I'm pretty sure flushing medicine is not good for fish. They have anonymous medicine takeback boxes all over the country. I just cleaned out my medicine cabinet and am taking some to one of these.
I love love LOVE when DH takes care of cooking and cleaning when I'm too tired or uncomfortable to do anything...but...
...when he cooks he makes a HUGE mess. Like, every pot, pan, bowl, and utensil in the kitchen. Eating usually gives me energy so I end up cleaning up the insane chaos. Thankfully he's a really good cook (we're lucky we both can cook!) But the mess makes me crazy.
...we have different methods of cleaning. And probably different standards. For example, when we clean the kitchen I will put everything away, wash the dishes, wipe the counter of water, dry and put away the dishes, then wipe down the counters with natural cleaners. He'll leave clutter on the counters but clean up the mess, wash the dishes, then use the dish towel with detergent on it to wipe the counters and leave the wet residue to just dry. And sometimes leaves the wet towel on the counter. Germs...
I'm so thankful that he does cook and clean, we just do things differently.
I'm pretty sure flushing medicine is not good for fish. They have anonymous medicine takeback boxes all over the country. I just cleaned out my medicine cabinet and am taking some to one of these.
Never been on city/county sewer, so I wouldn't know. On the plus side, my plants would be much less anxious with a dose of Klonopin.
Edited to add: Also, most American's (if not all) who are on sewer have their water sent back to treatment plants before they go anywhere else. It's why we don't swim in human feces when we go to the river/lake/ocean. The meds might not be good for the rats, but let's be real, no one cares about them.
I have another:
I totally don't think mucus plugs, water leaking, placentas, bloody show, etc. are gross at all. It's all part of this really amazing natural process that was created to bring life into the world. I have a group of very 'open about birth' friends and it's so refreshing to be able to talk to them completely openly and honestly. So, while I don't think each needs its own thread, I don't mind "I just lost my quarter size mucus plug" posts at all.
I don't mind talking about it...it's the ones that end up with pictures being posted that get me...
I'm not sure it being called "mucus plug" helps anyone not be grossed out. That is seriously one of the grossest word combinations ever! I kept thinking, "isn't there at least a cool scientific name for it?" According to Wikipedia, you can call it your "operculum," which sounds less gross and I think it's pretty cool since that word is also used for something else on fishes (I am studying fishes).
The operculum is the bony covering that protects the gills on fish. Weird that you can call your mucus plug that. The fish chapter in my zoology class will never be the same now. Every time I teach about the operculum I'm going to think of mucus plugs.
As a realist, I've been freaking out over our BMB not having any known losses (unless I missed something, in which case, I totally apologize). Two of my friends lost their babies right after birth, and that experience has left me on edge about ANYONE giving birth.
If your LO passes away, please don't run away and hide. Find support somewhere--even if it's not any of us here on TB. I've gotten to know some of you so well over this pregnancy, and it would break my heart to never know that you weren't cuddling your sweet baby... I want to be happy for those of you who get to welcome their baby into the world, and I want to be able to cry with those who never get to take their baby home. I remember at least one person posted about their little girl likely not making it, and it broke my heart. I'm glad that she shared her story, because I want to support moms just like her just as much as I want to support the moms who are trying to figure out diaper rash.
One of the many reasons I'm looking forward to having this baby is that I HATE my job and even though mat. leave will be hard and far from a vacation, it's still better than being here!
Preach it.
I am so happy today because I found out that if I decide to not come back to work, I don't have to pay back any of my mat leave!!!
I am really going to miss being pregnant and feeling LO move around in there. Even as uncomfortable and swollen as I've been in the last couple weeks, it's going to be hard not getting to feel that anymore, even having LO here in person to hold.
DH was the one who first suggested we try to get pregnant and has been pretty supportive up until now. I'm having a scheduled c-section (I'm a FTM but I have a lot of hip issues) in one week and last night he had a complete freak out and break down over the baby coming. He got a bottle of Klonopin from a friend and and took a few pills with alcohol before I got home from work and was a complete zombie for awhile. Then he was up and raving about how this is all a mistake, he's going to be miserable and it'll be nothing but unhappiness and problems from here on out. He did apologize this morning but I mean he obviously feels that way. So now I have all that to worry about and the fact that he'll probably continue to be drugged out every day and who knows if he'll even be coherent for the birth of his son. He probably doesn't even want to be.
But I don't have anyone to talk to about all this really and just needed to say all that to someone, even strangers on the Internet.
