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PSUBecky23

Sorry if I'm stepping on the toes of whomever normally posts this but I'm impatient, haven't been on much lately and want some entertainment.

Let's hear them, ladies!

PSUBecky23

It is Friday, right? My brain has been used too much for work lately.

I can't brain anymore.

0SeaMonkey0

I may be wrong but I think the daily threads are first come first served

my confession: I've been fighting a cold for 4 days and yesterday it got way worse. I suffered through the day but said I was going to take today off. Now I'm sitting at home feeling way better . Currently watching a movie and phoning but planning of doing chores and maybe having lunch with DH. Oh well!

PSUBecky23

@0seamonkey0 I'm "working" from home today. I've worked 672 hours over the past week and have a ton to catch up on but lunch with my husband will be happening as well.

Glad you're feeling better.

Sporty1216

I cancelled one set of plans because I decided I wanted to do a different plan. I pretty much NEVER do this and sort of feel like flaming myself...but it's been a trying week, and I haven't done much with LO that has been kid-focused. The new plan is, so that is/was my justification. It's for the toddler.

AnnaS930

I'm dreading the weekend a little bit. My husband works 9:30-7 each day. Our son goes into his bath at 7 and to bed right after, so husband will only be home to say goodnight. My parents live an hour away but are vacationing this week and most of my friends (none have kids) are tied up.  I love my son and love every second with him.. but with my husband working all weekends it can get a little lonely without adult conversation.

I'm sure we'll find some adventures and weather should be nice and it will be amazing - but right now I'm just kind of dreading it all.  He takes amazing naps, but has been doing 10-1pm lately.. that's a lot of time to be tied to my house, hoping I can get outside and work the gardens during that time.

PSUBecky23

@AnnaS930 I feel your pain. My husband works every other weekend. He's currently 6am-2pm which isn't bad but almost always gets stuck doing a double shift at least one day so he's stuck until 10pm. Being alone with a toddler all day is rough. (Reason 452 why I'd be a horrible SAHM.)

AnnaS930

@PSUBecky23 - Yes. I'm also not interested in being a SAHM. My husband works usually 1 or 2 late shifts per week, so I pick up the little man from daycare at 4, and husband gets home after he's asleep. Those 3.5 hours alone are really no big deal, we play, we have dinner we read books.. the weekends I find a bit more challenging depending on if we can get out or not (and it always ends up being better than I'm picturing, especially with the little guy getting older and more interactive). I'm a wicked busy body - have been my whole life. Sitting around playing with my kid is fantastic, I need to learn to push the list of other things I need to be doing out of my brain.

TNgoldengirl

I like forgot how to function IRL. I've been super tired, and now I'm not always exhausted but I still just sit on the couch and can't get anything accomplished. I don't know if I'm just lazy, unmotivated, stuck in this habit, or what. Edited because words are hard. 

UnwritteN12

@PSUBecky23, @AnnaS930 - DH works every weekend which leaves me with DS and DD for most of the day both days. They're 6 so they can (usually) entertain themselves. But when it comes to having to go to the store, or out anywhere other than the park, I still dread it. Two on one is completely unfair, especially out in public. I try to save store trips for when DH can come with us.

FFFC - I will be happy no matter what sex our babies are. I mean, we had to go through fertility treatments for both sets of twins, so I'm just happy to be able to be pregnant! I have a very strong feeling that these 2 are both girls. I'm really hoping that I'm wrong though. I love DD so much. But can we say attitude!? She's 6 going on 16. I now have a very small glimpse into what my mom went through with me. I'd much prefer one boy and one girl to keep our family balance. Guess we'll have to wait until another 23 weeks *crosses fingers* to find out.

tklemp1

My confession is that I hate sharing food.  My LO is the only exception to that.  

camichael84

@UnwritteN12 Regarding your DD-- when my daughter was maybe 6 months old, I was shopping for a shirt at Target. I overhear a teen girl giving her mom attitude over the mom's suggestions of clothes for the daughter. My first thought was, "Wow, I remember being that attitude-giving teen." Then immediately thought, "Oh, shit. I'm that mom in 14-15 years."

Now, recalling that, maybe I should be hoping for a boy this time.  

AnnaS930

@tklemp1 My mom used to pick off of my plate all the time when I was little and I HATED sharing food. When I was a kid I would lick every potato chip on my plate before starting my sandwich for lunch just to be sure no one would touch them. I was a little crazy

Tippy05

@tklemp1 - I absolutely do that too.  I bought 2 Reese's PB eggs last week and ate one, thinking that I would save the other for later.  20 minutes later I see DH walking by me eating the other one.  I was so upset and made sure he knew it.

My FFFC: I'm taking a half day today to get caught up on rest and cleaning... or maybe just rest.  I'm exhausted and need a break just to catch my breath before a weekend of crazy.

camichael84

@TNgoldengirl I've felt the same way, but then the days I end up being productive, it's followed by a day of extreme exahustion. So that is my justification when I know I should be doing something, but put it off. 

