Twatwaffle Tuesday!

baby-2-due

i didn't see this started yet so I figured I would go!


Today my TW is the IRS! I have been dealing with them since October, on a discrepancy they found with my 2012 tax return. H&R block gave me a credit for school I wasn't due of $800 and in October the IRS decided to notify me of it and wanted $2600! So I sent them a letter in which they finally responded after three postpone letters (because they needed more time to review) and told me they would drop the interest and penalties since I've never had a tax issue before and that I would only owe the $800 credit. So I filed my taxes two days after receiving this letter. They still took the whole amount out with penalties and interest from our tax return!!! Now I'm calling and dealing with them, they say it was a computer error and they will reimburse me the difference in 45-60 days... WTH! Totally not cool! We were using this return to prepay the rest of my hospital and dr fees for baby, that way we don't have to worry about an extra bill after she gets here or if I have to have an emergency c-section or anything else we will have already paid for everything else! I hate when things don't go as planned. They take money so easily but give it back so slowly...

mello13

My TW is insurance! After being diagnosed with GD again, my doctor called in the prescription for the lancets and test strips. The insurance responded saying they would cover the lancets but needed a reason why the tests strips are "medically necessary". After calling them, it's because they have an agreement with a different brand of glucose monitor, and they will send me the new monitor "for free" once I fill a new prescription for $500 test strips (that's $500 w/coverage btw!!).  It's INSANE. It is cheaper to pay out of pocket and use the monitor I have. So they told me flat out that they won't cover the brand I have at all and only offer this new option. Unbelievable! And, still considerably more expensive than if I could use the coverage I already pay so much for. I feel like I'm dealing with the mob. 

mello13

@Maybaby0519  That's brutal and frustrating. 

dsmith211

DH bc he was supposed to take a quick meeting and then we would go to lunch together. That was 2 hours ago. He had Chipotle. I have yet to have lunch... I planned my schedule around you and now I can't go anywhere. Thank you for making me starve till dinner.  

Work for sending my FMLA documents today... I was expecting them, but they absolutely have to have them by March 1st. When is my next appointment? February 29th. Sounds great right? Except my midwifes office requires a little more than a days notice on FMLA paperwork. Now I have to call my midwifes office and check on a time to bring the paperwork in, drive 30 mins from work to drop them off, and then pay them a fee to fill it out. I have to review the paperwork I got from the office tonight before I call them, but I am really not looking forward to this conversation tomorrow. I think I might just make DH do it for screwing me out of lunch. He owes me anyway.

businessmama

My boss because he lost some presentation, and exclaimed "I must be the crazy pregnant one!"

WTF - I haven't lost anything, and I'm not crazy. I did a fake laugh and walked away.

TXmamatobe

dsmith211 said:

DH bc he was supposed to take a quick meeting and then we would go to lunch together. That was 2 hours ago. He had Chipotle. I have yet to have lunch... I planned my schedule around you and now I can't go anywhere. Thank you for making me starve till dinner.  

Work for sending my FMLA documents today... I was expecting them, but they absolutely have to have them by March 1st. When is my next appointment? February 29th. Sounds great right? Except my midwifes office requires a little more than a days notice on FMLA paperwork. Now I have to call my midwifes office and check on a time to bring the paperwork in, drive 30 mins from work to drop them off, and then pay them a fee to fill it out. I have to review the paperwork I got from the office tonight before I call them, but I am really not looking forward to this conversation tomorrow. I think I might just make DH do it for screwing me out of lunch. He owes me anyway.

