Is week 36 too late to have a diaper party?

pibsquared

So I am in this dilemma, baby is due June 11th. I have a lot of male friends and friends with families and we just moved to a house so I want to have a welcome to our new home/diaper party, casual party, with kid activity stuff, beer/alcohol, grilling, etc. I like the weather to be nice so people can hang out on our deck as long as it is not raining. Sadly the month of April is completely out as that is the big month in my husband's job arena (brewery) as there are beer festivals every weekend or collaboration events. So that leaves May but the first weekend is out because that is the anniversary party for the brewery. Since Easter is March 27th, and the 19th I am visiting family, those weekends are out. So basically my choices are March 12th or May 14th. 27 week versus 36 week? Possible snow/rain/sun vs possible rain/sun? Won't have nursery ready vs nursery almost all together. (My mom is coming to help nursery week of March 20th)? Time to get the house together vs rush put together? I really don't expect much gifts and I already have a car seat and in-laws are getting us the crib so the essentials should be here by then, the focus of the party is books and diapers and look at our new house before I become a hermit and hide for several months with baby. 

crdo

I'd say week 27 is safer vs. 36, since it's possible you could already have a baby on your hands at week 36.

Tawny87

I would do 27 weeks. With my girls my best friend made me wait til 31 weeks with my shower, well I was parked in a recliner the whole time since I was on bed rest which sucked, and I had my girls 10 days later...

Boonhilde

All the diaper parties I've been to have been after the baby has come.... I say do whatever you need to and be ready to cancel the plans in case you need to go to the hospital.

I had my shower for my first around 36 weeks and I was TOTALLY still pregnant at the time.

MsBeachNJ

My shower will be when I'm 36 weeks! I want it outside by my parents pool so we're waiting till end of May (my due date is 6/24), I think you'll be fine!

huskypuppy14

I don't really know what a diaper party is. Any party that you host for yourself should not be a gift giving event. A housewarming/last hurrah before baby bbq is fine, but you really shouldn't say anything about wanting diapers or books. It's comes across as tacky and rude. Of course if someone asks if there is anything you want, you can mention those things. 

If you want a bbq outside housewarming party, I would do May or wait until August or September once your baby is a couple months old. It depends where you live though. March in my area would be too risky to try to plan anything outside.

fishwife799

Well most kids stay in diapers till at least 2 years old so I would say as long as you have the party in the next couple years you should be good.

Bear14+

I was in early labor with my son at 36 weeks. Admitted a few days later at 36+6 and he was born the next day at 37 weeks. I had a normal uncomplicated pregnancy, he just came early. So knowing what I know, it would be too close.

scotten

fishwife799 said:

Well most kids stay in diapers till at least 2 years old so I would say as long as you have the party in the next couple years you should be good.

My thoughts exactly. I have a two year old still in diapers - and I would love a diaper party. Pampers Cruisers size 6, please!

AmberLiz99

I would be ok with 36 weeks personally. My baby shower for my first was around 34 weeks I think. Some friends threw me a surprise brunch at 38 weeks with dd. Of course anything could happen, so just be ready to be flexible

vulpini

My son was born at 34 weeks, a week before my shower would have been. 27 is definitely safer for a shower and you'll be more comfortable and enjoy it more. Also, don't throw your own shower, even if you're calling it a diaper party. You're still asking for gifts (and very specific ones at that).

alysemci

diaper parties are common for guys. They bring the diapers, you supply a bunch of alcohol and food and they get plastered. It's not considered tacky or rude like throwing your own shower would be. My husband was in the Marine Corps and all the guys did it. He got out by the time we had our first child so his best friend and I planned it and surprised him with all his closest marine corps friends flying in from all over the country (and some out of country) and the guys went out to eat at his favorite ale house, then out to his favorite dive bar. All the Marines that flew in stayed at our house for the week and I'd say it was one of the best weeks of my husbands life. We did this when I was 7 months pregnant. I'd prefer earlier rather than later in my pregnancy if I were you but it's all in what you're comfortable with. That being said, one of his best friends is deploying in July so he's coming to stay with us for a week in June and it looks like it might be the week of my due date or the week after haha. What can you do, right? He's family to us and I don't mind

Sydvicious08

27 weeks. I missed my shower (had DS the day before) and had a cousin go into labor at hers. Both were 36/37 weeks....better see than sorry

little_bren

Agree that a gift giving shower shouldn't be given by you even just diapers.