TNgoldengirl

@camichael84 yes! I try to cut myself some slack because I wrangle a class of 2yos from 8:30-1:30 two days a week, but after that I'm useless. I actually did go for a walk and work out (for the first time in months) yesterday.. It's easier for me to do mindless tasks, but cooking, cleaning and organizing..NEWP! 

PSUBecky23

@UnwritteN12 I can barely handle (OK, can't handle at all) my toddler one-on-one in public.

mommytimesfour

My house is in desperate need of a deep clean and I'm seriously contemplating hiring a one time maid service because I just can't. I'm so lazy lately. 

AnnaS930

@JLmama118 - I have so many friends who have a maid service come in, especially after they've had a baby -even just once a month to do a deep clean of kitchen/bathrooms.

My FFFC is that I am too proud to allow a cleaning service to come in. I seem to want to do it all, even if that means I'm run into the ground and miserable. My competitive side/pride really get the best of me.

LakeR2014

JLmama118 said:

My house is in desperate need of a deep clean and I'm seriously contemplating hiring a one time maid service because I just can't. I'm so lazy lately. 

@JLmama118 I secretly wish that my DH would surprise me with this all the time!   Unfortunately this has never happened so my house still  looks like a war zone.

mommytimesfour

I guess I just feel sort of ashamed in a way or like I shouldn't need help since I'm a SAHM. But I'm tired. I'm tired of trying to do it all and then beating myself up when that doesn't happen. Some days I feel like I'm drowning in housework and trying to keep the littles entertained and happy. 

mommytimesfour

LakeR2014 said:

JLmama118 said:

My house is in desperate need of a deep clean and I'm seriously contemplating hiring a one time maid service because I just can't. I'm so lazy lately. 

@JLmama118 I secretly wish that my DH would surprise me with this all the time!   Unfortunately this has never happened so my house still  looks like a war zone.

Yes! I hint at it all the time, especially around gift giving holidays. I would be so appreciative of it. I think secretly he thinks it's ridiculous and that I should be able to do it, but he'd never admit that. 

UnwritteN12

   JLmama118 said:

I guess I just feel sort of ashamed in a way or like I shouldn't need help since I'm a SAHM. But I'm tired. I'm tired of trying to do it all and then beating myself up when that doesn't happen. Some days I feel like I'm drowning in housework and trying to keep the littles entertained and happy. 

I get it. But being a SAHM isn't easy. I did it for 4 years. I had to remind myself numerous times that, even if the house wasn't cleaned and the laundry wasn't done and we were having sandwiches and chips for dinner, I was making memories with my kids. I just never let anyone inside my house.

sunshineinmay09

I just spent way too much money today.  We're supposed to be saving money, and generally I have no problem with that, but today I was in a buying mood. Getting off the laptop so I don't spend even more. 

sunshineinmay09

JLmama118 said:

I guess I just feel sort of ashamed in a way or like I shouldn't need help since I'm a SAHM. But I'm tired. I'm tired of trying to do it all and then beating myself up when that doesn't happen. Some days I feel like I'm drowning in housework and trying to keep the littles entertained and happy. 

I totally understand. I gave up and hired my sister to help me. This past week was her first week (she's coming 3x a week and does everything: clean, cook, and take care of my kids). And my house is so clean and I feel so much better and happier. It was totally worth getting out of my own way and admitting I need help. Have you thought of looking into hiring a mother's helper? I know lots of other SAHM's who have done that and love it. 

jensou

My FFFC actually involves flames.  Last night we started a fire in our fire pit.  I had some dry twigs & a couple of small pieces of wood to get it started.  I was up on the deck getting the grill started & saw an ember fly out of the pit (the mesh lid was on) in to the grass.  Our grass is the kind that goes dormant in the winter, and looks like straw.  I watched it for a sec and it went out.  So I thought.  Next thing I knew, the yard was on fire.  Like OMG the yard is in flames.  It was so scary.  I yelled to my kids for one to get the hose (which I should have had hooked up, in retrospect) and the other to run next door, get a fire extinguisher.  We actually have one under our sink but why I didn't think of getting that one is beyond me.  The first thing I was this huge cardboard cylinder that was on the inside of an area rug I had just bought, and started smacking down the flames that were coming toward the deck and the house.  The hose was brought around but damn it the isolation valve was still off because just a few weeks ago it was in the 30's here.  I didn't want to leave the fire in order to run to the garage to open the pipes up, so I just kept banging and rolling with the giant cardboard tube until I got the side that was going toward the house put out.  The neighbors had called the fire department and then another neighbor's kids came over with a fire extinguisher, which I used to put the rest of it out with.  