This seems insane to me. Are you not allowed to fax or email the forms? With DD, I was able to email the forms and they emailed them back to me and then gave me the originals at my next appointment. I definitely didn't have to pay a fee either. That's ridiculous. 

gamommyx3

mello13 said:

My TW is insurance! After being diagnosed with GD again, my doctor called in the prescription for the lancets and test strips. The insurance responded saying they would cover the lancets but needed a reason why the tests strips are "medically necessary". After calling them, it's because they have an agreement with a different brand of glucose monitor, and they will send me the new monitor "for free" once I fill a new prescription for $500 test strips (that's $500 w/coverage btw!!).  It's INSANE. It is cheaper to pay out of pocket and use the monitor I have. So they told me flat out that they won't cover the brand I have at all and only offer this new option. Unbelievable! And, still considerably more expensive than if I could use the coverage I already pay so much for. I feel like I'm dealing with the mob. 

That's because you are.  I'm sitting here battling the urge to fill this feed with the douchebaggery that is the health insurance business.  I'm in HR and had someone in my office 20 minutes ago with medical bills up the @$$ for things not covered.  I wanted to throw up after she left.

obryana6219

@mello13 I work for CVS and we have a meter, 100 test strips and 100 lancets for $49.99. You don't need a prescription or anything just go to the pharmacy and ask a tech to help you find them.

laurenmdrn16

Taking from my TTT post, my nurse leader is a MAJOR TW, which is so disappointing because she has always been so nice to me. I know that she ran off two other nurses in the district, but I thought that I was her golden child. I guess not. So, my MIL passed away suddenly on Sunday and MH has been going nuts planning the funeral etc. I am in charge of the music and am performing a special piece that she had requested. So I am clearly very VERY involved. So I asked for Friday off. And was told no. I explained that it was bereavement and for a funeral. And my nurse leader legit asked if we could "change the day of the funeral". FUCK NO! I have been fuming all day and have talked to a few coworkers who are all beyond pissed about this. I emailed my nurse leader's boss (our Director of Student Services), which is super ballsy, but whatevs, and said "I am sure this is a union issue, but wanted to ask you first..." so he knew that I could potentially go to our union rep about this. He quickly emailed me back that I am to have the day, he is so so sorry for my loss, and if I need anything else to not hesitate to contact him. He cc'd my nurse leader on that email. I feel like a bit of a bitch, but you do not cross me when I have been nothing but accommodating and beyond a team player. I am excellent at what I do (as evidenced by the hoards of other districts salivating at the possibility that I may be available next school year) and if you don't give me what I am contractually allowed, I will either fight or walk. Or both.

I am being courted like crazy right now because a policy that I drafted is making the rounds and is being held as the new gold standard in regards to food in the classroom. I have been contacted by schools across the state to come and speak on childhood obesity prevention, food allergy awareness and addressing food insecurity in low income neighborhoods. And yet, when I brought this up at my district's health and wellness advisory committee, my nurse leader immediately took all the credit. She had literally told me to write it and send it to her and she claimed it as her own, without making a single edit, leaving it word for word. Luckily, I sent it to my mom for her to use as a template for her school and she passed it on to her nurse leader who then brought it up at a state level conference, presenting it rightfully as MY work. I am not one to hog the spotlight and was willing to share credit, but my mom's nurse leader was adamant that everyone know that I wrote it. And now my nurse leader is pulling this bullshit and fucking around with my ONE bereavement day?! No, I don't work like that.

Steal my work: fine. Work me to the bone: ok. Use me to cover other nurses and do THEIR vision and hearing screenings on my half days so I am left in snow-day riddled February, scrambling to get MY school of over 300 students checked while 7 months pregnant: whatever. But mess with a day that I need to take care of my family and you are toast!

saltedcaramel518

My TWs today are the majority of my coworkers. I work at an investment firm in an open cubicle area with around 30 women. I am the the youngest by at least 10 years.

All these women do is complain all. day. long. They complain about their jobs, whisper about their bosses, and generally just seem unhappy. What I don't understand is that most of them have worked here for years and years, but the way they complain about their jobs, you would think they're desperate to get out. 

A a coworker just returned after a months-long absence for health reasons, and he was just told (loudly) "Welcome back to this Hell-hole!" I do get that sometimes you just need to vent, but.. every day? 

