I'm not sure if it's me or my hairstylist. I've been going to her for nearly 9 years and we've never had any issues. Lately, she has sunk into this 'poor, pitiful me' thing and it's adversely affecting her health - which in turn is affecting her business. If she doesn't work, she doesn't get paid. I like her a lot but first and foremost, she is my hairstylist and THEN my friend. She has cancelled on my entire family the last THREE appointments and because she has other people pre-booked, she can never get us back in before another month has rolled by. Now, as a friend, I understand that she's going through something but as my hairstylist..I can't take it anymore. It's hard to find someone who won't screw up your hair but if she's not dependable, what good is she to me? I have another friend from high school who does great hair but as a secondary job. I made an appointment for her to cut my hair next week. Does that make me a twatwaffle?
@buttermybiscuit I think you have all right to make another appointment with someone else! Canceling three times is ridiculous. Maybe she will finally see her behavior is hurting her business and then you will be able to go back to her.
My twatwaffle is the moon. Not only is it the week before spring break, BUT tomorrow is a full moon. These kids are crazy enough, and I think the universe is punishing us even more.
Me: 28 | Husband: 39 Married March 2016 DD: born 7.22.16 DS EDD: 6.23.18
@ButterMyBiscuit nope, doesn't make you a twatwaffle at all. I take my hair very seriously, it's the only thing I really get to do for myself that makes me feel good at the moment. If she's cancelling all the time, I would totally find someone else. You can even do the classic break up line,"It's not you, it's me." and tell her you'll go back to her when she feels better.
Thanks @DeriveMyPi & @oneliloaktree13. I started to feel guilty because I've been going to her for so long. I have a short hair cut and I can't wait another month to get that shit done or it will be a hot mess. My husband has a sexy cut that doesn't look too sexy right now because it's grown so much. Hair is just hair but it means a lot to a pregnant lady who can't indulge in much else at the moment.
@ButterMyBiscuit Agreed, it's important to keep your hair where you're happy with it, especially when you're pregnant. If she's cancelling on you and your family so much, it's her own fault for not prioritizing her customers, especially those who have been with her for a long time.
@ButterMyBiscuit when I had short hair I absolutely could not tack on an extra month to when I needed it cut, I was pretty religious about going every 6 weeks. I would not feel bad at all. I am also a splurge cutter so I never plan a month out for a hair cut anyway (besides when I had the bob that needed every 6 weeks).
My TW is acid reflux. I got hit with it last night during birth class after eating a granola bar and I tried everything I had on hand, including taking a shot of apple cider vinegar. It worked until about 2am, and then I felt like I was choking on my stomach. I was up sleeping like shit the rest of the night. I'm a super grump this morning.
Actual quote from a coworker to another coworker about me:
"I'm concerned about her wearing heels while she's pregnant. Doesn't she know that causes miscarriages? You would think that since she lost her last baby she would be more careful but I guess not. I bet that's why she lost the last one." Total TW.
My mom is the TW today. Calls/texts me while I'm at work to guilt trip for not traveling half way across the country for her anniversary dinner party that might happen in May that she has not planned yet. Does she not realize that I can't plan a trip to go to a party if she doesn't even have dates/have a plan for said party? I was then scolded for not ever sending her and "her husband" (her husband is my father btw) a card for their wedding anniversary. I'm not sure if this is customary or not but her anniversary is near the end of May. It is still March. And I'm being scolded for not sending the card before I've had a chance to. She also told me that when I visit her, she will be taking my son to church against my wishes, and then proceeds to go on some crazy politico-religious rant, and included how disappointed she is that I currently don't practice [her] religion. This is after I told her that while I respect her religious beliefs, I do have my own. My mother is becoming an old curmudgeon! Or at the very least, being a TW.
Actual quote from a coworker to another coworker about me:
"I'm concerned about her wearing heels while she's pregnant. Doesn't she know that causes miscarriages? You would think that since she lost her last baby she would be more careful but I guess not. I bet that's why she lost the last one." Total TW.
What a cuntasaurus! I am SO sorry that got back to you..
