Monster Babies

kdoak2015

I love my DD to death but honestly feel like I've been given a monster baby lol she is such a crier, fussy pants, pukey little bum most days. Anyone else? I was a colicky baby so it's pay back I guess. Share your monster baby stories so I know it's not just me. If your one of those lucky ones with an amazing baby keep it to yourself this thread is for the cranksters!

blended10

My ds (5) was the EASIEST baby on the planet so I was due for my little diva. Not sure why I thought I'd get lucky twice. Mostly she's awesome (of course) but at night I feel like "wtf have I done? I'm never going to get past this!" She screams like a banshee for at least an hour every.night. Dh & I take turns trying to solve the riddle. Sometimes the 5 s's work, sometimes not, sometimes quiet, sometimes noise. I think she's just as confused as us. Thank gawd I'm an over-producer so I can pump & she'll accept a bottle from others!! With my son I never had my hubby take a "shift" with dd he's had 3 middle-night & a bunch of early evenings!

dec15mum

My LO has his moments, but he's definitely good at being up to mischief even though he's only 4 weeks.
I was in the bath with him and he looked at me with his beautiful eyes and just craps all over me and in covers the bath!
He was too cute I forgave him seconds later

groovylocks

Mine only wants her bepi (pacifier) when she's already screaming too much to get her to take it. She hates being swaddled but won't sleep without being swaddled. She also hates her Moby wrap... But loves being held as if she were in one.

She is contrary. Oh and she also pees on me a lot.

She's not a monster but I feel like she's a class A manipulator. Which is scarier.

wetherbeee

My LO is so bad about his diapers. The second he has a dirty, it's a huge situation and he loses his mind. He can't possibly sit in a soiled diaper! He will scream his head off but once it's changed he's like a new baby! I'm going to go broke from diapers. Pretty sure I change him twice an hour...

keiragann

My LO is so gassy and just screams whenever he passes gas or its just moving through his system. I bounce him, burp him, bicycle his legs, give him grip water, put him in the vibrating chair and nothing. Once a it passes he is so happy and playful and he will sleep good if he doesn't have gas and he is on me but other than that it's crying all the time.

angelicac06

Yay for this thread! Except I don't like how monster sounds however funny enough in a loving way my DW and I call our LO our"monstrito."(little monster) Lol Except he doesn't just do naughty things. Dr. Sears has identified babies like him as "High Needs" baby and I'm okay with that. I've accepted him for being this way and love him just the way he is.

I knew it from day 1 at the hospital! Man he is a crier! Unless he was asleep or nursing he would cry. No one could hold him without him crying.

He's:

*Cranky-isn't afraid to mean mug you lol
*Moody-Has small windows of good mood opportunities
*Attached-Cluster fed from day 1-45.
*Refuses ALL pacifiers
*Still cries unless he's eating or sleeping
*Has to be held a certain way in a certain motion to be soothed.(And its varies daily)
*Will go from 0 to 100 extremely quickly
*If he isn't picked up within seconds after he gets to 100 he will turn purple and stop breathing (very scary)
*Had stomach gas issues until recently
*Will not stay in his bouncer for more than 7 mins unless he's asleep.
*Grunts A LOT for no apparent reason.

Heres an excellent article in La Leche Legue that I could relate to & made me feel.
better. Especially about peoples/family comments that its behavioral. I did NOT "make" aka spoil him this way damn it.

https://www.llli.org/nb/nbmarapr08p11.html

I know theres worse and my dear baby boy has good moments also like sleep. I can't complain too much there. He has 1 long stretch how 3-5 hours and in the past couple days hes given me a second one of 3 hours. I would not trade him for the world.

thatgirlree24

My LO will grunt a few times when he wakes up and if you don't pick him up right away, he cries bloody murder lol

LeggoxMyxPreggo

I would be interested in knowing what the writer meant by "she's still high needs but in a different way."

I was recently accused of spoiling my child by my husband who couldn't soothe him. I tried explaining that just because he was a quiet baby for the first three days of his life doesn't mean I did anything wrong. And that constant threats of taking him to my MIL for a week to "fix it" is not the way to speak to someone.

laurabwalker

blended10 said:

My ds (5) was the EASIEST baby on the planet so I was due for my little diva. Not sure why I thought I'd get lucky twice. Mostly she's awesome (of course) but at night I feel like "wtf have I done? I'm never going to get past this!" She screams like a banshee for at least an hour every.night. Dh & I take turns trying to solve the riddle. Sometimes the 5 s's work, sometimes not, sometimes quiet, sometimes noise. I think she's just as confused as us. Thank gawd I'm an over-producer so I can pump & she'll accept a bottle from others!! With my son I never had my hubby take a "shift" with dd he's had 3 middle-night & a bunch of early evenings!