I really like working here, and my boss is amazing. The work is boring sometimes, but it's nothing to complain about. 

I I guess by complaining about complainers, I'm like the pot calling the kettle black, but at least my coworkers can't hear me  

dshannah

My response to all of your twatwaffles, who seem particularly evil this week. 

nerdymama15

My DH is the twatwaffle today.  For over a month now he has been constantly in the garage working on a friend's car.  He calls that working his ass off.  To me that is not working his ass off.  He has a choice he can just as easily  have said no.  He complains about everything else we have to do before baby gets here.  I'm 25 weeks tomorrow.  So far since January I have dealt with a horrible cold and as of lately (past few weeks) pregnancy makes me feel miserable.  I work full time.  I'm also growing a human inside of me.  I wake up every day feeling like I have been hit by a mack truck.  My back  and hip hurts a lot at night (granted that has been eased somewhat by pillows but it still hurts).  I don't sleep worth a crap anymore.  If I stand up or walk too long my back will start to kill me and/or I get exhausted and have to sit down for a while.   So as you can imagine, the state of our house is a wreck.   I've never been good at cleaning in the first place, but it is really really really bad.  He has not helped with cleaning at all since we have been together. He believes it is my job since he pays the main bills and/or does the yard work.  He constantly likes to berate me over the house work.  Back in December or November last year, he went as far as to unhook the internet outside in order to force me to clean.   He does not understand how horrible I feel while pregnant.
So this morning he wakes me up from a dead sleep (I had actually fallen asleep for once and was sleeping good.  Figures.) and says that tonight we are going to have a long talk about the state of the house and make me out a chore list.  I replied back you have no idea the toll this pregnancy is taking on my body.  His response was well you have no problem sitting at the computer playing your game.   Well duh, that is b/c I'm sitting!  And I use my game to take my mind off of the pregnancy, otherwise I'd be Googling and over worrying about every little pain, or twinge, or anything.  I imagine there will be a knockdown dragout blowout tonight.  He totally the twatwaffle today.

dsmith211

TXmamatobe said:

dsmith211 said:

DH bc he was supposed to take a quick meeting and then we would go to lunch together. That was 2 hours ago. He had Chipotle. I have yet to have lunch... I planned my schedule around you and now I can't go anywhere. Thank you for making me starve till dinner.  

Work for sending my FMLA documents today... I was expecting them, but they absolutely have to have them by March 1st. When is my next appointment? February 29th. Sounds great right? Except my midwifes office requires a little more than a days notice on FMLA paperwork. Now I have to call my midwifes office and check on a time to bring the paperwork in, drive 30 mins from work to drop them off, and then pay them a fee to fill it out. I have to review the paperwork I got from the office tonight before I call them, but I am really not looking forward to this conversation tomorrow. I think I might just make DH do it for screwing me out of lunch. He owes me anyway.

This seems insane to me. Are you not allowed to fax or email the forms? With DD, I was able to email the forms and they emailed them back to me and then gave me the originals at my next appointment. I definitely didn't have to pay a fee either. That's ridiculous. 

I'm actually going in for a class there on the 17th. It's technically not during office hours but they were OK with me bringing them then so that actually worked out a little bit. They wanted me to actually bring them in... probably so they make sure the fee gets paid. And yes a $25 fee for FMLA. I have short term disability forms that I need filled out too and those also have a $25 fee. I was a bit irritated that I have to pay for them to fill out the forms I need just to take the necessary leave time... Guess they're making a pretty penny off of pretty much every single patient at their office... 

Jparke2

As always, my office. Everybody is currently yelling and complaining about politics and what THEY think the government should be doing and not doing. Which is all fine and good, everyone is entitled to an opinion, but holy crap...they are really ignorant and uninformed, so its frustrating to hear these angry voices spewing absolute lies and misinformation. These are the kind of people who don't do their research, they just believe everything they see on the internet. Then they moved the discussion to a black lives matter activist who just killed himself. They all immediately shouted out "Good! No loss!" 