Honestly, if they're not his pills, I'd take them and flush them. But then again, DH had a few problems with Rx meds in high school, so I tend to have knee jerk reactions about that. Either way, his reaction was unacceptable and you should probably talk to him about handling his nerves better in the future, especially once the baby gets here. It's not gonna be any less scary then.
I happen to agree. I would be the wife to flush them and lose the bottle. I would also have no idea what happened to the bottle. DH also struggled with addiction. He is also forgetful so he would buy into the fact that he misplaced it.
I have another:
I totally don't think mucus plugs, water leaking, placentas, bloody show, etc. are gross at all. It's all part of this really amazing natural process that was created to bring life into the world. I have a group of very 'open about birth' friends and it's so refreshing to be able to talk to them completely openly and honestly. So, while I don't think each needs its own thread, I don't mind "I just lost my quarter size mucus plug" posts at all.
I don't mind talking about it...it's the ones that end up with pictures being posted that get me...
I'm not sure it being called "mucus plug" helps anyone not be grossed out. That is seriously one of the grossest word combinations ever! I kept thinking, "isn't there at least a cool scientific name for it?" According to Wikipedia, you can call it your "operculum," which sounds less gross and I think it's pretty cool since that word is also used for something else on fishes (I am studying fishes).
The operculum is the bony covering that protects the gills on fish. Weird that you can call your mucus plug that. The fish chapter in my zoology class will never be the same now. Every time I teach about the operculum I'm going to think of mucus plugs.
It kind of makes sense though...fish are all about mucus!
I'm pretty sure flushing medicine is not good for fish. They have anonymous medicine takeback boxes all over the country. I just cleaned out my medicine cabinet and am taking some to one of these.
There are often drives at hospitals, fire stations, and police stations for old meds, which is preferred practice for disposal...but I would also flush them in this instance. And cancel his debit card if he paid for them.
My FFFC is along the same lines as everybody else. I'm 34 weeks, measuring 35, and ready to be done. I would never ask for an induction for a non-medical reason, but I've been having contractions and knowing my seizure medication has pre-term labor as side effect in a large percentage of cases has me ... Well, maaaaayyybe a little more hopeful than I should be. At 28 weeks or so, of course not, but at this point I'm like "well would it be so bad?"
I know it's terrible and he needs all his time in there, but each time I try to put on tennis shoes and walk around the block and can't squeeze into shit then nearly pass out from Miami's heat after 15 minutes... I mentally ask him if maybe he is feeling like an overachiever who magically finished baking early.
As a realist, I've been freaking out over our BMB not having any known losses (unless I missed something, in which case, I totally apologize). Two of my friends lost their babies right after birth, and that experience has left me on edge about ANYONE giving birth.
If your LO passes away, please don't run away and hide. Find support somewhere--even if it's not any of us here on TB. I've gotten to know some of you so well over this pregnancy, and it would break my heart to never know that you weren't cuddling your sweet baby... I want to be happy for those of you who get to welcome their baby into the world, and I want to be able to cry with those who never get to take their baby home. I remember at least one person posted about their little girl likely not making it, and it broke my heart. I'm glad that she shared her story, because I want to support moms just like her just as much as I want to support the moms who are trying to figure out diaper rash.
We did have one. She delivered around 22ish weeks a little boy but he didn't survive. Other than that we've been lucky. My last BMB we had a lot of micro preemies but no losses after birth. I am actually surprised and thankful we didn't have a lot of miscarriages. On my last board I swear this was the norm through week 16 and that was always sad.
I'm pretty sure flushing medicine is not good for fish. They have anonymous medicine takeback boxes all over the country. I just cleaned out my medicine cabinet and am taking some to one of these.
There are often drives at hospitals, fire stations, and police stations for old meds, which is preferred practice for disposal...but I would also flush them in this instance. And cancel his debit card if he paid for them.
Agreed. Dhs addiction was more recreational and he's been sober almost a year now. I did date a guy for a few weeks who loved pills. I walked away the night he dug through several dumpsters looking for the pills a friend of his had thrown away. Like ripped open random bags ect. Sometimes flushing is the best thing for the moment.
My FFFC is along the same lines as everybody else. I'm 34 weeks, measuring 35, and ready to be done. I would never ask for an induction for a non-medical reason, but I've been having contractions and knowing my seizure medication has pre-term labor as side effect in a large percentage of cases has me ... Well, maaaaayyybe a little more hopeful than I should be. At 28 weeks or so, of course not, but at this point I'm like "well would it be so bad?"
