Monday Bitchfest

mrsschmity

In honor of Monday, and @CourtJack mentioning it in the daily check in, let's have a Monday bitchfest.
What do you need to bitch about today?

kwife15

DAYLIGHT SAVINGS! Blah.

crdo

kwife15 said:

DAYLIGHT SAVINGS! Blah.

DeePaddy24

kwife15 said:

DAYLIGHT SAVINGS! Blah.

This. So much this!! 

mrsschmity

kwife15 said:

DAYLIGHT SAVINGS! Blah.

Diesel615

kwife15 said:

DAYLIGHT SAVINGS! Blah.

Yes!!!! It is ruining my day! I think I got a total of 2 hours of sleep last night and am on the verge of tears cause I'm just so tired and hormonal! UGH!

purplefan1

At this point I've got nothing to bitch about other than I am at the doctor for the glucose test for the next two hours. Sitting in a wooden chair. Because other women are rude and all took the squishy chairs (non pregnant ladies) whatevs. I loved the orange drink. I asked if I could take some home. Tasted like Jones Soda to me.

DeePaddy24

June2016BabyW said:

At this point I've got nothing to bitch about other than I am at the doctor for the glucose test for the next two hours. Sitting in a wooden chair. Because other women are rude and all took the squishy chairs (non pregnant ladies) whatevs. I loved the orange drink. I asked if I could take some home. Tasted like Jones Soda to me.

I'm in the same situation, but just one hour. Sitting in the most uncomfortable chairs. And that orange drink has made my heartburn 100x worse this morning, so I'm just trying to convince myself that I won't throw up. Ick. 

BPaisley

Hell yeah, daylight savings! How come at bedtime my kids have to stay up later because their little bodies don't understand, yet they wake up at their usual time in the AM, not an hour later???

mrsschmity

I'm bitching about a friend of mine. Maybe it's the lack of sleep talking and I'm just being irrationally ragey, which is highly likely.

She's a few weeks ahead of me in her pregnancy, and I had asked her how she had been feeling. When she asked me, I said something to the effect of I'm feeling pain in places I didn't even know existed. Her response...."Just wait".

Shut the eff up. This is your first pregnancy and you're literally only a few weeks ahead of me. Don't tell me to "just wait" like you already know everything.

Petty, yes. But I rolled my eyes so hard.

Kballew10

I don't really have a good bitchfest... unless I can bitch about really really good realty photographers who fooled us into thinking the houses we visited would be SO MUCH BETTER!  Nope.  Mostly just crap.  And our realtor can't meet us again on weekends until after Easter, so he suggested a Thursday.  H can go, but I can't.  So now I'm trusting our house buying situation to H.  It makes me nervous.  Hopefully the realtor can meet us at any places H likes again in a few weeks so that I can see it all before we offer anything.  House hunting is NOT like HGTV says it is.  Liars.  All of them.

purplefan1

mrsschmity said:

I'm bitching about a friend of mine. Maybe it's the lack of sleep talking and I'm just being irrationally ragey, which is highly likely.

She's a few weeks ahead of me in her pregnancy, and I had asked her how she had been feeling. When she asked me, I said something to the effect of I'm feeling pain in places I didn't even know existed. Her response...."Just wait".

Shut the eff up. This is your first pregnancy and you're literally only a few weeks ahead of me. Don't tell me to "just wait" like you already know everything.

Petty, yes. But I rolled my eyes so hard.

My BFF is doing a round of IVF this week and I already forewarned her about the "just wait" bullcrap. And I swore up and down I won't do it to her. I farking HATE THAT! 

MrsAlliKat

@Kballew10 Sorry house hunting is frustrating.  We are meeting with a lender next week and then looking at houses with a realtor sometime after that, and this is my fear exactly; that the ones we like online will be awful or there will be nothing available in our price range.  Maybe your H will see something great on Thurs and then you'll be able to see it very soon!

kbequette08

Crappy sleep, coworker comes in to work today with a runny nose, sore throat and sneezing..great! Now I have to try and not get whatever she has because she's too scared to use her sick time to stay home and get better because she's afraid her supervisor wont like it. Who cares? If you're sick you're sick! She can't do anything about that plus I'm pretty sure her supervisor would rather her stay home anyway.

