TGIF Check-In

roper2617

Happy Friday ladies! I noticed there isn't a TGIF post yet so I figured why not get one started. How are you all doing? 
What are your plans for the weekend? What (if any) traditions do you have for Easter weekend? 

roper2617

I'm officially out this round, AF made her lovely appearance yesterday. Surprisingly I am handling it way better than anticipated. 

Usually this weekend is so busy for me, but not this year! I don't even have any dinner plans finalized, although it's almost a given that we'll spend Sunday at my in-laws for dinner.

Every Easter weekend we do a big ATV ride with as many of our friends as possible. There will be 14 of us heading out this year, so that should be lots of fun! 

fivetimesnoluck

Thanks for kicking us off, @roper2617!

I am doing pretty good today. I went in for a blood draw this morning to repeat my CRP test (factors into inflammation and blood flow) and Doc called me two hours later with results! I was previously counted at 3.6 and it has dropped to 2.7, which is a good thing. He wanted me to be below 3, so that was cool! I am on cycle day 24 and I should start this Monday or Tuesday. Our plan is to evaluate my follicle(s) via U/S on CD 11 and based on what Doc sees then, we may get the green light to TTC. It's exciting and terrifying at the same time.

I am going to my parents' house for Easter lunch with DH, my SIL and niece (brother is working). Should be fun, but my mom makes things difficult sometimes, so we'll see!

Your plans for the ATV ride sounds fun, @roper2617! Hope y'all have a great time and nice weather!

Hope all who celebrate have a lovely Easter! Otherwise, happy weekend!

amberruka

Happy Easter! Our families live in other states so usually it's just another Sunday. Making sure to do as little as possible this weekend as the next few weekends going to be crazy (working in New Mexico, then on call, then going to Texas). Technically WTO but not going to go crazy this first TTC cycle with BD since my thyroid hormone levels are still juuuuuust over high normal. I want to get right back at it, but think this month it's for the best. 

@roper2617 that ATV group ride sounds like so much fun!  
@fivetimesnoluck hope you get your green light. You must feel like a pin cushion!

jatwal128

**TW MC mentioned**

TGIF for sure! Longest week in a while.

I'm still benched for the time being. This week has been full of grieving after our MC but also me just wanting desperately to be pregnant again as soon as possible. One of my coworkers announced that he and his wife are expecting. I'd known for a while, but watching him get to announce it was tough. Luckily i like him and can still be genuinely happy for him.

I ordered 'Taking Charge of Your Fertility' and that should be delivered today. Arming myself with knowledge while I'm waiting to be able to actively TTC again makes me feel proactive. So reading that will probably be most of my weekend.

I actually have no clue what we're doing for Easter! I'm sure a combination of going to both of our family's homes. We live within 15 minutes of both sets of parents so it'll be hectic I'm sure.

@roper2617 that's a great Easter tradition! Sounds like a lot of fun!

@fivetimesnoluck FX that you get the go ahead! And good luck with your mom this weekend  

Knottie1459524222

Well this morning started off pretty crappy. A lady from HR stopped myself and 2 coworkers (who both happen to be pregnant) in the hallway and looked right at me and said "you haven't been drinking the same water as them have you?!" Talking about their pregnancies. I quietly said no, and she said "well good, you need to stay far far away from them!" I tried to laugh it off but down inside it hurt so badly. Ignorance is bliss right?

I am looking forward to this weekend, we will be spending it with family. Hoping it'll take my mind off things for a brief moment 

cooaladoll

Ugh! @Knottie1458305956 I had a similar experience when I started spotting from my MC. I still am not sure why, but I got so sick I was throwing up every 15 minutes. I have a job that's hard to call out for (5am start) so I went in to work for the first couple hours hoping it would ease or pass but decided to leave a couple hours later as I was realizing something was very very wrong (up until this point in my pregnancy I had had no morning sickness). On my way out the boss's nosy secretary (who also spreads everyone's personal business) says to me, "well if I didn't know better I'd be saying you're knocked up for sure!" Conversely she doesn't know me or my situation at all, nor that this was my body rejecting my precious gift rather than notifying me of its presence, and if it had been a late start to morning sickness my entire office would have been informed of my condition before 8 weeks. To say I was annoyed at her was an immense understatement. But at least that was from our resident busy body. I can't believe in your case it was someone from HR, of all places. I'm so sorry that you still have to work next to others who are currently pregnant.

