Infertility
laurenlalap
member
Bad appointment
laurenlalap
member
in Infertility
I feel so defeated. I honestly think I'm just done.
We were all set to go for IVF with ICSI next cycle. Today was our appointment to sign the consent with our doctor and get all of the medication.
We get to our appointment and he starts to look at my file on the computer. Then he stops and says....
"Wait.... we can't do this today. I didn't realize you have had 4 miscarriages. You'll need embryo testing which we don't do here."
ARE.YOU.F'ING.KIDDING.ME?! How did you not realize??! I've been with your clinic for over 6 months!!
I'm so upset. We're now being transferred to a clinic associated with a large university medical hospital, and their wait list just to SEE someone is 6 months. Not to mention the additional costs with embryonic testing, and the fact that it's 2 hours away.
It's obviously not my doctor's fault that I need genetic testing on the embryos, but I have no idea why he let us get this far before telling us we needed genetic testing on the embryos. We've been discussing IVF with him for months!
We were all set to go for IVF with ICSI next cycle. Today was our appointment to sign the consent with our doctor and get all of the medication.
We get to our appointment and he starts to look at my file on the computer. Then he stops and says....
"Wait.... we can't do this today. I didn't realize you have had 4 miscarriages. You'll need embryo testing which we don't do here."
ARE.YOU.F'ING.KIDDING.ME?! How did you not realize??! I've been with your clinic for over 6 months!!
I'm so upset. We're now being transferred to a clinic associated with a large university medical hospital, and their wait list just to SEE someone is 6 months. Not to mention the additional costs with embryonic testing, and the fact that it's 2 hours away.
It's obviously not my doctor's fault that I need genetic testing on the embryos, but I have no idea why he let us get this far before telling us we needed genetic testing on the embryos. We've been discussing IVF with him for months!
DS#1: born Dec 29, 2013
TTC#2 since Sept 2014 - unexplained secondary IF
BFP #2: 11.7.14 M/C: 11.27.14 @ 6w3days
BFP #3: 04.19.2015 M/C 04.27.15 @ 4w3days
BFP #4: 10.05.2015 C/P @ 3w4days
Oct 11, 2015: Cycle 13. Starting Femara (2.5mg). HSG this cycle (all clear) - BFN
Nov 12, 2015: Cyle 14. Femara 5mg + IUI - BFN
Dec 10, 2015: Cycle 15. Femara 5mg + IUI #2 - BFP #5! C/P 4w4d
Jan 10, 2016: Cycle 16. Femara 5mg + IUI #3 - BFN.
Feb 10, 2016: Cycle 17. No IUI or meds. Taking a break - Natural BFP Mar 5, 2016!!!! EDD Nov 16, 2016
Moving to IVF March 2016
Beta at 10dpo: 21, Beta at 12dpo: 98, Beta at 14dpo: 264, Beta at 16dpo: 745
U/S 6w6d: single beautiful heartbeat of 121bpm - It's a boy!!!!
Nov 3, 2016: Our family became complete. Welcome DS #2.
Jan 10, 2016: Cycle 16. Femara 5mg + IUI #3 - BFN.
Feb 10, 2016: Cycle 17. No IUI or meds. Taking a break - Natural BFP Mar 5, 2016!!!! EDD Nov 16, 2016
Moving to IVF March 2016
Beta at 10dpo: 21, Beta at 12dpo: 98, Beta at 14dpo: 264, Beta at 16dpo: 745
U/S 6w6d: single beautiful heartbeat of 121bpm - It's a boy!!!!
Nov 3, 2016: Our family became complete. Welcome DS #2.
Re: Bad appointment
This is very important to you and your DH and with a message like this you'll feel like they kicked you while you were already down.
Can by any chance your doctors office push you faster through the system as they have made a mistake?
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Oh no! How frustrating, annoying, defeating, etc - I am mad at your dr for you! That is ridiculous that he wasn't aware of your medical history and just changed things on a dime! I would be FURIOUS! Are there any other clinics you can research and maybe get into sooner? Or I would (well, have my DH since I am too passive) DEMAND that your current RE work with the clinic he is referring you to and get you put on a priority list if possible or something since it was HIS screw up! You should not have to put things on hold for 6 months because your RE didn't review your file.
Hang in there - keeping you in my thoughts.
Jan 10, 2016: Cycle 16. Femara 5mg + IUI #3 - BFN.
Feb 10, 2016: Cycle 17. No IUI or meds. Taking a break - Natural BFP Mar 5, 2016!!!! EDD Nov 16, 2016
Moving to IVF March 2016
Beta at 10dpo: 21, Beta at 12dpo: 98, Beta at 14dpo: 264, Beta at 16dpo: 745
U/S 6w6d: single beautiful heartbeat of 121bpm - It's a boy!!!!
Nov 3, 2016: Our family became complete. Welcome DS #2.
My DH had to have Micro TESE surgery to extract his sperm and it was not covered by my insurance. It would've been $10,000 and had to be paid up front! Since that would've been our only hope to retrieve his sperm for IVF, the office fought for coverage and it was approved. I didn't even have to make one phone call! Doesn't hurt to try. FX for you!
natural pregnancy: 2008
Me: 28 (Hypothyroid), DH: 35
Together since: 2010
Married: 2013
TTC: 2013
Infertility: severe MFI, low AMH (0.5)
Met RE: January 2016
ER: 3/14 (4 follies, 6 eggs retrieved, 2 fertilized)
fresh 3dt of 2 embryos= BFP (1 implanted)
EDD w/ baby boy= 12/6/16
Together since January 23, 2013
Married March 22, 2014
TTC #1 since August 2015
First RE meeting February 2, 2016; tests normal for both of us
Clomid round #4 of 150 mg followed by
First Ovidrel trigger shot February 10, 2016
First IUI February 12, 2016 Negative
Started Letrozole 5mg round #1 February 23
Began additional Letrozole 5mg + Dexamethasone 1 mg March 8
Ovidrel trigger shot March 16
IUI #2 March 18 with progesterone suppositories beginning March 19
Positive HPT April 2 Praise God!!!
Estimated Due Date: December 8
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Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see. Hebrews 11:1
I don't.
I'm young, healthy and we don't have a diagnosis of chromosomal problems. My secondary IF is unexplained. Plus, the clinic where he wants to send me has TERRIBLE reviews online.
So after all that drama, March IVF/ICSI is back on : )
Jan 10, 2016: Cycle 16. Femara 5mg + IUI #3 - BFN.
Feb 10, 2016: Cycle 17. No IUI or meds. Taking a break - Natural BFP Mar 5, 2016!!!! EDD Nov 16, 2016
Moving to IVF March 2016
Beta at 10dpo: 21, Beta at 12dpo: 98, Beta at 14dpo: 264, Beta at 16dpo: 745
U/S 6w6d: single beautiful heartbeat of 121bpm - It's a boy!!!!
Nov 3, 2016: Our family became complete. Welcome DS #2.
natural pregnancy: 2008
Me: 28 (Hypothyroid), DH: 35
Together since: 2010
Married: 2013
TTC: 2013
Infertility: severe MFI, low AMH (0.5)
Met RE: January 2016
ER: 3/14 (4 follies, 6 eggs retrieved, 2 fertilized)
fresh 3dt of 2 embryos= BFP (1 implanted)
EDD w/ baby boy= 12/6/16
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