Couldn't hide it anymore

jbal918

So I was hiding my pregnancy at work since we've known. I've been caught throwing up several times and I started wearing the seabands today all day at work. We are 9 weeks, 2 days and had an ultrasound 2 days ago and all was well. So I started slowly telling people at work... I teach special Ed preschool so sometimes I just need an extra hand for a minute with a rough child or I need to use the bathroom again... I'm happy people are starting to know but of course nervous. Anyone else tell early? I will be 10 weeks on Tuesday. 

KidShrink

We told around that time as well (publicly). Very close friends and family already knew (some from the first positive beta) because they were aware of what we were going through, including approximate timelines. It's always scary, but at the same time, god forbid something were to happen, wouldn't you want to have the support and understanding of those same people? That was our reasoning behind telling (well that andnthe fact that we were so ecstatic we couldn't keep it in any longer!)

Piperella

My mom/dad know, but my DH's family does not.  My best friend and my coworkers know, but that was because I had the m/c incident at work.. my coworkers were lifesavers that day. I'm really trying to hold out telling everyone else until I get the results back from the NIPT/NT testing (I will hopefully get the NIPT done on Monday and the NT is on 3/25).  I totally get telling people now though.  Sometimes it is very hard to hide the emotions, symptoms, bloat, etc. haha!

I'm not waiting for the official week 13 or whatever.. it's more about waiting on the results and who would I want to share and receive support from regarding the results or if something else went wrong.. those are the people I've gone ahead and told.  It's exciting being in the 3rd month!

riveridgional

I told everyone SUPER early, and I am so happy I did! I've enjoyed sharing all my pregnancy moments with those close to me and who really provided emotional support throughout my infertility journey. We were going wait until HCG levels doubled appropriately and/or the first ultrasound, but the ability to tell my entire family in person took precedence. We found out the day after Thanksgiving, and my whole family was in town and wouldn't be together again until who knows when. We hosted a game night at my house the day after we found out, and my husband pulled me aside and said I could announce that night if I wanted to because he would really want to if it were his family together and in person. We were playing the game Things, and I wanted to work it in somehow but never found the right setup. So, we took a family picture and announced just before the timer went off. My family was so thrown, they continued to pose for the photo then all yelled "what!?" Their reaction was so incredible!

I told my close coworkers and boss the first day back from Thanksgiving since they were all praying for me, knew what was going on, and knew I was struggling on whether to test on Thanksgiving or the day after. I told the rest at our Christmas party a few weeks later. I was almost 6 weeks at that point.

DH and I debated back and forth on how to tell his family and whether we should wait until Christmas. His parents then shocked us and told us they were thinking about coming to us for Christmas, so we held out to give them a gift. We wrapped baby cowboy boots in a box (they own a dude ranch) and had his Mom open it. Then, we called and told them his siblings. We were 7w5d. 

On Christmas day (7w6d), we sent everyone an announcement photo/Christmas card by text or mail.

We haven't announced on social media, and I don't intend to given how painful it was to me when I saw those. Everyone we really care to know was told, and I don't want to inadvertently hurt anyone struggling with IF and whom I don't really talk to anymore with an announcement. 

Like @kidshrink, I figured I would want the support of these same people if anything happened. I  figured it would be more difficult to go through it in silence or to have to say I was pregnant and had a MC in order to obtain the support I needed. I've really enjoyed everyone's excitement and being able to share ultrasounds and milestones with those close to me.

Sorry for the storybook, but this brought me back to telling everyone, and I felt all super excited all over again!

jbal918

I'm glad I'm not alone! We are announcing on Facebook yet and I have a cousin and good friend who all had IVF so they knew the struggles but announced on there too. I have one girl I talk to from high school and she actually sees the same RE I do so I plan on messaging her separately before I announce. 
It felt good to tell a few people at work and our building is small so everyone else I'm sure will know soon! One told me she was going to ask because I looked different but she didn't want to yet lol... 
My boss knew about our issues because my good friend who had IVF works with me and that's how I started seeing the RE I went to! My boss has been super positive and especially helpful with the child in my classroom who gives lots of issues, including physically hitting me. My boss made it clear to the mother this wasn't ok before and now she helps even more when it starts which is great.

When we do announce, we want to do an Easter basket with eggs that say Daddy, Mommy and Baby. I'm so excited! I'm trying to hold out 2 more weeks for that lol

@riveridgional I wrote a story book as well lol

tvh1982

I told my family at 5 weeks and pluss days, as I am currently visiting them. And to see their reactions make it worth it.
They all know I've been trying, and know they weren't allowed to ask the week before me visiting..so it made it difficult not to tell.
My close friends knew from as soon as I saw the first unclear line, as I was in shock and needed lots of second opinions! (I also kept telling people who knew about my journey to avoid telling my mother!)
I would have told my boss if I wasn't going on my holiday, as both (I have two) know about me trying. But I am glad I'm can wait after my us, just so I've seen it!
Of course I hope all is well, but I know that if it is not that I am in good hands. Which made the decision easier to just tell people.