FFFC

ShallowSeas

Warning: May not be flame-free

NordyMN89

I emailed my boss this morning asking if I could take a half day. He said it was fine. Why am I taking the half day? So I can open the windows, clean the house and run some errands. Yep, not doing anything remotely fun with my PTO. Oh and my H is making me feel guilty about taking a half day. He's all freaked out because one person in a completely different department than me got laid off this week. So clearly him being laid off means I'm going to be too. What. The. Fuck. Husband? Thanks for the vote of confidence.

*Sorry to rant, just had to get that off my chest!*

LikeICantEven

I  caught myself reading a first time Mom's post the other day and laughing, thinking to myself, "if you think that's bad, JUST WAIT."

....... I hated myself for it. Last time around those two words dug so deep into my ass whenever someone said it to me. Like it somehow insinuated that I didn't know a thing about kids, pregnancy, etc. But I mean...I kind of didn't. I was the whole, "My kid will only play with educational toys, no electronics!" "My kid will have perfectly prepared portions of veggies and they'll LOVE them!" "I feel amazing, I don't think I'm going to get that whole GET THIS BABY OUT OF ME STAGE. I lurrrrve being pregnant."



I apologize to the FTMs for at least mentally perpetuating this social faux pas.

comealongponds

My doctor hasn't specifically put me on bedrest, but I've put myself on restricted activity. Which means I've called in sick for my last three shifts, and plan on continuing to do so until I have my next ultrasound all despite the fact that my miscarriage and my thyroidectomy completely ate through my sick time bank so I'm not getting paid for any of this time off. I feel like I'm probably going to get reprimanded but I'm more worried about my babies than about pleasing my employer (I love my job and my manager but I'm focused on me and these babies right now...). Hopefully they'll work with me to use some STD or something...

ShallowSeas

I've been worthless all week and haven't been as productive as I normally am at work.  I need a vacation.

I can't stop looking at baby things.  H can't stop either.  He was looking at car seats yesterday lol. He's too cute.  I was like, "baby is the size of a chocolate chip...it's gonna be several months before he can fit in a car seat.  We have some time". I love that man. He is so excited about this.

I'm nervous to have sex. WHY AM I NERVOUS TO HAVE SEX. We've done it once since my bfp and it was fine; no spotting, no bleeding, no cramping. I want to so bad but my anxiety is stopping me 

I'm sure I will think of more later...

LikeICantEven

ShallowSeas said:

I've been worthless all week and haven't been as productive as I normally am at work.  I need a vacation.

I can't stop looking at baby things.  H can't stop either.  He was looking at car seats yesterday lol. He's too cute.  I was like, "baby is the size of a chocolate chip...it's gonna be several months before he can fit in a car seat.  We have some time". I love that man. He is so excited about this.

I'm nervous to have sex. WHY AM I NERVOUS TO HAVE SEX. We've done it once since my bfp and it was fine; no spotting, no bleeding, no cramping. I want to so bad but my anxiety is stopping me 

I'm sure I will think of more later...

We haven't had sex either. I mean, I miss him, I miss connecting like that but I don't give a damn about getting mine. I need confirmation first that this baby is staying put. Then I'll unclench and get to get to my duty,

KilgraveMadeMeDoIt

I've gained five pounds already. I'm fat to start with so I'm not supposed to gain much during pregnancy but apparently my body is hanging onto every bloody drop of water that I drink since I'm currently eating only around 1400 calories a day because I'm just not hungry but I'm trying to ensure I get at least a sufficient amount (I normally eat no more than 1700-1800.)

hellopartyof5

HomeyDontPlayThat said:

I  caught myself reading a first time Mom's post the other day and laughing, thinking to myself, "if you think that's bad, JUST WAIT."

....... I hated myself for it. Last time around those two words dug so deep into my ass whenever someone said it to me. Like it somehow insinuated that I didn't know a thing about kids, pregnancy, etc. But I mean...I kind of didn't. I was the whole, "My kid will only play with educational toys, no electronics!" "My kid will have perfectly prepared portions of veggies and they'll LOVE them!" "I feel amazing, I don't think I'm going to get that whole GET THIS BABY OUT OF ME STAGE. I lurrrrve being pregnant."



I apologize to the FTMs for at least mentally perpetuating this social faux pas.

I feel like this is kind of natural, though.  I was THAT FTM and i seriously laugh at myself all the time.  BUT it's something that we all need to learn on our own.  I wouldn't have believed anyone if they'd told me what it's like.