FYI for anyone who works in a cubical office setting. It is extremely rude to get into a screaming match with someone on the phone and put them on speaker. I don't want to hear 1/2 the conversation much less the whole thing. *inserts headphones and bangs head on desk*
All I wanted last night was to take a shower because I am sore and grumpy and feel like a hot pile of garbage. At 1030 last night I go to take said shower and before I can, I hear water. POURING OUT OF MY CEILING AND ALL OVER MY KITCHEN. My roommate who lives upstairs was taking a bath apparently and filled it up too high and something was seriously fucked up because bath water was pouring all over my kitchen. I get my us band to help and he goes to tell her and she not only acts like she couldn't care less, but doesn't even come to see if everything is okay, if she can help clean up, nothing. Oh and then I go to the bathroom (to throw up my dinner because you know, it's Monday and it hasn't sucked enough yet) and realize she had taken all of my bubble bath and bath salts upstairs for her bath that I just cleaned up. To clarify: roommate is twatwaffle, as are old pipes, bad timing, and most things that are happening to me the last few days.
@txteacher91 I'm so sorry that that raging twatwaffle had the nerve to say something so insanely cruel and flat out stupid and am even more sorry that you had to hear about it. I really hope whoever she said that to put her in check.
Actual quote from a coworker to another coworker about me:
"I'm concerned about her wearing heels while she's pregnant. Doesn't she know that causes miscarriages? You would think that since she lost her last baby she would be more careful but I guess not. I bet that's why she lost the last one." Total TW.
DHs bosses are TWs today. He filed a complaint with HR against his supervisor (Care Coordinator) because she all the sudden flipped a switch and has been nasty to him and another nurse. This is corroborated by multiple nurses and aides.
HR turned it over to the DON (who everyone knows doesn't like DH). The 3 of them had a meeting this morning and they told him it's his attitude not the care coordinator's. They also claimed that the two people DH used as witnesses had told them DH had a bad attitude.
Come to find out the DON and Care Coordinator quickly exited the meeting and told the two witnesses what they had told DH, which they immediately denied ever even having talked to them.
I'm so sick of people thriving on making other people miserable and being nasty just for the sake of being nasty.
Actual quote from a coworker to another coworker about me:
"I'm concerned about her wearing heels while she's pregnant. Doesn't she know that causes miscarriages? You would think that since she lost her last baby she would be more careful but I guess not. I bet that's why she lost the last one." Total TW.
What in the actual F. Christ, I hope you reported that person.
@TxTeacher91 I agree with PP's, I think that the comments are worth reporting. That's awful, and I'm sorry that you overheard it
My TW is my kitchen remodel. I have about 80% of my kitchen back, but still no counters, no sink, and no plumbing to the dishwasher, so if I want to wash something it's in the bathroom sink. This is going on for 3 weeks, but I really thought we would have had our counter by now . I'm sick of living off of take out and microwaveable food. I'm hoping the counters are delivered this week, or else this will be the first time in almost 10 years I haven't cooked for my family on Easter.
@TxTeacher91 I agree with PP's, I think that the comments are worth reporting. That's awful, and I'm sorry that you overheard it
My TW is my kitchen remodel. I have about 80% of my kitchen back, but still no counters, no sink, and no plumbing to the dishwasher, so if I want to wash something it's in the bathroom sink. This is going on for 3 weeks, but I really thought we would have had our counter by now . I'm sick of living off of take out and microwaveable food. I'm hoping the counters are delivered this week, or else this will be the first time in almost 10 years I haven't cooked for my family on Easter.
We did a remodel in my 3rd Tri (ripping the kitchen down to the studs, re-sheetrocking, etc).....so I feel your pain. I guess be glad that you can wash your dishes in your bathroom sink, because I had to wash mine in the bathtub because my sink was so tiny. Our remodel took 4.5 months.....and it wasnt fun.
@TxTeacher91 I really can't even believe that. 1) what an idiot 2) how could you even talk about someone like that?! Ugh I'm sorry. And also agree with everyone else - report her!!