Seriously?! A man killed himself! That's not a "good" thing, no matter what you believe. It's just sad.

And finally, I dealt with a twatwaffle friend of a friend on Sunday who thought it was appropriate to guess my due date. He was a month off, and now I feel fat.

vinerie

My TW of the day is the unknown people in the cafeteria where I work. Y'all work hard, but I'm sorry to say, the food was awful today, guys! 

saltedcaramel518

Jparke2 said:

As always, my office. Everybody is currently yelling and complaining about politics and what THEY think the government should be doing and not doing. Which is all fine and good, everyone is entitled to an opinion, but holy crap...they are really ignorant and uninformed, so its frustrating to hear these angry voices spewing absolute lies and misinformation. These are the kind of people who don't do their research, they just believe everything they see on the internet. Then they moved the discussion to a black lives matter activist who just killed himself. They all immediately shouted out "Good! No loss!" 

Seriously?! A man killed himself! That's not a "good" thing, no matter what you believe. It's just sad.

And finally, I dealt with a twatwaffle friend of a friend on Sunday who thought it was appropriate to guess my due date. He was a month off, and now I feel fat.

There was a deadly shooting on the interstate in my city one morning last week. Upon discovery that the shooting was a result of road rage, my coworker said, "Well, I don't blame him! I would've shot somebody too if they had pulled out in front of me like that. Idiots need to learn how to drive."

yogahh

Another Tuesday. Another TW boss callout.

We have a new head head boss in our area that started yesterday, and attended my weekly production meeting today. So I have been prepping for a few days. Reviewing reports. Pulling samples and fabrics. Analyzing the business. I got NO thank you from my boss...

But a cross functional team member sent us a recap of her business for the meeting and my boss sent her a HUGE THANKS YOU ARE AMAZING email.

Yup, feeling pretty good about all the work I did right now. 

EDITED TO ADD- my boss just swung by my desk to tell me how her new boss gave her SUCH a glowing review of our meeting. Yeah bitch, I am the one that put it all together. Still no acknowledgment of my effort. I guess I am not too surprised...

Merciel

Maaaan, you guys are dealing with some absolute garbage this week.

Sympathies to all of you.

Jparke2

bshurdy said:

Jparke2 said:

As always, my office. Everybody is currently yelling and complaining about politics and what THEY think the government should be doing and not doing. Which is all fine and good, everyone is entitled to an opinion, but holy crap...they are really ignorant and uninformed, so its frustrating to hear these angry voices spewing absolute lies and misinformation. These are the kind of people who don't do their research, they just believe everything they see on the internet. Then they moved the discussion to a black lives matter activist who just killed himself. They all immediately shouted out "Good! No loss!" 

Seriously?! A man killed himself! That's not a "good" thing, no matter what you believe. It's just sad.

And finally, I dealt with a twatwaffle friend of a friend on Sunday who thought it was appropriate to guess my due date. He was a month off, and now I feel fat.

There was a deadly shooting on the interstate in my city one morning last week. Upon discovery that the shooting was a result of road rage, my coworker said, "Well, I don't blame him! I would've shot somebody too if they had pulled out in front of me like that. Idiots need to learn how to drive."

Omg, that is horrible! Sounds like you work in my office! Seriously. Especially because today they were looking at guns. Like, actual, physical guns, in the office. I guess it sounds worse than it actually is, since there are several gun enthusissts/hunters in the office, and I happen to be related to most of these people, and its a smaller, family business so its not like a shock to see that kind of thing (especially around here), but still. I've heard my coworkers say on numerous occasions that somebody "got what the deserved," and most of the time I'm just like WHAT!? Nobody deserves that!

gamommyx3

nerdymama15 said:

