UO Thursday

ShallowSeas

I know you got 'em! 

ShallowSeas

I'll start.  

My UO is the traditional baby shower...or any shower. I hate going to them, mostly because I hate the games. H and I have agreed that we don't want a traditional baby shower, just like we didn't have the traditional wedding shower.  Our wedding shower was a cookout/pool party where all of our friends came over to my IL's, drank beer, and swam.  It was awesome.  I would love for our baby shower to be the same, although I know its not really up to me since I obviously won't be planning it.

LikeICantEven

I don't like the notion that traditionally you have to wait until the end of the 1st trimester to tell people. At least with family.

Even if there was a loss, am I supposed to feel bad for inflicting discomfort on someone else? Life happens. I'm not going to stifle my joy because it might end badly. As long as you trust them to keep their mouths shut, go for it. Share your happy. It starts the support system early.

Edit: I waited until 9 weeks to tell my friends last time. You do end up being less freaked as the week go by. Seeing that strong heartbeat is a big one. It gets harder and harder to keep quiet.

Heeb918

The "guess the candy bar poopy diaper" game is the WORST. And was done at my shower. Blech. 

My UO.... I enjoy watching Bubble Guppies with DD. Deema is my soul sister.

LikeICantEven

Heeb918 said:

The "guess the candy bar poopy diaper" game is the WORST. And was done at my shower. Blech. 

My UO.... I enjoy watching Bubble Guppies with DD. Deema is my soul sister.

I'm going to need you to elaborate on that game. I am not familiar. 

Heeb918

I agreed until I felt embarrassed having to "renig" and remember who I told and get the word out about what happened. Instead of support I felt pitied. 

banfrog

We don't do the whole Santa, Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny thing with our kids.

Heeb918

HomeyDontPlayThat said:

Heeb918 said:

The "guess the candy bar poopy diaper" game is the WORST. And was done at my shower. Blech. 

My UO.... I enjoy watching Bubble Guppies with DD. Deema is my soul sister.

I'm going to need you to elaborate on that game. I am not familiar. 

Haha BG is a cartoon show. Fish characters. Catchy songs lol

ETA wtf is my phone doing?? Restarting...

GreenEyedUnicorn

I hate the word "preggers" with all my heart. It has the same number of letters as the word pregnant. Just say pregnant!! 

ShallowSeas

GreenEyedUnicorn said:

I hate the word "preggers" with all my heart. It has the same number of letters as the word pregnant. Just say pregnant!! 

SO MUCH YES. Or "prego" or any other shortened 'cutesie' version. I also can't stand when people say they're "expecting". I don't know why it makes me stabby but it does. 

LikeICantEven

Heeb918 said:

HomeyDontPlayThat said:

Heeb918 said:

The "guess the candy bar poopy diaper" game is the WORST. And was done at my shower. Blech. 

My UO.... I enjoy watching Bubble Guppies with DD. Deema is my soul sister.

I'm going to need you to elaborate on that game. I am not familiar. 

Haha BG is a cartoon show. Fish characters. Catchy songs lol

ETA wtf is my phone doing?? Restarting...

Sorry,I meant the candy bar poopy diaper game  

GreenEyedUnicorn

ShallowSeas said:

GreenEyedUnicorn said:

I hate the word "preggers" with all my heart. It has the same number of letters as the word pregnant. Just say pregnant!! 

SO MUCH YES. Or "prego" or any other shortened 'cutesie' version. I also can't stand when people say they're "expecting". I don't know why it makes me stabby but it does. 

Yasss! Prego, too. I knew there was another shitty term I couldn't remember. Ugh! Hate them both. 

hellopartyof5

UO: Although I hate preggers and despise preggo, I think preggly is cute.  I don't know why lol.

LikeICantEven

nauticallife said:

UO: Although I hate preggers and despise preggo, I think preggly is cute.  I don't know why lol.

Preggly makes me think piggly. Which makes me think of Mrs. Piggle Wiggle. Anyone old enough to remember those books? 

Heeb918

HomeyDontPlayThat said:

Heeb918 said:

HomeyDontPlayThat said:

Heeb918 said:

The "guess the candy bar poopy diaper" game is the WORST. And was done at my shower. Blech. 

My UO.... I enjoy watching Bubble Guppies with DD. Deema is my soul sister.

I'm going to need you to elaborate on that game. I am not familiar. 

Haha BG is a cartoon show. Fish characters. Catchy songs lol

ETA wtf is my phone doing?? Restarting...

Sorry,I meant the candy bar poopy diaper game  

Bahaha! You melt a mini candy bar in a diaper and number them so everyone has to guess what kind of candy is in them. But it looks like poop.

whaat

Yeah I agree with hating "preggers" and the candy bar game and all the other cutesy, infantilizing shit. I think we get it enough as women (esp. as pregnant women) that we should stop doing it to ourselves and others. We are grown, capable adults!  This also ties into my last unpopular opinion regarding all the pregnancy acronyms and euphemisms. I respect the intelligence of the women here enough to use real words.

