Combining your Birthday with your Shower..

Knottie1427415498

My birthday is the 1st week in July (July 8th), and that's when I'll be 30-32 weeks, which I suppose is the "perfect" time for a shower.. I know I'm months of ahead of any actual planning for July, but never hurts to think of options....
Another reason for "combining" is I live in Nor cal, and family is in So cal, not too big of a difference, but still a commute.
Do you think its a good idea to combine your birthday with your shower? I don't even know "what kind" of shower I want...just tossing ideas around in my head...

Bringmemylongswordho

Knottie1427415498 said:

My birthday is the 1st week in July (July 8th), and that's when I'll be 30-32 weeks, which I suppose is the "perfect" time for a shower.. I know I'm months of ahead of any actual planning for July, but never hurts to think of options....
Another reason for "combining" is I live in Nor cal, and family is in So cal, not too big of a difference, but still a commute.
Do you think its a good idea to combine your birthday with your shower? I don't even know "what kind" of shower I want...just tossing ideas around in my head...

I think it might be a bit odd if the shower is not actually on your birthday,  mainly because I don't know anyone who has a "birthday party " after 21, unless it's a milestone birthday.  


But this is all stuff for your host to figure out.

Kristin712

No. Your shower guests will not want to celebrate your adult birthday. 

If you're wondering if it's a good idea to celebrate your birthday with a dinner or cookout that same weekend with your parents and/or siblings since they will be in town, sounds good to me. 

DisneyIsabelle

It should not be a combo birthday party/shower IMO. I don't see a problem if the host serves a bday cake, but honestly I would just celebrate birthday with your immediate family. The adults I do know that throw themselves a bday or basically force their spouse to throw themselves a bday party definitely get side eyed....well, really it's just one couple I know. If you implied to your guests that it's also a bday party they may feel like they are supposed to get two gifts for you, when really it's a baby shower.

Hummingbird125

I wouldn't consider it a birthday party whatsoever. If someone asks "Hey, wasn't your birthday this week?" Of course you'd say "Yup! I turned X on Tuesday actually!" if you'd like but the party should be a baby shower, not a birthday party/baby shower.

katie121209

If your family comes into town for the shower why don't you do a private birthday dinner that night after the shower is done? 

tinkerbell11210

I agree with what others have said. I would not combine the two, but defiantly have a dinner later with just your immediate family if you want to celebrate your birthday. 

SkiChic626

If it happens to fall on your birthday, then cool.  But I wouldn't purposefully call it a shower/birthday party.  That's tacky.  I'm actually nudging my mom and sister to have my sprinkle on my birthday, which happens to be a Sunday in June, so it actually works out.  But I will in no way call it a birthday party for me.

Bubblegum5586

My best friend ended up having her wedding shower on her birthday, because that date just happened to work best. Her birthday wasn't a part of the celebration really though. She was like 27 so she didn't really care. A few us and her family did dinner that night though.

charmedlifex3

I did combine my bachorlette and my birthday, but I was turning 30, and it was just my three best girlfriends. I wouldn't do it with a shower, showers are often more focused. If it were me, I would likely do the shower lunchtime / brunch, and just have my family stay for dinner / go out to dinner to celebrate my birthday.

Even now, we always do dinner out for birthdays in my family - even for my grandfather. No reason not to celebrate both the same weekend, but I wouldn't smoosh them.

texasmama2014

Sure, if you host(s) wants to do it that weekend celebrate both.  But separately.  Do the shower, then later go out with your family or whoever to celebrate your birthday. Even different days.  I agree with PP adult birthday parties are awkward.

lalalorelai

Another vote for keeping them separate. The only adult "birthday parties" I've ever been to have been casual things at bars or restaurants. Not only would I find it weird if you had an actual birthday party as an adult, I would find it incredibly strange to have it combined with a baby shower. 

Like others said, do the baby shower and celebrate your birthday with a dinner the same weekend. 

lmtrmama

I think it depends on who is throwing your shower and what you normally do for you birthday. I personally don't celebrate my birthday with extended family, so that would be weird for us in my situation. If you normally have a big family and friend party, then I think it would work. Otherwise maybe have the shower in the afternoon and possibly a birthday dinner afterwards for those you choose to celebrate that with!

smilormarie

So although birthdays are special and heck, who knows, maybe your family and friends "go all out" for everyone's birthday and do a big party and all.  I don't think that's the norm.  For my dads 60th, we are taking a trip to Williamsburg this year.  Any other birthdays are just celebrated with some texts, some cards, maybe going to dinner together. If we even get around to that.

...and I'm not trying to be rude so please don't take it that way (I just don't know how else to phrase it) but once you're a mother, it's kinda no longer about you. That includes pregnancy as we are all mothers as soon as we're pregnant. Good luck and I hope it works out the way you envision it.

charmedlifex3

@smilormarie while I agree, I am kinda hoping I get to keep my birthday and anniversary baby free... both are within a week of my due date, and if that day is the baby's birthday, neither will EVER be about me/us again. *selfish*

bearsandbeets7

Allisun85 said:

@smilormarie while I agree, I am kinda hoping I get to keep my birthday and anniversary baby free... both are within a week of my due date, and if that day is the baby's birthday, neither will EVER be about me/us again. *selfish*

I don't think that's selfish. I feel the same about my birthday, my anniversary, and DH birthday. Pretty much the one day a year that can be not 100% focused on the kids. 

jaceru

In my family we always get together for everyone's birthday (cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents etc) so if that's something you usually do then I say it would make sense to do it combined instead of having two. But I would make the focus mostly on the baby shower.