My DH is the twatwaffle today.  For over a month now he has been constantly in the garage working on a friend's car.  He calls that working his ass off.  To me that is not working his ass off.  He has a choice he can just as easily  have said no.  He complains about everything else we have to do before baby gets here.  I'm 25 weeks tomorrow.  So far since January I have dealt with a horrible cold and as of lately (past few weeks) pregnancy makes me feel miserable.  I work full time.  I'm also growing a human inside of me.  I wake up every day feeling like I have been hit by a mack truck.  My back  and hip hurts a lot at night (granted that has been eased somewhat by pillows but it still hurts).  I don't sleep worth a crap anymore.  If I stand up or walk too long my back will start to kill me and/or I get exhausted and have to sit down for a while.   So as you can imagine, the state of our house is a wreck.   I've never been good at cleaning in the first place, but it is really really really bad.  He has not helped with cleaning at all since we have been together. He believes it is my job since he pays the main bills and/or does the yard work.  He constantly likes to berate me over the house work.  Back in December or November last year, he went as far as to unhook the internet outside in order to force me to clean.   He does not understand how horrible I feel while pregnant.
So this morning he wakes me up from a dead sleep (I had actually fallen asleep for once and was sleeping good.  Figures.) and says that tonight we are going to have a long talk about the state of the house and make me out a chore list.  I replied back you have no idea the toll this pregnancy is taking on my body.  His response was well you have no problem sitting at the computer playing your game.   Well duh, that is b/c I'm sitting!  And I use my game to take my mind off of the pregnancy, otherwise I'd be Googling and over worrying about every little pain, or twinge, or anything.  I imagine there will be a knockdown dragout blowout tonight.  He totally the twatwaffle today.

WOW.

khochanadel

I also have a special TW of the week award for our friends at the IRS.

We worked so hard to track everything we spend on IVF - procedures, meds, appointments, mileage, acupuncture and knew that we would be close to the limit allowable for deducting medical expenses (10.5% of AGI). Well, turns out it will make zero difference since we are at 10.3%, and there are several other deductions we can't take either because we are >just< over the income limit, so even with both of us claiming zero exemptions and spending over 10% of our income lat year on making new taxpayers, we owe almost $3000 this year, and of course tax day is perfectly timed right before we are expecting twins - so much disposable income then!

Don't get me wrong, I am glad we are making a good income, but this is just ridiculous.

nerdymama15

Now this guy in the article link below gets the twatwaffle of the year award.
https://myfox8.com/2016/02/09/wife-faces-6-years-in-prison-for-not-cleaning-or-cooking-for-her-husband/

Pascal86

Twatwaffle is whoever served me food that gave me all these butt-splosions. Whatever, I didn't want to not hang out on the toilet for the past 24 hours anyway.

evalynn24

@khochanadel why is it 10.5% of your AGI? The federal rate on a Schedule A for medical is 10% so if you are at 10.3% then you are still good. This also doesn't mean you will be able to itemize though because the Schedule A also takes into account multiple other things and you only itemize if your Schedule A totals to more than your standard deduction.

My TW for today is my coworker who just told us yesterday she has a respiratory infection and an ear infection and decided she would come into work today anyway. I emailed my boss and told him I was working from home today and I left the office. Seriously!? Why do people think it's okay to come to work sick!? If I get sick again in the next month, I may just give her my doctor bills for it!

doozer1345

Whoever decided on the ads on the Bump today... Full on Sarah Maclachlan ASPCA pictures. Not cool.

AdorkablePixie

khochanadel said:

I also have a special TW of the week award for our friends at the IRS.

We worked so hard to track everything we spend on IVF - procedures, meds, appointments, mileage, acupuncture and knew that we would be close to the limit allowable for deducting medical expenses (10.5% of AGI). Well, turns out it will make zero difference since we are at 10.3%, and there are several other deductions we can't take either because we are >just< over the income limit, so even with both of us claiming zero exemptions and spending over 10% of our income lat year on making new taxpayers, we owe almost $3000 this year, and of course tax day is perfectly timed right before we are expecting twins - so much disposable income then!

