Crazy comments in response to pregnancy announcement?

Snaps816

I feel like we could use a fun thread around here today. 

Here's the response I got from one of the young admin assistants at work after I told the office my news today: "Did you know that when you're having the baby you will probably (lowers voice to a stage whisper)....poop a little?"

Yes. Yes, I have heard that one, and thanks for bringing it up at work. It's wonderful to know that the team is thinking about me pooping now. 

telicious2

Ha, what a random response! During my last pregnancy I read somewhere that there are these pills you can take so it makes your poop glittery. I'm pretty sure glittered poop would turn more heads than plain old normal poop.

I don't have any crazy comments yet.

bearsandbeets7

When we told MIL she said "are you serious(in a tone that did not sound happy at all)?" DH said yeah we are serious. She said "well I guess that's what happens when you have unprotected sex." We were both too shocked to even respond.

ReadyForaB

When I told one woman at work (who is about a month further along than me) she asked "how old are you?" Like I was too young or something! I'm 28.

texasmama2014

Last time my grandma hugged me and said "I'm so glad it's you and not your sister." No one knows about this one yet.

jamiesc58

@Lynnlove28 my MIL is the same way. She didn't say "that's what happens..." She said "I don't know how you think you can afford another kid". Really??? I was so hurt. We work hard for what we have and take care of our kids and ourselves just fine. Yeah, we might not have the best of everything but we love our lives.

My aunt said to us "You know how that happens right?" 

MSUgrad12

@jamiesc58 and @Lynnlove28 that's crazy! Gotta love in laws!
@texasmama2014 that's pretty funny.

I haven't gotten any crazy comments (I will definitely share WHEN it happens, it will happen since I work with teens that make unsolicited comments) but every time I tell a friend that's a parent I get a whole lot of unsolicited advice.

lalalorelai

My mom guessed before I could tell her. She offered me a glass of wine and I told her she had to open her present first (this was close to Christmas). And she goes "Why, are you pregnant?" I told her to open the damn present and she'd find out. 

We haven't told many people but out of the 5-6 who know, two asked me if it was an accident. Come on, people, I know you all didn't know I was TTC, but do you really have to ask that?? 

ZedPM3

Nothing yet, but I'm worried about a FB friend when we announce on FB. She's a friend from elementary school and when I post about certain things she's all, woe is me! For example, when I posted an announcement that we bought a plot of land to build a house on she commented with, "And some of us will never be able to afford to live in anything bigger than a shoebox." Thanks, lady.

If she comments on our announcement with something like that I think that will be the last straw and I will unfriend her.

texasmama2014

@ZedPM3 She sounds lovely. 

ZedPM3

@texasmama2014 oh, she is. She did something like that recently but I don't remember what it was. I just ignore her when she does it.

Stephanie7693

Almost everyone I've told or my mom has told immediately asked if we were trying. I don't know if it's more because of the age gap in my kids or what. Even our parents asked. I'm a little offended, we're married adults with our shit together. Why do they care?

tmk0325

@Lynnlove28 sounds about like my SOs mother. We told my parents who were very excited and told his the next day. She opens the box with the cute little onesie that I made that says 'I love my grandparents, baby k due Aug 25' and says Oh, that's interesting. No smile or anything. They have 7 other grandkids and that's her world and this is our first. I looked at SO and said yes.. She says, uhm are you getting married?? I was like uhm someday. We've been together almost 4 years, living together for 2.5, it's not like we just met!! Then also proceeded to say oh another one this year. His SIL just had a baby and his sister is due 4 days ahead of me... We haven't told anyone else yet besides two sets of friends and they were great. We plan on telling the rest of our family next week after our ultrasound. I am pretty sure we will have some more interesting comments...

LeahK2016

Yeah that is the main response I've gotten. It's definitely rude, and none of anyone's business.

