From someone who was naive and got induced at 40 weeks - AMEN! Don't put yourself through an induction unless absolutely necessary for heath of you and/or baby. It's not fun at all, and in retrospect, I could have stuck it out a little longer to see if she would come on her own. Things may have ended the same (c-section) because of her size, but still, may not have had to put myself through the hell of pitocin!
The night before my water broke I tried every old wives tale in the book! DD was 3 days late and I was getting very uncomfortable so I walked, bounced on my exercise ball, got a pedicure, then had super spicy Mexican for dinner, came home and ate pineapple and had sex. The next morning at 5am my water broke. I have no idea if any of those things worked but it seemed like they all worked collectively...or DD was just ready to start her journey into the world
If LO is late again this time, I'll just have a preggo pizza. Man that sounds good!
Ughh... things I will never do, even if I'm trying to induce labor. After Mexican/Thai/Indian, my husband is on his own!
Ha! FWIW it was a quickie nightcap. also not knowing when I was going to be able to DTD again was in the back of my mind quite a bit towards the end.
LOL I was going to say this sounds like a pretty great Saturday night.
@AdorkablePixie yes! I feel like too many people view your EDD as the final date instead of a guesstimate. My EDD is the 19th however all of my ultrasounds show LO measuring about 5/6 days behind which puts me around the 24th. So I don't feel the need to rush her and I don't feel like one week past is enough. Maybe I should let her intervene at 2 weeks past IF LO hasn't made her grand entry yet. I'll play it by ear, but I knew what I was getting into when SO and I started trying again. I'm sure I'll be so miserable by the end I'll be trying all the old wives tales to get her here haha but definitely NOT castor oil or being induced bcuz of discomfort. My mom says that if there is a full moon near my EDD that's when I will go. I guess when she was pregnant with me a guy that worked for my dad told her I would be here on the 28th of April (which was also his birthday) because it was a full moon and that's when his sow would go. She disputed this but it happened at 2 am the night of a full moon lol she was not happy he was right but now she swears by the moon and babies births. sorry this was so long!
I'm 23 weeks and am a GP so have been reading this trying to get an idea of how far over is safe to go. Its a long read, and very research heavy, but worth wading through it all. The actual evidence seems to suggest that going over 42 weeks starts to have a higher risk of complications including still birth, but there are so many variables that it becomes a bit of a headache. For instance, early ultrasounds are always the most accurate for dating because in first trimester most embryos are basically the same size so gestation can be estimated very close. By the second and third trimester foetuses can vary a lot in size, so when they're measured its against an 'average baby' so using these scans to change the dates is a bad idea, except in very specific circumstances. Unfortunately because not all doctors are equal, some will still change due dates based on third trimester scans, which then makes the whole enterprise of deciding how far over dates is safe, much more complicated.
Sorry for rambling on, I just found all this information and got really interested in it. When I read your post it seemed like you'd be interested in some of the details. Hope it helps!
@AdorkablePixie yes! I feel like too many people view your EDD as the final date instead of a guesstimate. My EDD is the 19th however all of my ultrasounds show LO measuring about 5/6 days behind which puts me around the 24th. So I don't feel the need to rush her and I don't feel like one week past is enough. Maybe I should let her intervene at 2 weeks past IF LO hasn't made her grand entry yet. I'll play it by ear, but I knew what I was getting into when SO and I started trying again. I'm sure I'll be so miserable by the end I'll be trying all the old wives tales to get her here haha but definitely NOT castor oil or being induced bcuz of discomfort. My mom says that if there is a full moon near my EDD that's when I will go. I guess when she was pregnant with me a guy that worked for my dad told her I would be here on the 28th of April (which was also his birthday) because it was a full moon and that's when his sow would go. She disputed this but it happened at 2 am the night of a full moon lol she was not happy he was right but now she swears by the moon and babies births. sorry this was so long!
I'm 23 weeks and am a GP so have been reading this trying to get an idea of how far over is safe to go. Its a long read, and very research heavy, but worth wading through it all. The actual evidence seems to suggest that going over 42 weeks starts to have a higher risk of complications including still birth, but there are so many variables that it becomes a bit of a headache. For instance, early ultrasounds are always the most accurate for dating because in first trimester most embryos are basically the same size so gestation can be estimated very close. By the second and third trimester foetuses can vary a lot in size, so when they're measured its against an 'average baby' so using these scans to change the dates is a bad idea, except in very specific circumstances. Unfortunately because not all doctors are equal, some will still change due dates based on third trimester scans, which then makes the whole enterprise of deciding how far over dates is safe, much more complicated.