MeganF08

@mrsschmity - Yes! People are always trying to prove how much more they know then you, so irritating.

Along those same lines- I was discussing this with a friend this weekend but why does it feel like some other women are just lined up to see you fail? Basically every time I mention trying to CD or make my own baby food or whatever I get a bunch of hateful responses about how I will never make it. I get it, things change when LO arrives and things may not go according to plan but why not just be supportive or say nothing at all? If people have tried and failed some of the things I want to do, I am totally open to hearing their feedback on why it didn't work. It's just the tacky people who offer a negative response with no basis that irritate me.

meggyme

@junebaby2016W @DeePaddy24 I have to take the 3hr Glucose test tomorrow morning and it's already ruining my week. I've been trying to eat well in preparation for it and although I haven't been craving sweet things this pregnancy NOW I want ice cream every night. I was shaky and hangry for the 1hr, so I'm not anticipating a good mood tomorrow...

NicknShan

Dear husband. Why the frack did you buy me lingerie?  Do you expect my fat butt to fit in that?  Andplusalso, even if it DID fit, there is no lingerie that can make me feel sexy right now.  

And why do all the pregnancy comments go from... no one commenting to HOLY CRAP you have how much more left?!?  

To the ladies due at the end of June - I am envious you can simply say June and shave off up to 4 weeks.    

BabyboyS2016

I was stuck in a foggy traffic mess because of a wreck and then walked into the computer system being down. People had blown up my email and IM letting me know and I'm just like, I don't have any power to fix it. So whatever! Then on a call, got a snarky response to a question. Just tired of the attitude! 12 WEEKS LEFT. 

starkeyclan

This morning I'm bitching about how on Saturday I was stuck out in a rain/mist and then smoky bars (which I had to leave and then stand outside in the rain/mist some more) all day so that I could be a DD after being invited to the lake for "fun and sun". Nope, I got invited purely to be a DD, got left on my own while the whole group got absolutely plastered and was left with choices of standing out in wet, cool conditions or surrounded by smoke. And this morning, I woke up sick. NOT pleased...

tjenkins528

They started a long-term lane closure right where I get on the freeway. Note: we JUST got a lane on the way home back that was closed for 2 years. And then as soon as I get off the freeway, the road I need to take to get to work just closed down two lanes out of 3 for a long-term closure. I hate you, construction. 

Palisson

Diesel615 said:

kwife15 said:

DAYLIGHT SAVINGS! Blah.

Yes!!!! It is ruining my day! I think I got a total of 2 hours of sleep last night and am on the verge of tears cause I'm just so tired and hormonal! UGH!

same.

amidavey06

DH decided to take today off. I was looking forward to get some stuff done like move the bed in the front to DD's room and start cleaning out the nursery, but he's still asleep and I'm getting restless. Thank goodness I'm going to dinner with some friends tonight. I need to vent so bad!

alileecam

I have two things...

For anyone with an excellent memory who recalls my FFFC about my "friend" who is a demanding asshole and trying to arrange a dinner for this week: I never even had to ignore my text from her because SHE NEVER WROTE BACK. Jerk.

Also, for anyone commenting on the size of my bump and how I'll "want the baby out" soon, shut the eff up. Do you really want to get into this with me? a. I have too much fluid and I am measuring big AF. I'm sensitive about it, okay? b. This is the same condition that caused my first son to be born too early and in the intensive care NICU and have other problems later. So NO, I don't want "the baby to just get out" and I won't until it's time, because I don't want to go through that again, although chances are I will, because of the amount of fluid and my dumb uterus's propensity to just want to go into labor way too early, despite the fact that I get a shot in my ASS once a week to try to stop it. c. Please just shut up about the size of any part of my body. No one needs that. Ever.

Diesel615

@Kballew10  How about H do a video of places that he goes to see? I know from experience, if you really like a house the chances are so do a lot of people. So you have to jump on them quickly or others will put in offers and take it out from under you. 

ahernandez16

It bugs me that some people (mostly family) can't seem to separate me as a person from this pregnancy. Such as, I picked up my cap and gown last week and posted about it on Facebook this weekend and a lot of the comments were things like, "awe. And you'll have little Lincoln with you to walk across stage." 

