TB "After Dark"

Megzb510

One of the facebook groups I'm on randomly has fun "after dark" threads with random NSFW questions. I feel like bumping tonight so I figured I'd toss a few questions out there. Feel to to answer all or some or add your own.

Do you do period sex?

Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom?

Sex toys- must have or never tried?

PennStateCait

Sounds like fun!!! Thanks for starting this!

Do you do period sex?
Sometimes yes... Doesn't bother either of us.

Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom?
No, I have such a shy bladder. We used to have our own separate bathrooms in the apartment we just moved out of. That was glorious.

Sex toys- must have or never tried?
Must have! My bff was a Pure Romance consultant. I got so many great deals

beforeyou

I'll play!! 
1. No 
2. Occasionally if we've had too much to drink, but only pee. I'll pee in the bathroom while he's in the shower and vice versa. For some reason its just something we've never really done. 
3. Tried, but not a must have. 

PeggyOlsonFTW

1. Nope
2. Nope. DH likes his bathroom privacy and will not come anywhere near the bathroom if I'm using it. (Unless I'm showering)
3. Have, but don't use. I have no idea where it is post-move.

Speaking of showers.... Shower sex: yay or nay?

beforeyou

PeggyOlsonFTW said:

1. Nope 2. Nope. DH likes his bathroom privacy and will not come anywhere near the bathroom if I'm using it. (Unless I'm showering) 3. Have, but don't use. I have no idea where it is post-move. Speaking of showers.... Shower sex: yay or nay?

Adding on to answer your question
Yay, but our shower is small so its hard to find a great position. 

Megzb510

Do you do period sex? I've done it and not opposed to the idea, but I'm usually I'm pretty crampy and don't like the idea of ruining nice towels or sheets. Bonus is not needing lube/preseed though.

Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom? He definitely has seen me pee but never a #2.

Sex toys- must have or never tried? My hitachi magic wand is a necessity in my life.

LizaKate1213

1. I prefer not to
2. I am bladder shy. I can go as long as he can't actually see me.
3. Have a few but very rarely use them
4. @PeggyOlsonFTW, sometimes but DH is 14" taller than me so lining everything up is...comical?

MamaMunn

I'll play!! 

Do you do period sex? No. DH is like a teenage boy when it comes to anything having to do with periods. Sometimes I get a little desperate and lure him into the shower at the tail end of AF, cause then he will have no idea What he doesn't know won't hurt him, right? 

Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom? No. Some things are just better left unseen. At least for us! 

Sex toys- must have or never tried? We've used them but I don't think they are a must have. Just something we use once in awhile to add something different. 

ETA @PeggyOlsonFTW I love shower sex for a good morning quickie! 

Lecool

This is great, @Megzb510! I always laugh when I see people censor themselves when saying "sex" on here. Obviously, we are all having sex. It's ok to say the word.  An "after dark" GTKY is a fun idea.

Do you do period sex? No. It's one thing that neither of us are comfortable with, so we just wait out AF. 

Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom? We usually keep it pretty private, not because we're embarrassed, but because we both prefer to do our business alone. I remember one vacation we took a few years ago, where we both got drunk and were in the hotel room getting ready to go out for the night, and I sat down to pee and DH just stared at me. He was like, "I've never seen you pee before." and we both busted out laughing.  

Sex toys - must have or never tried? Must have. We use them pretty regularly. I just found out last week that my BFF has never used a vibrator, and I was like:



ETA More questions!

Shower sex: Sure, but it never seems to really work out. Our shower is kind of small so it's more of a logistical issue. haha.

@Megzb510 My Hitachi Magic Wand = WORTH EVERY PENNY 

Megzb510

Shower sex would be fun and we do have a spacious shower but DH is a foot taller than me and we don't have like any handle bars or ledges to accommodate the height difference. I definitely have had it in better arranged showers and it's ok but water can get in your eyes/ears and ruin the moment.

PeggyOlsonFTW

Haha, now I feel like a weirdo bc I hate shower sex! One person is always out of the water and cold!

mrsdee15

Sure, I'll play.
Do you do period sex? On the lighter days sure, on the heavier ones I have a hard time imagining my bloat, all the blood, and something else shoved inside me.

Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom? Absolutely not. I have a hard time peeing in public bathrooms where someone can hear me. It's led to some awkward situations.

