FFFC-1/29 Edition

mrsb8244

Let's hear 'em ladies!!

*Warning: not always flame free!

VikingGirl12

I have set up fun areas around the classroom and let my kids do whatever.. just so that I can Bump/plan DS's bday party for 2 hours. 

mrsschmity

H and I are team green. We had our first ultrasound on Monday and told the tech we didn't want to know the sex. She printed off some pictures and gave them to us on a CD for us to take home.

Confession: As soon as I got home I dissected each ultrasound picture to see if maybe she accidentally got a shot of baby's anatomy where I could make out if it was a boy or girl. I then also tried to determine which side the placenta was on, and then quickly realized I had no idea what the fack I was looking for.

I did, however, refrain from posting/asking a bunch of internet strangers for guesses. So that's a win. I will honestly be overjoyed either way, but I'm curious dammit! Finding out at delivery will just be an added surprise!

DeePaddy24

I feel guilty about this. When we were told this morning that we're having a boy, I cried because I was so happy...but also partly because I was really hoping for a girl. Mostly because I was just SO in love with the name we had picked (& we still aren't 100% on a boys name). I definitely have to change my expectations for things...but I'm so looking forward to my first baby boy snuggles & the crazy adventure that awaits me. 

MsBeachNJ

@mrsschmity I would have done the same thing!! I had a dream last night that I was dissecting our A/S photos and there was a phantom outline of male genitalia (meaning one minute I'd look at it and say omg its a boy! and then it would disappear!!) Our A/S is a week from today and I'm really hoping we don't see anything we don't want to see but I also know I'll be dissecting any photo I get! Haha. The struggle is real! 

Kballew10

 @MsBeachNJ  - Same here!  I'm curious, but I don't want to know and I'm afraid it will be obvious (not that I even remotely can distinguish the pictures) or the tech will slip up!

Edit to add: @DeePaddy24 - I think it's okay to be a little sad, but you sound like you are excited for this boy and I'm sure that you will find a name!

crdo

Team Green here, too. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't going to scrutinize the ultrasound screen and pics from our scan this Monday, because I'm freaking curious! But, I do want to wait for the delivery room surprise. Patience is hard.

ahernandez16

@DeePaddy24 Don't feel guilty! I think that's totally normal. H and I were both REALLY hoping for a boy so I was obviously stoked when they told us but a part of me was also sad that we weren't having a girl.... for like a few days.

I mean there's only one kid in there so I can't have both right now. Super unreasonable, lol. 

ahernandez16

I forgot to take my make up off last night but my eye make up still looks good so... it's staying. Also I have to be at work in an hour and I'm still in bed. 

No motivation today whatsoever. 

NicknShan

I am more excited to decorate my DSs second big boy room than redo a nursery for DS2.  Poor second children.  I don't even know if I will redo the room...

etr152517

NicknShan said:

I am more excited to decorate my DSs second big boy room than redo a nursery for DS2.  Poor second children.  I don't even know if I will redo the room...

Haha. Me too! When DS was born, we had done a woodland theme and it was really cute but now I'm excited to give him a big boy train themed room. Our next LO is getting the woodland stuff. We're team green this time so I don't want to think of another gender neutral theme! I'm a little lazier this time around. 

mrsb8244

@DeePaddy24 what was your girl name? We have a list of girl names but boy names H is just too damn picky so we haven't made much progress

MsBeachNJ

@DeePaddy24 Don't feel guilty - I think most of us completely relate! I know I'll be happy with whatever they give me once I'm through with labor, but I also know that I am hoping for a little girl, so there will be some minor disappointment if that isn't what happens. Doesn't make you any less of a wonderful boy mom!! 

mkemommy

@DeePaddy24 - Don't feel guilty at all.  I think a mixed reaction is perfectly normal.  Both H and I were hoping for a girl and we got one and I'm super happy.  That said, the more H talks about it (i.e., "his little princess"/"daddy's little girl"/etc) the more I think a boy who appreciates him momma would be really nice too.  

