New here - (child and loss mentioned)

East/West Bride 09

Hello All!

I have been lurking for quite some time but I thought I would finally post an introduction.  I am 33 years old, diagnosed with both Endometriosis and Hypothyroidism.  I have had surgery twice to remove the Endo, hopefully I won't have to have another.  My DH and I have been married 7 years this August and are trying to conceive a sibling for our amazing 4 year old son.  We got pregnant the first time after 6 months of trying and I really didn't think it would be this hard to get pregnant a second time.  We tried on our own for 9 months and I have a suspected miscarriage in Feb 2015.  After that our RE wanted to start by treating me with medication, first Femara and then Clomid.  I have already done 9 medicated cycles with timed intercourse and all of them ended with a BFN.  Our RE now wants to move onto doing an IUI after my check-in appointment yesterday and tbh I cried the whole way home.  I don't know why this is hitting me so hard and I am not sure if our church (very conservative) will even allow us to do an IUI.  I know that all of you ladies have been through so much, I guess I am just looking for a safe place.  I feel so guilty for not being happy with just my son, so many couples don't even get that.

Thanks!
-Alysia

rachlee2010

Welcome and sorry you find yourself here.  I am also 33 and have a 3 year old son.  We also got pregnant easily with him and didn't expect problems the second time around and here we are almost 2 years later with one miscarriage and nothing else.  We found out I have DOR and time is not on our side but we are still hopeful.  we are here to support you!

pdbird

Welcome! I'm sorry you find yourself here as well. I'm glad you introduced yourself. I too feel guilty for not being happy with just one. I do feel blessed, but know that if I don't try for #2, I will have the "what if's". As you can see in my signature, we all come here from different ways. I'm currently dealing with a lot of resentment towards DH having cancer but it's out of our control and we have to just move forward. I wish you the best of luck on your journey and hope you get your BFP soon! Stay strong.

Flamingemu

Hi, welcome. I am sorry you are feeling guilty. I understand being in a conservative church, but I also think they need to stay out of your bedroom. Don't think of your church, if they don't support it, you can always find another one. Have a long talk with your higher power, your DH, and do what is best for your little family. No one would ever know you had IUI or IVF to conceive if you didn't tell them. Good luck with everything.