I have this giant black charred oval in my back yard now.  My husband is out of town for business, and I haven't told him.  I wish I could spray paint it green and not have to discuss any of it with him!  He's going to be so mad and really I should have had a back up plan before starting the fire pit.  Today I'm going to make cookies and buy some fruit for the fire department and my neighbor who helped.  And I'm going to cross my fingers that my husband will never notice LOL although I'm sure he will.  And I'll have to tell him about catching the yard on fire.  

camichael84

My FFFC- I was 36 weeks pregnant for DD when I turned 30. DH surprised me with am expecting mother's spa day. Despite my birthday not being until late Aug, I've already told him I want the same thing for my 32nd birthday... and I've looked up a different spa I want to go to. This one includes a facial that I didn't get last time. Also, I'm thinking I may want to do the spa day before my birthday this time because I'll be 37 weeks along with this one. 

camichael84

@jensou That sounds like quite the mishap! Glad everything turned out okay, and hope maybe your husband can will just be glad everything and everyone is okay that he won't get upset.

JennM205

My FFFCs:

1. I left work at 3pm yesterday to "meet with my Realtor" (we're selling our rental property) when, really, I took DD to a friend's house for a multi-family playdate.  Also, in the 7 hours I was in the office (8-3), I spent 2 talking to friends in my old department (basically announcing my pregnancy as I worked my way around the cubicles), 1 eating lunch and another 1-2 on The Bump.  Paying for it today because there's so much left undone but whatevs.  It's Friday.

2. I had bad gas one night this past week.  My BIL and DH were in the room and DD was in my lap.  I let out a good one (loud, not smelly - thank goodness) and blamed it on DD.  If BIL hadn't been there, I probably would have fessed up but I was embarrassed - and DD regularly has loud gas so I figured no big deal, right?  Wrong!  DD immediately said, "That wasn't me, that was you, Mommy!"  I tried to ignore her to just make it all go away but she was insistent.  "That was YOU, Mommy!"  "That wasn't me."  Over and over and over.  Until I was laughing out loud and just told her, "Okay, okay."  Double embarrassing that it was, in fact, me and that I tried to blame it on my two-year-old and failed.  LOL

geminigirl16

I just found out the results of our NIPT and sex of baby and I want to keep it to ourselves for a while longer. My fiancé is thrilled and wants to start telling immediately. I'm torn as I want my time for me but don't want to squash his excitement. 

Katie8687

I work with kids and I get SO grossed out when they put their fingers in their noses and/or mouth and then try to touch me/the table. The other week pink eye was going around and this was me all week -
(Luckily I'm all for being slobbered on by my friends' kids, so I think I'll be okay with the ickiness of my own.)

AnnaS930

@geminigirl16 - just keep in mind that you have this group of friends/internet strangers to share the news with, he might not have anyone. And it's really really fun to tell when you're so excited, but keeping it your own news can be important too. hope you guys can find a good compromise.

hey_clever_girl

@AnnaS930 @PSUBecky23 I am with both of you. I would go insane if I was a SAHM.

hey_clever_girl

@JennM205 Dude my gas has been SO BAD this pregnancy. SO, SO BAD. I feel your pain.

UnwritteN12

@jensou - Glad everyone is ok! Bet you've had enough excitement for a while though!
@camichael84 - That sounds like Heaven....especially at 37 weeks! 
@JennM205 - #2 had me cracking up at my desk. Thanks for the laugh.

hey_clever_girl

My FFFC is that I am in no way, shape, or form interested in sex right now. I don't have a particularly high sex drive anyway, but being pregnant makes me even less interested. I don't miss it, I don't crave it, I want to eat all the things and sleep. I'm not even interested in doing non-intercourse things. I just don't want it. My husband doesn't understand, poor guy. He would have sex if he was bleeding internally, so he doesn't get the "just not feeling it" thing.

TNgoldengirl

I have a better one than before. DH and I have rarely not had a kid in our bed since we've basically been married over 4 years ago. It's never been a priority for him, as we don't even share the same comforter--his choice. They've finally both been STTN in their own bed so we have had some really great mornings lately  

hey_clever_girl

TNgoldengirl said:

I have a better one than before. DH and I have rarely not had a kid in our bed since we've basically been married over 4 years ago. It's never been a priority for him, as we don't even share the same comforter--his choice. They've finally both been STTN in their own bed so we have had some really great mornings lately  

Oh lawd. Morning sex is my least favorite sex. Like, get off me with your morning breath and sweaty man parts. But I am happy for you and your good mornings!  

AnnaS930

@runningisrad - AGREED 500% on all of this. Especially the morning.. like - No. It ruins the spontaneity of it all when I say "how bout you get up and brush your teeth and we try this again" BLECH!

geminigirl16

Thanks @AnnaS930. I guess I hadnt really thought of it that way. Thanks you for taking the time to weigh in with a different perspective 

I can SO relate to this! My poor fiancé is wondering what happened to me and all I want lately is to relax, sleep and eat @runningisrad

camichael84

AnnaS930 said:
 Especially the morning.. like - No. It ruins the spontaneity of it all when I say "how bout you get up and brush your teeth and we try this again" BLECH!

This is me. I always ruin morning sex by insisting we brush our teeth first. Then we both need to pee, and we are out of bed and there is no sexiness left.