baby being strange with others

ecruick

My baby is 4 months old and the past week or so is screaming in any one else arms or company apart from me or her dads. Especially my mother in law and my dad. Anyone elses little one doing the same? This is just new she is usual very social and MIL is making a big deal about it.

addaelizabeth

Yes! My baby is 17 weeks today and has been doing the same thing! It seems to be just around male relatives. She is all smiles and I pass her off to our Uncle and she starts screaming acting like he is hurting her. Same thing with my FIL and grandpa. My Uncle and grandpa watch her a couple hours each day and so it has been extremely hard leaving her. Hoping this passes soon!

Sully3302

My LO is 17 weeks and has been doing this for 2 weeks... Since she started the 4th leap

ecruick

Yeh my baby is 19 weeks and it has been going on a few weeks. My MIL is making a big deal and trying to pass the blame that it is because i am "comfort feeding" her, whuch cant be far from the truth and is a low blow xxx

shelbydd

20 weeks here and it's happening for us, too. LO stayed with my mom for a couple of hours so I could run an errand yesterday and when I got back to pick him up he was screaming bloody murder. Turns out he had been doing it off and on the entire time I was gone. I'm actually really relieved to see this post, I'm a SAHM and outside of the very occasional time my mom watches him when I can't take him with me, which has been maybe 5 or 6 times his entire life and never for more than 3 hours, I ALWAYS have him. I was beginning to worry maybe I wasn't socializing him enough or something.

troopersmom

Yes. My guys 21 weeks and been doing this the last 2 weeks or so. It's sad because it makes my parents feel bad. They are around him daily- but he's still screaming if anyone other that my husband or I hold him. Hope it stops soon.

chelseajeanene

I think it's because they're getting to the stage where theyre really starting to notice who people are and that it's not "Mommy or Daddy" that's holding them. The 4th leap suggest they'll become clingy so I think this should pass too. My LO has been clinging to daddy lately and when my mom comes to see him (she's around the most besides my DH and I) he's not acting the same with her either. He's no necessarily crying but he's kind of cold face and irritable now. She used to be his favorite lol

barrelocarol

I agree with the leap into posted above. The CDC (they have great development info) suggests that when babies do this, it's because they are learning to differentiate differences and distance.

They may not know true distance (I'm separated from Mommy) until about a year and a half, but this is a precursor.

sdheft619

Anyone having this problem with DH? Last night (and a few times before) she wants to cuddle with me when we are getting her ready and calm for bed. I felt bad-for her and DH-because when she was with my husband she was just crying and as soon as he gave her to me she settled right down.

I am primary caregiver but as soon as he gets home he grabs her up, will change her and do anything but feed since I BF.

emzrankin

My baby is still a daddys girls...just not for anyone else at all! Today i have had such a happy, giggly, bubble blower and as soon as we went to my MIL's her face was serious the whole time and wasn't for being held by anyone but me or her Daddy. Hope it passes xx

momma2char

My daughter screams at everyone that's not me, my husband or my sister (she loves her auntie!). She screams with my parents, my husbands parents and my husbands siblings! We went to my nephews 5th birthday party on the weekend and once we got her out of the car seat and she saw how many people were there, she screamed bloody murder until we packed her up to go home!

mamadeez

My son loves his grandparents and is usually super social. 17 weeks. I went to a friends little brothers birthday party and my SO took our son out to dinner with his parents. Usually it's no problem taking him out to eat so I thought they'd have an easy time. A stranger came up to see him and instead of his usual flirting he screamed and screamed and screamed.

JenLovesDesign

Mine does this with my MIL.  She watches her when I'm working, so it's horrible.  We actually handed her back and forth, she would cry for mil, then stop crying immediately when I took her back.  Mil started calling her a manipulator,  gtfo! 

squigles28

So....yeah my LO did this yesterday! I felt so bad because my family was really looking forward to time with her. And she screamed and cried non stop.
She was definitely tired from the trip, etc. I also think she doesn't want to be held and cuddled, she wants to play and they just weren't used to it yet.

amp61470

I am not sure if I am just lucky but at 20 weeks we haven't had this issue at all. He loves everyone he is around so far. Sleeps through the night really only cries when he is hungry or if he is overtired.