UO Thursday (2/18)

missteacherlady16

Everyone has an opinion that is not popular among the masses...what's yours?

Hillzy30

It really doesn't bother me when someone says gender instead of sex. I think that 99.99% of the time it's an innocent "mistake". 
Then there's a mad dash to post the infamous "gender is between the ears and sex is between the legs" line. Those responses just seem too "I'm a white knight/social justice warrior trying too hard" in my [quite unpopular] opinion.

MRSCORKER

I hate starbucks coffee. It tastes burnt and just gross. I'm not a fancy latte person either, just give me a cup of coffee that doesn't have as much sugar in it as a milkshake. 

ejmo68

I don't like Lilly Pulitzer clothes or patterns. 

kmalls

Hillzy30 said:

It really doesn't bother me when someone says gender instead of sex. I think that 99.99% of the time it's an innocent "mistake". 
Then there's a mad dash to post the infamous "gender is between the ears and sex is between the legs" line. Those responses just seem too "I'm a white knight/social justice warrior trying too hard" in my [quite unpopular] opinion.

While I agree with you that many instances of the word gender being used instead of sex are innocent, I completely disagree with you that those who point out the difference are "social justice warriors trying too hard."

The fact is, for a segment of the population the difference between the two concepts is a big deal. Many of us take creating an inclusive environment seriously, and to downplay the reality of anyone who identifies with a gender that is different from their sex is pretty harsh. It may not be a big deal to YOU, but please don't dismiss or mock those who think differently. 

MRSCORKER

ejmo68 said:

I don't like Lilly Pulitzer clothes or patterns. 

Same! I've always disliked it and then I was searching Rent the Runway for a dress for my wedding rehearsal and found a really pretty white, no pattern dress that I loved. It was Lilly Pulitzer! I couldn't believe there was actually a piece of clothing from that line that didn't look like a watermelon exploded on it. 

PeggyOlsonFTW

Not every question or thought that pops into your head deserves its own thread. 

ejmo68

PeggyOlsonFTW said:

Not every question or thought that pops into your head deserves its own thread. 

AMEN sister!!!

Blonde1817

@Hillzy30  While I get that it can be annoying when some people seem to get up on their soapbox about every single thing, I have to agree with @kmalls on this one.  I don't think anyone should necessarily get upset about people misusing the terms, but if no one ever notices it or says anything about it, nothing is ever going to change.  And while that may not impact you or I directly, for a lot of people out there it could completely change their lives.  Including possibly our future children.  

My UO is I hate when people say, "no offense, but..." as if that gives total freedom to say something rude.  It's still just as offensive even with the qualifier, but now I'm not supposed to say anything about it or I'm just "too sensitive."  Yes I'm sensitive, and you're a jerk.  I don't know how this phrase ever became so commonplace in our culture.

missteacherlady16

Also, @Hillzy30 I'm not sure you understand what a white knight really is. 

br0co1ii

PeggyOlsonFTW said:

Not every question or thought that pops into your head deserves its own thread. 

This was totally going to be my UO. I guess it's not as much of a UO as I thought, but based on the INSANE amount of new threads popping up on the daily, this opinion is obviously shared by a select and awesome few. I miss the TTGP board and it's structure and I constantly lurk there because the community is amazing. 

SnobunnieMel

Totally on board the with too many threads. I looked after work the other day and there were about 10 with the exact same topic. And we don't need every single update on your uterus throughout the day. 

My UO is I hate those nude maternity shots people love to share with them "strategicly" covered. I'm sure they make you feel beautiful at a time we all feel like disgusting seacows, but keep them to you and your SO. Not for the whole world to see. If you weren't pregnant and posted those it would be trashy. I don't see pregnancy as an excuse to share your nudity 

Jen080916

@PeggyOlsonFTW yassss girl. Too much  "dear diary..." going on!

Paturkey

My UO (and this is, I believe, legitimately unpopular): while most of the early sex-determination-in-utero predictions are BS (I'm looking at you Ramzi theory or whatever it's called), I think the "nub theory" i.e. the "angle of the dangle" is a legit theory. I've read several of the scientific papers that published the work and while the population sizes aren't enormous, the results are incredibly consistent. After seeing my son's early ultrasound, I was pretty sure I was having a boy based on the above methodology and it held up. Sample set: one. Meaningless. But I think that it is a reasonable theory in the land of "it's always 50/50."

CopperBoom86

@ejmo68 - Along the same lines of the Lilly Pulitzer... I also hate 99% of the Vera Bradley designs. Too bright and busy! 

@mrscorker - A coffee aficionado once told me Starbucks burns their beans on purpose. It's so they can buy whatever's cheapest and still have it all taste the same.

My UO is that bacon is overrated. America is so bacon-obsessed. I just don't get it. I mean, it's good, but it ain't THAT good.

