I need to vent... sorry...
Obviously this whole process is stressful as it is. Even if you have amazing insurance and supportive family, it sucks. We tried two rounds of IUI and had to cancel due to low motility/count. We decided to take a month off, do uber vitamins and healthiness, and do another SA (no better.) We met with our doc in November to discuss next steps. At that time, he went through the basic IVF process with us. We told him that I'd be cycle day 1 around January 16th and we wanted to get going then. With him counting approximate dates from the 16th, he said we would do transfer around mid-April, barring any issues like OHSS. We said great, he said an IVF nurse would call us. I decided to call the doc the first week of January because I hadn't heard anything and I wanted to make sure we had all our ducks in a row. Turns out, no, we don't, we still need to do a Pre-Conception Panel. But we'd never been called and told that. So we'd spent the last almost two months just twiddling our thumbs when we could have had it done. So now, one week before we want to start, we get to go have more blood drawn. When I told the nurse who called me that this was frustrating since we should have been told WEEKS ago, she said "it doesn't do any good to talk about what's already happened, we just need to focus on next steps." Great, thanks. So we go in the next morning, and she had sent in our PCP orders to the wrong office. So we got to wait for another 20 minutes while they organized everything, meanwhile my DH is getting worked up because he hates blood draws.
Flash forward to Day 1. I was told the IVF nurse would be at the doc to go over my schedule so I go in and the front desk person seems confused why I'm there, and worried that I haven't taken my IVF class. WHAT?! Another thing I haven't been told!? Well, turns out she had her days wrong, so I'm okay. But, surprise surprise, the nurse isn't there to talk to me. I get a call later that day, and she's nicer and all is well.
Today I called to ask about some of the consent forms we have to sign. I also asked about a couple of the procedures that were listed that I had not heard about. She told me when they would occur, which happens to be after retrieval, before I can do the transfer. So that adds an extra month onto our cycle and now we're looking at mid-May. I got upset saying that I didn't understand how we could keep being given incorrect information. I explained that our doc had said we would do the transfer in April, barring complications. We would have been fine if we had originally been told May, but we had April on our mental calendars because that's what we were told. And she has the nerve to say "I feel like you are always really upset when you talk. You need to try to be positive and not be stressed. I know it's hard..." blah blah.
Needless to say, I'm really glad I'm the only one in the office today, because I've been bawling my eyes out and trying to calm down enough to answer some emails. My DH is going to call the doc and let them know how unhappy we are with all of this.
Thanks for reading. Please pray for peace for us.
Faith, trust and baby dust!
Elyse
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Re: Struggles with my doctor
When I first started this journey I loved my RE (still do) but the nurse assigned to me..... Ugh! Every time something new happened or I had a question it was like I was stupid and should know the process, even when we were first starting. My DH finally spoke up and I ended up getting a new nurse on my REs team assigned and it has made all the difference!
I wish you the best of luck and keep us updated on what happens once your DH talks to the dr!
With me they got it wrong ones (last Monday my FET got scheduled on Tuesday, but they emailed me Monday) compared with what you have been enduring, mine wasn't that bad. They fixed it there and then. Got me tissues, a hug and they tried to get me to relax again.
To be told too that you always seem angry and upset is just a horrible thing to say.
Of course you are! This process is already exhausting and stressful, and they should make your journey easy and do-able. They should catch most of the stress and arrange appointments so you don't need to think.
Changing doctors might not be an option, but if it is..do.
You need not to worry about all of this.
I'm wishing you GL on your journey, let's hope this was just s big baby hiccup and the rest will go smooth.
M sending babydust your way!
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Thank you for the support. We usually speak to a different nurse each day, but we have a regularly assigned nurse. DH spoke with the nursing manager who got us a new nurse assigned and will be following up with us tomorrow at our class and consult. We are still going to talk to the doc about how we have not been getting the phone calls we are supposed to have been.
What frustration for you! I hate being made to feel stupid and there are so many tests and technical terms, it's hard to keep straight. I'm glad you got a new nurse and are happier now.
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TTC since April 2013
Two cancelled IUIs in Aug and Sept '15 due to low motility/count
IVF round 1: January 2016
ER: February 17, 2016; 9 retrieved, 7 mature, 7 fertilized
Day 5 Blastocysts: 5 BB, 1 AB, all normal from PGS
FET date: May 11, '16; transferred 1 AB embryo
First beta: May 23, '16: 998!! Second: May 25, '16: 1648
EDD: January 27, 2017
tvh, we may consider changing doctors if anything else gets messed up. At least we have a new nurse.
Baby dust!
---Trigger warning---
TTC since April 2013
Two cancelled IUIs in Aug and Sept '15 due to low motility/count
IVF round 1: January 2016
ER: February 17, 2016; 9 retrieved, 7 mature, 7 fertilized
Day 5 Blastocysts: 5 BB, 1 AB, all normal from PGS
FET date: May 11, '16; transferred 1 AB embryo
First beta: May 23, '16: 998!! Second: May 25, '16: 1648
EDD: January 27, 2017
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---Trigger warning---
TTC since April 2013
Two cancelled IUIs in Aug and Sept '15 due to low motility/count
IVF round 1: January 2016
ER: February 17, 2016; 9 retrieved, 7 mature, 7 fertilized
Day 5 Blastocysts: 5 BB, 1 AB, all normal from PGS
FET date: May 11, '16; transferred 1 AB embryo
First beta: May 23, '16: 998!! Second: May 25, '16: 1648
EDD: January 27, 2017
@KatBH Thank you! I will let you know.
---Trigger warning---
TTC since April 2013
Two cancelled IUIs in Aug and Sept '15 due to low motility/count
IVF round 1: January 2016
ER: February 17, 2016; 9 retrieved, 7 mature, 7 fertilized
Day 5 Blastocysts: 5 BB, 1 AB, all normal from PGS
FET date: May 11, '16; transferred 1 AB embryo
First beta: May 23, '16: 998!! Second: May 25, '16: 1648
EDD: January 27, 2017
Married: 2005
TTC: 2006
Infertility: Male Factor, poor morphology
First IVF/ICSI February 2016 BFN
Second IVF/ICSI May 2016 BFN
Third IVF/ICSI October 2016 BFN
Fourth and final IVF/ICSI December 2016 converted to an IUI for poor response BFN
Fourth and final IVF/ICSI take two, January/February 2017 converted to an IUI for poor response BFN
Fourth and final IVF/ICSI take three, April/May 2017...third time's a charm??
---Trigger warning---
TTC since April 2013
Two cancelled IUIs in Aug and Sept '15 due to low motility/count
IVF round 1: January 2016
ER: February 17, 2016; 9 retrieved, 7 mature, 7 fertilized
Day 5 Blastocysts: 5 BB, 1 AB, all normal from PGS
FET date: May 11, '16; transferred 1 AB embryo
First beta: May 23, '16: 998!! Second: May 25, '16: 1648
EDD: January 27, 2017
---Trigger warning---
TTC since April 2013
Two cancelled IUIs in Aug and Sept '15 due to low motility/count
IVF round 1: January 2016
ER: February 17, 2016; 9 retrieved, 7 mature, 7 fertilized
Day 5 Blastocysts: 5 BB, 1 AB, all normal from PGS
FET date: May 11, '16; transferred 1 AB embryo
First beta: May 23, '16: 998!! Second: May 25, '16: 1648
EDD: January 27, 2017