GreenEyedUnicorn

I generally don't like cheese. I LOVE pizza and could eat it every day. Other than that, I would never eat cheese on a sandwich or a burger. The smell is grotesque. 

ashleymomma2

Is it really that hard to knock on a bathroom door before trying to enter?! The door is obviously closed, with the light on!
the bathroom is super popular in my place of work because of the amount of brazillians we do, many women use the bathroom first. 
With me having to pee every 5 seconds it's my favorite to hear someone jiggle the door handle every single time!! 
Obviously I lock the door! But come on people! What if I hadn't and you walked in on me!! Ugh! Rant over. I'm not overly sensitive right now or anything 

ShallowSeas

@whaat I agree with the pregnancy acronyms.  They tend to get on my nerves as well, especially "BD". We're all adults here.  Call it what it is: SEX.

whaat

@shallowseas Seriously. But I can see how hard it must be for these people to admit that they had actual sex with someone they refer to as "DH". It would gross me out too.  

KilgraveMadeMeDoIt

UO - I am so, so glad my mother isn't in my life and that I can just enjoy this pregnancy. I know most women want their mothers to be there for them, but I'm awfully glad mine isn't!

@HomeyDontPlayThat I don't like the 'tradition' of keeping quiet until the end of the first trimester either. I loathe the silence that surrounds loss so I refuse to be silent about my experiences of loss and it is amazing how many times I've received messages from friends or people who have come across things I've written who said they felt so alone, like they couldn't talk about it, like people wanted to pretend their babies never existed. I hate that women are expected to suffer silently to spare others discomfort. So I share the news of my pregnancies early, and if they go poorly, I share that too. 

RiverSong15

I agree on the acronyms and the showers things. If we are mature enough to parent another human being and get pregnant in the first place, we are mature enough to say the word SEX. 

I'm a cheese based life form, so I can't see how anyone could not like cheese.

My UO: I love love love chocolate, but hate it mixed with anything other than PB. Mint chocolate? Barf. Nuts in brownies? Abomination! I'm a chocolate purist 

NordyMN89

@RiverSong15 - I couldn't agree more about nuts in brownies! Why would anyone do that??! Eck!

My UO is that I hate pasta salad and coleslaw...basically anything with a mayo based sauce gets immediately rejected from my plate. Oh and chicken salad, don't even get me started!

Thewizardofrhythm

@HomeyDontPlayThat Love Mrs. Piggle Wiggle! Also in the camp of not waiting @kilgravemademedoit for a lot of the same reasons. I'm a sharer so that goes for everything, happiness and loss.  I am also not a fan of baby showers unless they are the fun kind (booze and partners allowed) but I'm Jewish and we don't have baby showers so yay for me!

I guess my UO is I'm nervous about joining another BMB (is that the right acronym?). I wasn't a huge fan of my last one and ended up opting out after a few months. But I like community so I figured I'd give it another go. 

aquasocks

The word "womb" makes me cringe so hard. My mother in law once posted a pic of me pregnant and captioned it "My son's wife and the child in her womb." Uuugghhhh.

whaat

aquasocks said:

The word "womb" makes me cringe so hard. My mother in law once posted a pic of me pregnant and captioned it "My son's wife and the child in her womb." Uuugghhhh.

Yes! Horrible and creepy.

BelcherEars

Apparently my UO should be that the acronyms don't really bother me. Do I think some of them are silly? Yes. I would never actually call my period "aunt flow" or call my husband "dear husband", etc. But I view the use of the acronyms as shorthand for typing. 

LikeICantEven

BelcherEars said:

Apparently my UO should be that the acronyms don't really bother me. Do I think some of them are silly? Yes. I would never actually call my period "aunt flow" or call my husband "dear husband", etc. But I view the use of the acronyms as shorthand for typing. 

I agree. But when it gets excessive, such as, "My DH took DS1 and DD3 to my SMIL's house for RNR so I could XYZ. LOLz!" I don't even bother reading it. I don't want to think that hard, it shouldn't BE that hard. 

BelcherEars

HomeyDontPlayThat said:

BelcherEars said:

Apparently my UO should be that the acronyms don't really bother me. Do I think some of them are silly? Yes. I would never actually call my period "aunt flow" or call my husband "dear husband", etc. But I view the use of the acronyms as shorthand for typing. 

I agree. But when it gets excessive, such as, "My DH took DS1 and DD3 to my SMIL's house for RNR so I could XYZ. LOLz!" I don't even bother reading it. I don't want to think that hard, it shouldn't BE that hard. 

Yea excessive use is not shorthand, that's lazy lol and also makes my head hurt. 

KilgraveMadeMeDoIt

I think the modern concept of 'natural birth' is overrated and that the largely-societal pressure put on women to conform to one standard of preferred birth is damaging, guilt-inducing, and pushes women to take unwarranted risks because they've been convinced that they 'failed' if they choose pain relief or a c/s or an induction. I get very frustrated that so many women twist themselves into knots of worry about 'failing' at birth or 'giving in' when they take pain relief when, really, if mum and baby make it out alive, birth was a resounding success.  