@jatwal128 I'm very sorry for your loss. What a great attitude about biding the wait though. The more knowledge the better! Good luck getting out to both sets of parents (and home again with sanity intact).

@amberruka wow I didn't realize you travel so far for your job. Sounds like a packed couple of weeks. I hope you get to relax as much as possible before you go.

@fivetimesnoluck hooray for doctors that respond with results quickly! It sounds like you're close to being off the bench, I hope everything clears for your green light! Good luck with mom for the holiday.

@roper2617 sorry you're out this cycle. Sounds like you should take the opportunity to put your feet up for a bit this weekend since it's a rare occurrence. That ATV ride sounds like a blast and you've got a great group going. Enjoy!

Doing some more work on that foyer tomorrow after work. We're putting new railings in now. For the holiday we'll be heading to my fiance's parents. I'm not looking forward to it at all since there will be extended family there expecting to hear about upcoming wedding plans. We were originally planning for 9/10 but the EDD of 9/21 made us pull out of our venue before we had to put the deposit down. Then the MC made us realize we wanted to change our focus, and rather have a civil service wedding that unfortunately most of them will not get to participate in or enjoy, but will save us money that will go towards child and nursery necessities instead. We never sent out any save the date cards, which family would have been expecting this last month, so they know something is up. I'm wondering if I can make DF do all the talking and just sit quietly in the corner, grimacing over all of the forced sympathetic attention and unsolicited suggestions on what they think we should do (marriage, fertility) instead of the plans that we currently have in motion.

BornReady

Happy Friday everyone! Well today was my first RE appointment, so it was quite the whirlwind of a day. Luckily it fell on CD2, so I was able to start all of my testing out immediately as opposed to waiting an entire other cycle.  I guess that's the silver lining of last cycle being a bust for me, at least my body had good timing and didn't put me through any more misery.

Other than that we have a pretty low key weekend planned. Visiting family for the holiday, all within driving distance and presumably eating lots of food and candy. Also doing some baking to bring along to the gatherings.

Hope everyone enjoys the weekend and gets to relax and recharge after the week!

roper2617

@fivetimesnoluck I'm so happy for you about your numbers and the extremely fast call back about them! I'll keep my fingers crossed for your green light. Hope things aren't too difficult with your mom. 

@amberruka Enjoy doing as little as possible this weekend! Definitely go with your gut, I hope your thyroid levels get back to a better level sooner rather than later. 

@jatwal128 I'm sorry for your loss. I bought TCOFY thinking I wouldn't get a whole lot more info then I already had, boy was I wrong! It's definitely worth the read. I now recommend it to everybody lol

@Knottie1458305956 oh no! That is such an awful thing to experience and I'm sorry you had to deal with that.  I hope that time with your family helps make things feel a little better. 

@cooaladoll I was planning on kicking my feet up, but I guess not anymore lol.  My brother came to town and spilt with his girlfriend on the ride up, so he's staying here. And then I figured, well may as well make Easter dinner at our place on Sunday instead. 
We cancelled our wedding plans because of the pregnancy as well. We planned for September too, but my EDD was 3/06 (I thought it would be too much to figure out with a 4 month old). I actually don't hold back when it comes to my opinion on unsolicited advice from family. Ive straight up told my MIL "trust me, I'm not having sex wrong" when she tried telling me I'm trying to hard to get pregnant. 

@BornReady I'm glad the timing for your testing worked out for you at least. Eating lots of food and candy spells out the perfect weekend in my opinion. 

catiecatp

I'm so upset and stressed about an ongoing argument with DH that I've been nauseated all day. I managed to get to the gym but that only helped a bit, and I took a nap which I almost never do. If I wasn't on CD6 I'd be peeing on sticks like it was going out of business... 

