Sex & keeping groomed

Lchase04

Due to multiple complications throughout my last pregnancy we weren't allowed to have sex after 8wks until after my c section. Although I had an SCH early this pregnancy we were given the ok to enjoy each other while we can. We had sex last night for the first time since the first tri (I'm currently 18wks) and I could not find a way to get comfortable. I know we shouldn't lay on our backs, I read being on top is good for control but I felt like I was squshing the baby each time I move slightly forward. I am not a fan of doing it from behind ... Any tips? What's working for everyone? 

Second part : I already can't see my vag so shaving is almost ridiculous and I've tried with a mirror and it's still impossible. How are you keeping smooth? I've heard waxing could be ridiculously painful with the extra sensitivities we have right now ... Is sugaring safe? Any other successful options?

Thanks, ladies! 

BostonBaby1

Sex positions (and Google can answer more)

https://m.idiva.com/photogallery-iparenting/5-sex-positions-to-hit-the-big-o-during-pregnancy/25021/5

In in terms of keeping things groomed, there was a thread awhile back. It was a bit different but same premise.

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12648026/vagina-presentation/p1

*typo

thebigoaktree

I use a safety razor, which into itself can be rather stressful but it's a better shave. I also handle my business laying down in the tub. If you're going disposable razor I would say try using conditioner on your hair instead of shaving cream it will soften the hair and make it easier to shave. I've used one of those trimmers that I think are used for your eye brows, they have attachments or something but they're battery operated and they don't do a close shave but at least you wont have to worry about a cut from a razor.

PinkLady2015

Some experts recommend not sleeping on your back because of the possibility of suppressing blood flow and some say to avoid doing exercises where you're laying on your back but other doctors really don't stress out about it and many pregnant women find that they have woken up to sleeping on their backs and everything is just peachy. Also, my own physical therapist said that you would know if blood flow was being suppressed because you'd feel dizzy. I'm sure for the few minutes that you're laying on your back, there would be zero cause for concern. Have at it... Also, if this is something that's going to cause you serious stress, maybe position a pillow under your back so your tush is elevated and your back isn't directly pushing on the bed. Also, maybe throw a leg or two around hubby's shoulder/neck. Have fun you crazy kids

mrsmommya

I agree with the above, the time you are actually on your back is fairly short, things should be fine.  I don't generally enjoy top anyways so having my big belly being front and center doesn't sound appealing.  

I am half-hijacking this thread, but was wondering if anyone has found anything good for bikini sensitivity after shaving?  I have found that since being pregnant the lady parts almost can't handle shaving at all!  I guess it would be considered razor burn, but wasn't there before and I haven't switched my razor...

sayerhart

@mrsmommya Coconut oil! 

pandamonium20

Dumb question. When people talk about coconut oil, are they talking about the stuff you keep in the cabinet for cooking or some kind of fancy stuff from the H&B section?

I truly do not know if there is a different product. 

ETA: I love when I'm reminded that the vagina presentation thread exists. 

blackgirlmagic

@pandaferh I bought my oil from like the lotion section in target. It came in a clear bottle. If I wasn't so lazy I would get up and take a picture of it for you. But it looked something like this:

stillcozy

@pandaferh I've used the bottle from the kitchen stuff as well I just heat it in the microwave to melt it. I haven't personally used it for sex but it makes a great hair conditioning treatment and I'm sure you could use it for sex as well. 

OP I think being on your back is just fun but when it starts to get uncomfortable or if you have any numbing or tingling in your legs (the feeling when they fall asleep) probably good to ether adjust position or take a break

laurathemrs

My grooming secret in the later months was Magic Shave. Just have a well ventilated bathroom, lol. 

As far as getting comfortable, you might try a pillow (regular pillows or a wedge pillow).

nopegoat

As far as positions go,  on my side has been the most comfortable and let's face it after a crazy day with 3 kids I don't feel like doing much work. 

I've been able to groom myself throughout each of my pregnancies thus far. It's not necessarily comfortable but with crazy yoga moves, a mirror, and by feel I can do an OK job.  

WVUPetunia

I find that using a Schick Intuition Razors (the ones with the soap around the blade) is easier than trying to use a razor + shaving cream...  Since the blade is a bit buried into the soap, it's safer for not cutting yourself if you can't really see what you're doing!