My graduation is about me and my accomplishments and the fact that I'm currently fat and gestating has ZERO to do with anything. 

Another old example, for Christmas and my birthday, my gifts from my parents were baby clothes - nothing FOR me. My husband got a new gaming console from them last week for his... nothing baby related.

I'm still a person separate from this little guy. Hello! Maybe I'm just awful, but it really bugs me. 

Palisson

MeganF08 said:

@mrsschmity - Yes! People are always trying to prove how much more they know then you, so irritating.

Along those same lines- I was discussing this with a friend this weekend but why does it feel like some other women are just lined up to see you fail? Basically every time I mention trying to CD or make my own baby food or whatever I get a bunch of hateful responses about how I will never make it. I get it, things change when LO arrives and things may not go according to plan but why not just be supportive or say nothing at all? If people have tried and failed some of the things I want to do, I am totally open to hearing their feedback on why it didn't work. It's just the tacky people who offer a negative response with no basis that irritate me.

What you say to these know-it-all failure f*cksticks is,
"Oh bitch- that's so sad that you couldn't make it work- can I buy that Beaba baby food processor from you for like 50% of what your stupid ass paid? My kid is going to love this butternut squash recipe!"

or you can say,

"Oh my gawd, cloth diapering is a lot of extra work- thank gawd so many jerks like you fail and I can just buy your never used Bum Genius all-in-ones for like next to nothing on ebay/facebook!"

It's called silver-lining (yes, that's a verb) and it's EXACTLY WRONG when you want to be empathetic, but it's super great when you want to shut a bitch up. 

It works for responding to non-supportive women in lots of ways:

"Oh weird, I guess you and I have different bodies, because I'm pretty okay with gaining weight during pregnancy- so NO B*TCH, I'M NOT WORRIED ABOUT EATING A THIRD FRIT-O PIE AT THIS FUNDRAISER."

"'Oh what happened,' you ask? Well, first off- I appreciate your serious concern over my failure to give birth vaginally and second what happened was I just had the facking BEST DELIVERY I COULD HAVE EVER DREAMED OF AND NO MY C-SECTION WASN'T HORRIBLE. Thanks for your excellent bedside manner doctor assface."

alileecam

ahernandez16 said:

It bugs me that some people (mostly family) can't seem to separate me as a person from this pregnancy. Such as, I picked up my cap and gown last week and posted about it on Facebook this weekend and a lot of the comments were things like, "awe. And you'll have little Lincoln with you to walk across stage." 

My graduation is about me and my accomplishments and the fact that I'm currently fat and gestating has ZERO to do with anything. 

Another old example, for Christmas and my birthday, my gifts from my parents were baby clothes - nothing FOR me. My husband got a new gaming console from them last week for his... nothing baby related.

I'm still a person separate from this little guy. Hello! Maybe I'm just awful, but it really bugs me. 

No, you aren't awful. I have felt the same way ever since I had my first child, actually. I am still me, with thoughts, dreams, likes and ambitions that have nothing to do with my kids or being a mom. The presents thing bugs me a lot--I knew going into Christmas that I wasn't going to get anything non-baby related. A gift is a gift, but it's the feeling that the only thing people think about me now is that I am gestating a baby is hard to deal with sometime. I am still me. A whole separate person. While I welcome and am so thankful for gifts for the baby, and they are useful, practical, etc., it does get me down that I don't get to have something just for me--it's like yet another sacrifice. While we all probably happily make those sacrifices to hopefully have healthy children, it still has it moments where it gets you down!!

lac1252

I found out this morning I failed my 1-hour glucose test by 5 points and now have to go for the 3 hour this week. Starting to regret that shamrock shack I had this weekend...

BPaisley

I agree that the "just wait..." stuff is super annoying. I remember being annoyed by it my first pregnancy. Luckily when it's your third, people tend to assume you know everything that lies ahead haha

I have promised myself I won't make comments like that, as more and more people in my life are starting to have babies. My younger cousin's wife just had a baby, I think about a month and a half ago. Even when I sometimes want to offer my experience, I have decided it is sometimes better to stay quiet, so I don't come off preachy or anything, unless it's purely just to offer advice on products or strategies that worked for me.