No big Easter plans - we have no close family in town so this weekend will be like others, just longer

roper2617

@catiecatp I hope this isn't still from around CD 1 that I believe you mentioned a while ago, because that's a long time! Ongoing arguments are so exhausting, I hope it's something that can be resolved soon so you can stop feeling nauseated. 

Side bar question about temps. (In Celcius) Yesterday, CD 1, my temp was 36.5. But I'm really confused because the day before AF it was also 36.5 (down from 36.7 the day prior). And then to make me even more confused my temp today was 36.2.
I did have a very restless sleep the day I temped CD1, could that be the reason my temp was higher than today, or, should today be considered CD1? I feel like I'm 11 years old and getting my first period again, so frustrating to be confused about my body again.  It doesn't help that my bleeding was very light, started out light spotting in the am was was light bleeding by the evening yesterday. 
Thoughts? 

BornReady

Sorry to hear about the ongoing argument with DH, @catiecatp. I hate conflict in my relationship too, it just throws me off balance. I hope things resolve for you soon, this is such a stressful time. 

@roper2617 I've always been told that CD1 is the first day of "full flow" (needing a pad/tampon). As far as your temps, they usually mean nothing during your period (mine were usually high until CD 5 or 6). I've been temping since forever practically and I started to take off the times I was on AF after a while. It was a nice break and temps during that time are usually erratic and meaningless anyways. I would always start up on CD 6 or 7 so I had at least a few solid temps before ovulation to get crosshairs. Good luck!

MooFish2364

I hope everyone is having a good weekend! 

We've been to the movies with a friend and went shopping and to lunch yesterday. It was nice having an extra day of with my DH. Then tomorrow we will be going to my inlaws for Easter dinner and to play with their sweet puppy. Also it looks like we will be putting in an offer on Monday to buy our first home! We are really excited and really nervous!

In other news I should be ovulating in the next day or so. Since this is my first post loss cycle I'm not sure if everything is back to normal with my body yet. I'm still getting really faint OPKs when they are usually darker by now. We will see. 

Spartanrd4

Hope everyone enjoys their weekend...DH and I went to dinner and a movie last night and today I think I'm going to do some cleaning while DH plays poker with his friends. I'm in a book club and this is the second book in a row that I read where one of the female characters had a miscarriage...the first one I read before my miscarriage! I think I'm finally on the road to stop spotting after D&C...maybe ovulation will be in the future, nothing yet per temps. 

Tomorrow will go to my parents for the day...my in-laws live in Germany so makes holidays really easy but I wish that they could also celebrate with us. We won't see them until next summer....hopefully a baby will be there to meet them!

mandi135

Happy weekend!

I hope everyone is getting some relaxation in.

We just ordered a pack of Wondfos, so I'm feeling pretty happy that we have some tools to move forward.  They should arrive Tuesday and my next hcg test is Wednesday, so I am ready to pee on sticks, in cups, whatever - watch out world!

Today it's supposed to rain most of the day so we're probably going to work out at home, do some housework, and play video games.  I might make some hamantaschen since Purim was last week and I didn't have all the ingredients.

None of our family is around this weekend, so I'm not sure what DH wants to do for Easter, maybe I'll make him some Easter treat of some sort.  Tomorrow we'll hopefully take the dog (George) to the park or trail for a run if it isn't too messy out from the snow melting/rain.

I'm also planning a nice bath with some bubbles or a bath bomb, my book, and maybe a cocktail.

catiecatp

@roper2617 it is an issue related to my CD1 issue but it has been ongoing for years with ebbs and flows. It is my behaviour causing the issue and I want to change but often stall on how to change and then life gets in the way and I don't prioritize it the way I need to. We may need a therapist but I don't know and don't know how to find what we'd need.

I agree with @BornReady - my temps at the start of my cycle tend to be erratic

iceandsnowflakes29

Can I hang out here if I'm TTA/benched? 