I know it's terrible and he needs all his time in there, but each time I try to put on tennis shoes and walk around the block and can't squeeze into shit then nearly pass out from Miami's heat after 15 minutes... I mentally ask him if maybe he is feeling like an overachiever who magically finished baking early.
There is nothing wrong with wishing, girl! I'm so terrified of being a mom that I'll take the discomfort over that terror for as long as I can
As a realist, I've been freaking out over our BMB not having any known losses (unless I missed something, in which case, I totally apologize). Two of my friends lost their babies right after birth, and that experience has left me on edge about ANYONE giving birth.
If your LO passes away, please don't run away and hide. Find support somewhere--even if it's not any of us here on TB. I've gotten to know some of you so well over this pregnancy, and it would break my heart to never know that you weren't cuddling your sweet baby... I want to be happy for those of you who get to welcome their baby into the world, and I want to be able to cry with those who never get to take their baby home. I remember at least one person posted about their little girl likely not making it, and it broke my heart. I'm glad that she shared her story, because I want to support moms just like her just as much as I want to support the moms who are trying to figure out diaper rash.
We did have one. She delivered around 22ish weeks a little boy but he didn't survive. Other than that we've been lucky. My last BMB we had a lot of micro preemies but no losses after birth. I am actually surprised and thankful we didn't have a lot of miscarriages. On my last board I swear this was the norm through week 16 and that was always sad.
The fact that I missed that or forgot about it makes me feel like a gigantic twat.
One friend knew since their anatomy ultrasound that their daughter had a very small chance of survival. The doctors actually didn't expect the baby to make it to term. I think they got an hour with their daughter before she passed. They haven't tried for another child since. That was in 2012.
The other friend lost her son shortly after birth because of something the doctor did, though I'm not exactly sure what... I've never really asked her about it, because I wanted to give her the space that she requested. From what I've heard from my sister (my friend's cousin is my sister's BFF), he was denied oxygen for too long. She's since had a successful pregnancy and now has a three year old son. This friend had similar fertility issues that I did and was the one who recommended that I talk to my doctor about clomid when I was TTC with DS.
I'm okay with waiting another 4 weeks for this baby to come out but I wish I could go on maternity leave sooner than later. My leave don't start until the day before my RCS and I wish I could actually take off a week sooner.
Another FFC: Today I'm wearing to work the same jeans I wore to work yesterday. Zero fucks were given.
I rewear pants all the time. Today I'm wearing the pants I wore yesterday and Monday. Fuck it.
Lol at new pants every day. That, um, doesn't happen in my house. Also, right now, like 8 things in my closet fit me. So if you are tired of seeing those items, look away.
As a realist, I've been freaking out over our BMB not having any known losses (unless I missed something, in which case, I totally apologize). Two of my friends lost their babies right after birth, and that experience has left me on edge about ANYONE giving birth.
If your LO passes away, please don't run away and hide. Find support somewhere--even if it's not any of us here on TB. I've gotten to know some of you so well over this pregnancy, and it would break my heart to never know that you weren't cuddling your sweet baby... I want to be happy for those of you who get to welcome their baby into the world, and I want to be able to cry with those who never get to take their baby home. I remember at least one person posted about their little girl likely not making it, and it broke my heart. I'm glad that she shared her story, because I want to support moms just like her just as much as I want to support the moms who are trying to figure out diaper rash.
We did have one. She delivered around 22ish weeks a little boy but he didn't survive. Other than that we've been lucky. My last BMB we had a lot of micro preemies but no losses after birth. I am actually surprised and thankful we didn't have a lot of miscarriages. On my last board I swear this was the norm through week 16 and that was always sad.
The fact that I missed that or forgot about it makes me feel like a gigantic twat.
One friend knew since their anatomy ultrasound that their daughter had a very small chance of survival. The doctors actually didn't expect the baby to make it to term. I think they got an hour with their daughter before she passed. They haven't tried for another child since. That was in 2012.
The other friend lost her son shortly after birth because of something the doctor did, though I'm not exactly sure what... I've never really asked her about it, because I wanted to give her the space that she requested. From what I've heard from my sister (my friend's cousin is my sister's BFF), he was denied oxygen for too long. She's since had a successful pregnancy and now has a three year old son. This friend had similar fertility issues that I did and was the one who recommended that I talk to my doctor about clomid when I was TTC with DS.