mkemommy

I'm a little bummed that women don't get more riled up about injustice.  I posted on the military maternity leave issue on the "Weekly Randoms" thread and it is really, really riling me up.  I'm mad at our leaders, I'm mad at men who think "equal" is the same as "be like a man" in the comments to some of the news articles about the military leave issue and I'm mad at myself for not saying something sooner about how I feel.  H told me yesterday that he didn't get why this issue couldn't change (maternity leave) in the U.S. because so many women vote and can control the issue if they want.  I'm sick of this being a "women's issue"....and I'm sick to my stomach thinking that my daughter might have to go through the same crap I'm going through one day.  Absolutely sick. 

hockeyfan42

@mrsschmity I have been staring at my NT scan pictures for weeks. I'm sure I'll stare at the A/S ones trying to figure it out. Totally defeats the purpose of team green, but I feel like it's normal to be curious.  

ETA: it's fun for me to try and guess. Internet strangers? No. haha

lm45678

@DeePaddy24 don't feel bad- I know I would be a little disappointed too. That why I'm team green, because I knew I would be upset!

@mrsschmity I did the same thing but it was a 14 week ultrasound.... Seriously who was I kidding? I can't see anything.

goldie987

We're finding out the sex of the baby next Friday but we're not telling anyone that we know.  We're purchasing items as if we were team green so we can reuse them with future children and painted the nursery yellow but I know I can't wait another 20 weeks to know the sex.  Selfish?  Sure, but whatever 

Emztron500

@mkemommy the whole issue of parental leave in the US makes me furious, but I don't live there. I think there's a major cultural factor (which is somewhat present here in Canada as well) that sort of an obsessive devotion to work is the only acceptable level of "dedication" and taking leave is selfish and bad for employers. Personally I'm more concerned about what's good for families than what's good for employers...somehow the rest of the world manages to keep turning even with parents taking time off to have kids.

And calling it a woman's issue is just plain sexist. It's only a "woman's issue" if you assume there's no circumstance where men would ever want to prioritize family over work for a while when new family members arrive. My husband is taking all of the parental leave available to us (35 weeks) this time around because I'm self-employed and don't qualify. I'm psyched!

Emztron500

My FFFC...this is disgusting...but the night before last my kid puked in my bed 3 times. I scraped it off the sheets/blankets with a spatula and into some paper towel that I threw away, but I still haven't been able to face the laundry. Oh god, the laundry. I need someone less nauseated to come deal with it for me.

lm45678

I told my niece and nephew about the baby last night. My nephew is upset- he is worried I will love the baby more than him.

My FFFC: It makes me happy that he loves me enough to be upset. He really is my little buddy, and I'm glad that he loves me back so much

starkeyclan

@VikingGirl12 - Clutch. I am proud of that decision!

@mrsschmity - I'm giggling at your post. Kuddos to your strength on being team green!

@DeePaddy24 - I totally get it! We had a name for the gender that our baby is, but I would have been slightly disappointed for the other gender because of the same reasons (being so pumped about the name we love, having no idea what we would name a baby of the other gender, etc.) 

I have nothing good for my own confession...so I shall relish in all of yours!

Hbraun200

Idk why can't link a name but anywho! We have our A/S on Monday and were finding out at our gender reveal party on the 6th along with our guests I won't be surprised if I peak

Kballew10

@mkemommy - It makes me angry too.  I'm hoping that the more and more things like this become known to people, the more people speak up that it's absolute crap and hopefully, things will slowly change for the next generation of moms.

AmberLiz99

Dh is in love with the name Maya and already calls baby girl that. It's ok, but I'm not sure it's the one, so I cringe every time he says it. 

Also i've been fighting back tears all morning. Why? Because SIL arrives Monday to stay for two months, and I've been cleaning out the basement for her, and I REALLY don't want her here. Childish of me

Emztron500

@AmberLiz99 childish? I don't think so, haha. MIL for 2 months??? You must be some kind of saint to even agree to it.

lm45678

AmberLiz99 said:

Dh is in love with the name Maya and already calls baby girl that. It's ok, but I'm not sure it's the one, so I cringe every time he says it. 

Also i've been fighting back tears all morning. Why? Because SIL arrives Monday to stay for two months, and I've been cleaning out the basement for her, and I REALLY don't want her here. Childish of me

Hell to the no. That is not childish- me and DH would be getting a DI-VORCE if his annoying little sister was staying with me for 2 months.