(I say this as someone who used to think *very* differently, insisted on a natural birth, and literally almost killed myself because of it.)

How's that one for unpopular? Hah. 

citygirl17

KilgraveMadeMeDoIt said:

I think the modern concept of 'natural birth' is overrated and that the largely-societal pressure put on women to conform to one standard of preferred birth is damaging, guilt-inducing, and pushes women to take unwarranted risks because they've been convinced that they 'failed' if they choose pain relief or a c/s or an induction. I get very frustrated that so many women twist themselves into knots of worry about 'failing' at birth or 'giving in' when they take pain relief when, really, if mum and baby make it out alive, birth was a resounding success.  

(I say this as someone who used to think *very* differently, insisted on a natural birth, and literally almost killed myself because of it.)

How's that one for unpopular? Hah. 

Not unpopular with me at all!  I wanted all natural, ended up needing to be induced because of low fluid volume. Still thought I could at least do without the epidural, but after 36 hours with no progress and no pain meds, I agreed to it.  Low and behold, I went in to active labor basically immediately after receiving the epi.  I believe It allowed my body to relax so that labor could finally kick in.  I won't try to be a hero again this time.

talkthewholetime

Heeb918 said:

The "guess the candy bar poopy diaper" game is the WORST. And was done at my shower. Blech. 

My UO.... I enjoy watching Bubble Guppies with DD. Deema is my soul sister.

We're big Nonny fans at my house

talkthewholetime

I hate how every mom board/page/group I've ever been in has an ultimate know it all person who has to post on EVERY thread to let you know how smart they are. The eye rolling. It's intense.

ETA: I'm sure it will happen here, if it hasn't already.

MollySm

I don't mind the acronyms, but I will never understand why the need for the D.  I have always just referred to him as my H on here, and as far as I can tell, no one seems seriously confused.  

kns1988

I hate that disposable diapers exist because they're clogging up our landfills. Same goes for K-cups.

I also hate when people say bewbies. 

LikeICantEven

MollySm said:

I don't mind the acronyms, but I will never understand why the need for the D.  I have always just referred to him as my H on here, and as far as I can tell, no one seems seriously confused.  

I will always have a need for the D ........

MollySm

HomeyDontPlayThat said:

MollySm said:

I don't mind the acronyms, but I will never understand why the need for the D.  I have always just referred to him as my H on here, and as far as I can tell, no one seems seriously confused.  

I will always have a need for the D ........

Well played. 

Thewizardofrhythm

@kilgravemademedoit with you on the natural birth pressure! Do you listen to the longest shortest time podcast? There is a lot of really beautiful commentary on this topic. I was dead set on everything natural last time around and learned very quickly that an induction and medication free labor and delivery don't mix super well. I was so attached to my concept that my labor and delivery should be "natural" that I made choices that ultimately made things harder for me and my baby. I'm pretty sure I'm going for it again this time around but my expectations and attachments are more flexible. At least I hope! 

sweetlyuntied

ShallowSeas said:

I'll start.  

My UO is the traditional baby shower...or any shower. I hate going to them, mostly because I hate the games. H and I have agreed that we don't want a traditional baby shower, just like we didn't have the traditional wedding shower.  Our wedding shower was a cookout/pool party where all of our friends came over to my IL's, drank beer, and swam.  It was awesome.  I would love for our baby shower to be the same, although I know its not really up to me since I obviously won't be planning it.

Yup - that's the rub with baby showers. Most hosts will try to take the mom-to-be's wishes into consideration but ultimately, you get what you get! And something is better than nothing, that's for sure.

sweetlyuntied

KilgraveMadeMeDoIt said:

I think the modern concept of 'natural birth' is overrated and that the largely-societal pressure put on women to conform to one standard of preferred birth is damaging, guilt-inducing, and pushes women to take unwarranted risks because they've been convinced that they 'failed' if they choose pain relief or a c/s or an induction. I get very frustrated that so many women twist themselves into knots of worry about 'failing' at birth or 'giving in' when they take pain relief when, really, if mum and baby make it out alive, birth was a resounding success.  

(I say this as someone who used to think *very* differently, insisted on a natural birth, and literally almost killed myself because of it.)

How's that one for unpopular? Hah. 

So much this. Birth is just one teeny piece of motherhood. Do it in whatever way works best and is safest.

To be perfectly honest I hardly remember my L&D. Certain details stuck with me, but in general it was all a blur.

sweetlyuntied

My UO is that I hate that fear of GMOs is a thing. Of course there are bad reasons for genetically modifying an organism (example: just so you can dump tons of pesticides/herbicides on it without it dying). But to make the blanket statement that all GMO's are bad is just patently false. And it's hurtful for industries that use GMO's for good.