GingerGril

Contour makeup. Who actually has time for that? I just don't get it.

artcheese

Paturkey said:

My UO (and this is, I believe, legitimately unpopular): while most of the early sex-determination-in-utero predictions are BS (I'm looking at you Ramzi theory or whatever it's called), I think the "nub theory" i.e. the "angle of the dangle" is a legit theory. I've read several of the scientific papers that published the work and while the population sizes aren't enormous, the results are incredibly consistent. After seeing my son's early ultrasound, I was pretty sure I was having a boy based on the above methodology and it held up. Sample set: one. Meaningless. But I think that it is a reasonable theory in the land of "it's always 50/50."

I agree. At our NT scan there was no denying that nub was pointing up. From then on, I knew he was a boy. And he was!

housewifehobbyist

GingerGril said:

Contour makeup. Who actually has time for that? I just don't get it.

I love makeup and I spend about an hour every morning on hair and makeup, it's my zen me-time.  However heavy Kardashian level contour looks insane in broad daylight.  And you can add "instagram eyebrows" to my list of current beauty trends that are going to look SO dated in five years.

PeggyOlsonFTW

I'm so relieved my UO isn't actually a UO. I was worried for awhile this week. Seems like the SS took over for awhile!

kmalls

housewifehobbyist said:

GingerGril said:

Contour makeup. Who actually has time for that? I just don't get it.

I love makeup and I spend about an hour every morning on hair and makeup, it's my zen me-time.  However heavy Kardashian level contour looks insane in broad daylight.  And you and add "instagram eyebrows" to my list of current beauty trends that are going to look SO dated in five years.

What are Instagram eyebrows? I'm old. 

katiegeminimoon

@kmalls I was wondering the same thing...

housewifehobbyist

@ktcakes87@kmalls These:  

I am also an old lady and like "What are these beautiful girls doing to their faces?!" but then I remember my 90's poofy bangs and I sit back down.

kmalls

PeggyOlsonFTW said:

I'm so relieved my UO isn't actually a UO. I was worried for awhile this week. Seems like the SS took over for awhile!

My UO kind of goes along with this, but...

I actually enjoy the speshul snowflaykes. They're annoying but in a hilarious kind of way. I can't wait until
everyone takes off the kid gloves and responds with some snark. Then we'll get a deluge of GBCB's and "I FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR HUSBANDS!!" posts. It'll be awesome 

sjo_thetwins

My SUPER UO is that I really don't love the snark. Unless it is warranted, because someone took zero time to learn about the board before positing their per sticks and "am I pregnant" questions, etc. Other than that, a lot of these women (me included) are FTMs that are scared, nervous, anxious, and are just looking for support from a group of women feeling the same (or not the same) things - whereas they can't get that kind of support or reassurance from anyone else in "real life".  Straight to the point answers = yes! Sarcastic responses because you think they should know better = no. 

smmatt08

@PeggyOlsonFTW definitely not unpopular in my book, it was actually going to be my UO today! It causes the weekly threads (where people could post instead of starting a new discussion) to get buried. 

kmalls

samijrichards said:

My SUPER UO is that I really don't love the snark. Unless it is warranted, because someone took zero time to learn about the board before positing their per sticks and "am I pregnant" questions, etc. Other than that, a lot of these women (me included) are FTMs that are scared, nervous, anxious, and are just looking for support from a group of women feeling the same (or not the same) things - whereas they can't get that kind of support or reassurance from anyone else in "real life".  Straight to the point answers = yes! Sarcastic responses because you think they should know better = no. 

@samijrichards there's a huuuuuge difference between special snowflakes that use this board as their own personal Google and FTM's that are legitimately asking a question they can't find an answer to, or need to vent a concern. I'd never snark on the latter, because let's be honest, I was a FTM once and also had no idea what was going on and I totally get where you're coming from. I wouldn't even worry about that! 

Those that ask why they're not showing before the pee stick is dry? I mean...

Jen080916

@samijrichards that IS a super UO.

sjo_thetwins

kmalls said:

samijrichards said:

My SUPER UO is that I really don't love the snark. Unless it is warranted, because someone took zero time to learn about the board before positing their per sticks and "am I pregnant" questions, etc. Other than that, a lot of these women (me included) are FTMs that are scared, nervous, anxious, and are just looking for support from a group of women feeling the same (or not the same) things - whereas they can't get that kind of support or reassurance from anyone else in "real life".  Straight to the point answers = yes! Sarcastic responses because you think they should know better = no. 

@samijrichards there's a huuuuuge difference between special snowflakes that use this board as their own personal Google and FTM's that are legitimately asking a question they can't find an answer to, or need to vent a concern. I'd never snark on the latter, because let's be honest, I was a FTM once and also had no idea what was going on and I totally get where you're coming from. I wouldn't even worry about that! 

Those that ask why they're not showing before the pee stick is dry? I mean...

