When did you start trying to guess your gender with old wives tales? (for fun of course)

BlissfulWifey

I am 11 weeks and one day. Is it too soon to start trying to see which gender i am having with the old wives tales  

PeggyOlsonFTW

Anytime is too soon. 

mrszoess

@peggyolsonftw I love you because you say what I'm thinking but for some reason I'm trying to be polite to strangers on the Internet 

splsmama2016

If you choose to guess your babies SEX (because gender is how he/she identifies, just so we are all clear in that part...), do not post an u/s picture here. You'll get flamed for it, as us complete strangers don't really find it fun to guess how your child will pee.

I apologize if this comes off as rude, but I'm actually saving you... Lol. These posts really do not go over well, and you'll get many ladies telling you to use the search function before starting a new thread. Congrats on your pregnancy, here's to a happy and healthy 9 months. 

PugsandKisses

Guess? I would saw the day after I found out I was pregnant.  I was always asking my DH 'what do you think baby is'. A few days or week later, we would guess again. I even did some 'baby sex quizzes' online. Half said boy and half said girl.... 

But I didn't go out and buy draino or something.  

megstervt

I googled the Chinese predictor calendar about 20 minutes after my BFP.  Then found out for sure at 17 weeks.  The calendar was wrong.

BlissfulWifey

I guess i am confused as to why anyone would comment anything rude on this post. i said FOR FUN of course! i was looking to talk to ladies who did the old wives tales its something fun to do , and if we are all in our first trimester why would anyone be negative towards anyone else? especially over something like this? if i think a post is dumb ,I don't even open them. sorry ladies, why cant we just be nice to one another

BlissfulWifey

megstervt said:

I googled the Chinese predictor calendar about 20 minutes after my BFP.  Then found out for sure at 17 weeks.  The calendar was wrong.

aww, my sister in law did that one and it was right three times! but a lot of other ladies i know it wasnt correct, hey its 50/50 chance right haha. but its all in good fun.

stillcozy

Gbcb already?!

BlissfulWifey

@Lindsayleigh1989
hey girl, i learned some of the lingo but im not sure about that one? gbcb?

splsmama2016

BlissfulWifey said:

I guess i am confused as to why anyone would comment anything rude on this post. i said FOR FUN of course! i was looking to talk to ladies who did the old wives tales its something fun to do , and if we are all in our first trimester why would anyone be negative towards anyone else? especially over something like this? if i think a post is dumb ,I don't even open them. sorry ladies, why cant we just be nice to one another

Not everyone finds it fun, for one. And secondly, wives tales are exactly that... Tales. Not true necessarily. The Chinese gender predictor told me that I'm having a boy. Guess what? She's a girl. Third, nobody has said anything remotely rude at all. Me personally, I gave you a heads up that threads like this do NOT go over well, and also suggested using the search function in the future to avoid things like this. 
I'm in my third trimester. I come to the other boards because someone could be going through the same crap I did at the beginning and are looking for insight. 
Like i said earlier, not many people outside your own real life friends and family think guessing a babies sex is fun. I didn't think guessing my own kids sex was fun, but that's just me. 

PeggyOlsonFTW

I just don't understand the rush in wanting to know what your child's genitals look like. Waiting til 15-20 weeks really isn't that hard.

PugsandKisses

PeggyOlsonFTW said:

I just don't understand the rush in wanting to know what your child's genitals look like. Waiting til 15-20 weeks really isn't that hard.

It's better than most our parents,  which had to wait till birth. 

megstervt

PugsandKisses said:

PeggyOlsonFTW said:

I just don't understand the rush in wanting to know what your child's genitals look like. Waiting til 15-20 weeks really isn't that hard.

It's better than most our parents,  which had to wait till birth. 

the horror.

SonyaL9

I think it's a shame that we can't get excited over different things, personally I couldn't care what my baby is when it comes out as I'm sure the original poster couldn't... However that doesn't mean to say when friends and family sit guessing or when I'm told certain cravings mean boy / girl etc or my partners family hasn't had a girl in years I don't get carried away in that curiousity! I've definitely completed a quiz or read some old wives tales.. Anyone would be an idiot to take them as gospel or fact but I don't see why would shoot down anyone's excitement or way of passing the time! If don't like or agree with the post, don't respond, saves hurting anyone or making them feel daft for starting an innocent post in first time preg excitement. 

