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niccg

Hey guys, my husband and i are both  defence and we are having our first child. Im almost 18 weeks and my husband has two trips coming up this year. He has been told he is going away for most of this year, and discussed with a superior how we are having a baby. I completely support him and we both would never stop each other from doing our job. However it seems that im being silly, but i really want him to go through these changes with me and i feel selfish. He has a exercise before the baby and two months after baby, so im i crazy to think ill need help. Im terrified to go through this alone. When i talk about it i go quiet and say o dont wanna go througj this by myself and he says i have friends to help me out if i need. 
 
Anyone else have been feeling excited but really nervous that they have to go through pregnancy alone? 

misstopsail

niccg said:

Hey guys, my husband and i are both  defence and we are having our first child. Im almost 18 weeks and my husband has two trips coming up this year. He has been told he is going away for most of this year, and discussed with a superior how we are having a baby. I completely support him and we both would never stop each other from doing our job. However it seems that im being silly, but i really want him to go through these changes with me and i feel selfish. He has a exercise before the baby and two months after baby, so im i crazy to think ill need help. Im terrified to go through this alone. When i talk about it i go quiet and say o dont wanna go througj this by myself and he says i have friends to help me out if i need. 
 
Anyone else have been feeling excited but really nervous that they have to go through pregnancy alone? 

If you're concerned about caring for the baby, can you stay with family while he's gone? Unfortunately, sometimes people have to go away to work and support their families.. Which is what your husband is doing. Try and remember that, even though it'll be hard for him to be gone. 
You may be able to find a support group with other wives in a similar situation.

meggyme

I don't understand what you mean by both of you being defense, unless you mean that you're both military? There is a board her on the bump called Military Moms where you might find a lot more people in your similar situation. Good luck.

PinkLady2015

Do you have any friends and family that you could ask for help or possibly stay with when the baby comes?

KelBelleBaby

I have no experience with your situation and I can only imagine how difficult it is to be in situations like yours. I have several military mom friends and I see how hard it is for them. So, I guess my point is that, although I can't personally relate, you have my thoughts and I hope things work out well for you and your family. 

niccg

Yes husband and i both employed with defence.  We do get looked after and i havent really planned for any of my family to fly up and stay with me for a bit while he is away. Thanks for your replys. We have each other to fall back on but unfortunately its really bad timing to be away. I am a bit concerned with asking for help and having too much family fly to my home to help out. We live away from all fanily for work so people will probably want to be around for baby when its born.