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Bad appointment

laurenlalaplaurenlalap member
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I feel so defeated. I honestly think I'm just done.

We were all set to go for IVF with ICSI next cycle. Today was our appointment to sign the consent with our doctor and get all of the medication.

We get to our appointment and he starts to look at my file on the computer. Then he stops and says....

"Wait.... we can't do this today. I didn't realize you have had 4 miscarriages. You'll need embryo testing which we don't do here."

ARE.YOU.F'ING.KIDDING.ME?!  How did you not realize??! I've been with your clinic for over 6 months!! 

I'm so upset. We're now being transferred to a clinic associated with a large university medical hospital, and their wait list just to SEE someone is 6 months. Not to mention the additional costs with embryonic testing, and the fact that it's 2 hours away.

It's obviously not my doctor's fault that I need genetic testing on the embryos, but I have no idea why he let us get this far before telling us we needed genetic testing on the embryos. We've been discussing IVF with him for months!
DS#1: born Dec 29, 2013 
TTC#2 since Sept 2014 - unexplained secondary IF
BFP #2: 11.7.14  M/C: 11.27.14 @ 6w3days
BFP #3: 04.19.2015 M/C 04.27.15 @ 4w3days
BFP #4: 10.05.2015 C/P @ 3w4days
Oct 11, 2015: Cycle 13. Starting Femara (2.5mg). HSG this cycle (all clear) - BFN
Nov 12, 2015: Cyle 14. Femara 5mg + IUI - BFN
Dec 10, 2015: Cycle 15. Femara 5mg + IUI #2 - BFP #5! C/P 4w4d
Jan 10, 2016: Cycle 16. Femara 5mg + IUI #3 - BFN.
Feb 10, 2016: Cycle 17.  No IUI or meds. Taking a break - Natural BFP Mar 5, 2016!!!! EDD Nov 16, 2016
Moving to IVF March 2016
Beta at 10dpo: 21, Beta at 12dpo: 98, Beta at 14dpo: 264, Beta at 16dpo: 745
U/S 6w6d: single beautiful heartbeat of 121bpm - It's a boy!!!!
Nov 3, 2016: Our family became complete. Welcome DS #2.
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  • tvh1982tvh1982 member
    I'm so sorry to hear, I can totally feel your frustration.
    This is very important to you and your DH and with a message like this you'll feel like they kicked you while you were already down.

    Can by any chance your doctors office push you faster through the system as they have made a mistake?

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  • mtpbadgermtpbadger member

    Oh no! How frustrating, annoying, defeating, etc - I am mad at your dr for you! That is ridiculous that he wasn't aware of your medical history and just changed things on a dime! I would be FURIOUS! Are there any other clinics you can research and maybe get into sooner? Or I would (well, have my DH since I am too passive) DEMAND that your current RE work with the clinic he is referring you to and get you put on a priority list if possible or something since it was HIS screw up! You should not have to put things on hold for 6 months because your RE didn't review your file.

    Hang in there - keeping you in my thoughts.


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  • laurenlalaplaurenlalap member
    Thanks to both. I really appreciate. I had no idea what genetic testing on embryos (PGD) even was until this afternoon. I'm starting to research it now and it's overwhelming. It's not without controversy or risk, and I have no idea would my doctor would say I NEED it. It should be up to my husband and I to decide.
    DS#1: born Dec 29, 2013 
    TTC#2 since Sept 2014 - unexplained secondary IF
    BFP #2: 11.7.14  M/C: 11.27.14 @ 6w3days
    BFP #3: 04.19.2015 M/C 04.27.15 @ 4w3days
    BFP #4: 10.05.2015 C/P @ 3w4days
    Oct 11, 2015: Cycle 13. Starting Femara (2.5mg). HSG this cycle (all clear) - BFN
    Nov 12, 2015: Cyle 14. Femara 5mg + IUI - BFN
    Dec 10, 2015: Cycle 15. Femara 5mg + IUI #2 - BFP #5! C/P 4w4d
    Jan 10, 2016: Cycle 16. Femara 5mg + IUI #3 - BFN.
    Feb 10, 2016: Cycle 17.  No IUI or meds. Taking a break - Natural BFP Mar 5, 2016!!!! EDD Nov 16, 2016
    Moving to IVF March 2016
    Beta at 10dpo: 21, Beta at 12dpo: 98, Beta at 14dpo: 264, Beta at 16dpo: 745
    U/S 6w6d: single beautiful heartbeat of 121bpm - It's a boy!!!!
    Nov 3, 2016: Our family became complete. Welcome DS #2.
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  • mtpbadgermtpbadger member
    You are right. Your doctor can recommend it and give you his thoughts on it etc. but ultimately it is up to you and your DH to decide if it is something you event want to do. I know plenty of people that have had it done where it wasn't recommended b/c they wanted piece of mine and others where it has been recommended but they opted out due to their beliefs and/or cost of it.
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  • capps42613capps42613 member
    Wow. So sorry to hear of your disappointment. I agree, speak with the Doctor to see if he can contact the university clinic to speed up the process. If the testing isn't covered, perhaps your clinic could also speak with your  insurance company to inform them that the testing is necessary due to multiple MC's. Even though insurance company's usually require genetic issues for coverage, this seems like your circumstance is just as acceptable for them to cover the expense.

    My DH had to have Micro TESE surgery to extract his sperm and it was not covered by my insurance. It would've been $10,000 and had to be paid up front! Since that would've been our only hope to retrieve his sperm for IVF, the office fought for coverage and it was approved. I didn't even have to make one phone call! Doesn't hurt to try. FX for you!
    ****Siggy TW****
    natural pregnancy: 2008 
    Me: 28 (Hypothyroid), DH: 35
    Together since: 2010
    Married: 2013
    TTC: 2013
    Infertility: severe MFI, low AMH (0.5)
    Met RE: January 2016
    ER: 3/14 (4 follies, 6 eggs retrieved, 2 fertilized)
    fresh 3dt of 2 embryos= BFP (1 implanted)
    EDD w/ baby boy= 12/6/16
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  • bbkidzbbkidz member
    Praying for you, @laurenlalap!
    Me:  29  DH:  32
    Together since January 23, 2013
    Married March 22, 2014
    TTC #1 since August 2015
    First RE meeting February 2, 2016; tests normal for both of us
    Clomid round #4 of 150 mg followed by
    First Ovidrel trigger shot February 10, 2016
    First IUI February 12, 2016 Negative
    Started Letrozole 5mg round #1 February 23
    Began additional Letrozole 5mg + Dexamethasone 1 mg March 8
    Ovidrel trigger shot March 16
    IUI #2 March 18 with progesterone suppositories beginning March 19
    Positive HPT April 2 Praise God!!! :)
    Estimated Due Date: December 8

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  • capps42613capps42613 member
    Sweet! Looking forward to hopefully getting a BFP with you next month!
    ****Siggy TW****
    natural pregnancy: 2008 
    Me: 28 (Hypothyroid), DH: 35
    Together since: 2010
    Married: 2013
    TTC: 2013
    Infertility: severe MFI, low AMH (0.5)
    Met RE: January 2016
    ER: 3/14 (4 follies, 6 eggs retrieved, 2 fertilized)
    fresh 3dt of 2 embryos= BFP (1 implanted)
    EDD w/ baby boy= 12/6/16
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  • tvh1982tvh1982 member
    That is some good news, GL on your journey, best time of the year as everything starts growing :smile: 

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  • mtpbadgermtpbadger member
    Awesome news!! 
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