Lol @ the showing before the pee stick is dry. I consider that worthy too. 

sjo_thetwins

And, to clarify - I also would never try and get internet strangers to reply to threads or speak to other people a certain way, just because I'm not all about the sass. I am not a white knight, nor do I wanna be. Sass away, my friends. 

moosette113

I wish the community used more profanity. I edit out a lot of colorful adjectives/adverbs from my posts.

br0co1ii

moosette113 said:

I wish the community used more profanity. I edit out a lot of colorful adjectives/adverbs from my posts.

Go for it! I think most of us are still feeling out the community to see how it's going to work. Since many of us have been here 3 weeks already, we're starting to settle into our groove, and the snark, profanity, and over all awesome comments are going to start coming out of the woodwork very soon!

JDMRS

@moosette113  Amen to that, sister!

PeggyOlsonFTW

samijrichards said:

My SUPER UO is that I really don't love the snark. Unless it is warranted, because someone took zero time to learn about the board before positing their per sticks and "am I pregnant" questions, etc. Other than that, a lot of these women (me included) are FTMs that are scared, nervous, anxious, and are just looking for support from a group of women feeling the same (or not the same) things - whereas they can't get that kind of support or reassurance from anyone else in "real life".  Straight to the point answers = yes! Sarcastic responses because you think they should know better = no. 

FTMs, BDTD moms who are active members of this community and have legit questions don't bother me. Ask away, girlfriend! What bothers me are a) posters whose names I don't recognize (aka, one time posters) that are using us are their personal google or are asking us about asinine things (Ramzi, feeling movement at 9 weeks, etc) and b) posters whose names I do recognize, but are just dirty take, take takers. They just ask questions in their own threads, pay no mind to symptom threads, weekly check ins, UOs, etc. They ask their own questions and get answers but don't provide support to others when they need it.

Michi1382

housewifehobbyist said:

GingerGril said:

Contour makeup. Who actually has time for that? I just don't get it.

I love makeup and I spend about an hour every morning on hair and makeup, it's my zen me-time.  However heavy Kardashian level contour looks insane in broad daylight.  And you can add "instagram eyebrows" to my list of current beauty trends that are going to look SO dated in five years.

Yes, my makeup time is my "me" time where I can sit, breathe, and essentially color for a little while lol. However, I can't quite contour for the life of me but I also don't have time to sculpt my face either. What's going on there? I don't know. I'm sticking to my eyeshadows, mascaras and lipsticks. 

Michi1382

moosette113 said:

I wish the community used more profanity. I edit out a lot of colorful adjectives/adverbs from my posts.

Yas, yas, yas!!!

PeggyOlsonFTW

I like swearing @moosette113

Michi1382

My UO is that I don't like getting clothes for my DD. I recognize that this makes me sound incredibly ungrateful and I know many people do love receiving clothing as gifts, but while I do appreciate the gesture, all I can think of is that it's adding to my laundry pile. And that makes me ragey. 

joyful08

samijrichards said:

My SUPER UO is that I really don't love the snark. Unless it is warranted, because someone took zero time to learn about the board before positing their per sticks and "am I pregnant" questions, etc. Other than that, a lot of these women (me included) are FTMs that are scared, nervous, anxious, and are just looking for support from a group of women feeling the same (or not the same) things - whereas they can't get that kind of support or reassurance from anyone else in "real life".  Straight to the point answers = yes! Sarcastic responses because you think they should know better = no. 

I totally understand where you are coming from but I still kind of disagree. I am a FTM so I have lots of questions but I still understand that this is not my personal Google for anything that pops into my head. Plus there is a search bar and I know that 99.999% of all my questions have been answered before and there is no need for me to repeat the same basic questions when I am perfectly capable of searching and doing research. And I love snark. Not rudeness but snark. If your going to ask a dumb question or one that has been asked a million times and you just don't want to search for the answer then you deserve some snark. Plus snark keeps everything entertaining and interesting. It just gets exhausting answering the same post saying "I'm six weeks am I showing already??!!" and stuff like that. Idk maybe just me. I just want to talk to some fun ladies not be someone's personal Google. 

SnobunnieMel

I fully am on board. We had 4!!! New posts about nausea the other night all within about 10 threads of each other. Some ❄️s just want answers specifically for them it seems. I wish we could clean stuff up and combine things sometimes. 

missteacherlady16

SnobunnieMel said:

I fully am on board. We had 4!!! New posts about nausea the other night all within about 10 threads of each other. Some ❄️s just want answers specifically for them it seems. I wish we could clean stuff up and combine things sometimes. 

I'm trying lol

KLBell17

My UO (may be more of a random thought) is that I wish all OBs followed the same schedule with the exception of PGALs. That would save from all of the "why do I have to wait 13 weeks when this person gets to go in at 6 for a sono?" It just makes people feel like they are missing out or something is wrong with their doctor.