BlissfulWifey

SonyaL9 said:

I think it's a shame that we can't get excited over different things, personally I couldn't care what my baby is when it comes out as I'm sure the original poster couldn't... However that doesn't mean to say when friends and family sit guessing or when I'm told certain cravings mean boy / girl etc or my partners family hasn't had a girl in years I don't get carried away in that curiousity! I've definitely completed a quiz or read some old wives tales.. Anyone would be an idiot to take them as gospel or fact but I don't see why would shoot down anyone's excitement or way of passing the time! If don't like or agree with the post, don't respond, saves hurting anyone or making them feel daft for starting an innocent post in first time preg excitement. 

Thank you! I clearly stated "for fun of course" i dont see why ppl have to be so negative and hateful. why did my post just turn into something that i feel im defending myself. i should be able to discuss stupid things like this , like you said to pass the time, if i want to and if no one wants to be positive and say what they did for fun then please just dont respond. 

stillcozy

Then try this on your own Bmb. No one told you not to be excited they just told you it doesn't go over well on the bump. They were just giving you a heads up. Try to consider what they did kind instead of getting so upset about some good advice 

WinchestertoPittsburgh

That's the funny thing about posting to an online forum... Just as we can't stop you from posting silly thing, you can't stop us from posting comments as we see fit. 

kayyx

Check out 'nub theory' there are some groups on Facebook where the admins will give their opinion based on the 'nub' in your scan picture 

BlissfulWifey

@kayyx thanks love

PugsandKisses

SonyaL9 said:

I think it's a shame that we can't get excited over different things, personally I couldn't care what my baby is when it comes out as I'm sure the original poster couldn't... However that doesn't mean to say when friends and family sit guessing or when I'm told certain cravings mean boy / girl etc or my partners family hasn't had a girl in years I don't get carried away in that curiousity! I've definitely completed a quiz or read some old wives tales.. Anyone would be an idiot to take them as gospel or fact but I don't see why would shoot down anyone's excitement or way of passing the time! If don't like or agree with the post, don't respond, saves hurting anyone or making them feel daft for starting an innocent post in first time preg excitement. 

She can get excited all she wants. That doesn't means that I have to be excited. Our definition of 'fun' is very different.  

She can go to her friends and family, because they would care and may think it's fun. We are not her friends no family. 

splsmama2016

SonyaL9 said:

I think it's a shame that we can't get excited over different things, personally I couldn't care what my baby is when it comes out as I'm sure the original poster couldn't... However that doesn't mean to say when friends and family sit guessing or when I'm told certain cravings mean boy / girl etc or my partners family hasn't had a girl in years I don't get carried away in that curiousity! I've definitely completed a quiz or read some old wives tales.. Anyone would be an idiot to take them as gospel or fact but I don't see why would shoot down anyone's excitement or way of passing the time! If don't like or agree with the post, don't respond, saves hurting anyone or making them feel daft for starting an innocent post in first time preg excitement. 

Wait wait wait. This is also my first pregnancy, but I actually took the time to lurk (for weeks and weeks) to get the feel of the boards and I also utilized the SHIT out of the search function. It was beyond helpful, because I learned that just because my friends and family (as well as myself) were all super ecstatic about guessing our childs' sex, didn't mean that the ladies here wanted to guess, so I didn't create a thread about it. Plus, unless you do the genetic testing, you won't find out the sex until 2nd trimester when you do the anatomy scan around 20 weeks. 

mrszoess

@sdlindenberg said it beautifully. search was designed for a reason. my husband and I read the gender stuff and laugh because each one says opposite for me. you guys don't care and no offense but I don't give a crap what a chart says. 

stillcozy

Yes to what @sdLindenberg said I'm also a FTM and excited but learned the suggestions read all the stickied posts and used the search function. 

goldie987

You can do them whenever because they're a total coin flip.  Were many of the old wives tales right for me?  Sure, but at a 50/50 shot each, I would expect that a decent number of them would be right.  That's just how math works.  They're fun to do with friends and family but honestly, just like you likely don't care if I'm having a boy or girl, most people here don't likely care whether you're having a boy or girl either.  Get to know your BMB, they're a great place to make friends and by the time your anatomy scan rolls around, maybe you'll know them well enough with them to actually care about what they're having and vice versa.  

Jules08

BlissfulWifey said:

I guess i am confused as to why anyone would comment anything rude on this post. i said FOR FUN of course! i was looking to talk to ladies who did the old wives tales its something fun to do , and if we are all in our first trimester why would anyone be negative towards anyone else? especially over something like this? if i think a post is dumb ,I don't even open them. sorry ladies, why cant we just be nice to one another

No, not everyone here is in their 1st trimester.  I, too, am in my 3rd trimester and constantly read many boards including the 1st and 2nd trimester boards in the event that there is a post that I can add to.