Sorry for rambling on, I just found all this information and got really interested in it. When I read your post it seemed like you'd be interested in some of the details. Hope it helps!
Thank you for this. I respect ladies who don't want to be induced bang on 40 weeks, and agree with allowing up to 2 weeks but so much research shows that beyond 42 weeks the risks of stillbirth start increasing. I have friends and have read several stories of ladies who refused induction and had baby at 42+ weeks that were stillborn. The placenta can only last so long before they start to break down. My DD was born via emergency csect after starting induction that didnt progress and feotal heart rate decelerations at 41w3d and the midwife told me it was good she came then because the placenta had started to break down.
So yes listen to your body and be your own advocate, but they are health professionals for a reason and spent more years than us studying to get where they are.
Angel baby June 2013, DD born 22 April 2014, BFP 10 Sept 2015 - Due 22 May 2016
So with this research out there...why is it not standard practice for all pregnant women to have a dating ultrasound??
It is where I live.
Hm. I've only ever gotten an anatomy scan.
They do a u/s here at your first visit (which they do between 6-8 weeks) to confirm pregnancy and date the fetus. I had my first U/S at 6.5 weeks though, because fertility treatments.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
@kami09 I had an internal u/s at 10 weeks because I was bleeding a lot in the beginning and baby measured 5 days smaller than my EDD. My OB told me that she wasn't going to change my EDD unless LO measured 7 days or more smaller. But if I go by LO's measurement at 10 weeks, my EDD would be May 24th. I definitely don't want to put baby or myself in danger by inducing early or waiting too long. @zanaerob1 thanks for the read! I need all the info I can get
They don't measure me very often at the birth center. I got measured at 10 weeks and my EDD was right on track. I then got measured at 14 weeks for a genetic screening at a seperate facility, then 20 weeks for the anatomy scan where baby measured a week ahead of schedule. Now I'm 29 weeks and my baby hasn't been measured through an ultrasound. They just measure me (where I again measured a little ahead of schedule).
Picking a day that you really, really don't want to go into labor is, indeed, fairly effective. I was adamant that DD2 was not going to share her daddy's birthday, and guess who had a baby at 8:40 that morning? Happy birthday, honey.
That probably doesn't bode well for my brother's wedding that is one day before my EDD. Hahahahahahadangit.
So my DD's birthday is 3 days before my EDD and 2 days before my RCS. All this praying that they won't share a birthday means I'm screwed, huh!?
Picking a day that you really, really don't want to go into labor is, indeed, fairly effective. I was adamant that DD2 was not going to share her daddy's birthday, and guess who had a baby at 8:40 that morning? Happy birthday, honey.
That probably doesn't bode well for my brother's wedding that is one day before my EDD. Hahahahahahadangit.
So my DD's birthday is 3 days before my EDD and 2 days before my RCS. All this praying that they won't share a birthday means I'm screwed, huh!?
I'm in the same boat. My EDD is 3 days after DD#2 turns 2.... I can already imagine the fights if they end up sharing a birthday when they both get older
So with this research out there...why is it not standard practice for all pregnant women to have a dating ultrasound??
I've had one with both pregnancies. It was right on with DD, I went into labor the day before her due date. I'm anxious to see how close this one gets to our due date. Honestly I think they should be standard. I've had them because my cycles aren't a reliable length, but I think my midwife would okay anyone who wanted a dating ultrasound for the reasons stated above.
^agreed. I'd much rather have one and have a clearer picture of MY pregnancy than an ambiguous edd.
ALSO I finally ventured away from this board & into 3rd tri (which I believe was the inspiration for this thread)...& now I need to know the horrible thing that girl did @Aquinna82. Because I'm freaking nosey.
After reading this, I'm so glad I had a dating US at 7wk 5d because of my unreliable cycles. I will be a repeat c/s for history of a classical incision at 37wks...as long as I don't go into labor before that. Trust me, I would love to have a 40wk RCS, but I also don't want my uterus to rupture, thank you very much.
Mama to Three Girls: Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
^agreed. I'd much rather have one and have a clearer picture of MY pregnancy than an ambiguous edd.
