How will you reveal the big news?!

Shwee25

Hey ladies!
How do you plan on announcing your pregnancy to your families, and when?

FiancB

*loss mention*
I stuffed a onesie into H's hand. That's all so far. Will probably tell close friends and family around 9 weeks. Unfortunately because of our history, it's probably not going to be particularly celebratory, more of an FYI kind of thing. 

For facebook, we are thinking we might do it around the EDD from our loss and mention both that and our current pregnancy. I want to encourage a more open dialogue about loss, but also end it on a happy note, and the timing lines up pretty well. 

Shwee25

I know it's early, but DH and I plan on revealing the news to just our families on Easter Sunday.  I ordered a cute chalkboard announcement from Etsy!  I plan on buying some plastic Easter eggs and having our announcement scrolled up in each egg.  I am going to act like it's a game, have everyone draw an egg out of a basket, and open them at the same time.

Shwee25

@FiancB You are in my thoughts!!  FX for your rainbow baby. 

juliehollz13

At this time I'm anxious because my last PG ended in a CP at 4w2d, so since i'm still sooooooooo early (3w5d) i'm just trying to get past the next couple of weeks. I think for our parents, I would *like* to announce it on Mother's Day, and may as well share with everyone else at that point too, since i'll be 11 weeks then. I originally wanted to wait until 20weeks but I already blabbed to a couple of people so I don't know if I will even make it to 11 weeks! I just want to see the heartbeat first  

Oh! forgot to answer the question!

I like the pinterest ideas for pets announcing the news like the pic below. We have 3 dogs and they are spoiled babies so it would be fitting. 

MrsBinPA

@Shwee25 that's super cute!

**Previous Losses Mentioned***

After 2 losses after seeing a heartbeat I will be keeping the news close for quite a while.

I have told my two BFF's, but that is it.  We will also tell DH's BFF and his wife. They are coming for a visit next weekend & know about me working with the RE.   I do think that Mother's Day is a good time for family if I have back the genetic testing and all is clear (I'm over 35).   I don't think think we will do a formal announcement on social media or anything like that.  I know how hard it is when struggling TTC seeing the posts so I don't really want to do that to anyone else in my "friends" who might also be struggling with infertility or loss.   I also wouldn't want to have to explain to EVERYONE if something goes wrong later on in the pregnancy.

sammyl1221

I love all these ideas! 

We have a black lab that is our first baby- I actually surprised DH today with our dog wearing a Big Brother shirt! - So I think we are definitely going to be using our first baby lol. My dad's birthday is April 14th so I think we are going to tell him and the rest of our family then....most likely with a little onesie maybe that says "I  grandpa" or something

lrg14

I'm so impressed with all of these ideas so far!

Sunday was DH's birthday and I wrapped up a onesie that said "Daddy's my hero."  He was very surprised (in a good way!)  He acted like he didn't even know it was a possibility, and was like, hello?? remember all that unprotected sex we've been having??  It's definitely still sinking in for both of us.

We told our closest friends (2 other couples) already since they know we've been trying.

I'm going home for Easter this weekend and can't decided whether or not I will say anything to my family. I'm leaning towards yes since I would want there support should anything happen.  I will probably just tell them and not worry about doing anything cutesy.

We haven't really thought past that yet!

JCWhitey

*Loss Mentioned*. DH is usually with me in the bathroom (we tend to hang out in there for some weird reason) so he already knows.  Nothing special other than me forcing him to look at my pee stick to see if he saw what I saw.  But after last time he said he won't get excited until I have morning sickness.

I will tell my mom this weekend if my tests stay positive.  She's my biggest supporter through my losses.  She came with me to my last u/s and heard the tech say I was ovulating.  She knows I'm in the 2ww.  She's also doing up to babysit on Saturday so I can tell her in person.

the rest of the world will wait until I get it confirmed via blood test and assure my numbers are rising.  I don't mind sharing losses, but I just had one in October, I don't like piling news like that on my friends, especially with so many of them TTCing or pregnant.  When the time comes I will repeat my announcement I did with DD.  I had DS (2) wear a cute shirt that basically implied he was going to be a big brother.  I'll modify it a bit and have DD wear it.

princesslockness

Since H had to work, I took L to my parents for Spring Break. I just held up the test when we facetimed. I will have to think about family/Facebook announcement. Maybe Mother's Day, maybe this weekend if I can't wait.

Here is what we did for L's announcement (yes its not terribly well done, but I couldn't get to a decent computer):

MamaWino

I already told my mom, 3 of my best friends and my SIL (I have zero patience) and we're going to tell my in-laws on Easter by having our girls give them a card signed by them and baby 3.0.  Not sure what we'll do for the rest of the world.  For 1.0 I think we just did an u/s pic on FB.  For 2.0 we did this:

Shwee25

Ahhh @MrsWino that is too cute!  She had the perfect expression on her face for it too!

MamaWino

Shwee25 said:

Ahhh @MrsWino that is too cute!  She had the perfect expression on her face for it too!