Don't get me wrong, I am glad we are making a good income, but this is just ridiculous.

You only have to be above 10%, not 10.5%. You may want to look into that again.

AdorkablePixie

nerdymama15 said:

My DH is the twatwaffle today.  For over a month now he has been constantly in the garage working on a friend's car.  He calls that working his ass off.  To me that is not working his ass off.  He has a choice he can just as easily  have said no.  He complains about everything else we have to do before baby gets here.  I'm 25 weeks tomorrow.  So far since January I have dealt with a horrible cold and as of lately (past few weeks) pregnancy makes me feel miserable.  I work full time.  I'm also growing a human inside of me.  I wake up every day feeling like I have been hit by a mack truck.  My back  and hip hurts a lot at night (granted that has been eased somewhat by pillows but it still hurts).  I don't sleep worth a crap anymore.  If I stand up or walk too long my back will start to kill me and/or I get exhausted and have to sit down for a while.   So as you can imagine, the state of our house is a wreck.   I've never been good at cleaning in the first place, but it is really really really bad.  He has not helped with cleaning at all since we have been together. He believes it is my job since he pays the main bills and/or does the yard work.  He constantly likes to berate me over the house work.  Back in December or November last year, he went as far as to unhook the internet outside in order to force me to clean.   He does not understand how horrible I feel while pregnant.
So this morning he wakes me up from a dead sleep (I had actually fallen asleep for once and was sleeping good.  Figures.) and says that tonight we are going to have a long talk about the state of the house and make me out a chore list.  I replied back you have no idea the toll this pregnancy is taking on my body.  His response was well you have no problem sitting at the computer playing your game.   Well duh, that is b/c I'm sitting!  And I use my game to take my mind off of the pregnancy, otherwise I'd be Googling and over worrying about every little pain, or twinge, or anything.  I imagine there will be a knockdown dragout blowout tonight.  He totally the twatwaffle today.

Wow. Sorry, but your DH sounds like an asshole. My DH will help me out with housework any time I ask him to, without a complaint. I don't usually ask him to because I clean on Saturdays while he is at work, but I've had him vacuum and clean the bathroom a couple times the past couple of months because I just didn't feel like it.

yogahh

@AdorkablePixie
Ive been meaning to follow up on your TW from a few weeks ago- did they ever catch who messed up your husbands car?

AdorkablePixie

@yogahh Nope. We think we know who it was, but we have no proof. Then we were wondering if he didn't piss someone off on the road, they followed him home, then came back later to mess his car up. No idea. (He drives kinda like a dick sometimes..) Once his car is fixed we won't be keeping it at the apartment though, we are moving in the middle of March so he will keep it parked at work until we move.

khochanadel

@AdorkablePixie and @evalynn24 I misspoke (sorry - not a finance person at all!) on the 10.5%. The way our CPA explained it to us, even if we deduct everything over the 10% (which we did hit, but again, only barely) that plus our other itemized deductions wouldn't even come close to the standard deduction. Yeah, clearly I don't understand any of this stuff which is why I hire a professional. 

Just pissed that I have to owe. I'll get over it.

missnc77

@khochanadel - We owe $5K. We adjusted our taxes because they were taking too much out when we first got married, but apparently we went too far back the opposite way. We just bought a house on top of welcoming our first baby and need new furniture and baby stuff. To keep myself from getting too depressed about it, I remind myself it's money that should have been taken out anyway. It would have just been spread out over last year rather than one lump sum this year. The real kicker is that we'll need to adjust our taxes for this year which will decrease our monthly income by $400 at least until the baby is born, then we can adjust again and not take so much of a blow because we'll have a dependent. But $400 a month less until May! Oy vey.

khochanadel

@missnc77 Misery loves company. Let's have some sparkling grape juice and Cherry Garcia.

I really hope some of you who also took advantage of assistive reproductive technologies in 2015 got to reap some of the tax benefits!