh I definitely feel this way! Even though I have physically difficult pregnancies, I miss being pregnant with DD and will miss being pregnant with this LO. The second you deliver that baby, they start taking tiny steps away from you, which just get bigger and bigger. First it's their dad/your partner feeding the baby for the first time, then it's running a quick errand while they stay home, then it's daycare, then one day at the park they don't want to hold your hand anymore, they have their first overnight away from you, etc. It's simultaneously liberating to be able to do things by yourself again, and heartbreaking that you're not the centre of their world anymore. I'm soaking up being not just the centre of this baby's world right now but actually being his/her entire world for a few more months.
I'm totally in the selfishly loving every moment that I am the one connected to my son. It is going to be amazing when my husband gets to meet him and we get to know him together, but I love this. I am also all about the fitted clothes! I feel frumpy as soon as I'm in something baggy but have quite the waddle strut in my slim fitting maxi's and tees
I was very nervous at first but I'm really enjoying it now. Feeling her move is just amazing! I do feel like a blimp but that's just part of the package. I was also very lucky not to have morning sickness and haven't had any heartburn .... but the hemorrhoids didn't miss me ... payback for no morning sickness I think lol. But overall it's an absolutely wonderful experience and I'm so happy that unlike some unfortunate people I can actually experience it. Very greatful for this exciting, emotional and life changing experience.
If I could drink during pregnancy, I'd think about doing it at least five more times:) I'm more exhausted, can't always go to the bathroom when I want, and my boobs won't stop growing, but I've really started to enjoy the daily kicks and my growing belly. I agree with you all that saying it's horrible is too intense. Even if you can't get out of bed every day you are creating a miracle that so many people beg for ( me included) My wording for describing it is an out of this world experience that I'm so thankful I get.
I agree with everyone, while its not the most glamourous or exciting state of being, everytime I feel those kicks I'm reminded of how amazing this experience is. After our loss last April, I've strangely embraced the good the bad the ugly. Morning sickness? Bring it on Sciatic nerve? Struggling to make it up the stairs? Let's go! A year ago I would have loved to be at this stage of my pregnancy. Every single day I am so thankful for this baby despite the not so great parts of being pregnant. And that is not at all horrible to me.
I use my best Donald Trump impression and say "I'm gonna be HUGE!" but seriously I find most people are just trying to be polite and saying "weird" is answer enough- they don't really care.
@noelietrex I agree! People ask but then they don't really care. I try to keep my answer short but even then you can tell their eyes have glossed over and they're on to the next thing.
@HMcDade1 I bought myself a little meditation pillow to sit on at school and while it is lovely, I cannot get off of it gracefully. I have to roll forward onto all fours and then heave myself up. It'll help my hips/back during all the floor sitting, sure, but fuck. I am way more like an awkward turtle these days than a cat when it comes to grace.
Being pregnant is weird! I am definitely not one of those people that loves being pregnant, but each step of the way I am in awe of how incredible our bodies are and how they adapt to grow and develop this little human!!! I have had lots of problems this pregnancy and I am already very very big, but all of this will be worth it and I can't wait to meet our little munchkin and then one day do this all again.
When I was TTC for four years, I never gave much thought to what it would be like to actually BE pregnant- only I wanted to get pregnant and I wanted to HAVE child. Never thought much about the nine months between getting and having.
Come to find out it's really fucking weird being pregnant. I both love it and am ready for it to be over at the same time. I'm miserable at night. I want a turkey sandwich and a margarita. I want to drink caffeine without feeling guilty. I love feeling my babies move around even when they kick me in the vagina repeatedly.
I would never tell someone what pregnancy is like because it's different for me than it is for other people and I wouldn't want my experiences to cloud someone else's. I'd never say it's a horrible, terrible, no good very bad experience because even on the worst day, I love my little boys enough that it outweighs every time I pee my pants because I've coughed.
Also I feel sexy as hell. For the first time I'm actually pretty excited to show off my stomach. I'm not trying to hide it. It's awesome. I've got two growing babies in there and it's bad ass.
@jlgriff11 I completely agree about feeling sexy. It just feels so womanly though that sounds wicked cheesy. I've always been proud of having a small waist (I carry my weight elsewhere) but love showing off my bump! I'm fascinated by watching it grow!
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I also agree that feeling him move is something that is so special. My friend made the point to me yesterday that she misses having her daughter with her all the time. Something shifted in how I thought about pregnancy in the past month or two, where it became very clear to me that I have a son, and that for now he is mine to carry and appreciate and love. Soon he'll be separate from me, and while I'm excited to meet him and share him with my husband, I'm sure I'll also be sad to close the door on this time we have together. My grandma told me recently that she still thinks about feeling her babies move, and her youngest is in his late 40's. It's a real blessing and it definitely outweighs all the shitty parts of pregnancy.
And every morning when you feel like this ...
My wording for describing it is an out of this world experience that I'm so thankful I get.
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Me: 31 & Husband: 40
Married: November 2014
I probably should have waited to check this thread when I got home from work. So many laughs!! This is awesome!!!
Me: 31 & Husband: 40
Married: November 2014
Come to find out it's really fucking weird being pregnant. I both love it and am ready for it to be over at the same time. I'm miserable at night. I want a turkey sandwich and a margarita. I want to drink caffeine without feeling guilty. I love feeling my babies move around even when they kick me in the vagina repeatedly.
I would never tell someone what pregnancy is like because it's different for me than it is for other people and I wouldn't want my experiences to cloud someone else's. I'd never say it's a horrible, terrible, no good very bad experience because even on the worst day, I love my little boys enough that it outweighs every time I pee my pants because I've coughed.
Also I feel sexy as hell. For the first time I'm actually pretty excited to show off my stomach. I'm not trying to hide it. It's awesome. I've got two growing babies in there and it's bad ass.