Need to vent

Mamph25

i just got back from the RE and it wasn't the best of news. I've been taking gonal-f at a very low dose and they increased it a little bit, but now just a bunch of follicles are growing at the lead ones are only around 11 or 12. My RE did say I have PCOS, but my one and only symptom of it is irregular cycles. The nurse just thinks it going to be a long haul and IVF may work better. With that being said my DH is just so everything is "rainbows and butterflies" thinking everything is going to work out. I'm more of a realistic and said to him "did you not hear what the nurse said?" He says not to worry about the money aspect of IVF but I know that's all he thinks about and I just want to punch him right now. I'm a teacher so it's hard for to keep taking time off to go to my US. So I wanted to start ivf right before school gets out and with DH's attitude about the money it's hard to get excited about anything, because all he sees are dollar signs, even though he says otherwise. Oh btw everything is out of pocket for us, IUI or IVF.

tvh1982

Oh those sweet little hubbies...they mean so well every single time, yet they hit right next to the nail (a Dutch expression, sorry if that doesn't make sense in English)
Sure it's annoying when they do that, specially when you are realistic and he's all rainbows and butterflies.
But you'll need his attitude, as you're, unfortunately, in for a tough ride. That positivity will keep you going (and other days you just want to smack his head in...just don't...nobody wants to be pregnant in prison)


My 'only' sign of PCOS is the pearl necklace on my ovaries...which was enough to give up IUI and go over to IVF. 
Not as I had planned, but then again this whole journey hasn't gone the way I planned.

Its defintely difficult with all the follow ups, specially when work isn't as flexible to take those appointments off. Unfortunately you can plan very little of this journey.

cmm012

I definitely understand your frustration. I may be doing IVF this summer once school gets out if my next IUI does not work. I know it will be expensive, but what a great investment. I'm also OOP for everything so I can relate 100%. I know it's hard to stay positive when IVF is such a big step. Many women have paid for ineffective treatments and then pay for IVF. Take some time to breathe, regroup, and make a plan.