BabyboyS2016

@laurenm2123 I told my 8yo nephew "I loved you first and that makes you just as special" and he LOVED it. So precious. 

splsmama2016

I called out of skating academy classes yesterday so I could stay at my sewing job all day...... Sorry not sorry. There's something about glitter, rhinestones and being able to spend time with fun people without freezing my ass off.

mkemommy

@amberliz99 - I love the name Maya but I'm biased.    If you guys haven't agreed to it though, why is he calling the baby that?  That would piss me off to have H calling the baby a name I hadn't agreed to.  Also, I "second" that you are a saint for having your SIL live with you for two months.  

ahernandez16

@amberliz99 H has 6 sisters. If any of them were staying with us for more than dinner I would move out until they left. I agree. You're a saint.

HBamama2B

Saved this thread to read over lunch and it didn't disappoint. you ladies rock! (For some reason my phone won't let me tag people today. Thanks bump AP!

my FFFC: yes, I'm excited to spend time with my son in a vague hard to imagine but still excited way, but what is making me really happy about time off after the birth is that my dog won't be alone any more during the day. I almost jump up and down when I think about it. I love my buddy; I hate thinking of her alone, miss her when I'm at work, and love work from home days when we can chill together. She's my boo! 

Also, but unrelated, I got really sad for no reason yesterday and cried into my bowl of Kraft Mac and cheese that my DH made to cheer me up. Big fat crocodile tears on elbow noodles as I scooped, as if that crap isn't salty enough. 

berky84

@DeePaddy24  Don't feel guilty. I had a brief time of sadness that I wasn't having the girl I expected to have. But it passed. I think it's really normal.

WinniethePoohsPants

My belly button's popped from an innie to an outtie, now my belly looks like a giant boobie.

berky84

Even though it goes against every strong independent female instinct in my mind and body - I kinda love special treatment because I'm pregnant.

purplefan1

mrsschmity said:

H and I are team green. We had our first ultrasound on Monday and told the tech we didn't want to know the sex. She printed off some pictures and gave them to us on a CD for us to take home.

Confession: As soon as I got home I dissected each ultrasound picture to see if maybe she accidentally got a shot of baby's anatomy where I could make out if it was a boy or girl. I then also tried to determine which side the placenta was on, and then quickly realized I had no idea what the fack I was looking for.

I did, however, refrain from posting/asking a bunch of internet strangers for guesses. So that's a win. I will honestly be overjoyed either way, but I'm curious dammit! Finding out at delivery will just be an added surprise!

I did the same thing. Tricky tech only gave us pictures that were blurry at the gential area. Rude lady, taking me all serious about not wanting to know gender.

My FFFC confession-I stupid like the Justin Bieber song Love Yourself. Like, sing along to it, listen to it far too often like it. I have quoted it in real life. "My mama dont like you and she likes everyone".

Haters gonna hate.

MamaNicoleof3

I have nothing flame free worthy, but I will confess that I almost took my wallet (instead of my water bottle) out of my purse to leave in the car before I went into target. I'm lamesauce. 

AmberLiz99

Thanks for the support ladies. I was explaining to dh why I'm such a basket case about it, but he just doesn't get it. "It's no big deal. It's you're house, just be yourself." Ummm...

mrsb8244

Ooooo I have one: I'm so nervous for my belly button to start sticking out! I have this weird thing where I hate belly buttons. I don't want to look at them or touch them and I freak out if anything touches mine! 

@June2016BabyW I love that song too!!!

berky84

MrsB8214 said:

Ooooo I have one: I'm so nervous for my belly button to start sticking out! I have this weird thing where I hate belly buttons. I don't want to look at them or touch them and I freak out if anything touches mine! 

my belly button is unnaturally deep so I kinda like the idea of it sticking out a little. Maybe create some balance.

ahernandez16

@mrsb8214 ME TOO!!!

I had my belly button pierced for a few years and took it out about 6 months before I got KU. I still have the piercing holes and the one on the inside of my belly button is slowly creeping up and out and now I can see two holes and it is freaking me the hell out. I am not looking forward to that sucker popping out, but the creeping holes remind me it's happening. Ahhhhh.