The sad part is, I don't even think she knew how RUDE she was being. I am going to chalk her comment up to stupidity because I really think she believes I am harming my baby in some way. Regardless, I was pretty irate. Y'all's comments made me feel better though and I am totally stealing the term "cuntasaurus"
My TW is one of my nanny kids (3.5 year old boy, from a boy/girl twins). We are all kind of at a loss as to what to do about his behavior. He has been acting out in preschool, and first started pushing kids in class and is now hitting kids with toys and pulling hair. He is only there for 2.5 hours (twice a week), and bless the preschool teacher's heart....she has the patience of a saint when it comes to him, but I can tell she is at her whits-end with his behavior. We have tried taking toys away (and he has to earn them back), we have tried sticker charts, we have tried small prizes, etc.
Last week, he had his lovey taken away for bad behavior, and he was told that he could earn it back if he was nice to his friends at school today. His dad told the teacher, so she could remind him throughout the class, if he was starting to act out. When I picked him up, she pretty much said (in the nicest way possible) that he was downright awful. I always promise them that if it isn't raining (and if I get a good report from the teacher), we will stop at the park on the way home. But I never get to take them, because it is either raining or because girl was good but boy wasn't.
This might be a FFFC, but today, I had enough. It was nice out, girl got a great report from the teacher, and I wasn't going to take away her fun (which is usually the case in this house)...just because her brother couldn't handle himself. So I took them to the park away...and I let her play, but I made him sit on the bench and he wasn't allowed to play. He spent the whole time crying, and saying he wanted to go home because "she is done playing". He just wanted her fun to end, since he wasn't getting to have any. I wasn't falling for that sh*t. We were only there for 10min (which feels like much longer to a child), but she was so happy and had a blast. Finally, something that she worked towards, wasn't ruined by her brother....and it was all she could talk about during lunch. It was 100% worth it.
my TW is the random people in our office. The family of a 10 year old child are meeting with another attorney and for whatever reason this kid is in the hallway alone singing Hotline Bling. I've asked him to stop and I've even closed my door and I still hear him and it's getting on my damn nerves.
My boss, my clients, my puppy, the stupid people driving 50 in a school zone, my sore muscles and joints... everything is a tw today. I'm over today. But nothing compares to what @TxTeacher91 experienced, so I'll stop bitching now. I don't understand people, how can someone say that about another person? She is going to hell... no doubt about it.
My TW is my so called friend. For months we have tried to make plans to hang out and catch up but we keep having to schedule. Well we made plans for today but low and behold I've been blown off. I jumped on FB and found her status where she made plans with someone else so I sent her a text message which she ignored. This is why I don't do friends. My husband even warned me it would happen again but I guess I'm too hopeful and think the best of people.
@DarkCat Our group of friends are similar, I try make plans and they can't bother themselves to meet up, very annoying! I haven't spoken to my 'best friend' since the day I told him I was pregnant 3 months ago. At this stage I wouldn't even call my friends 'friends'. It sucks when they can't make an effort but it just shows you who really wants to be there for you and baby!
@DarkCat I have friends like that (my best friend included), and it drives me crazy. The totally nuts part, is that they will bail all of the time and aren't reliable, but then they get butthurt if they aren't invited to do something and see a picture of me out with another (more reliable) friend, out doing something fun. Why would I invite you out to a lawn concert, if I know that there will be a 80%+ chance that you are going to bail? Wouldn't it be smarter to contact the reliable friends and invite them, so I am not left the DAY OF the concert, trying to scramble because you bailed? Sorry, not sorry. It was a really hard pill to swallow when I had my DD, but then I started branching out to other people (some of them being people I went to high school with, that I hadn't seen for years), and started making plans with them (even though we were never friends in high school). You kind of learn pretty quick who REALLY wants to spend time with you, and will make the effort.....and those that CLAIM they want to spend time with you, and don't make the effort. I have the reliable friends where rarely something gets cancelled, and if it is, its usually a sick kid and they are honestly at home with their sick kid (not saying they are dealing with a sick kid and then you see otherwise that they were actually doing something with someone else through social media), and those are the people that I try and surround myself with these days. The type where if we were suppose to meet up for a movie, and she has a HORRIBLE day at work, she gets in touch with me to tell me about said day....and asks to reschedule, and doesn't avoid getting in touch or my text go unanswered, etc. I shouldnt have to hunt someone down that I have made plans with, that just shows the person has no respect for me or our friendship.