It's a little challenging biting my tongue at the moment because she keeps talking about baby sleeping through the night and how she is so excited baby slept through the night last night... I mean, babies don't sleep through the night for months. And if they did, it's generally a fluke and it won't happen again tomorrow. It seems like maybe her expectations are not aligned with reality. I want to tell her how my 22 month old doesn't always sleep through the night... but, I bet I made a similar post the first time DS1 slept a few hours straight... so, I'm definitely keeping my mouth shut. I don't want to be one of those women!

purplefan1

Bitch- when someone brings themselves and their sick kid in to a tiny waiting room full of pregnant women. And has their husband here with them so he could easily at least get the kids out if the room since they are coughing all over the place and touching everything. Apparently my evil side eye glances are doing nothing to make the mom feel bad about a questionable decision.

crdo

Palisson said:

MeganF08 said:

@mrsschmity - Yes! People are always trying to prove how much more they know then you, so irritating.

Along those same lines- I was discussing this with a friend this weekend but why does it feel like some other women are just lined up to see you fail? Basically every time I mention trying to CD or make my own baby food or whatever I get a bunch of hateful responses about how I will never make it. I get it, things change when LO arrives and things may not go according to plan but why not just be supportive or say nothing at all? If people have tried and failed some of the things I want to do, I am totally open to hearing their feedback on why it didn't work. It's just the tacky people who offer a negative response with no basis that irritate me.

What you say to these know-it-all failure f*cksticks is,
"Oh bitch- that's so sad that you couldn't make it work- can I buy that Beaba baby food processor from you for like 50% of what your stupid ass paid? My kid is going to love this butternut squash recipe!"

or you can say,

"Oh my gawd, cloth diapering is a lot of extra work- thank gawd so many jerks like you fail and I can just buy your never used Bum Genius all-in-ones for like next to nothing on ebay/facebook!"

It's called silver-lining (yes, that's a verb) and it's EXACTLY WRONG when you want to be empathetic, but it's super great when you want to shut a bitch up. 

It works for responding to non-supportive women in lots of ways:

"Oh weird, I guess you and I have different bodies, because I'm pretty okay with gaining weight during pregnancy- so NO B*TCH, I'M NOT WORRIED ABOUT EATING A THIRD FRIT-O PIE AT THIS FUNDRAISER."

"'Oh what happened,' you ask? Well, first off- I appreciate your serious concern over my failure to give birth vaginally and second what happened was I just had the facking BEST DELIVERY I COULD HAVE EVER DREAMED OF AND NO MY C-SECTION WASN'T HORRIBLE. Thanks for your excellent bedside manner doctor assface."

I like you

DeePaddy24

ahernandez16 said:

It bugs me that some people (mostly family) can't seem to separate me as a person from this pregnancy. Such as, I picked up my cap and gown last week and posted about it on Facebook this weekend and a lot of the comments were things like, "awe. And you'll have little Lincoln with you to walk across stage." 

My graduation is about me and my accomplishments and the fact that I'm currently fat and gestating has ZERO to do with anything. 

Another old example, for Christmas and my birthday, my gifts from my parents were baby clothes - nothing FOR me. My husband got a new gaming console from them last week for his... nothing baby related.

I'm still a person separate from this little guy. Hello! Maybe I'm just awful, but it really bugs me. 

Honestly, I felt the same way at Christmas. My MIL kept pushing us to have our registry done (or at least mostly finished) so that she could buy my gifts from that. While I really do appreciate that they want to buy our little guy stuff, I'm still a person...why does his stuff now have to replace something for me? I felt like I was being selfish for being upset about that, but it really bothered me. Just because I'm pregnant doesn't mean I'm any less ME. "Mom-to-be" does not define who I am. It's just a part. 

Palisson

crdo said:

Palisson said:

MeganF08 said:

@mrsschmity - Yes! People are always trying to prove how much more they know then you, so irritating.

Along those same lines- I was discussing this with a friend this weekend but why does it feel like some other women are just lined up to see you fail? Basically every time I mention trying to CD or make my own baby food or whatever I get a bunch of hateful responses about how I will never make it. I get it, things change when LO arrives and things may not go according to plan but why not just be supportive or say nothing at all? If people have tried and failed some of the things I want to do, I am totally open to hearing their feedback on why it didn't work. It's just the tacky people who offer a negative response with no basis that irritate me.