CopperLane

I think 36 weeks is reasonable. It's hard to work around weather and work schedules sometimes. We are pushing it with our Babymoon due to work schedules.

carrieandbabybean

I think a diaper party is just fine.  They're being fed, entertained, etc.  If the cost of admission is a bag of diapers and a book, so what!  They're you're friends and they want to help you.  They shouldn't judge you (but if they do, they're crappy friends).

scotten

carrieandbabybean said:

I think a diaper party is just fine.  They're being fed, entertained, etc.  If the cost of admission is a bag of diapers and a book, so what!  They're you're friends and they want to help you.  They shouldn't judge you (but if they do, they're crappy friends).

Speaking of "cost of admission":

I had a male friend in college whose girlfriend was having a baby. He and his friends hosted a house/frat party to celebrate, and the cost of a solo cup (for the keg) was a pack of diapers.

He didn't have to buy diapers for nearly two years. 

KayDray15

huskypuppy14 said:

I don't really know what a diaper party is. Any party that you host for yourself should not be a gift giving event. A housewarming/last hurrah before baby bbq is fine, but you really shouldn't say anything about wanting diapers or books. It's comes across as tacky and rude. Of course if someone asks if there is anything you want, you can mention those things. 

If you want a bbq outside housewarming party, I would do May or wait until August or September once your baby is a couple months old. It depends where you live though. March in my area would be too risky to try to plan anything outside.

Diaper parties are becoming very popular, and are not at all tacky or rude. They are a great way to have a co-ed baby party. It is also common for the father to have one with just the guys while the mom has a Shower with the ladies. It is the parental equivalent of having an early 20's keg party and charging $5 for a cup. They give you diapers, you give them food and beer, and have a FUN get together with friends. (oh my goodness, some people still try to just have good old fashion fun while planning for baby! Gasp!)

To OP:
You should be fine, as long as you don't mind the possibility of your guest of honor making an appearance! 

huskypuppy14

KayDray15 said:

huskypuppy14 said:

I don't really know what a diaper party is. Any party that you host for yourself should not be a gift giving event. A housewarming/last hurrah before baby bbq is fine, but you really shouldn't say anything about wanting diapers or books. It's comes across as tacky and rude. Of course if someone asks if there is anything you want, you can mention those things. 

If you want a bbq outside housewarming party, I would do May or wait until August or September once your baby is a couple months old. It depends where you live though. March in my area would be too risky to try to plan anything outside.

Diaper parties are becoming very popular, and are not at all tacky or rude. They are a great way to have a co-ed baby party. It is also common for the father to have one with just the guys while the mom has a Shower with the ladies. It is the parental equivalent of having an early 20's keg party and charging $5 for a cup. They give you diapers, you give them food and beer, and have a FUN get together with friends. (oh my goodness, some people still try to just have good old fashion fun while planning for baby! Gasp!)

To OP:
You should be fine, as long as you don't mind the possibility of your guest of honor making an appearance! 

If you're out of college you are too old to charge your friends admission to your party. Just because people do it doesn't mean it's not tacky. Of course you can have a fun day/night with your friends, but you don't throw a gift giving event for yourself.

I don't know you, so I don't care what you do. I'm actually just trying to help, because people will judge, and it doesn't mean they're bad friends. No one with any tact will actually say anything to your face though. So they may not like it and you'll never know.

KayDray15

Wow. Ya know what I think is tack and rude, how often women in these groups tell other women something is tacky and rude! 

No. Most people will not judge you. Actually, quite the contrary, most people like being able to pop into a store for two minutes and grab a pack of diapers and not have to stress about getting the perfect gift. I have been to a ton of diaper parties, and have never heard anyone say anything about them being rude.

We don't live in the 1920's anymore. Times, they are ah-changing.