Omg I feel better someone else is thinking the same thing in the night

ammnam14

Zoe fights her daytime naps. She turns into a devil child when she's tired. Eventually she'll pass out...but only for 15 min at a time and she has to be held. Thankfully she sleeps really well at night but come on girl!!!

I also think she has RBF. Definitely inherited from DH. While I was pregnant he would give me this face that just irked me...well DD gives me the same sarcastic face quite often. Lol

jenEP

Thank you for this thread. My DD is fussy l (eg screaming bloody murder) every night for 1-5 hours. She requires constant soothing until she's ready to sleep at 10:30-12:00. It's exhausting. She's better during the day but only takes cat naps and has been cranky lately. She will pass out when in the car so I have been doing lots of driving.

thatgirlree24

ammnam14 said:

Zoe fights her daytime naps. She turns into a devil child when she's tired. Eventually she'll pass out...but only for 15 min at a time and she has to be held. Thankfully she sleeps really well at night but come on girl!!!

I also think she has RBF. Definitely inherited from DH. While I was pregnant he would give me this face that just irked me...well DD gives me the same sarcastic face quite often. Lol

My son was doing that today. Sleeping in 10-15 min intervals. It was driving me crazy bc by the time he finally fell asleep it was almost 2pm and he had been awake since 8am!

kdoak2015

Monster baby knew I created this thread and has been angel baby all day. She's even having an evening nap which she usually fights. Of course DH is on nights so we don't get to enjoy it together.

Mizuiro007

DD is mostly good. She's certainly easy compared to what we went through with her brother at this age (hubby has admitted to blocking that all out). She just doesn't like to let me sleep. Her crib is by my bed and all night long she grunts and talks and laughs in her sleep as well as wriggling and kicking so she turns cartwheels in her crib. If I do somehow manage to sleep despite all of this, she wakes up crying and screaming like she's wet and starving. I drag myself to the side of the bed and sit up to check on her and she's instantly back to sleep like a precious little angel. Just don't let the mattress springs squeak on the way to laying back down.

kdoak2015

Mizuiro007 said:

DD is mostly good. She's certainly easy compared to what we went through with her brother at this age (hubby has admitted to blocking that all out). She just doesn't like to let me sleep. Her crib is by my bed and all night long she grunts and talks and laughs in her sleep as well as wriggling and kicking so she turns cartwheels in her crib. If I do somehow manage to sleep despite all of this, she wakes up crying and screaming like she's wet and starving. I drag myself to the side of the bed and sit up to check on her and she's instantly back to sleep like a precious little angel. Just don't let the mattress springs squeak on the way to laying back down.

We bought a new mattress for this reason only to find it was the box springs lol

alysa03

wetherbeee said:

My LO is so bad about his diapers. The second he has a dirty, it's a huge situation and he loses his mind. He can't possibly sit in a soiled diaper! He will scream his head off but once it's changed he's like a new baby! I'm going to go broke from diapers. Pretty sure I change him twice an hour...

My youngest brother was like this.... Except he used to freak out BEFORE he was even dirty. Needless to say that kid was the easiest to potty train ever as he did it himself lol

Taylovesbrad

I'm with ya sister. The older he gets the better he gets.

Mizuiro007

alysa03 said:

wetherbeee said:

My LO is so bad about his diapers. The second he has a dirty, it's a huge situation and he loses his mind. He can't possibly sit in a soiled diaper! He will scream his head off but once it's changed he's like a new baby! I'm going to go broke from diapers. Pretty sure I change him twice an hour...

My youngest brother was like this.... Except he used to freak out BEFORE he was even dirty. Needless to say that kid was the easiest to potty train ever as he did it himself lol

DD is like this with wet diapers. She could absolutely care less if she's dirty and just grins at you like she pulled an epic prank when you change her diaper. She's gets the tiniest bit wet, however, and it's armageddon. If she's crying and we can't figure anything else out, diaper won't seem wet but I'll change it anyway and she's fine. It kills me thinking of the wastevening and how expensive diapers are but if it makes her happy...

angetralala

Mizuiro007 said:

My LO is so bad about his diapers. The second he has a dirty, it's a huge situation and he loses his mind. He can't possibly sit in a soiled diaper! He will scream his head off but once it's changed he's like a new baby! I'm going to go broke from diapers. Pretty sure I change him twice an hour...