Bubblegum5586

Yea we have also had a lot of "were you trying?". Nothing crazy but still seems so nosy!

ginger819

DHs mom didn't handle our announcement well. She started cussing and then told us all about how we should have waited because now we won't be able to give DD the attention or love she needs (they'll only be 16 mon the apart, but we had planned for them to be close). We're pretty sure she thinks we're just going to abandon DD and not care about her anymore. Like our kids are freaking toys and when we get a new one we won't want the old, boring one. My patience with her is running thin.

DressageDarling

We just got married in October and decided to try right away due to my mom getting diagnosed with breast cancer right after we got back from our honeymoon. We've only told immediate family so far.

My favorite (sarcasm) response was from DH's grandmother. We called to tell her I was pregnant and she just says "I know, I could tell the last time I saw you." Which was at the wedding. My DH tells her that I wasn't even pregnant yet and asked her why she would think that. "Well, you both were just acting so affectionate that day."

1faceinacrowd

Man, some of these are awful! I think my favorite one so far was when we were out with friends at the bar and an old friend of mine was in town visiting. He asked if anything was new and I said, "Oh, yeah! I'm pregnant!" My friend looks at my husband and back at me and says, "Assuming...on purpose? Are congratulations in order?" Haha.
Also, the look of pure shock/horror on my 5-year-old's face when we told him that the baby is growing inside my tummy before he asked if it got in there because I ate it.

texasmama2014

@DressageDarling I mean seriously, who gets affectionate on their wedding day! Dead giveaway!

smilormarie

So we haven't told anyone yet but I remember last time the two most common and weird comments were:

- you won't be able to wear heels anymore. ??? I live in heels, wore them up until end of June and that was only because my feet and legs swelled.
- you're still working?

Granted these were from older ladies and lifestyles were different back then but really! You must become a clumsy blithering idiot who can't keep a job as soon as that stick turns pink?!?! :-/

haboobjob

@Bubblegum5586 I hate that question! I think it's so rude. We had people ask us with our first and at that time we had been together for 9 years. We haven't told anyone outside of our best friends and parents. I know that question is coming since DD is 15 mo.

Pam973

So far this time no strange responses but with DD we weren't married yet but we're engaged. My mother in law asked if we were going to get married before the baby and I said no. Her response was "but the baby will be a bastered" All I could do was shake my head.

haboobjob

@Pam973

JournoGrl23

When my mom told her coworkers one of them who is about my age and pregnant apologized to my mom for me being pregnant. My mom asked why she was apologizing because she's really excited to be a grandmother. The woman said. "Well, isn't she way too young to be pregnant?" I'll be 27 in a month and I'm almost the same age as her!

The worst one was my boss just because of how awkward it was. I told him and he just stared at me in silence then finally asked if I was going to find out the gender. He then proceeded to ask a series of odd questions wanting to know who knew and if I was coming back to work. But every time there was a long pause and a freaked out look on his face.

kat22stl

My fil asked if we needed the name of a good urologist for after the baby was born.

ETA: He's cranky; this is our 3rd. And, not that it is any of his business, but yes, we probably will! Ha!)

jamiesc58

@Pam973 that is the most horrible thing I have ever heard! Bad MIL!!!

cgondek1

@DressageDarling bwahahahaha, oh my goodness! I mean, seriously, who is that affectionate on their wedding day?!

I have been very lucky so far and have not gotten any crazy responses. We have just told family and some friends so far and everyone has been very excited for us and congratulatory.  

I feel terrible for you ladies with these awful MIL responses. That is so rude and sucks the joy right out of a moment that should be so wonderful. 

Snaps816

I'm so sorry to all of you with horrible in-law responses! We haven't told our in-laws yet so now I'm bracing myself for the weirdest/worst. 

MrsB444

Haha!  I love this.

I had 2 or 3 different people ask my if it was an accident?  It shocks me every single time?  What an awful thing to blurt out?   <eye roll>

I also had a male co-worker say "are you sure you should be telling people?  You know that the chances of miscarriage in the first half of a pregnancy is pretty high".  SERIOUSLY?