What you say to these know-it-all failure f*cksticks is,
"Oh bitch- that's so sad that you couldn't make it work- can I buy that Beaba baby food processor from you for like 50% of what your stupid ass paid? My kid is going to love this butternut squash recipe!"

or you can say,

"Oh my gawd, cloth diapering is a lot of extra work- thank gawd so many jerks like you fail and I can just buy your never used Bum Genius all-in-ones for like next to nothing on ebay/facebook!"

It's called silver-lining (yes, that's a verb) and it's EXACTLY WRONG when you want to be empathetic, but it's super great when you want to shut a bitch up. 

It works for responding to non-supportive women in lots of ways:

"Oh weird, I guess you and I have different bodies, because I'm pretty okay with gaining weight during pregnancy- so NO B*TCH, I'M NOT WORRIED ABOUT EATING A THIRD FRIT-O PIE AT THIS FUNDRAISER."

"'Oh what happened,' you ask? Well, first off- I appreciate your serious concern over my failure to give birth vaginally and second what happened was I just had the facking BEST DELIVERY I COULD HAVE EVER DREAMED OF AND NO MY C-SECTION WASN'T HORRIBLE. Thanks for your excellent bedside manner doctor assface."

I like you

thank you. I'm in rare form this morning and all mornings from now on.

Diesel615

ahernandez16 said:

It bugs me that some people (mostly family) can't seem to separate me as a person from this pregnancy. Such as, I picked up my cap and gown last week and posted about it on Facebook this weekend and a lot of the comments were things like, "awe. And you'll have little Lincoln with you to walk across stage." 

My graduation is about me and my accomplishments and the fact that I'm currently fat and gestating has ZERO to do with anything. 

Another old example, for Christmas and my birthday, my gifts from my parents were baby clothes - nothing FOR me. My husband got a new gaming console from them last week for his... nothing baby related.

I'm still a person separate from this little guy. Hello! Maybe I'm just awful, but it really bugs me. 

I hear you. My birthday was 10 days ago...and my parents got me the crib for a birthday/baby shower gift, and a stuffed Eeyore for the baby. I was really looking forward to my "last" birthday as an individual, but I guess with this little guy in my belly I'm no longer Katie, I'm now baby's Mom. 

WinniethePoohsPants

DH and I switched cell phone carriers, but now my phone doesn't work until T-mobile 'unlocks it'. And it's raining out. It's going to be a long a$$ day.
Also this weekend I had my first, "Wow, so you're about to pop huh?" from a stranger. I just stared at her for a moment and said, "No."
Why are people so gutsy about pregnancy comments to complete strangers?? I'd NEVER say something to a woman I'd assumed to be pregnant unless she was crowning right in front of me.
I keep telling myself to buck up, but the rainy weather, lack of sleep from daylight's saving switch, and hormones are making me extra tired and grumpy today.

acastl24

@BPaisley I'm totally lurking because no one posts on my BMB anymore... But my daughter is 11 weeks old and has been sleeping 8-10 hour shifts through the night since 4 weeks. It happens. The only time she doesn't is if she's sick. 

edeibel89

Ugh I've been super busy all weekend and been missing so much on here! Anyway, mine is my friend who is currently trying to get pregnant. She has a 7 year old daughter already who was not planned, but she and her husband have been trying for almost 2 years and having no success. She's doing a couple fertility meds and other things. I know that what she is going thru is exhausting and frustrating, and I don't envy her struggle at all. So anyway, she keeps making comments about how easy it was for us to get pregnant and that it isn't fair because they already have one and don't want them so far apart in age, whereas we don't have any yet so it wouldn't be a problem for us to have to wait. She also keeps doing this thing about how the names they've chosen for their next baby are so great and blah blah, meanwhile I actually have a baby on the way I can't talk about because she will go back to complaining about her not being pregnant. Ugh!!!!

I just realized I have a second bitch - people who constantly tell you that your husband is going to morph into this lazy POS after the baby is born. I know I am very fortunate that my husband is helpful and goes grocery shopping and helps clean the house and does dishes etc. I am aware that not all men are like that. However, just because someone else's husband is not a team player does not mean mine is a lazy slob too. I get so tired of people saying 'oh get ready to do it all yourself, my husband has never changed a diaper'. It's like ok, well I know who my H is and I wouldn't have jumped into this whole having kids thing with someone I didn't think was going to be a partner in it with me. I'm sure there will be times I will feel overworked and underpaid so to speak, but it just bothers me that people are telling me H is going to become this awful person. 