Quick intro: I'm 2 weeks post loss. I had a blighted ovum. I've also had 2 CPs and an ectopic  (lost my left tube ). All this in between 2 viable pregnancies, the first of which took  4 yrs to conceive. 

I'm benched 3 months which I'm fine with but, I would like somewhere to hang out that isn't the TTGP board ( my brain just can't, with the newbs  there). 

Anyway, I'm willing to give support and cheer you all on towards a rainbow. 

As for my weekend, I went out last night with a girl friend and had a drink. Nothing planned for today. Traditional easter family stuff tomorrow at the in laws. 

BornReady

@iceandsnowflakes29 Sorry for your losses and of course you can hang out! People here are in a variety of stages of TTC, so join on in. 

MWoodside

-- TW: children mentioned --

Ive felt grumpy the last few days bc I O'd this past week and I don't think our timing was great bc DH threw his back out and was asleep the night that would have been our best shot. Trying to mentally get past my annoyance.

last night was book club at a Mexican restaurant so it was really nice. Great company, discussion and food/drinks.  Today was a fun morning taking my girls to an Easter event and egg hunt. I'm supposed to be working right now, but I've spent the last 2 hours trying to get my computer up and running to no avail. Now if or when I finally get it up and running I'll be working until super late. I've been working 6 days for all of match so to say I'm burnt out is a massive understatement. 

Maim not even sure what we are doing tomorrow besides kids baskets/egg hunt around the house in the morning, then church. We were supposed to go to my ILs but one of my SILs had major drama this past week so we might just chill at home. 

jatwal128

Of course @iceandsnowflakes29 ! I'm benched at the moment too until my first AF shows up after our recent MC. I'm sorry to hear about your losses. I'm relatively new here and just from lurking I can already tell that this is a wonderfully supportive group regardless of the stage or situation.

@catiecatp I'm sorry to hear about the stressful issues you're going through. I've had my own ups and downs with H and wasn't sure where to start if we wanted therapy. If you have insurance, maybe they have a list of providers in certain categories that might help point you in the right direction? Thinking of you.

last night DH and I went out for the first time since the MC. We went to dinner with a couple of friends and it was freeing in a weird way. I think I finally relaxed a bit. I also think I'm almost at the end of the bleeding, so small milestones.

Today is furniture shopping and house cleaning. Tomorrow will be a whirlwind, luckily not at our house though

AL_TwinCities

Of course @iceandsnowflakes29 ! I found this board a good place to hang out while we were benched, because the check-ins are weekly, not daily, and everyone understands how complicated emotionally and physically to TTCAL. 

We went to REI today and bought me some heavier duty hiking boots so hopefully the next time we do a longer backpacking trip I won't have the blisters I had last time! Tomorrow we will go to church and probably go to my cousin's house to sauna afterwards. I really need to do some work but I'm not sure when I'll be able to fit that in. I'm also probably going to O today or tomorrow so we are trying to fit in some more FW sex!

SnobunnieMel

Hey ladies!! Sorry in late to this party. I have been in Texas visiting my family for the holiday weekend and it has been a nonstop whirlwind of seeing my brothers and wedding showers and our great big family Easter yesterday afternoon. We have about 60 people and I have been dreading it since our loss since I knew there would be 2 brand new babies there and 1 other pregnant cousin. Of our age range we were the first married and the only ones without kids yet so I also expected a lot of those fun family pressure questions. My DH isn't here with me this weekend so thankfully my mom was very "mama hen" and kept my sheltered from having to be near it much. 

I got got to see my best girlfriends last night and tell them finally. Only one of the five knew already or that we had even been pregnant. It was more therapeutic than sad to get to share what had felt like an isolating secret with the people that are closest to me for the last 2 decades. 

Ready to get back home today and hopefully see a smiley OPK this week. It will be 4 weeks since our d&c on Wednesday and waiting for things to start up is dragging. Just glad it didn't hit this weekend where we would totally miss our window. 

