Reality is starting to hit me.

1mae2016

I wouldn't say the purpose of this post is to rant, but rather to help get rid of a little anxiety.  I, as probably many of you, only have 14 weeks left until LO makes her appearance. Well, 14 weeks maximum! When just thinking of Febraury to May it sounds like I'm so far off from labor, but when I think about 14 weeks it seems like there's not enough time! We still have to move into our new house, set up there, make arrangements with financial aid and school. It's so....surreal. I'm definitely ready for my little Kirra to get here, however, I just wish we had the rest of our details worked out and since I'm an over planner who stresses over everything, especially things I can't control (totally beneficial, I know) I just feel like I'm so lost and getting no where 

KAMiller927

You are not alone, we are all anxious/excited and a bundle of other emotions. Everything will get done in time, and even if a few things are left undone- none of it will be a game changer. Keep your head up and keep on planning, you can do this! Sending prayers your way!

sarawifenow

^^Ditto PP. I have 11 weeks left and I definitely had a freak out moment this weekend. You're definitely not alone.

dshannah

1mae2016 said:

I wouldn't say the purpose of this post is to rant, but rather to help get rid of a little anxiety.  I, as probably many of you, only have 14 weeks left until LO makes her appearance. Well, 14 weeks maximum! When just thinking of Febraury to May it sounds like I'm so far off from labor, but when I think about 14 weeks it seems like there's not enough time! We still have to move into our new house, set up there, make arrangements with financial aid and school. It's so....surreal. I'm definitely ready for my little Kirra to get here, however, I just wish we had the rest of our details worked out and since I'm an over planner who stresses over everything, especially things I can't control (totally beneficial, I know) I just feel like I'm so lost and getting no where 

I so feel you! We have no idea where we are living in July (two months after baby arrives--we are moving for my job, so we know the state, but that's it!) and DH has no idea where he'll be working after we move and we can't plan daycare and because of the move we can't afford to have a separate room for a nursery and so we don't know how any of this is going to go at all and we can't even begin to plan anything at all.

Not to mention all the things I need to do before baby arrives!  I have four major research deadlines due in the next three months (in addition to my regular teaching), and I'm still finalizing registry things because someone pointed out (legit) issues with the things we'd spent so much time choosing. Oy.

Hell yes to feeling lost and getting nowhere.  I guess I should focus on work, since that's the one thing I can control.

dsmith211

1mae2016 said:

I wouldn't say the purpose of this post is to rant, but rather to help get rid of a little anxiety.  I, as probably many of you, only have 14 weeks left until LO makes her appearance. Well, 14 weeks maximum! When just thinking of Febraury to May it sounds like I'm so far off from labor, but when I think about 14 weeks it seems like there's not enough time! We still have to move into our new house, set up there, make arrangements with financial aid and school. It's so....surreal. I'm definitely ready for my little Kirra to get here, however, I just wish we had the rest of our details worked out and since I'm an over planner who stresses over everything, especially things I can't control (totally beneficial, I know) I just feel like I'm so lost and getting no where 

13 weeks left here and I completely feel you. I feel like compared to some people I'm way behind on everything. Nursery is pretty much not even started, I need to work out repayment plans on student loans while on leave, FMLA paperwork, short term disability, along with many, many other things. I am a major planner and also stress over pretty much all of it (which DH hates). On top of all this, neither DH or I have actually been around infants since our younger siblings... So there's some anxiety there as well. I've pretty much just made a massive list and I'm taking things one at a time. If I can't get something done I've been asking other people for help (completely out of character for me). It's really the only thing that's helps relieve some of the anxiety and stress.

ayeshaohara

Completing tasks has helped me stay relaxed. I have 11 weeks to go and I'm wishing it away but still nervous. I made a list of things I wanted to get done around home (like tidying/cleaning/reorganizing) before baby arrives and I've been rocking them off slowly. It's helped me feel in control so I don't feel like I'll have so many things to worry about in the weeks ahead. If you're a goal oriented, list lover like me, it's rewarding to get things done...anything at all! 

maddenmm

I am SO glad you made this post. We just bought a house and are in the midst of renovations. I am NO where physically ready for baby. All our baby stuff is in a storage unit buried under all our furniture. I know that it will all get done in time but dealing with moving, unpacking, a 3 yr old that is making a HUGE change, and adding a new baby all within weeks of each other is exhausting to think about. 

cortney626

I'm 10-11 weeks out and we just started some renovations. To say I was panicking would  be an understatement. But I'm trying to stay calm and trust my husband. We can't even start on the baby's room. In another month, if it's not done we're going to be living out of the living room so I can get the nursery done before the master is done. I'm such a planner and it's killing me to not be able to work on the room right now. 