Thankfully, my mother & mother in law were both over the moon with excitement and made us feel really good. (we've been TTC for years). 

ramoseecology

My coworker started to ask if it was planned and I just cut her off and said "are you really asking that?". She immediately stopped and just said she was happy for us.

MrsAlT68

I think its funny how a lot of people asked or assumed it was an accident, for us its almost the opposite, like a lot of people have seemed really surprised.  Like I didn't wear a T-shirt or anything but pretty much everyone knew we were trying for over a year and for like a year before that that we were getting ready to.  Our worst one (expected) was my FIL "well I guess that's good, if that's what you guys want"  ITS WHAT WE WANT!  he's made comments like that for years and we've always responded very clearly that we do want kids, apparently what we actually want pails in comparison of his projections of his own failures onto us. yippie

kwilliams3402

We haven't really had that many odd responses, except my mother did awkwardly basically ask if the sex got better once we started trying.... AWKWARD.

And for the record, I'm 30 and my mother has never given me the sex talk....

MrsAlT68

Also my brothers girlfriend, who just had his baby in November, she immediately says "did you hold Damien (their new baby) and decide you wanted one?  Yeah, that's what happened, screw the 16 months we were trying before that YOUR baby changed everything for us. 

MSUgrad12

Edit: moved to randoms thread

amandazap

"Congratulations! We miscarried again the day before Thanksgiving..." 

MSUgrad12

Eek

Bubblegum5586

Actually after reading these I remembered more...

So inlaws were over the moon excited when they found out (MIL screamed so loud my 3yo niece starting crying).
FIL asks me "were you trying?"... 
Me: ummm yes...
FIL: for how long?
Me: ummmm a couple months (sooo awkward!!! it was more like 6 months but H doesn't like saying that...)
FIL: You guys are so lucky you got all that fun time trying! We got pregnant each time too fast!

I love my inlaws to death they are amazing and treat me as one of their own.... but c'mon how weird is that convo?! And to have with me, in front of everyone?!

ginger819

With DD we started trying about a month before our wedding. We were super lucky and conceived two weeks before the wedding. We got a lot of was it on purpose? And my mom still lies about what our due date was.

I'm sure we'll get more questions about whether or not we were trying with this one too once we actually announce it.

Snaps816

Bubblegum5586 said:

Actually after reading these I remembered more...

So inlaws were over the moon excited when they found out (MIL screamed so loud my 3yo niece starting crying).
FIL asks me "were you trying?"... 
Me: ummm yes...
FIL: for how long?
Me: ummmm a couple months (sooo awkward!!! it was more like 6 months but H doesn't like saying that...)
FIL: You guys are so lucky you got all that fun time trying! We got pregnant each time too fast!

I love my inlaws to death they are amazing and treat me as one of their own.... but c'mon how weird is that convo?! And to have with me, in front of everyone?!

When my parents came to visit for the first time after hearing the news, my dad goes to greet my DH and shake hands, and says "Way to go DH, you really don't mess around!" It was awkward.

It's such an odd thing with TTC and pregnancy, suddenly aspects of your life that have always been private, such as sex and bodily functions, are conversation fodder. Because we all know that when people talk about "trying" everyone is thinking of them having sex. 

lindsayb1618

My husbands grandmother raised him, she's now 95. When we told her, she said "that's fine". He asked what she meant and she said "well, it's just fine. That's all it can be". Awesome. 

charmedlifex3

My little brother was the most random response. He said "Damn." I said what? His girlfriend yells from across the room "HA! I WIN THE BET!!!!"
They were betting 2015 or 2016 we'd announce. We just got married, we own a house, already have a dog - no one seemed shocked.
Oh, my estranged aunt who I haven't seen (neither has my grandpa or my dad, in fact I'm the only one who she even talks to...) posted this on my FB wall.  At least it's cute randomness!