I know, right?!  She was pissed that day but it totally worked.

lrg14

@MamaWino that is adorable!!

I think I will tell my mom this weekend, and as of now I am planning I'm thinking of something like this:

crystalmir91385

with a little help...

SchruteBucks

I love the idea of announcing on facebook on the due date of your loss @FiancB.  I think I'll have to steal that idea.  I had a 12 week loss back in December and would be due this June 21st-ish.  I think we'll announce on Facebook then.  I just got my bfp tonight and just handed the test to my husband.  We want to be excited and jump up and down, but it's hard to let yourself get excited after a loss.  I don't know when we'll tell our kids.  I imagine they'll find out sooner than I want due to morning sickness.  Extended family we'll tell after 12 weeks.

cayaylonglegs

Most of our family and close friends know that we had our egg retrieval/transfer 2 weeks ago and ask for updates daily so I won't be able to keep the news for long. 

We have two fur babies and I like the idea of big brother shirts for them.. Although I'm also liking that Easter egg idea! H thinks I'm on Pinterest too much as it is, he's in for a long 9 months.

MamaWino

SchruteBucks said:

I love the idea of announcing on facebook on the due date of your loss @FiancB.  I think I'll have to steal that idea.  I had a 12 week loss back in December and would be due this June 21st-ish.  I think we'll announce on Facebook then.  I just got my bfp tonight and just handed the test to my husband.  We want to be excited and jump up and down, but it's hard to let yourself get excited after a loss.  I don't know when we'll tell our kids.  I imagine they'll find out sooner than I want due to morning sickness.  Extended family we'll tell after 12 weeks.

I have no idea when we'll tell our kids either. I too had a loss in Dec and don't want to say anything too soon and have my 3 1/2 year old go blabbing the news to her entire preschool. Lol. How old are your kiddos? My youngest just turned 2 so she won't get it but my older definitely understands. 

DiFazette

Hey ladies!  I posted my intro a few minutes ago and I'm going to jump right in...

DS' 3rd birthday is in mid-April.  It will just be immediate family for his party, all of who we'd tell before the 'safety net' of 12 weeks.  I'm thinking I'm going to order DS a shirt that says something about being a big brother and having him open it in front of everyone.  

SchruteBucks

@MamaWino My older two are 14 and almost 12 and my youngest is 3.  My older two kids were very upset at the loss.  They both cried when they found out we were having another baby because they were so excited, so it was a pretty big blow to lose it at 12 weeks.  My youngest still talks about the baby in my tummy even though it's been three months since the loss.  We just keep reminding her that the baby came too soon and is not there anymore.   

Zygodactyl

DH and I started TTC recently, but after our first attempt we had a nasty blow out of a fight, and my mom came to town for emotional support. I texted DH on Friday morning telling him I could either wait to POAS today or just take it then. He immediately responded "take it now" and it came out positive. We were both super excited, fight forgotten, and we took my mom out to lunch later that day.

We are having a family reunion for Christmas this year, so I told her that I didn't think she'd be able to make it because we would need her here. She looked at us, and we were both grinning at her, and she knew immediately. Then we called my dad and asked if my sister is ready to be an auntie. He laughed SO HARD until the news sunk in, then he started giving advice and making plans to move closer. 

I told my sister by asking her if she was ready to be an aunt, and listened to her meltdown. Her complete and utter meltdown, which included "but I'm just not ready for this!!!" 

We got married in November, so I was thinking of holding off on sending thank yous until May and including a photo from the wedding (already ordered) and some cute announcement.

queenklau

TW----
I am not doing a public announcement at all. I will let people see it from me getting big. I have gone through two mmc (10wk) and telling the people that knew made a horrible situation even more difficult. 

I talked to DH about it, we will wait to tell immediate family and close fried a until second trimester. We have never gotten that far. It will be our little secret.

thats how I feel right now.

abc829

If I get my BFP before we leave or during my sons Birthday Disney trip I'll add to the back of his shirt "Big Brother" Dec 2016. I won't share that till after second trimester. We are doing family pictures with both sets of grandparents so I'll have the photographer say "DS is going to be a big brother!"

ShalomAtHome

I messaged my husband immediately after I took the test. I just didn't have the patience to do anything cute and adorable. I HAD to tell him. It's still up for discussion who and when we would tell next. There are three couples we are very, very close to who are going to know relatively early on, but the question we have to debate about is when. I opt for something sooner, my husband wants to wait at least until we get in that first doctors appointment (which is probably how it's going to happen since I'm not opposed that). When we do tell them it will probably be in a regular fb message since we are big group chatters, and are rarely without a greater crowd when we're together in person.

As far as our families, we just aren't as close to them as we are other people in our lives. There's also the concern that I would have to worry more about my MIL's feelings and sensitivities should anything go wrong vs. taking the time for me to take care of myself. They are such delicate people I just don't want to deal with their emotions until I feel more confident that things will turn out okay...so they are going to be told at about 12 weeks, in person, just before we announce something on FB. 

So anti-climactic I guess lol

H4aPartyof5

I 'told' DH today by putting out 3 shirts: 1 Big Brother, 1 Little Brother, and 1 with a "?" on it.