Sex toys- must have or never tried? I've had some vibrator type things in the past but none now.

DCHokiemom

Do you do period sex?   No. But not because either of us are grossed out by it, it's more that it's not a horny time of the month for me.  He wouldn't hesitate if I was in the mood. 

Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom?  Pee, for sure.  Number 2, never....that's just weird and gross. I will judge the shit out of anyone who says they are dropping deuces in front of their husband.

Sex toys- must have or never tried?  must have. I have many and have a hard time having an O without.  I have always been that way, just not super sensitive down yonder. 

beforeyou

@lecool your vacation story is so similar to ours. The first time I peed in front of DH was on our honeymoon when we were drunk. For some reason it was the funniest thing ever. 

Megzb510

Lecool said:

Sex toys - must have or never tried? Must have. We use them pretty regularly. I just found out last week that my BFF has never used a vibrator, and I was like:

@Lecool - I am the same way when people tell me they haven't tried a vibrator! It's like damn, let me make some recommendations right now.....

beforeyou

I have a question: 
Ok so for those of you who have watched TGSR- they talk about how its better if DH gets super aroused and excited before DTD... so basically no quickies is what I took away from that.
So, Question: During the WTO period, do you tend to steer clear of quickies? 

QueenSunscreen

I like this idea!

1). We've tried it, but I find no joy in it. I'm usually uncomfortable and worried about ruining sheets.

2). Nope! Not ready for that step yet. Gotta keep a little mystery as long as I can.

3). The toys we have are primarily for my use. He's not that into them. I'd be all for it if he wanted to try something else, but I doubt he'd ever initiate.

MamaMunn

@Megzb510 @Lecool Now you all have me google shopping for a Hitachi Magic Wand! Maybe I can be converted to a full time user  

H4aPartyof5

1) Yes...sometimes I initiate it, and sometimes he does, but neither of us is bothered by it.

2) Yes; number 1 only and usually only if DH happens to walk in unexpectedly.

3) We do have some but use them very infrequently.

wintersong

Megzb510 said:

One of the facebook groups I'm on randomly has fun "after dark" threads with random NSFW questions. I feel like bumping tonight so I figured I'd toss a few questions out there. Feel to to answer all or some or add your own.

Do you do period sex?

Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom?

Sex toys- must have or never tried?

No. Even thiugh I am way horny on my period, it's not for us

Not usually. Although he had to help me go poop when I was in labor with my son. I think it scarred him.

Never tried, tbh. Are these the only two options, lol?

Megzb510

@QueenSunscreen - i think about the sheets too! And I don't want to ruin my hotel collection towels either!

@peachykeen17 - I haven't watched TGSR but we mostly do quickies in general cuz always tired and toddler.

@MamaMunn - it's worth it! It's mentioned in the Sex & the city episode where Samantha returns it to Sharper Image cuz it broke and the clerk is like "that's not a vibrator it's a back massager" and later she uses it to soothe Brady from crying.

Wish there was a gif of that scene but here's another one:

wintersong

PeggyOlsonFTW said:

Haha, now I feel like a weirdo bc I hate shower sex! One person is always out of the water and cold!

Exactly!

MRSCORKER

PeggyOlsonFTW said:

Haha, now I feel like a weirdo bc I hate shower sex! One person is always out of the water and cold!

Yes! This is why shower sex only ever happens on vacation when there's a big fancy shower.

1. No to period sex. It's too messy!
2. Yeah, I pretty much never close the bathroom door and neither does he. If it's serious business we might but whatevs.
3. MUST HAVE. The bullet gets broken out almost every time unless it's a quickly

Marley629

Do you do period sex? No just not our thing

Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom? I could care less but he absolutely is against this lol he locks the door when he brushes his teeth -

Sex toys- must have or never tried? Must have for sure. SO & I like to mix things up. Makes things so much more exciting sometimes. I also highly recommend the wand!

britters314

Do you do period sex? - Toward the end when my period is super light or spotting we do because I can't wait any longer lol. When we stopped using condoms, my husband was hesitant because he didn't want to get all bloody, but I hate condoms so I wouldn't let him use one and now he's okay with it

Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom?
No. And I never will. I also won't keep the door open when I use the bathroom once I have kids. I think it's weird when moms do that.

Sex toys- must have or never tried?
Never tried. We have considered trying some bondage stuff, but haven't actually done it yet.