Just an FYI: adding disclaimers like "just for fun of course" is not a free pass to post topics that typically don't go over well and then dictate the kind of responses that you want.

So you should understand that while there are some people will try a few OWTs, there are also many who don't find them fun and that is a valid response on this thread as well.  I, personally, never did any OWTs with my first or with this one; I like science too much and I don't find OWT's fun either.

LadySamLady

I had "fun" with the old wives tales in the first few weeks after my BFP, but they were all wrong. Every single one. I also did an unpopular thing on TB and had an US at a boutique place to find out the sex before my anatomy scan. I don't regret doing it but it was totally unnecessary and I ended up not really feeling like I could trust the results because it was early and they weren't medical professionals, so it definitely wasn't worth the $50. I should have just waited.

mollypuss1

sdLindenberg said:

BlissfulWifey said:

I guess i am confused as to why anyone would comment anything rude on this post. i said FOR FUN of course! i was looking to talk to ladies who did the old wives tales its something fun to do , and if we are all in our first trimester why would anyone be negative towards anyone else? especially over something like this? if i think a post is dumb ,I don't even open them. sorry ladies, why cant we just be nice to one another

Not everyone finds it fun, for one. And secondly, wives tales are exactly that... Tales. Not true necessarily. The Chinese gender predictor told me that I'm having a boy. Guess what? She's a girl. Third, nobody has said anything remotely rude at all. Me personally, I gave you a heads up that threads like this do NOT go over well, and also suggested using the search function in the future to avoid things like this. 
I'm in my third trimester. I come to the other boards because someone could be going through the same crap I did at the beginning and are looking for insight. 
Like i said earlier, not many people outside your own real life friends and family think guessing a babies sex is fun. I didn't think guessing my own kids sex was fun, but that's just me. 

I agree that guessing the sex of Internet stranger's babies isn't fun.... However the OP didn't actually ask anyone to do this, all she simply asked was if it was too soon to try out any old wives tales so I'm not sure why she's being flamed for something she didn't actually do here. 

splsmama2016

mollypuss1 said:

sdLindenberg said:

BlissfulWifey said:

I guess i am confused as to why anyone would comment anything rude on this post. i said FOR FUN of course! i was looking to talk to ladies who did the old wives tales its something fun to do , and if we are all in our first trimester why would anyone be negative towards anyone else? especially over something like this? if i think a post is dumb ,I don't even open them. sorry ladies, why cant we just be nice to one another

Not everyone finds it fun, for one. And secondly, wives tales are exactly that... Tales. Not true necessarily. The Chinese gender predictor told me that I'm having a boy. Guess what? She's a girl. Third, nobody has said anything remotely rude at all. Me personally, I gave you a heads up that threads like this do NOT go over well, and also suggested using the search function in the future to avoid things like this. 
I'm in my third trimester. I come to the other boards because someone could be going through the same crap I did at the beginning and are looking for insight. 
Like i said earlier, not many people outside your own real life friends and family think guessing a babies sex is fun. I didn't think guessing my own kids sex was fun, but that's just me. 

I agree that guessing the sex of Internet stranger's babies isn't fun.... However the OP didn't actually ask anyone to do this, all she simply asked was if it was too soon to try out any old wives tales so I'm not sure why she's being flamed for something she didn't actually do here. 

First, I want to steal your cat because I love all cats lol. 
Second, it's not so much that she's getting flamed, my initial post for her was purely to inform her that these kinds of threads REEEally don't get good feedback, and in the future, using the search function would help out in the chance she has a legit question. For the record, I did apologize in advance for coming off bitchy, as that was not my intention. I've seen some of the crap that goes down here and I was honestly just trying to give a heads up. 

rferg

I got this app with my first pregnancy and I quit reading the discussions because people were so mean to each other. Instead I used the What to Expect app.  The board for my group was great (I still follow it and our babies are a year old) However, I know some of the other months did have problems; it just depends on the group of people.  I decided to give this app a chance again since it would be different people but it looks like some of the same stuff going on.  I will continue to use it for the info but just not use the discussion boards just like my last pregnancy. 

mrszoess

I'm confused @rferg. you're basically saying people can't want others to follow the rules listed or have an opinion? isn't that the point of a message board? 

PugsandKisses

mrszoess said:

I'm confused @rferg. you're basically saying people can't want others to follow the rules listed or have an opinion? isn't that the point of a message board? 