ALSO I finally ventured away from this board & into 3rd tri (which I believe was the inspiration for this thread)...& now I need to know the horrible thing that girl did @Aquinna82. Because I'm freaking nosey.
Ugh, I really don't want to give too much detail...only because people are crazy and might try to replicate it. I'd like to think that NO ONE would intentionally endanger her baby, but clearly that's not the case because here's a girl who exists IRL for me who did just that.
Let's just say she did a series of things to intentionally raise her BP to an extreme so that the baby would fail the stress test and the doctor would have no choice but to schedule a CS for the baby's well-being. It makes me nauseous just writing that.
Edited to add: she actually did it TWICE, because the first time she tried her baby just barely passed the stress test and they wouldn't scheduled her. So she did it again until she got the result she was looking for. Fuck this girl.
^agreed. I'd much rather have one and have a clearer picture of MY pregnancy than an ambiguous edd.
ALSO I finally ventured away from this board & into 3rd tri (which I believe was the inspiration for this thread)...& now I need to know the horrible thing that girl did @Aquinna82. Because I'm freaking nosey.
Ugh, I really don't want to give too much detail...only because people are crazy and might try to replicate it. I'd like to think that NO ONE would intentionally endanger her baby, but clearly that's not the case because here's a girl who exists IRL for me who did just that.
Let's just say she did a series of things to intentionally raise her BP to an extreme so that the baby would fail the stress test and the doctor would have no choice but to schedule a CS for the baby's well-being. It makes me nauseous just writing that.
Edited to add: she actually did it TWICE, because the first time she tried her baby just barely passed the stress test and they wouldn't scheduled her. So she did it again until she got the result she was looking for. Fuck this girl.
OMG, that's horrible...and so unsafe for mom AND baby! I get trying the old wives' tales, even if it's just to make you feel like you have some degree of control, but to put your health and the baby's at risk...that is seriously messed up!
Re: Can We Get This Over With??
Hey Maybaby! There's a really good resource for getting all the information about going post dates, the value and problems with due dates and elective inductions, and the potential risks. Its at https://evidencebasedbirth.com/evidence-on-inducing-labor-for-going-past-your-due-date/
I'm 23 weeks and am a GP so have been reading this trying to get an idea of how far over is safe to go. Its a long read, and very research heavy, but worth wading through it all. The actual evidence seems to suggest that going over 42 weeks starts to have a higher risk of complications including still birth, but there are so many variables that it becomes a bit of a headache. For instance, early ultrasounds are always the most accurate for dating because in first trimester most embryos are basically the same size so gestation can be estimated very close. By the second and third trimester foetuses can vary a lot in size, so when they're measured its against an 'average baby' so using these scans to change the dates is a bad idea, except in very specific circumstances. Unfortunately because not all doctors are equal, some will still change due dates based on third trimester scans, which then makes the whole enterprise of deciding how far over dates is safe, much more complicated.
Sorry for rambling on, I just found all this information and got really interested in it. When I read your post it seemed like you'd be interested in some of the details. Hope it helps!
So yes listen to your body and be your own advocate, but they are health professionals for a reason and spent more years than us studying to get where they are.
It is where I live.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!Hm. I've only ever gotten an anatomy scan.
They do a u/s here at your first visit (which they do between 6-8 weeks) to confirm pregnancy and date the fetus. I had my first U/S at 6.5 weeks though, because fertility treatments.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!So my DD's birthday is 3 days before my EDD and 2 days before my RCS. All this praying that they won't share a birthday means I'm screwed, huh!?
BFP 1: 9/15/2013 | DD 5/23/2014
BFP 2: 9/15/2015 | EDD 5/26/2016
ALSO I finally ventured away from this board & into 3rd tri (which I believe was the inspiration for this thread)...& now I need to know the horrible thing that girl did @Aquinna82. Because I'm freaking nosey.
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
Let's just say she did a series of things to intentionally raise her BP to an extreme so that the baby would fail the stress test and the doctor would have no choice but to schedule a CS for the baby's well-being. It makes me nauseous just writing that.
Edited to add: she actually did it TWICE, because the first time she tried her baby just barely passed the stress test and they wouldn't scheduled her. So she did it again until she got the result she was looking for. Fuck this girl.
OMG, that's horrible...and so unsafe for mom AND baby! I get trying the old wives' tales, even if it's just to make you feel like you have some degree of control, but to put your health and the baby's at risk...that is seriously messed up!