Hey... I love you to death, but you are no fun on narcotics... I don't recommend taking taking these recreationally in the future :P
I am not ready, mentally, for this baby. I thought I was but I'm terrified at the thought that I *may* be induced next week. I'm going to spend the entire weekend on my couch/bed watching tv and sleep in hopes that it calms my body down enough to get through at least another week.
I refuse to install the car seat or pack a bag for the hospital because I refuse to believe that it's happening. I'm ready to not be pregnant anymore but I am not prepared to be someone's mother.
Same here. I have not packed my bags or put the car seat in because I figure that's 4 weeks from now so that's forever. Granted I'm "done" with being pregnant, but I'm ready for this baby to stay in there a little while longer because he just needs to be! I'm not mentally ready to chase after a toddler and take care of a baby. Our toddler is close to being out of diapers completely. We just need to go a couple more weeks.
I am due April 4. The car seat is in the basement. Along with the crib and the dresser. None of which is assembled.
Hospital bag not packed. I'm a slacker, apparently. And I wish I could say it bothers me, but it really doesn't. I figure it will all get done.
I am not ready, mentally, for this baby. I thought I was but I'm terrified at the thought that I *may* be induced next week. I'm going to spend the entire weekend on my couch/bed watching tv and sleep in hopes that it calms my body down enough to get through at least another week.
I refuse to install the car seat or pack a bag for the hospital because I refuse to believe that it's happening. I'm ready to not be pregnant anymore but I am not prepared to be someone's mother.
Same here. I have not packed my bags or put the car seat in because I figure that's 4 weeks from now so that's forever. Granted I'm "done" with being pregnant, but I'm ready for this baby to stay in there a little while longer because he just needs to be! I'm not mentally ready to chase after a toddler and take care of a baby. Our toddler is close to being out of diapers completely. We just need to go a couple more weeks.
I have the bag sitting on my dining room table, ready to be packed but it's still empty. My toiletry bag is packed and so is the diaper bag. SO installed the base in his car about 2 weeks ago (he drives his car maybe 1-3 times a week) but I don't think it's installed correctly and we've not gotten around to getting it checked.
He is getting his Tdap this weekend. I may go ahead and see if Walgreens will give me one since my Doctor wont administer it til after delivery (wtf?) but said I could go ahead and get it.
My biggest hang up (re: stressor) is work related. I am so afraid my temp isn't going to be ready. We are working on a crash course today to get her training in just incase they induce me next week. Maternity leave is stressing me out because if I go this early, I'll need to come back to work before my sister's wedding (not a huge deal but annoying) and I really, really don't want her to have a March Birthday. EVERYONE (practically) in my family has a March bday and I want her to have her own month. I know no one with an April bday.
I am not ready, mentally, for this baby. I thought I was but I'm terrified at the thought that I *may* be induced next week. I'm going to spend the entire weekend on my couch/bed watching tv and sleep in hopes that it calms my body down enough to get through at least another week.
I refuse to install the car seat or pack a bag for the hospital because I refuse to believe that it's happening. I'm ready to not be pregnant anymore but I am not prepared to be someone's mother.
Same here. I have not packed my bags or put the car seat in because I figure that's 4 weeks from now so that's forever. Granted I'm "done" with being pregnant, but I'm ready for this baby to stay in there a little while longer because he just needs to be! I'm not mentally ready to chase after a toddler and take care of a baby. Our toddler is close to being out of diapers completely. We just need to go a couple more weeks.
I have the bag sitting on my dining room table, ready to be packed but it's still empty. My toiletry bag is packed and so is the diaper bag. SO installed the base in his car about 2 weeks ago (he drives his car maybe 1-3 times a week) but I don't think it's installed correctly and we've not gotten around to getting it checked.
He is getting his Tdap this weekend. I may go ahead and see if Walgreens will give me one since my Doctor wont administer it til after delivery (wtf?) but said I could go ahead and get it.
My biggest hang up (re: stressor) is work related. I am so afraid my temp isn't going to be ready. We are working on a crash course today to get her training in just incase they induce me next week. Maternity leave is stressing me out because if I go this early, I'll need to come back to work before my sister's wedding (not a huge deal but annoying) and I really, really don't want her to have a March Birthday. EVERYONE (practically) in my family has a March bday and I want her to have her own month. I know no one with an April bday.
We have the car seat just sitting in front of our fireplace. DS remembers it, so he likes to climb in it and asks us to buckle him in. It's adorable.