Hope everyone that celebrates it has had a great Easter and that each day we all get a little more strength. 

amberruka

Hi @SnobunnieMel I think we have a lot in common. I run half marathons (have only done 2 fulls) and I'm a PA-C too. Hope you get your smiley OPK!  

roper2617

@BornReady thanks! I remember knowing from somewhere that they can be all over the place during AF, but for some reason I was not able to think anything but why the heck do my temps look crazy. So thank you for that! 

cooaladoll

@BornReady what fantastic timing! I hope everything goes well with the testing.

@roper2617 oh boy, I hope there wasn't too much drama this weekend for you. I got lucky and no one was overly inquisitive or suggestive (it actually ended up being the more laid back side of his family -his mom's) Fiance ended up telling only one cousin, who we know will tell her mom, who just happens to be the gossip of the family, who will apparently disseminate said information through the family, lol. Have you done any rescheduling for your wedding at all?

@catiecatp I'm sorry to hear about your struggles with DH. I hope the weekend didn't turn out as long or rough as you thought it would and you have found some peaceful middle ground resolution.

@MooFish2364 that sounds like you had a lovely weekend. That's so exciting to buying your first home, FX they accept your offer right away!

@Spartanrd4 another lovely sounding weekend! I keep wanting to join a book club but lately just don't have the time. What were those trigger books?

@mandi135 I hope you got to give yourself that relaxing bubble bath treat.

@iceandsnowflakes29 I'm sorry for your loss, but welcome!

@MWoodside maybe it's not so bad as you think, since technically sometimes just 'good' timing suffices Your book club sounds like a lot of fun too! I hope you were able to skip out on the drama this weekend.

@jatwal128 hooray for small milestones!

@AL_TwinCities Easter sauna? That sounds sublime!

@SnobunnieMel wow what a big holiday gathering! And Yay for not missing out on your FW.

roper2617

@cooaladoll we have not as of yet. DH is laid off and has been since October so it's difficult to plan anything at the moment. I really think we should pick a date though, last time we picked the date I found out very shortly after that I was KU'd, seems like a legit way to trick Mother Nature to me

Spartanrd4

@cooaladoll the books were A Light between Oceans and The Nightingale. Both were excellent books....the first one mentioned was probably more triggering than the other, of course this was the one I read when I was pregnant.

catiecatp

@roper2617 - I'm glad I'm not the only one trying to trick mother nature - upgraded my thermometer after AF came this last time (to a Mabis) - it will arrive on Friday - I hope this means this is our cycle... 

Edit: I realize that changing thermometers mid cycle isn't always a great idea - so I'll likely be double temping at least a few days - I wonder if I could do 2 at once... welcome to my crazy

Knottie1459524222

@SnobunnieMel do you have negative HPTs yet? I plan on taking one weekly until I see negatives. Wednesday will be my next test day. 

What area do you guys specialize in? I'm a neuro hospitalist APRN! @amberruka

SnobunnieMel

@Knottie1458305956 i tested again this morning. Down to a "squinted" level but still positive. They drew a beta last week, never called me with the results. If i am still getting a positive Wednesday then I will call and ask for another since that will be 4 weeks. 

I am specialized in hand and reconstructive plastic surgery. I cross cover call for trauma Ortho as well but mostly stick to hand and plastics madness

cooaladoll

@roper2617 sorry about DH. That definitely makes it harder. I wouldn't personally have any rush to it at all if it wasn't that I want my future baby to have my husband's name, but you make a great point about tricking Mother Nature. In fact I knew I was KU before taking an HPT first time mainly because I looked at AF, realized we had great timing in December, and then when I counted out the EDD, I had told my DF "well, it looks like we'll be probably be pregnant thanks to Murphy." And you could always set a date but not tell anyone yet. Maybe Mother Nature will still oblige

@Spartanrd4 I'll have to watch out for those, thanks!Always looking for a good read,but I don't think at this time I could take the triggers. Perhaps though when I have my rainbow, it might be interesting to look at and read from the perspective of being past it. Sorry they took you by surprise.