Shower sex?
We've only done it once and I couldn't get comfortable. Maybe one day when we get a shower with two shower heads. We do shower together quite often, just without sex.

Avoiding quickies during WTO?
Idk if we have ever had a quickie. How quick does it need to be to be considered a quickie? I don't watch the clock, so idk..

britters314

Marley629 said:

Do you do period sex? No just not our thing Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom? I could care less but he absolutely is against this lol he locks the door when he brushes his teeth - Sex toys- must have or never tried? Must have for sure. SO & I like to mix things up. Makes things so much more exciting sometimes. I also highly recommend the wand!

My younger sister did this when we both lived at my parents' and it was the most annoying thing ever! Idk how you deal with it.

PensiveCrayon

Guys, I think this is just what I needed to get me out of my AF feeling-sorry-for-myself slump. Even though my answers are totally lame

Do you do period sex? No

Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom? No, and we are both firmly resolved against ever letting that happen. We don't even fart in front of each other unless it's truly bad.

Sex toys- must have or never tried? Don't use, because we're prudes like that.

Sorry for being the slow n00b, but what's TGSR? But we totally have quickies...a lot. I figure sperm is sperm, haha.

ETA Opinion on Shower Sex: We don't do it as much in this apartment because our shower is sort of a box. But if DH initiates, I go right along with it.

Megzb510

@emilyIRL - the great sperm race. I think it's on YouTube. And I'm glad this thread helped! Sometimes I just wanna bump and all the threads have died down for the night. Plus there were no other crazy threads to comment on tonight!

khbear117

Love this idea!

Period sex - only if we are really horny. I'm not into it because it's messy, he really doesn't care.

Bathroom - If he's in the shower, I can go in to pee and vice versa but that's it.

Toys - Actually have never used any. Boring old sex over here

Shower - I love it BUT it never finishes in the shower. We just can't get the angle down right and end up getting frustrated and spilling out into the bedroom.

I'm with @bcooke314, how fast does it have to be a quickie? I'm not aware of time lapsing when I'm DTD.

fitlady21

I like this idea!

Do you do period sex? Most definitely! My husband could care less and I'm always super horny on my period. My body just can't get it together apparently haha.

Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom?

Yes. We aren't very private

Sex toys- must have or never tried? Not a must have but we use them about twice a week. It keeps things fun and interesting!

Shower sex- yes!!! We love shower sex. We have a big shower and I have to get on my tippy toes and he has to squat down some but we make it work.

OrangeEv

Night bumping! I love it.

1. Yes, once or twice during AF. I have to put a towel down or something.
2. Peeing only yes, we do it with the door open or in front of eachother or whatever! My ornery husband usually chimes in "Good flow babe!"
3. Toys, My husband forced me to get one. Actually he went and got one while I hid in the car. I like it though and we use it sometimes.
4. Showing together makes me SO COLD and I want the hot shower spray all for myself. Sex has tried to happen in there, but the height difference...
5. If a Quicky happens, it usually happens in the AM before work, regardless of cycle status. It's been like that since the behinning.

PrimRoseMama

Do you do period sex?
Occasionally, but I feel like death so usually I just want to be left in peace.

Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom?
We have our own restrooms-- so not usually.

Sex toys- must have or never tried?
I'm a tried & true vibrator fan. I don't care for dildos.

CajunSnowWhite89

This is so fun!

Period sex: no, not our thing.

Bathroom: We'll pee in front of each other but that's it.

Toys: Yes! We use my vibrator just about every time.

Shower sex: also not our thing. I'm very short and DH has a big belly and neither of us really like spending a lot of time showering anyways.

Quickies: I honestly don't think we've ever had a quickie, so its not ever something I thought of. I don't imagine it makes much of a difference though.

NovaSaysNo

Oh fun!

Do you do period sex? No, but that's more a me thing, he doesn't care... and can sometimes talk me into it.

Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom? Peeing is fine with the door partially open, anything else no. He doesn't care at all. 

Sex toys- must have or never tried? Had never tried anything before him (other than solo vibrating). Now, there are so many fun things out there! 

Shower- No, it always ends up like some kind of comedy porn. It just doesn't go well. Foreplay in the shower though, that works. Although he likes the water colder than I do. Apparently I like "lava water."