I kind of packed a bag, but it's mostly full of stuff for DH and LO and almost nothing for me. The only thing I put in it for me is my PP belly binder.
As a realist, I've been freaking out over our BMB not having any known losses (unless I missed something, in which case, I totally apologize). Two of my friends lost their babies right after birth, and that experience has left me on edge about ANYONE giving birth.
If your LO passes away, please don't run away and hide. Find support somewhere--even if it's not any of us here on TB. I've gotten to know some of you so well over this pregnancy, and it would break my heart to never know that you weren't cuddling your sweet baby... I want to be happy for those of you who get to welcome their baby into the world, and I want to be able to cry with those who never get to take their baby home. I remember at least one person posted about their little girl likely not making it, and it broke my heart. I'm glad that she shared her story, because I want to support moms just like her just as much as I want to support the moms who are trying to figure out diaper rash.
We did have one. She delivered around 22ish weeks a little boy but he didn't survive. Other than that we've been lucky. My last BMB we had a lot of micro preemies but no losses after birth. I am actually surprised and thankful we didn't have a lot of miscarriages. On my last board I swear this was the norm through week 16 and that was always sad.
The fact that I missed that or forgot about it makes me feel like a gigantic twat.
One friend knew since their anatomy ultrasound that their daughter had a very small chance of survival. The doctors actually didn't expect the baby to make it to term. I think they got an hour with their daughter before she passed. They haven't tried for another child since. That was in 2012.
The other friend lost her son shortly after birth because of something the doctor did, though I'm not exactly sure what... I've never really asked her about it, because I wanted to give her the space that she requested. From what I've heard from my sister (my friend's cousin is my sister's BFF), he was denied oxygen for too long. She's since had a successful pregnancy and now has a three year old son. This friend had similar fertility issues that I did and was the one who recommended that I talk to my doctor about clomid when I was TTC with DS.
Hey... I love you to death, but you are no fun on narcotics... I don't recommend taking taking these recreationally in the future :P
I was fun the first time I took one! My body hasn't been reacting well to the pills since.
I am having anxiety over labor and delivery. The first time, although induced, was a breeze. I am just really scared that there is no way I am going to get away with two "perfect" labor and deliveries. I am also nervous about complications and needing a c section. I know it's totally lame but the closer I get the more I realize I am not ready.
This....I feel the same way, but I'm on number four and I figure there is no way that I can get away with four uncomplicated births. I'm more nervous this time. One would think I wouldn't give it a second thought by now. You're not alone!
Giving birth has been my biggest fear since before I found out I was pregnant. I'm scared to tear, scared to be cut, scared of a section but so ready to have LO here already. I've joked around with my family and friends about having a large baby and at my 36 week u/s they said she's measuring in the 84% all of my fears came flashing before me.... I know at the end it will all be worth it, but still terrifies me.
My FFFC - I started maternity leave today and decided to rewatch Game of Thrones for the 4th time. I try to watch a show I haven't seen but always come back for more GOT
My FFFC: I still haven't gotten the TDAP. I've had the prescription sitting in my purse for more than a month. Every time I think of it, I'm nowhere near a time or place that I could actually get it... and by the time I get to a time or place where it's available to me, I've either completely forgotten, or else I've built up such substantial terror that I can't bring myself to get it. I did so well with the flu shot, and I've been a trooper about all the bloodwork... this is the last hurdle to jump, and I just can't quite get myself over it.
I will, though. There's been a whooping cough outbreak in the neighborhood bordering mine, so it's not even remotely optional. Just... not today.
Man, a little liquid courage would be helpful right about now. Stupid pregnancy.
As a realist, I've been freaking out over our BMB not having any known losses (unless I missed something, in which case, I totally apologize). Two of my friends lost their babies right after birth, and that experience has left me on edge about ANYONE giving birth.
If your LO passes away, please don't run away and hide. Find support somewhere--even if it's not any of us here on TB. I've gotten to know some of you so well over this pregnancy, and it would break my heart to never know that you weren't cuddling your sweet baby... I want to be happy for those of you who get to welcome their baby into the world, and I want to be able to cry with those who never get to take their baby home. I remember at least one person posted about their little girl likely not making it, and it broke my heart. I'm glad that she shared her story, because I want to support moms just like her just as much as I want to support the moms who are trying to figure out diaper rash.
We did have one. She delivered around 22ish weeks a little boy but he didn't survive. Other than that we've been lucky. My last BMB we had a lot of micro preemies but no losses after birth. I am actually surprised and thankful we didn't have a lot of miscarriages. On my last board I swear this was the norm through week 16 and that was always sad.