My youngest brother was like this.... Except he used to freak out BEFORE he was even dirty. Needless to say that kid was the easiest to potty train ever as he did it himself lol

DD is like this with wet diapers. She could absolutely care less if she's dirty and just grins at you like she pulled an epic prank when you change her diaper. She's gets the tiniest bit wet, however, and it's armageddon. If she's crying and we can't figure anything else out, diaper won't seem wet but I'll change it anyway and she's fine. It kills me thinking of the wastevening and how expensive diapers are but if it makes her happy...

^^^ this! It's like she's traumatized every time she pees... But poop is fine. Go figure.

angelicac06

I just need to vent to the ladies here who can commiserate. LO is now 16 weeks and while I thought we was better, I'm starting to think I just learned to cope, soothe, understand him better to lessen the fussiness as oppose to him actually changing. 

Here it goes. 

I miss restaurants. I want him to stay content sitting in his seat long enough to chew my food. 

I miss going to the stores. I want him to stay content/fall asleep if he's tired so I can shop...for him...for me...for the house...for food...for my sanity instead of running for what we went there for and leave in a hurry then go through meltdown s in the car on the way back. I miss browsing around. I miss sitting in the front seat and not next to him to keep him from losing his shit. 

I miss laying in bed. He will not stay even next to me laying down for more than 2 mins!

I miss watching a movie uninterrupted. Any movie. Gone are the days of picking up a Netflix movie and relaxing. 

I miss alcohol. My LO can't go past 1.5 hours without eating still. So no time to pump either since during those 1.5 hours I am walking around/bouncing, singing, dancing or a basic necessity.  

I miss his old sleep. F### regressions.

I want him to take a paci. I want him to nap independently. I want him to sit on my lap and RELAX so I can hold a conversation. 

I want him to STAY STILL! And not have people feel l sorry for me because I have THAT baby. 

I love him to death. DW and I say he was born into the right family because we have the patience of saints with him. I know it will pass. I know this won't go on forever. I just needed to get that out of my chest. 

laurabwalker

You can have a small glass of beer!
i can't really go or do much either, I think that's babies in this age group  

kdoak2015

laurabwalker said:

You can have a small glass of beer!
i can't really go or do much either, I think that's babies in this age group  

Agree, it's just babies in general. I run my ass off at the store, around the house, everywhere so my DD doesn't lose her shit. I sit in the back with her sometimes. Movie, what's a movie? Lol 

ATolentino89

@angelicac06 DS used to have meltdowns when we took him to a store until one day my husband put him in the stroller without the car seat and it was like a switch flipped. He loves it and I can usually get an hour of him just chillin in it before he gets fussy. Also, you can totally still have a drink while bf. I have even had a glass of wine while nursing. If your fine to drive your fine to nurse. 

laurabwalker

Yes don't deprive yourself it's not like you're binge drinking https://www.nbci.ca/index.php?option=com_content&id=27:myths-of-breastfeeding&Itemid=17&limitstart=1

groovylocks

Olive doesn't like it when I eat. It offends her. 

I eat at work. And after 9pm. 

On the upside, bye, remaining baby weight..

BrookeBrown2015

angelicac06 said:

I just need to vent to the ladies here who can commiserate. LO is now 16 weeks and while I thought we was better, I'm starting to think I just learned to cope, soothe, understand him better to lessen the fussiness as oppose to him actually changing. 

Here it goes. 

I miss restaurants. I want him to stay content sitting in his seat long enough to chew my food. 

I miss going to the stores. I want him to stay content/fall asleep if he's tired so I can shop...for him...for me...for the house...for food...for my sanity instead of running for what we went there for and leave in a hurry then go through meltdown s in the car on the way back. I miss browsing around. I miss sitting in the front seat and not next to him to keep him from losing his shit. 

I miss laying in bed. He will not stay even next to me laying down for more than 2 mins!

I miss watching a movie uninterrupted. Any movie. Gone are the days of picking up a Netflix movie and relaxing. 

I miss alcohol. My LO can't go past 1.5 hours without eating still. So no time to pump either since during those 1.5 hours I am walking around/bouncing, singing, dancing or a basic necessity.  

I miss his old sleep. F### regressions.

I want him to take a paci. I want him to nap independently. I want him to sit on my lap and RELAX so I can hold a conversation. 

I want him to STAY STILL! And not have people feel l sorry for me because I have THAT baby. 

I love him to death. DW and I say he was born into the right family because we have the patience of saints with him. I know it will pass. I know this won't go on forever. I just needed to get that out of my chest. 