Quicky- When we were dating and not TTC, we would have quickies along with everything else. Now, just every now and then. He likes to take his time and I'm not complaining.  

sugarpixxie2

Do you do period sex? Yes as long as I'm not cramping and as long as it's not heavy. He doesn't care and if needed I put a towel down

Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom? Only peeing of we've been drinking. I would never drop a deuce in front of him

Sex toys- must have or never tried?

I have a box of them for me. Dh is more tame so they aren't really used when we are together. I do have a question about logistics, of course only for anyone willing to answer..... if you use them together. .... does he use it on you or do you use it ?

Shower sex: no! Logistics make it not sexy. I don't even like showing as friends with dh. Sometimes on vacations in the big shower dh wants to shower with me and I'm all like ugghh do we have to swap out who's rinsing and who's shampooing? Can't we just hang out after?!

Edit for spelling

fitlady21

@sugarpixxie2

I never really use sex toys on my own.. We use them together. And he uses them on me

redheeler

period sex? Doesn't happen here, not because either of us are grossed out by it, but just because we usually can't be bothered.
Bathroom? DH has seen me pee and vice versa, never #2 because I find it weird. DS is always with me though, because well, 2yr old.
Sex toys? Must have
Shower sex? Fine if you can't sort the logistics, DH is taller than me by a fair bit so it doesn't work out

CajunSnowWhite89

@sugarpixxie2 it's a little of both for us. He'll use it on me for foreplay. We don't always use it during the actual sex but if we do I'll usually handle it then.

mrsstuessy

Oh, what fun! I like these questions. 

Do you do period sex? nah. maybe spotting a bit, but not full period. neither of us has any desire to do that. 

Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom? I don't really care if he saw me pee or if I saw him pee, but DH is pretty against it for some reason. whatever. I mean there have been times where I'm sure he got a glimpse. 

Sex toys- must have or never tried? for our anniversary in October, DH bought a Magic Wand... Game. Changer. Seriously. Before that I could take them or leave them. It is fun to add some spice now and then but they didn't rock my world or anything. Since the Magic Wand. Holy cow! @sugarpixxie2DH and I use it together and we both enjoy it. I don't enjoy using toys on myself, or really doing anything to myself. To each their own, it just doesn't really do much for me. So, we always use them on each other.  

Shower sex? not that fun. I have done some fun sexual favors for DH in the shower. but, actual sex is difficult for us to do in the shower. We do like to warm up sometimes before the sex in the shower though, occasionally. 

Quickies? what qualifies a quicky? I think since we had a kid over 2 years ago about 50% of our sex is quickies. That is just all I had in me for awhile and then we kind of just got used to quick sex. We really need to work on that. 

NovaSaysNo

I'll add this to my sex toys answer, every though they're not really toys.
Liberator shapes/furniture. We bought one, and then bought several more. The Esse makes being on top way easier if you have any issues- I have nerve damage in my spine. Life changer. Hello uncharted territory. Nice to penis meet you.

MissAmeliaPond

This is so fun! I just want to say that I am guilty of censoring what I say in other threads, but since this thread is titled "after dark" I won't hold back.

Do you do period sex? Occasionally. On our Europe trip I got my period when we got to Paris and we wanted to have sex in every country we went to. We absolutely ruined some of the hotel's white towels. Oh well!  

Do you let DH/SO see you go to the bathroom? I couldn't care less about #1, but I close the door for #2 (DH is way more modest than I am about bodily functions). I am actually the most embarrassed about him seeing me vomit. I feel like that is the most disgusting bodily function and I don't want anyone to ever look at me whilst purging partially digested food out of my mouth. Icky icky icky.  Not that I vomit frequently! But I have been known to not hold my liquor well. 

Sex toys- must have or never tried? We once tried a vibrating cock ring, but I felt like it just got in the way, so we tossed it. Haven't tried anything else. 

Shower sex - DH is not a small guy and our shower is not very big, so not so much. We also have glass doors on our shower and I'm always afraid we'd break them. I'd actually prefer pool sex, but we've never had a private pool we could use for that purpose. 

Quickies - I get nothing out of quickies so only during FW. 

*Question: what do people think about starting a Weekend Chit Chat thread on Friday nights with some after dark themes? We don't have any Saturday or Sunday threads so I was thinking Weekend Chit Chat might be a good one to have?