The fact that I missed that or forgot about it makes me feel like a gigantic twat.
One friend knew since their anatomy ultrasound that their daughter had a very small chance of survival. The doctors actually didn't expect the baby to make it to term. I think they got an hour with their daughter before she passed. They haven't tried for another child since. That was in 2012.
The other friend lost her son shortly after birth because of something the doctor did, though I'm not exactly sure what... I've never really asked her about it, because I wanted to give her the space that she requested. From what I've heard from my sister (my friend's cousin is my sister's BFF), he was denied oxygen for too long. She's since had a successful pregnancy and now has a three year old son. This friend had similar fertility issues that I did and was the one who recommended that I talk to my doctor about clomid when I was TTC with DS.
That is really sad. also a pain I hope I never have to deal with.
I wouldn't feel too bad about missing the post. She didn't post any pictures and said she needed space. I don't recall her being super active prior to this. I don't know if she returned to the boards after posting. I don't even think she responded to the concerned responses.
I am not ready, mentally, for this baby. I thought I was but I'm terrified at the thought that I *may* be induced next week. I'm going to spend the entire weekend on my couch/bed watching tv and sleep in hopes that it calms my body down enough to get through at least another week.
I refuse to install the car seat or pack a bag for the hospital because I refuse to believe that it's happening. I'm ready to not be pregnant anymore but I am not prepared to be someone's mother.
Same here. I have not packed my bags or put the car seat in because I figure that's 4 weeks from now so that's forever. Granted I'm "done" with being pregnant, but I'm ready for this baby to stay in there a little while longer because he just needs to be! I'm not mentally ready to chase after a toddler and take care of a baby. Our toddler is close to being out of diapers completely. We just need to go a couple more weeks.
I am due April 4. The car seat is in the basement. Along with the crib and the dresser. None of which is assembled.
Hospital bag not packed. I'm a slacker, apparently. And I wish I could say it bothers me, but it really doesn't. I figure it will all get done.
I'm april 3. I just packed the hosp bag today. Everything fit into a backpack for me, hubby, and new baby. I just need to get a small back pack for the other two kids put together. Carseat is washed and dried, but still in the laundry room.
My FFFC - im not sure I agree that pregnancy is "soooo worth it"
DONT GET ME WRONG! Babies are great! I love babies!!
But pregnancy, at least for me, is A LOT of suffering. Pregnancy shouldn't be this damn hard on us ladies.
I know when baby girl is born, I'm going to love her to pieces. But I will never say "I would do that all over again!" Nope. No way.
I hear that once they get to the point where they don't need you the "I need another baby" feels begin and you've forgotten about all the misery that is pregnancy. It's just what I hear.
DD1 is all about DH lately and basically only comes to me if I have snacks. I'm really hoping she stays like this for like three months so I don't feel guilty about being more focused on DD2
@jonesl12I am sorry your H is having a freak out. I will say I have had two really good friends freak out about their kids prior to them being born. 1 actually left for a weekend and nobody could get ahold of him. I can say they have both been really good dads.
It does not excuse any of their behavior and I know it it is hurtful and unfair right now, but different people have different ways of coping with emotions. It's possible reality just hit him. Just focus on you and LO and give him the ability to adjust. Keep communication open even if he makes you stabby.
If you feel there is a chance he may not be there for LO's arrival, maybe have a back up support person. I would pick someone you trust and someone who will not be hateful to your H when he gets himself back together.
My FFFC - im not sure I agree that pregnancy is "soooo worth it"
DONT GET ME WRONG! Babies are great! I love babies!!
But pregnancy, at least for me, is A LOT of suffering. Pregnancy shouldn't be this damn hard on us ladies.
I know when baby girl is born, I'm going to love her to pieces. But I will never say "I would do that all over again!" Nope. No way.
I cannot even tell you how many times I have told DH how glad I am that he already has 3 kids, because there is no way in hell I am doing this again. (DH is relieved, because before this, there was a chance I would want to try for one more. He's 38 and his oldest is 16 so he's kind of over the idea of more than one round of diapers.)
My FFFC - im not sure I agree that pregnancy is "soooo worth it"
DONT GET ME WRONG! Babies are great! I love babies!!
But pregnancy, at least for me, is A LOT of suffering. Pregnancy shouldn't be this damn hard on us ladies.