@TxTeacher hell no! Don't give that B a free pass whether or not she believes what she said she has zero right to say that and needs to know talking like that is completely unacceptable. She needs to be reported because how dare she ever insinuate you caused your own miscarriage. For the sake of others who may come down in her path of stupidity she needs to be put in her place.
Please report her you should never have had to hear that or have someone say that! Hell I'll report her give me her name and your workplace just kidding but seriously that is totally and completely unacceptable you do not need to be understanding and kind about that!
My TW are my two coresidents who called off today, which triggered me being called in for a 12 hour shift (+1 hour of charting and a 45 minute commute each way) on what was supposed to be my day off. I can't.
@PhoebeJune1984 I would've absolutely done the same thing. Obviously the first tier of negotiations/redirection/punitive measures have not worked with your nanny boy. I guarantee he will remember what it feels like to sit and watch his sister play while he had to abstain. Children need to learn personal accountability and consequences and we can't be afraid to teach them. GOOD ON YOU!
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Re: Twatwaffle Tuesday
I have another friend from high school who does great hair but as a secondary job. I made an appointment for her to cut my hair next week. Does that make me a twatwaffle?
@buttermybiscuit I think you have all right to make another appointment with someone else! Canceling three times is ridiculous. Maybe she will finally see her behavior is hurting her business and then you will be able to go back to her.
My twatwaffle is the moon. Not only is it the week before spring break, BUT tomorrow is a full moon. These kids are crazy enough, and I think the universe is punishing us even more.
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
"I'm concerned about her wearing heels while she's pregnant. Doesn't she know that causes miscarriages? You would think that since she lost her last baby she would be more careful but I guess not. I bet that's why she lost the last one." Total TW.
What a cuntasaurus! I am SO sorry that got back to you..
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HR turned it over to the DON (who everyone knows doesn't like DH). The 3 of them had a meeting this morning and they told him it's his attitude not the care coordinator's. They also claimed that the two people DH used as witnesses had told them DH had a bad attitude.
Come to find out the DON and Care Coordinator quickly exited the meeting and told the two witnesses what they had told DH, which they immediately denied ever even having talked to them.
I'm so sick of people thriving on making other people miserable and being nasty just for the sake of being nasty.
My TW is my kitchen remodel. I have about 80% of my kitchen back, but still no counters, no sink, and no plumbing to the dishwasher, so if I want to wash something it's in the bathroom sink. This is going on for 3 weeks, but I really thought we would have had our counter by now . I'm sick of living off of take out and microwaveable food. I'm hoping the counters are delivered this week, or else this will be the first time in almost 10 years I haven't cooked for my family on Easter.
Last week, he had his lovey taken away for bad behavior, and he was told that he could earn it back if he was nice to his friends at school today. His dad told the teacher, so she could remind him throughout the class, if he was starting to act out. When I picked him up, she pretty much said (in the nicest way possible) that he was downright awful. I always promise them that if it isn't raining (and if I get a good report from the teacher), we will stop at the park on the way home. But I never get to take them, because it is either raining or because girl was good but boy wasn't.
This might be a FFFC, but today, I had enough. It was nice out, girl got a great report from the teacher, and I wasn't going to take away her fun (which is usually the case in this house)...just because her brother couldn't handle himself. So I took them to the park away...and I let her play, but I made him sit on the bench and he wasn't allowed to play. He spent the whole time crying, and saying he wanted to go home because "she is done playing". He just wanted her fun to end, since he wasn't getting to have any. I wasn't falling for that sh*t. We were only there for 10min (which feels like much longer to a child), but she was so happy and had a blast. Finally, something that she worked towards, wasn't ruined by her brother....and it was all she could talk about during lunch. It was 100% worth it.
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Please report her you should never have had to hear that or have someone say that! Hell I'll report her give me her name and your workplace