My husband and I got together when my son was 2.5, he just turned 6 last week. I know he loves him as his own, however, getting closer to the end of the pregnancy I can't help but fear how the change may be. Will it be no different than now? What if he favors 'our' child more and my son feels left out? Naturally I will put an end to it immediately by seeking counseling and such things. I am just wondering if any of you have already been faced with this situation; hopefully I am just having pregnancy fear, or was it a work in progress? Or if some of you have the same fears? I wouldn't have married him if he did not treat my son as his own and love him to death, I guess I am just afraid of the unknown.
Re: Any other STM with husband being a first time dad?
Are your husband and son close?
Actually, DH is more nervous than am I. He's scared that I won't love this baby as much - haha!
It's hard because when you need to baby your baby your toddler definitely needs discipline, it can seem like you are favoring the baby. Even now its difficult because DS1 is having some trouble in school( but its getting better)
We did and do a lot of talking about it to air out any feelings we had, and really make sure we were not favoring. I think he was almost better at including DS1 than I was, with the breastfeeding and sleep deprivation. Now DS1 is 6 and DS2 is 2.5 and you can see there is no difference, he loves them both immensely. DS1 doesnt remember a time without him, and calls him Daddy. Don't stress! It's difficult, but totally doable.