I know when baby girl is born, I'm going to love her to pieces. But I will never say "I would do that all over again!" Nope. No way.
I hear that once they get to the point where they don't need you the "I need another baby" feels begin and you've forgotten about all the misery that is pregnancy. It's just what I hear.
As much as pregnancy sucks and is evil, you really do forget how bad it all is once baby fever hits you again. I started getting baby fever again at about 6 months PP and had to tell my ovaries to calm down. One of DH's friends brought over her daughter for a play date when DS was 6 months old. DH MELTED watching the kids play together. His friend went out to smoke a cigarette and DH just leans over and goes "so this is what it would be like to have two kids..." I smacked him upside the head and told him that I needed my body to myself for a while. Not long enough!
I haven't had sex in 5.5 months, and I'm not sure I would even know where to start or how to make it a thing again. Things weren't great before getting pregnant (they stitched me up too tight with DD so it hurt A LOT) and now I'm not sure we are even attracted enough to each other to do it. It makes me so sad... for us and our marriage.
My FFFC - im not sure I agree that pregnancy is "soooo worth it"
DONT GET ME WRONG! Babies are great! I love babies!!
But pregnancy, at least for me, is A LOT of suffering. Pregnancy shouldn't be this damn hard on us ladies.
I know when baby girl is born, I'm going to love her to pieces. But I will never say "I would do that all over again!" Nope. No way.
I honestly can't wait to never be pregnant again. I had a good pregnancy with my son and haven't had too many issues this time around, but we knew we were done after this and I couldn't be more excited!
It's 8pm and I'm still at work. I've been working on everything I can clean up just in case I don't make it to Monday. Left several "reminder" notes for my temp. Cleaned up my desk/emails. It's making me a little nervous. lol Hopefully I will be back next week.
I can honestly say I have a hard time remembering all the bad about L&D. I mean, sure, I remember it in my head mentally, like the logistics of what happened, I wrote it all down. But I physically do not remember how it felt, and I'm a-ok with that. I anticipate a different situation this time around since, barring complications, we're turning down induction.
And unrelated...I ate two bags of microwave popcorn earlier today followed by a chaser of a few spoonfuls of Ben and Jerry's Brownie Batter Core ice cream. It was delicious and I wasn't sorry
My FFFC - im not sure I agree that pregnancy is "soooo worth it"
DONT GET ME WRONG! Babies are great! I love babies!!
But pregnancy, at least for me, is A LOT of suffering. Pregnancy shouldn't be this damn hard on us ladies.
I know when baby girl is born, I'm going to love her to pieces. But I will never say "I would do that all over again!" Nope. No way.
I am pregnant with a little boy right now, and for many weeks I have been feeling like we should have a daughter. I swear I can hear her sometimes. The idea of being pregnant again makes me want to cry, and this little girl is going to have to wait a while, I can tell you that. But I do think I'm being prepared to do this again. Still not a thought I like.
Jana Lynn
Happily married since 5/24/2015 Momma of a baby Viking since 4/16, expecting #2 in 5/18
I wouldn't say I like being pregnant at all, but I don't hate it. Right now it pretty much sucks but there's not that much left and I have had it pretty good until now. I think I would do it again but then I haven't been through the birth part yet....
Re: FFFC
...when he cooks he makes a HUGE mess. Like, every pot, pan, bowl, and utensil in the kitchen. Eating usually gives me energy so I end up cleaning up the insane chaos. Thankfully he's a really good cook (we're lucky we both can cook!) But the mess makes me crazy.
...we have different methods of cleaning. And probably different standards. For example, when we clean the kitchen I will put everything away, wash the dishes, wipe the counter of water, dry and put away the dishes, then wipe down the counters with natural cleaners. He'll leave clutter on the counters but clean up the mess, wash the dishes, then use the dish towel with detergent on it to wipe the counters and leave the wet residue to just dry. And sometimes leaves the wet towel on the counter. Germs...
I'm so thankful that he does cook and clean, we just do things differently.
Edited to add: Also, most American's (if not all) who are on sewer have their water sent back to treatment plants before they go anywhere else. It's why we don't swim in human feces when we go to the river/lake/ocean. The meds might not be good for the rats, but let's be real, no one cares about them.
If your LO passes away, please don't run away and hide. Find support somewhere--even if it's not any of us here on TB. I've gotten to know some of you so well over this pregnancy, and it would break my heart to never know that you weren't cuddling your sweet baby... I want to be happy for those of you who get to welcome their baby into the world, and I want to be able to cry with those who never get to take their baby home. I remember at least one person posted about their little girl likely not making it, and it broke my heart. I'm glad that she shared her story, because I want to support moms just like her just as much as I want to support the moms who are trying to figure out diaper rash.