I too have a monster baby. I wish I had your confidence that it will pass and I wish I had all the love you have and felt like I wouldn't trade him for the world. When he is screaming I often think terrible thoughts wishing he wasn't around. And about giving him away. I feel like if I could, I would trade him for my little cousin who used to live with me. I miss her so much. She's 2 and a half and she lives in another state now. I asked my husband if he wanted to give lo up for adoption and he said he thinks it will get better when he gets older. He won't take a pacifier either. Or nap or sleep independently. He fusses/cries so much my aunt thinks he has some other undiagnosed health problem in addition to his kidney and bladder problems...i don't know. But he is definitely more of a pain in the butt than I ever thought possible. And he was such a chill baby when he was in the nicu. He barely fussed or cried. He tricked us lol. I don't know what happened:/.

ammnam14

I have a pretty chill baby most of the time. When she's tired though you better watch out. She will punch, kick, scratch, scream, you name it. Once she's finally out don't you dare put her down or she'll give you the dirtiest look that burns your soul. Other than that she's generally happy lol. She is a monster when it comes to size though. We're outgrowing size two diapers and already in 6 month clothes!

Mizuiro007

ammnam14 said:

I have a pretty chill baby most of the time. When she's tired though you better watch out. She will punch, kick, scratch, scream, you name it. Once she's finally out don't you dare put her down or she'll give you the dirtiest look that burns your soul. Other than that she's generally happy lol. She is a monster when it comes to size though. We're outgrowing size two diapers and already in 6 month clothes!

The diapers were a shock with DD. Around 13 weeks she was already in size 6 month clothes and went into size 3 diapers. She's wearing stuff of DS's he was in at 9 months old and at 17 months he wears size 4 diapers. He was a small baby with his weight issues but really, she feels huge after him. They also started out the same size at birth.

DD mostly is just having issues from a lip tie. She finally sees a specialist April 12th and I'm hoping it helps. Even with her issues, DS made her seem easy in comparison. Hours of screaming, solid streams of poop and vomit, taking shifts where we'd trade off to let each other take naps. He couldn't help it, he was sick, but it was awful.

ETA It gets better. It will try your soul but it makes you tougher and stronger. Then there's the bond. I feel like going through such an experience and working harder to comfort and soothe and holding them closer with it makes the relationship stronger. I love picking up and hugging my little guy and when I kiss his cheek he melts into me and snuggles. It warms my heart so much it's all been so incredibly worth it.

I also have to add, what makes me feel things are easier with DD is that she has moments of peace. Whether it's because I'm holding her or what she has times when she's comfortable and content. I hated that for the first months DS didn't have that. He was always in pain and I always wanted to make it better. Once I could soothe him and get him a little comfort, that's what made it better. I could do something then and wasn't so helpless.

esscapelle

I just want to say I'm so glad I'm not the only one with a big baby. My DS is in 3-6 month or 6 month clothes, and even some 6-9 month pants. Everyone says he looks like a big baby, blah blah blah. It makes me self conscious all the time! So it's just comforting to know I'm not doing something wrong.

laurabwalker

BrookeBrown2015 said:

angelicac06 said:

I just need to vent to the ladies here who can commiserate. LO is now 16 weeks and while I thought we was better, I'm starting to think I just learned to cope, soothe, understand him better to lessen the fussiness as oppose to him actually changing. 

Here it goes. 

I miss restaurants. I want him to stay content sitting in his seat long enough to chew my food. 

I miss going to the stores. I want him to stay content/fall asleep if he's tired so I can shop...for him...for me...for the house...for food...for my sanity instead of running for what we went there for and leave in a hurry then go through meltdown s in the car on the way back. I miss browsing around. I miss sitting in the front seat and not next to him to keep him from losing his shit. 

I miss laying in bed. He will not stay even next to me laying down for more than 2 mins!

I miss watching a movie uninterrupted. Any movie. Gone are the days of picking up a Netflix movie and relaxing. 

I miss alcohol. My LO can't go past 1.5 hours without eating still. So no time to pump either since during those 1.5 hours I am walking around/bouncing, singing, dancing or a basic necessity.  

I miss his old sleep. F### regressions.

I want him to take a paci. I want him to nap independently. I want him to sit on my lap and RELAX so I can hold a conversation. 

I want him to STAY STILL! And not have people feel l sorry for me because I have THAT baby. 

I love him to death. DW and I say he was born into the right family because we have the patience of saints with him. I know it will pass. I know this won't go on forever. I just needed to get that out of my chest. 

