I am feeling pretty down.. I have a teenage daughter (15) whom is depressed, has anxiety, as well as ODD. And she cuts. She is quite the handful, to the point she will not stay in her classes. When she breaks a house rule and is giving the consequences she will take off to the nearest bridge(to jump) .. I have the cops at my house on a wkly bases who escorts her to mental health services .. She is released back into our care within 1-2 hrs after.
She refuses to talk to both hubby and I . However she has 8 people she connects with whom all conderdict each other. She is not really getting any help, nor is she engaging in getting help. No one will any one give me a heads up due to confidentiality. Which is rather frustrating .
I am at my wits end, and I am really close in calling child services and putting her into foster care. My family of 5 is walking on egg shells daily hoping to not set off my 15 yr old. My toddler is witnesses these out bursts and she shouldn't be.. We remove her from the house it's it get too bad.
A few nighs ago she was suppose to return home from crisis, and go straight her room to give us all some space and cool down.. Instead she stood in my room screaming at myself and her father. Waking up her younger sister.. I asked her to go to her room and relax and she refused .. We called the cops, and she was arrested. She Spent the in jail.
I feel horrible .. But my mental health as taken a serious down turn due to all this. I am on two different kinds of meds to help me cope.. Getting out of bed in the morning as become a chore.
She had told crisis that both her father and I have been taunting and teasing her.. Which we have not been.. That would be just horrible.. We are trying to help her and she will not allow us to. She turns all of our positivity into negativity and its draining .
She has just recently taken two razor blades to school. Where she cuts.. And school phoned me to inform me that if she is caught with more she is suspended.. I don't know how to approach this, do I ground her or ignore it.. If I ground her she will just take off to the bridge.
Sorry for the long post, I feel like I have failed as a parent somewhere down the line..
I'm not a troll, I just signed up to vent this off my chest..
Re: Failed mom
This article might help. I'm sorry your family is facing such a stressful situation.
Five yrs ago) that she told us. As well told the therapist that we threatened to sue the school.. Which then child services was notified leading to an open case with them now. To clairy we just found this out last spring .. After finding out I communicated with the counsellor at the school (did not threaten to sue) , took my Daughter to a Dr. , then notified the counselling services my daughter was working with so they can discuss it further and help her get the help she needed. As well a police report was done just recently .
I also found out today that my privacy doesn't fall under the privacy act apparently . My history of counselling for my Own mental health (7yrs ago) has been opened with out my approval.. And then I was blamed for my daughters behaviour.
I have taken care of my mental
Health so I can properly care Fort children.
My daughter was suppose to be dishcharged this Thursday, but I'm
Not ready for her to come home and I voiced this to the hospital.. I'm drained emotionally. So we don't know if we lost our daughter to child services at this point ..
Part of us wants to surrender her to child services , and a part of us doesn't want give up on her.. She doesn't want us in her life anymore. I no longer know what to do. I am
At a loss .
Thanks for listening .
Im in ontario
That said, I do not think you failed as a mom. There are a lot of influences in a teens life, you are just one of them. And at some point, she's going to have to take charge of her life and grow as an adult. I hope things get better from here.
She had decided this evening that she does not want to be here.. And child services will be notified. It looks like she may be headed to foster care.
Feel free to PM me if you wanna chat.
This is isn't a reflection on you, however hard that may be to believe...
Thanks ladies for all Input.