Preach it.
I am so happy today because I found out that if I decide to not come back to work, I don't have to pay back any of my mat leave!!!
**** Formerly Snoflakes4eva****
I also agree his reaction was unacceptable.
I know it's terrible and he needs all his time in there, but each time I try to put on tennis shoes and walk around the block and can't squeeze into shit then nearly pass out from Miami's heat after 15 minutes... I mentally ask him if maybe he is feeling like an overachiever who magically finished baking early.
Agreed. Dhs addiction was more recreational and he's been sober almost a year now. I did date a guy for a few weeks who loved pills. I walked away the night he dug through several dumpsters looking for the pills a friend of his had thrown away. Like ripped open random bags ect. Sometimes flushing is the best thing for the moment.
One friend knew since their anatomy ultrasound that their daughter had a very small chance of survival. The doctors actually didn't expect the baby to make it to term. I think they got an hour with their daughter before she passed. They haven't tried for another child since. That was in 2012.
The other friend lost her son shortly after birth because of something the doctor did, though I'm not exactly sure what... I've never really asked her about it, because I wanted to give her the space that she requested. From what I've heard from my sister (my friend's cousin is my sister's BFF), he was denied oxygen for too long. She's since had a successful pregnancy and now has a three year old son. This friend had similar fertility issues that I did and was the one who recommended that I talk to my doctor about clomid when I was TTC with DS.
Hospital bag not packed. I'm a slacker, apparently. And I wish I could say it bothers me, but it really doesn't. I figure it will all get done.
He is getting his Tdap this weekend. I may go ahead and see if Walgreens will give me one since my Doctor wont administer it til after delivery (wtf?) but said I could go ahead and get it.
My biggest hang up (re: stressor) is work related. I am so afraid my temp isn't going to be ready. We are working on a crash course today to get her training in just incase they induce me next week. Maternity leave is stressing me out because if I go this early, I'll need to come back to work before my sister's wedding (not a huge deal but annoying) and I really, really don't want her to have a March Birthday. EVERYONE (practically) in my family has a March bday and I want her to have her own month. I know no one with an April bday.
I kind of packed a bag, but it's mostly full of stuff for DH and LO and almost nothing for me. The only thing I put in it for me is my PP belly binder.
My FFFC - I started maternity leave today and decided to rewatch Game of Thrones for the 4th time. I try to watch a show I haven't seen but always come back for more GOT
I will, though. There's been a whooping cough outbreak in the neighborhood bordering mine, so it's not even remotely optional. Just... not today.
Man, a little liquid courage would be helpful right about now. Stupid pregnancy.
I wouldn't feel too bad about missing the post. She didn't post any pictures and said she needed space. I don't recall her being super active prior to this. I don't know if she returned to the boards after posting. I don't even think she responded to the concerned responses.
DONT GET ME WRONG! Babies are great! I love babies!!
But pregnancy, at least for me, is A LOT of suffering. Pregnancy shouldn't be this damn hard on us ladies.
I know when baby girl is born, I'm going to love her to pieces. But I will never say "I would do that all over again!" Nope. No way.
It does not excuse any of their behavior and I know it it is hurtful and unfair right now, but different people have different ways of coping with emotions. It's possible reality just hit him. Just focus on you and LO and give him the ability to adjust. Keep communication open even if he makes you stabby.
If you feel there is a chance he may not be there for LO's arrival, maybe have a back up support person. I would pick someone you trust and someone who will not be hateful to your H when he gets himself back together.
*hugs* Stay Strong!
DH tells me "it's all worth it" every time I complain. And I'm like "Excuse me? How the hell would you know?!"
He has a son from a previous relationship, but c'mon!! That's not even the same thing!
No uterus, no opinion!
And unrelated...I ate two bags of microwave popcorn earlier today followed by a chaser of a few spoonfuls of Ben and Jerry's Brownie Batter Core ice cream. It was delicious and I wasn't sorry
DONT GET ME WRONG! Babies are great! I love babies!!
But pregnancy, at least for me, is A LOT of suffering. Pregnancy shouldn't be this damn hard on us ladies.
I know when baby girl is born, I'm going to love her to pieces. But I will never say "I would do that all over again!" Nope. No way.