I too have a monster baby. I wish I had your confidence that it will pass and I wish I had all the love you have and felt like I wouldn't trade him for the world. When he is screaming I often think terrible thoughts wishing he wasn't around. And about giving him away. I feel like if I could, I would trade him for my little cousin who used to live with me. I miss her so much. She's 2 and a half and she lives in another state now. I asked my husband if he wanted to give lo up for adoption and he said he thinks it will get better when he gets older. He won't take a pacifier either. Or nap or sleep independently. He fusses/cries so much my aunt thinks he has some other undiagnosed health problem in addition to his kidney and bladder problems...i don't know. But he is definitely more of a pain in the butt than I ever thought possible. And he was such a chill baby when he was in the nicu. He barely fussed or cried. He tricked us lol. I don't know what happened:/.

It's hard to have a baby with health issues it probably will get better as your LO learns new ways to communicate. I felt sad reading your post because I know how difficult it is to adjust to a baby, especially when they cry a lot. My LO won't take anything to soothe her besides the boob, and isn't able to sleep well at all, it's very difficult! I worked in the NICU at one point, and it's quiet in there besides the babies in withdrawal. Most babies in the NICU are somewhat underdeveloped, and it takes time to grow into and they do end up crying etc. Hang in there, I feel for you guys!

Mizuiro007

@BrookeBrown2015 The best advice I was given that got me through the worst times with DS was to lay them down. Even if they're still crying. I would lay him down in the crib where he was safe, clean diaper,  fed. I'd leave the room and I'd just cry. I'd revel in it and get it all out until I felt like I could breathe again. Then I'd go back and pick him up.

When I could get him to sleep I'd just watch him, I still do this with both my babies. I focus on the love I have for my husband and how DS has his hair and eyes and the longest lashes I've seen in my life. I focus on what makes them different. DD has a stork bite. DS is golden blonde but has black eyelashes. That's where I find my love and my center. I think of that warm little body against mine, how it felt in my womb, the movements and being part of me.

ETA oh and it has to get better or you'd see more adults walking around screaming and crying for boob.

ATolentino89

esscapelle said:

I just want to say I'm so glad I'm not the only one with a big baby. My DS is in 3-6 month or 6 month clothes, and even some 6-9 month pants. Everyone says he looks like a big baby, blah blah blah. It makes me self conscious all the time! So it's just comforting to know I'm not doing something wrong.

I feel like since I have such a small baby I am doing something wrong   DS is 13lb 8oz in size 0-3months size 2 diapers swallow him. He's 4 months old. 

Mizuiro007

ATolentino89 said:

esscapelle said:

I just want to say I'm so glad I'm not the only one with a big baby. My DS is in 3-6 month or 6 month clothes, and even some 6-9 month pants. Everyone says he looks like a big baby, blah blah blah. It makes me self conscious all the time! So it's just comforting to know I'm not doing something wrong.

I feel like since I have such a small baby I am doing something wrong   DS is 13lb 8oz in size 0-3months size 2 diapers swallow him. He's 4 months old. 

I think there's a lot in how they carry it. DD was 12 lbs 10oz at her 4 month check but she has a round little belly and thunder thighs. Because he was lanky DS didn't go through sizes very quickly and was seven months before he started in a size 2 diaper. He also didn't break 10 lbs until then and started at 8lb 7 oz at birth. 

laurabwalker

My baby is big and everyone comments on it of course. She's three months and 16lbs, 8.4 at birth. Size 6-9 or 9-12 clothes

esscapelle

@ATolentino89 we're all feeling like we're doing it wrong apparently! I'm sure we'll look back at this someday and be like "I was crazy" to think that.

LaceyH13

Mizuiro007 said:

@BrookeBrown2015 The best advice I was given that got me through the worst times with DS was to lay them down. Even if they're still crying. I would lay him down in the crib where he was safe, clean diaper,  fed. I'd leave the room and I'd just cry. I'd revel in it and get it all out until I felt like I could breathe again. Then I'd go back and pick him up.

When I could get him to sleep I'd just watch him, I still do this with both my babies. I focus on the love I have for my husband and how DS has his hair and eyes and the longest lashes I've seen in my life. I focus on what makes them different. DD has a stork bite. DS is golden blonde but has black eyelashes. That's where I find my love and my center. I think of that warm little body against mine, how it felt in my womb, the movements and being part of me.

ETA oh and it has to get better or you'd see more adults walking around screaming and crying for boob.

My mom gave me a great piece of advice. When it gets to *that* point, just tell yourself : it's my job to keep this baby alive, not keep him happy. Obviously that isn't always true, but for those colicky-meltdown times it really helped me put everything in perspective.

laurabwalker

Sometimes if I'm rocking the baby trying to get her to sleep in the dark and it's been a really rough night, I turn on a light to look at her, it sort of helps remind me of what I'm actually doing, especially when I'm frustrated and exhausted