Wow! Until today I had NO IDEA that Baby Shower Hosting was such a minefield. I'm a FTM and super duper thrilled about it. We are an older couple (almost 40) and we are huge party throwers. This year we were planning to throw a big 15th anniversary party to celebrate with our family and friends. Well, surprise! Now we are having a baby that is due on our anniversary! A whole new reason to celebrate.
One of the first things I started to do when we found out we were pregnant (total surprise btw) was plan my baby shower. I'm absolutely going to do this myself since I normally plan our parties and I know what I want. I do have plenty of girlfriends that are offering to throw a shower or help me with it, but they all know that I'm the party fanatic and will make all of the decisions about stuff. I would never expect any of my friends to spend the kind of money that we will on this party. After reading threads here this morning, I get what the majority of people are saying and can agree that if the purpose is to get gifts, then it could be tacky to do that myself. I am definitely not in this for the gifts - I'm here for the party!!! I can't wait to celebrate our coming baby with our family and friends and I fully intend to have bought all of the stuff we need prior to the party. I'm sure our friends will want to give us gifts, but that can happen once the baby is born (since we are waiting to find out the sex). My thoughts are to rent out a large space, have a dj, a photobooth, big buffets of food, dancing, and lots of friends and family. Our families will come down for the weekend since they are all out of state, and it will basically replace our anniversary party as our big party of the year. This is much more fun to celebrate anyway.
So the point of my whole post is since this really isn't a traditional shower, how can I get that across to our guests? I want people to know that we don't expect gifts, just their presence and support as we move into this new phase of our lives. I feel like everyone will know that because they know us (any excuse to throw a party), but I want it to be super clear.
What do you think? And I'm open to all thoughts. You are welcome to disagree with what I'm doing, but please be respectful. In my mind, this is so clearly different than what most people consider a baby shower, but I'd really like to examine all aspects and thoughts about it.