For our families, assuming everything is going well, we will probably reveal around Mother's Day.  Not sure whether we will reveal on FB or not...we haven't previously, so probably not.

TinkerSmith

I'm going to announce today, if I can. I know it is rather early, but I'm just too excited.
We bought a children's board book and I wrote a note that says "dear Grandma, Please bring this in December and read me my First Book. Love, Baby " . She should be getting the book in the mail today. Then I know the family phone tree will be aringing.

Sugargirl1019

DH and I are thinking of telling the parents sooner rather than later, only because I need my mom to be with me on this, and apparently his mom is a package deal. So we were considering having them over for dinner (not too out of the ordinary) and have our dog run around with a shirt on that says "I'm going to be a big brother" or something. First lap he jumps into will scream probably

Edit: oh! We are building a cedar pergola in our backyard, and I can invite everyone over to "see the pergola and then eat with us" when it's finished. Yes they'll never know what's coming! Except my mom is psychic.

Sugargirl1019

We took our announcement photo today to post on FB in 8 weeks! The bluebonnets in Texas are in full bloom and we didn't want to miss out, so DH and I took our own photo! He's sitting next to me editing each one to pick the best. Here's an unedited one!

Shwee25

@Sugargirl1019 that is so cute!!!! Love it!

jdarlinghunt

We did bluebonnet pics today too!

dec16ncbaby

I told my 10 year old and hubby right away. I wasn't going to say anything at work but had a patient with a condition I couldn't be around, so the news was dropped then, the day after I found out. *sigh* I figured if someone let it slip (small town) my family would be hurt, so we did a pee stick (just the plus sign not the whole stick) group message to family. 

My 3 year old doesn't know yet. So once we get a heartbeat we'll get her a bunch or big sister stuff and wrap it. It's almost her birthday so she'll be super excited.  

Im also a photographer and I spend so much time taking birth annoumcents, gender reveals, maternity that I'm kind of uninterested for me. I know that's terrible. A friend dropped this the other day and it made me laugh. I'm thinking I want to find something similar for when I share on Fb. 

dec16ncbaby

Hubby just hung a baby swing on the swing set! Maybe we'll take a photo of that! 

Zygodactyl

@Sugargirl1019 That is super cute! I'll have to get DH to do one of those with me... My birthday falls around the 12 week mark, and we recently moved, so I was thinking of doing a housewarming/birthday party for close friends, so we could totally have a picture in the entryway as a way to announce it!

R0824H

@Sugargirl1019 that picture is awesome!!!!! I love it!!!

DH was away for work when I found out, we weren't really expecting anything this month since we were just waiting for our infertility appointment to get our test results back. He got a phone call of me barely forming sentences lol. We agreed not to tell anyone (including our parents) until we at least know things are good at the early u/s on the 13th. I totally caved and told my mom though!!! She's a huge supporter and has been through everything with me. We were talking about our yearly Disney trip for my birthday in December and I casually mentioned I would not be able to go this year, she knew right away! I have a couple things planned to announce to my parents when the time is right.

bethbenson

I'm super nervous about announcing our pregnancy. My bf and I aren't married, both divorced previously and so I feel like my family will be super critical. I'm so grateful I get another chance with the right partner and under different circumstances. I know his family will be ecstatic so I'm hoping that will help. I've only told my closest gf. We're probably going to wait until after the first trimester to tell even his folks.

tarleton05

This baby will be our 4th. I started showing immediately! We want to wait to tell family but I don't think that will be possible. The body knows what to do after having 3 other babies and it is doing it! Quickly! I will have 4 under 6 come December! 

rachoochoo2

Ahh sorry this is huge! I just tried to resize and it doesn't look like it did anything. This is how we told our parents last week though. Not really feeling like doing a huge social media announcement since so far not a single person seems too enthusiastic about #4.

penelope4612

@rachoochoo2 - isn't it funny how that happens at number 4?  I will be a FTM so I don't have personal experience, but I feel like for others in my life - everyone is excited for #1 and #2, and then #3 is "reasonable" and then at #4 everyone is secretly asking if it's an accident, like someone couldn't have possibly intentionally decided to have 4 kids.  I've always fantasized about having 4 kids, so whenever I hear about it I'm excited.

goldensnitch731

I had meant to do something cute with my husband's birthday a week and a half away. But 4am, I woke up and just blurted it out to him. I did surprise him but not in the cutesy way I wanted. Now he is helping me plan how to tell his parents at his birthday dinner. And 20 weeks falls right around my birthday so he gets to plan a gender reveal for my birthday. 

pregnantgingerx3

I should be getting my first ultrasound next week. We're going to get copies made and place the u/s in mothers day cards! Then having the gender reveal on 4th of July  

Mallorysusan

We already told my family and some of our very good friends. For my husband's family, distant relatives and not as close friends, my hubby is drawing a picture of us with our fur babes. I have a babe in my belly and he is holding a #1 Dad mug. I'm sure everyone will enjoy it thoroughly.