MollySm

nauticallife said:

HomeyDontPlayThat said:

I  caught myself reading a first time Mom's post the other day and laughing, thinking to myself, "if you think that's bad, JUST WAIT."

....... I hated myself for it. Last time around those two words dug so deep into my ass whenever someone said it to me. Like it somehow insinuated that I didn't know a thing about kids, pregnancy, etc. But I mean...I kind of didn't. I was the whole, "My kid will only play with educational toys, no electronics!" "My kid will have perfectly prepared portions of veggies and they'll LOVE them!" "I feel amazing, I don't think I'm going to get that whole GET THIS BABY OUT OF ME STAGE. I lurrrrve being pregnant."



I apologize to the FTMs for at least mentally perpetuating this social faux pas.

I feel like this is kind of natural, though.  I was THAT FTM and i seriously laugh at myself all the time.  BUT it's something that we all need to learn on our own.  I wouldn't have believed anyone if they'd told me what it's like.

Plus I do think that all moms are different.  Just using your examples, my kids do eat boatloads of veggies and don't play with electronics.  I got tons of 'just wait' when I was pregnant with my first (I was a nanny at the time, and that seemed to make parents nuts that I might already have valid ideas), but in the end, I parent how I thought I would parent.  I give in in places I knew I would, and stand firm on things I wanted to stand firm on.  Some people find it very different than what they expect, but others don't.  

Heeb918

ShallowSeas said:

I've been worthless all week and haven't been as productive as I normally am at work.  I need a vacation.

I can't stop looking at baby things.  H can't stop either.  He was looking at car seats yesterday lol. He's too cute.  I was like, "baby is the size of a chocolate chip...it's gonna be several months before he can fit in a car seat.  We have some time". I love that man. He is so excited about this.

I'm nervous to have sex. WHY AM I NERVOUS TO HAVE SEX. We've done it once since my bfp and it was fine; no spotting, no bleeding, no cramping. I want to so bad but my anxiety is stopping me 

I'm sure I will think of more later...

We haven't had sex either. Probably won't until after the NT scan. 5 miscarriages make you forget about sex haha. Plus progesterone supplements are..... Nasty. There will always be time to make up for it later!

Heeb918

Fffc: my daughter is sick and I think I'm going to couch parent until her nap. She is perfectly happy with Mickey Mouse and Bubble Guppies and I'm going to let her watch as much as she wants. I feel like I ran 10 miles miraculously from sitting on my ass.

LikeICantEven

MollySm said:

nauticallife said:

HomeyDontPlayThat said:

I  caught myself reading a first time Mom's post the other day and laughing, thinking to myself, "if you think that's bad, JUST WAIT."

....... I hated myself for it. Last time around those two words dug so deep into my ass whenever someone said it to me. Like it somehow insinuated that I didn't know a thing about kids, pregnancy, etc. But I mean...I kind of didn't. I was the whole, "My kid will only play with educational toys, no electronics!" "My kid will have perfectly prepared portions of veggies and they'll LOVE them!" "I feel amazing, I don't think I'm going to get that whole GET THIS BABY OUT OF ME STAGE. I lurrrrve being pregnant."



I apologize to the FTMs for at least mentally perpetuating this social faux pas.

I feel like this is kind of natural, though.  I was THAT FTM and i seriously laugh at myself all the time.  BUT it's something that we all need to learn on our own.  I wouldn't have believed anyone if they'd told me what it's like.

Plus I do think that all moms are different.  Just using your examples, my kids do eat boatloads of veggies and don't play with electronics.  I got tons of 'just wait' when I was pregnant with my first (I was a nanny at the time, and that seemed to make parents nuts that I might already have valid ideas), but in the end, I parent how I thought I would parent.  I give in in places I knew I would, and stand firm on things I wanted to stand firm on.  Some people find it very different than what they expect, but others don't.  

NordyMN89

Heeb918 said:

ShallowSeas said:

I'm nervous to have sex. WHY AM I NERVOUS TO HAVE SEX. We've done it once since my bfp and it was fine; no spotting, no bleeding, no cramping. I want to so bad but my anxiety is stopping me 

We haven't had sex either. Probably won't until after the NT scan. 5 miscarriages make you forget about sex haha. Plus progesterone supplements are..... Nasty. There will always be time to make up for it later!