MeganF08

Palisson said:

MeganF08 said:

@mrsschmity - Yes! People are always trying to prove how much more they know then you, so irritating.

Along those same lines- I was discussing this with a friend this weekend but why does it feel like some other women are just lined up to see you fail? Basically every time I mention trying to CD or make my own baby food or whatever I get a bunch of hateful responses about how I will never make it. I get it, things change when LO arrives and things may not go according to plan but why not just be supportive or say nothing at all? If people have tried and failed some of the things I want to do, I am totally open to hearing their feedback on why it didn't work. It's just the tacky people who offer a negative response with no basis that irritate me.

What you say to these know-it-all failure f*cksticks is,
"Oh bitch- that's so sad that you couldn't make it work- can I buy that Beaba baby food processor from you for like 50% of what your stupid ass paid? My kid is going to love this butternut squash recipe!"

or you can say,

"Oh my gawd, cloth diapering is a lot of extra work- thank gawd so many jerks like you fail and I can just buy your never used Bum Genius all-in-ones for like next to nothing on ebay/facebook!"

It's called silver-lining (yes, that's a verb) and it's EXACTLY WRONG when you want to be empathetic, but it's super great when you want to shut a bitch up. 

It works for responding to non-supportive women in lots of ways:

"Oh weird, I guess you and I have different bodies, because I'm pretty okay with gaining weight during pregnancy- so NO B*TCH, I'M NOT WORRIED ABOUT EATING A THIRD FRIT-O PIE AT THIS FUNDRAISER."

"'Oh what happened,' you ask? Well, first off- I appreciate your serious concern over my failure to give birth vaginally and second what happened was I just had the facking BEST DELIVERY I COULD HAVE EVER DREAMED OF AND NO MY C-SECTION WASN'T HORRIBLE. Thanks for your excellent bedside manner doctor assface."

*Taking notes* - These responses are the best and I am getting really close to using them without any regrets

RNMegan0711

I'm seriously so sick and tired of everyone commenting about how I don't even look pregnant. I'm officially seven months pregnant today.. And I just can't wait to look it. My precious little girl is making me wide... Not frontwards lol. I've had so many patients at work look in total shock when it comes up that I'm pregnant and quite a few actually comment "oh I just thought you were overweight". Lol wtf is wrong with people!? Ok I'm done... Lol

edited for poor grammar/spelling

lunagrl79

I have similar complaints. This weekend I had to attend a birthday party for someone in my bf's family. His aunt and mom laughed in my face when I said I want to try without an epidural. Then his mom berated me for not wanting an episiotomy, breast feeding and cloth diapering. This woman is driving me insane already. She has something negative to say about everything I want to try. I'm very open minded and I know a lot can change once I go into labor and the little one is here but come on. She is like you will screw this baby up if you try toohard. You're just making it harder on yourself. Blah blah blah. Shut. The. Fuck. Up. 

RNMegan0711

alileecam said:

I have two things...

For anyone with an excellent memory who recalls my FFFC about my "friend" who is a demanding asshole and trying to arrange a dinner for this week: I never even had to ignore my text from her because SHE NEVER WROTE BACK. Jerk.

Also, for anyone commenting on the size of my bump and how I'll "want the baby out" soon, shut the eff up. Do you really want to get into this with me? a. I have too much fluid and I am measuring big AF. I'm sensitive about it, okay? b. This is the same condition that caused my first son to be born too early and in the intensive care NICU and have other problems later. So NO, I don't want "the baby to just get out" and I won't until it's time, because I don't want to go through that again, although chances are I will, because of the amount of fluid and my dumb uterus's propensity to just want to go into labor way too early, despite the fact that I get a shot in my ASS once a week to try to stop it. c. Please just shut up about the size of any part of my body. No one needs that. Ever.

Oh man, I hear ya on the .. Everyone needs to shut up about the size of any part of my body thing. I'm sorry you're having to worry about pre term labor through all of it as well. I'll be thinking of you!