This is my first post so I welcome all opinions and feedback.
So a little back story. Almost two years ago my dad passed away unexpectedly. It is still hard on the family especially my mom.
Even before I was pregnant my husband and I decided that we liked the name Benjamin and use my husbands middle and last name which is also his dad's middle and last name. We didn't have any girl names picked.
Then my dad passed away and we said if it is a girl, we would name her Mikayla a feminine version of my dad's name.
Well flash forward to Sunday and we find out were are having a boy. My mom came up to me and said that I really need to re think the name and name him after his grandfather who never will know how wonderful he is. I told her I think it would be too hard to call my child after my father and think about the last time I saw my father. I talked to her recently and she spoke her mind again. She said that that he would be spoiling that kid if he was still here and how he did everything for me and my husband when we moved apartments and into our house now. So now I kinda agree with her thoughts.
Oh and by the way, my brother is named after her (my grandfather) dad and my dad with the first and last name. However both were alive when my brother was born. She said it was the best feeling naming after someone she cared alot for. She says it would be a way to honor my dad.
I told my husband and he is willing change the name but thinks I am caving in and doesn't really like it.
I am torn.
Please be kind, remember my hormones are mountains and valleys right now.