Stuck in the box!
I feel the same way! We haven't had sex since the BFP. I want to, but I know if I start to spot that H will freak out more than me and then he'll be a worry wart (see first FFFC) until our appt on the 29. Ditto on the anxiety stopping me, but still wanting it.

Another FFFC - I wish all the ladies would add tickers to their siggy. I like seeing how far along everyone is...

Heeb918

NordyMN89 said:

Heeb918 said:

ShallowSeas said:

I'm nervous to have sex. WHY AM I NERVOUS TO HAVE SEX. We've done it once since my bfp and it was fine; no spotting, no bleeding, no cramping. I want to so bad but my anxiety is stopping me 

We haven't had sex either. Probably won't until after the NT scan. 5 miscarriages make you forget about sex haha. Plus progesterone supplements are..... Nasty. There will always be time to make up for it later!

Stuck in the box!
I feel the same way! We haven't had sex since the BFP. I want to, but I know if I start to spot that H will freak out more than me and then he'll be a worry wart (see first FFFC) until our appt on the 29. Ditto on the anxiety stopping me, but still wanting it.

Another FFFC - I wish all the ladies would add tickers to their siggy. I like seeing how far along everyone is...

Gosh I can't imagine what mine looks like. I haven't been on here for a year or so. Guess I'll log on to a computer and fix it all haha

m6agua

This pregnancy is already so different from my last (dx: BO, MC at 11 weeks). I am just shy of 4 weeks and I am afraid that I am going to hate it this time around. I feel nausea creeping in and I don't think its going to go well. Also I have been doing pretty much nothing at work all week.

aquasocks

Three days ago, I pulled out my box of maternity clothes to go through it. I tried on a pair of pants and oh sweet bloatedness, they felt amazing. I've worn maternity pants everyday since. I dare my husband to say a word.

TrulyBlessed22

Ha @Aquasocks I was thinking of doing the same thing this weekend!  Obviously I'm not showing but the Bloat is real and I'm a petite chic so you can see it.  In fact yesterday I went to go buy some face products at Lush and asked the lady if they were safe for pregnancy, she asked if I was expecting and I admitted to her I was (since I don't know her and likely won't see her again)...anyway, she congratulated me and then about 5 minutes later said "oh I see it...sooo little still".  All I could do was laugh because it's not a baby bump yet but like I said the Bloat is Real so I couldn't even be mad at her or get offended LOL

Edit: to add to story lol

evilgreencows5

@aquasocks I got mine out too so I could make sure I had enough for the season I'll be pregnant. I'm tempted to wash them so I can get out of sweats. My jeans still fit but they're only SO comfortable with all the bloat.

ShallowSeas

@aquasocks @trulyblessed22 I bought maternity work pants this week and they're amazing.  My bloat is outta control. They're the kind with the little side panels.  My tummy is heaven.  I think ALL women's pants should be like these. Why do we need buttons and zippers?!

DunkinDecaf

I gave all my maternity pants to a friend after my last pregnancy and I'm SO glad because that means I don't have to find out that they're probably too small for me now.

Time to go spend some money.

ficbot

My husband has said the most random things about all this. He is not a deep thinker about it all, and does not want to talk about it all the time. But the other day, he turned to me at dinner and said 'you know...I just really, really hope it gets my teeth.' And yeah, he does have better teeth than me :-)

We have not had sex either but we have both been sick and he snores really badly when he is congested, so we have not been sleeping together the last two weeks. I'll return to the bed when neither of us are up all night coughing :-)

Jolenef07

comealongponds said:

My doctor hasn't specifically put me on bedrest, but I've put myself on restricted activity. Which means I've called in sick for my last three shifts, and plan on continuing to do so until I have my next ultrasound all despite the fact that my miscarriage and my thyroidectomy completely ate through my sick time bank so I'm not getting paid for any of this time off. I feel like I'm probably going to get reprimanded but I'm more worried about my babies than about pleasing my employer (I love my job and my manager but I'm focused on me and these babies right now...). Hopefully they'll work with me to use some STD or something...

Sounds like you're taking good care of yourself. I hear you on burning through sick time. I've used most of mine for a-zillion (yes, of course that's a real number) appointment for my IUIs and then for the miscarriage. Taking time to take care of yourself and your babies is totally worthwhile. @comealongponds

vinylrecs

There's a part of me that can't quite tell if I'm actually this hungry and exhausted or if it's just me owning up to and giving in to how I really feel most of the time!