Also each board is a community, with its own vibes and attitude.   You won't fit in everwhere, just like I wont.
I tried WTE and I found that I could not related now had tolerance for that board.  So nou know what? I didn't stay there.

goldie987

rferg said:

I got this app with my first pregnancy and I quit reading the discussions because people were so mean to each other. Instead I used the What to Expect app.  The board for my group was great (I still follow it and our babies are a year old) However, I know some of the other months did have problems; it just depends on the group of people.  I decided to give this app a chance again since it would be different people but it looks like some of the same stuff going on.  I will continue to use it for the info but just not use the discussion boards just like my last pregnancy. 

Ummmm, that's great for you???  I'm confused why you feel the need to tell everyone this.  If you don't want to participate or read the message boards, then simply don't, no need to tell us that we're all mean and have a farewell post.  I look at the WTE app every week to see the new info it has and have briefly perused the messages boards and they just aren't my style so I didn't go back.  Same with babycenter and glow, just not my tone of board.  I'm glad you found the tone you were looking for but there's no need to diss other groups just because they weren't your style. 

splsmama2016

Sgoldberg247 said:

rferg said:

I got this app with my first pregnancy and I quit reading the discussions because people were so mean to each other. Instead I used the What to Expect app.  The board for my group was great (I still follow it and our babies are a year old) However, I know some of the other months did have problems; it just depends on the group of people.  I decided to give this app a chance again since it would be different people but it looks like some of the same stuff going on.  I will continue to use it for the info but just not use the discussion boards just like my last pregnancy. 

Ummmm, that's great for you???  I'm confused why you feel the need to tell everyone this.  If you don't want to participate or read the message boards, then simply don't, no need to tell us that we're all mean and have a farewell post.  I look at the WTE app every week to see the new info it has and have briefly perused the messages boards and they just aren't my style so I didn't go back.  Same with babycenter and glow, just not my tone of board.  I'm glad you found the tone you were looking for but there's no need to diss other groups just because they weren't your style. 

June 16 BMB for life!!!!

BlissfulWifey

PugsandKisses said:

SonyaL9 said:

I think it's a shame that we can't get excited over different things, personally I couldn't care what my baby is when it comes out as I'm sure the original poster couldn't... However that doesn't mean to say when friends and family sit guessing or when I'm told certain cravings mean boy / girl etc or my partners family hasn't had a girl in years I don't get carried away in that curiousity! I've definitely completed a quiz or read some old wives tales.. Anyone would be an idiot to take them as gospel or fact but I don't see why would shoot down anyone's excitement or way of passing the time! If don't like or agree with the post, don't respond, saves hurting anyone or making them feel daft for starting an innocent post in first time preg excitement. 

She can get excited all she wants. That doesn't means that I have to be excited. Our definition of 'fun' is very different.  

She can go to her friends and family, because they would care and may think it's fun. We are not her friends no family. 

if you don't care, then why bother reading my post or commenting

BlissfulWifey

@rferg
 i totally agree people on here are mean to one another. like its fun for them. why do i feel like i just got into a highschool argument everytime i get on here?

ecwk

BlissfulWifey said:

@rferg
 i totally agree people on here are mean to one another. like its fun for them. why do i feel like i just got into a highschool argument everytime i get on here?

PeggyOlsonFTW

BlissfulWifey said:

@rferg
 i totally agree people on here are mean to one another. like its fun for them. why do i feel like i just got into a highschool argument everytime i get on here?

If you don't like it here, why do you keep coming back?

mrszoess

@peggyolsonftw so she can tell you how MEAN you are 

PugsandKisses

BlissfulWifey said:

PugsandKisses said:

SonyaL9 said:

I think it's a shame that we can't get excited over different things, personally I couldn't care what my baby is when it comes out as I'm sure the original poster couldn't... However that doesn't mean to say when friends and family sit guessing or when I'm told certain cravings mean boy / girl etc or my partners family hasn't had a girl in years I don't get carried away in that curiousity! I've definitely completed a quiz or read some old wives tales.. Anyone would be an idiot to take them as gospel or fact but I don't see why would shoot down anyone's excitement or way of passing the time! If don't like or agree with the post, don't respond, saves hurting anyone or making them feel daft for starting an innocent post in first time preg excitement. 

She can get excited all she wants. That doesn't means that I have to be excited. Our definition of 'fun' is very different.  

She can go to her friends and family, because they would care and may think it's fun. We are not her friends no family. 

if you don't care, then why bother reading my post or commenting

Funny how the internet works. You get to post and so do I.

And again, for people who think this forum is full of mean horrible high school Regina George people. This is not the only pregnancy forum. 
The bump culture has been like this for the 9 years that I have been there. Stomping your feet and calling us all meanie has not worked for 9 years, why would it change things now. Like I said, I found a forum that fits me, my personality and my needs. There are literally hundreds of them.