1mae2016

I love that you all can stay optimistic under your pressures! Not that I'm not optimistic, it's just a little more difficult to stay positive of your own situation compared to showing others optimism. Lol. I'm definitely going to start listing things out that I can get done before the move. My thoughts will be with all of you as well! 

kami09

We moved 2 weeks before my due date with my son. I totally feel you on the stress--but luckily we were in the house a month before he actually got here. Things will work out! & even though there are lists and lists and lists of what you need/need done/need set up...babies don't actually need too much! A place to sleep, formula or boob, clothes, diapers...yep. Don't let all the stuff stress you out!

Bltbear82

I'm glad to hear we aren't the only ones planning renovations this close to our due date. We have a little less than 12 weeks and considering it takes contractors in NYC that long to do a single bathroom I'm panicking about tackling two bathrooms and we haven't even started yet. Last pregnancy I was counting down the days, now I'm counting because I wish I had more time. 

GoatSnakeMouse

11 weeks to go an here I am sitting in my home office which really needs to be converted into a nursery. BUT in the past week, baby shower invites have gone out, we've bought a bed and a changer/dresser, and we've ordered carpets for the room that will be my home office (which is what was holding up the whole process.) Progress!

durbie92

I'm not scared of labor and delivery, I'm scared of the next 18 years!!

1mae2016

Labor isn't what has me wigging out either, it's having my daughter here in the real world that's got me in a knot. 

mumbolino

Yep. I get those moments. Like last night...  "AHHH! There will be a tiny  human in our room in three months. It's going to be my job to make sure he or she is fine/happy and not to mess her up. I will never sleep again... What will our life as a couple be like ?? etc... etc... etc.... " my mind would not stop.... It's just scary sometimes! 

JoMunson

I don't have labor anxiety, but I am not a patient person and have 12 weeks left is going to drive me insane!!

helleebellee

8-10 weeks, here, and I freaked out a little last week because I'm not ready.  My sister buying me a car seat helped bring me out of it.  And now that my family knows, it can't come quick enough.  My 4 year old asks me every 10 minutes if it's been 2 months yet.  

NewbySweet

Yes I completely understand where your coming from! I've been so stressed with work lately and we are also moving into our new place in a months time which is over an hour and a half away and I haven't even thought about how were transferring all of our stuff, how I'm going to get the time off.. My mind can't handle all of this as well as transferring all of my hospital and doctor appointments over to new places! Scared!! I keep seeing everyone's nurseries and progress but i currently have everything stacked in a corner until we move! I'm sure everything will be ok but it doesn't help with the stress levels! Keep calm girl!! X

TheHauntedHauswife

We are rushing through of the nearly-end steps of our 6 year long renovation to get ready for baby, so i totally understand how you are feeling. There is a lot of stuff i would like to see done before the shower (in 4 weeks.) so i am not bombarded with a million gifts and no where to put them away to yet. But my husband can only accomplish so much while still working full time. I do what I can, but i am mostly stuck on the bed or couch (SPD  ) So while my window is more like... 16-18 weeks I still feel like there is no time just because of how slow we are both moving. 

Chappy_jr

I am freaking out a little, too.  I am the head of my department at my college and, in addition to my classes (which end the week I'm due and are a mixture of day and night), I have so much administrative work to do for the department before the birth since I won't be able to do it this summer.  Then, add to that the responsibility of leading the team to search my my replacement because I'm starting a new job this Fall.  AND I'm working 8 hours a week for my new company. 

I would be stressed enough as it is but DH has not started on anything in the guest room (moving unused furniture out, cleaning out his closet and accumulated crap) that will become our 3-year old DS's room and I know DS is going to have a hard time adjusting to a new room so I want it done very soon and we can't start on the nursery because that's DS's current room.

May seems so far away when there is snow on the ground ... but then I realize that it is halfway through February already.  And the baby could come as early as late April so I only really have two months to do all of this. The only thing that calms me down is realizing how fortunate I am in my career that even if I deliver early, I can put my classes online and I'll still receive pay while on maternity leave until I start my new job and the only things we truly need to do or buy for the new baby is a new carseat, some clothes, and some newborn disposable diapers.

Anyway, it sounds like many of us are in the same boat - excited but freaking out a little bit.

lbachran

I have 6, maybe 7 weeks to go. My due date is May 4th, but they have to deliver via c-section at 36 or 37 weeks due to a myomectomy last March. Wow, 6 or 7 weeks, that looks so much worse when typed out...

Our shower invites are out and we have some big items including the pack n play, swing, car seat, glider, and the dresser and crib have at least been ordered. We have an assortment of clothes, some breastfeeding supplies, a baby gym, bouncer, bedding, and a handful of toys. DH is studying to take the bar right now, so I'm trying not to pester him with questions and just freak out silently. Our shower is in a little over two weeks and so far nothing is moving from the registry, so I have to fight the daily urge to just start pulling things down and buying them myself. 

Like others, we started our baby room late because we had to have a contractor make some repairs due to water damage from a leaky roof. There was also a number of things in the room that needed to be gotten rid of, but DH was pretty on top of getting them posted to Craigslist and sold. The room still looks like nothing, just storage for baby stuff, and I'm completely freaked out.