Just wondering what the thoughts are on this subject. I think my son would be bored to tears at home with me all day, so I'm inclined to leave him at the daycare. My husband thinks that he should stay home with me while I'm on maternity leave...what do you think?
Re: STM's: are you planning on leaving your older child in daycare while you're on maternity leave?
Most of the moms that have their kids in daycare (out of my friends and family), keep them in at least part time, so they can have a little bit of a break and the child is not only entertained, but still somewhat on the same schedule (and then they aren't dealing with the child regressing when it comes to drop off and everything when maternity leave is over). They said it was the best decision not only for them (because they had one on one time with the newborn, had a few hour break here and there from the other child, and were able to take a quick nap when LO #1 was away), but it was great for LO #1 to get out of the house, stay on schedule, still see his/her friends, and get away from the baby as well. Almost ALL of those ladies, had a hard time convincing their husbands, because their husbands were thinking about saving the money while wife was home, and not about what was best for both wife and LO #1.
I would say that if you can swing the cost of it, even if you have to drop to part time, do it. My husband knows that unless he plans on taking paternity leave, he doesn't get a say on adding additional work to my day, by keeping LO #1 home, unless he plans on being there all day to help. We may be signing her up for day camps to at least give her something to look forward to, and get her out of the house.
If finances weren't an issue I'd consider sending DD part-time so she could have some socialization and get out of the house, and give myself some down time to rest. I've heard going from 1-2 is a lot harder than having your first, so having some time with just the baby to get on a good routine and sleep when he/she is sleeping might be really great if the financial burden of daycare is not too much. I also would consider biting the bullet and continuing to pay for daycare if we had a spot in an amazing daycare and wanted to hold it (daycare is super hard to find in my area - I've put DD and our new baby on waitlists already 1.5 years in advance).
I actually am really excited to be back home with DD for another year. I love my job and love working, but I also loved my year of mat leave with her. Hopefully I'll love this one just as much!
Oh this is a good point - if my mat leave was 12 weeks or less and I liked my current daycare I'd absolutely pay for the spot to hold it, and if I was paying for it I'd absolutely use it. Maybe not full-time, but I'd use it.
I would hit my hubby over the head if he suggested I have both at home - while he happily escapes to the office eberyday. And I love the crap out of my daughter!
I was feeling kind of guilty about it and that I should be able to handle both, but really appreciate seeing that other mommas feel the same way!
DD #2: EDD July 2016
The thought of recovering from a C-section while taking care of a newborn and trying to keep up with my rambunctious 4 year old that loves to treat me as his personal jungle gym is terrifying. Besides, he's a social butterfly and goes stir crazy if he's at the house for more than a couple days at a time. Even after a weekend, come Monday he's ready to go see his friends. It'll be a win-win situation.
So there's this boy. He kinda stole my heart. He calls me "Mom"
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DS: EDD, December 19th, 2014. Born, December 19th, 2014!
DD: EDD, July 18th, 2016. Born, July 19th, 2016!
Baby #3: EDD, April 16th, 2016
My DD demands everything of me. She loves to play with me. Maybe by the summer she'll play more independently, but I wouldn't count on it. When she's with her school friends, she has a blast. She's always so happy when we pick her up and hugs every single person goodbye. So she loves it. Being home with me and a baby just wouldn't be as stimulating. And I'd like her to keep up with her routine while so much in her life changes.
I do get why for some people a cost savings would make sense, but as others have said, if you want to keep a spot in a daycare you'll likely have to pay to save a spot. This depends on how limited options/daycare spots are where you live, of course. Here it's pretty insane. Waiting lists galore.