Weekend Randoms

GAgirlinSDakota

I'm just giving this a try.  Sometimes I have crap I want to tell y'all about, but it's not worth making a new post for or seems a little "dear diary."  I figure others might, too.  So I'm going to try posting a randoms thread a few times this week to see how it goes.

As for me, SO is driving me bonkers.  Six days until my C-section and he's all fidgety and stuff.  If he drums on one more thing I might break all of his fingers.

ambercakes92

Absolutely dear diary here, but this pic was from yesterday at 1 week old. I just think it's the cutest

GAgirlinSDakota

ambercakes92 said:

Absolutely dear diary here, but this pic was from yesterday at 1 week old. I just think it's the cutest

OMG! She's gorgeous! 

cali1710

My stretchmarks have turned into a weird rash. I originally thought it was maybe sensitive and my detergent was causing it. I go see my OB tuesday so I'm going to ask him about it. Its so itchy! Like poison ivy!

@ambercakes92 shes beautiful!! Congrats !

ambercakes92

GAgirlinSDakota said:

ambercakes92 said:

Absolutely dear diary here, but this pic was from yesterday at 1 week old. I just think it's the cutest

OMG! She's gorgeous! 

---qbf--

Awww shucks, thank you!

Also, is anyone else already hearing phantom crying!! The few minutes I spend alone in the bathroom I swear I hear crying, but she's totally fine when I get out!

GAgirlinSDakota

Yes to the phantom crying.  Well, not yet this time around, but I heard it with all my others.  Drove me crazy.

carlyhammond

Holy crap I feel like I've been hit by a bus today!
I really hope this is just exhaustion and not me getting sick

kwentela

@cali1710, sounds like PUPPP rash! Definitely mention it to your doc, they might give you a steroid cream or some other remedies, a few girls on here have mentioned they have gotten it as well. Hope it goes away soon!

mamabear89071516

I want to have my baby. False labor yesterday got me all excited and now I'm just feeling dumb for getting so excited but not knowing it wasn't real. I've had sex with my hubby, and took the dog for a long walk in 6inches of snow during a snow storm. Now hubby got called into work and I'd just like labor to start for real so he will come home. Ughhh

Ebiejay

I want to clean! I'm itching to nest, I finally have energy, and my husband keeps stopping me and trying to get me to play Diablo 3 with him. All I can do is look around my living room and despair at the bomb site!

cali1710

kwentela said:

@cali1710, sounds like PUPPP rash! Definitely mention it to your doc, they might give you a steroid cream or some other remedies, a few girls on here have mentioned they have gotten it as well. Hope it goes away soon!

Oh thanks Ill check it out for sure!

EC2016

I broke down in tears over the idea of having an induction and feeling like a failure before I've even started. The rational part of me knows many many women get induced, but I had just hoped I could do this naturally. My emotions are just out of control right now.
@GAgirlinSDakota I can relate to being annoyed with your husband. Everything he does today is getting on my nerves. I think our husband's are also probably anxious and just don't want to say anything to make us more anxious.

MissMheMhe

MIL came over and has been on my nerves. All. Day. She woke the baby up and he was crabby. She was telling me he needed to eat even after he was on my boob for an hour. She's telling me I should put him on his stomach because he'll sleep better and that Dr's don't know what they are talking about being safer to sleep on the back. Aaarrrgggg.

GAgirlinSDakota

@EC2016 Fortunately, he decided to use up his restlessness by baking.  There are currently 2 loaves of honey buttermilk bread, a loaf of banana bread, and a chocolate cake sitting in my kitchen.  He also made and froze pizza dough AND (mostly) cleaned up the kitchen.  He was adorable and hilarious puttering around the kitchen in a frilly apron.  He even kept the toddler busy "helping".

GAgirlinSDakota

In other news, I have been the laziest mom ever today.  Far too much Blue's Clues on the TV, cheez-its out of a bowl on the floor, and the toddler is still in his pjs.  I do have one of those fruit/veggie pouches for toddlers left (spinach, squash, pear) and he'll get that and cheese for supper.  3hrs until bedtime.  Where is my Slacker Mom trophy? 

EC2016

@GAgirlinSDakota at least you won't be hungry! Cake sounds yummy...

GAgirlinSDakota

Ugh! Apparently I really needed this thread today.  I'm about 30 seconds away from rehoming (not really!) my dog.  First it was the constant lick lick lick, then when I'd tell him to knock it off, he'd go in his crate and sulk.  The last few days he's gone in there to sulk around 5pm and just gone to sleep, only to get pissy and whiny when I close the door at 10pm.  This leads to whining and crap at 7am (b/c he's been in there too long), when the toddler sleeps until 8:30, so my butt is NOT getting up. 

So, today I shut the crate door around 4pm and he's not happy with me.  He's pacing the house, licking my feet, up my ass constantly, and any time I get up he runs to his crate.  He refuses to use his second bed that's in the living room (usually his fave spot) and is instead laying on a bed made out of my shoes.  He's lucky the toddler and SO love him so much.

ETA: And now that I've kicked him off the shoes, he's sitting right in front of me, giving me sad puppy eyes and doing that English bulldog snuffle.

PedsIsHardcore

MissMheMhe said:

MIL came over and has been on my nerves. All. Day. She woke the baby up and he was crabby. She was telling me he needed to eat even after he was on my boob for an hour. She's telling me I should put him on his stomach because he'll sleep better and that Dr's don't know what they are talking about being safer to sleep on the back. Aaarrrgggg.

I would totally tell her off! OMG!

I am a very mean awful negative Nancy today. SO and I went to pick up 2 boxes of formula so we have over a months worth when baby gets here. One Target was out so we went to the nearest one and there was a lady with her 2 kiddos completely blocking the aisle. Other people, along with us, had to back up and go some other way to get to what we needed because sitting and talking to people while blocking an aisle is more important than being a considerate person. This is one of the way bigger aisles no less so most of the time 2 people with carts can pass by each other but she had her cart completely across the aisle. I was livid. I am uncomfortable, I hurt, I can't breathe as well, I'm tired, I'm 9 months pregnant and the list goes on. We got the formula and booked it out of there. I am not leaving our home unless I am going to the doctor now. I have no patience or tolerance.

BarrettJ89

I wish I could detach my boobs. Seriously... between the fact that my child wants to be leach, they are swollen, bruised, scabbed, bloody, and so on, as well as the fact that the headlights won't turn off? Eff this. I'm also extremely lopsided... and I have to wear a shirt because SD is here. I know it's a sweet bonding thing and it's great for my health and the baby's, but breastfeeding sucks.

I'm also beyond overwhelmed. We are looking for a new house that my parents will but and we will rent from them. Awesome, except, not 4 days after a baby and 5 days without sleep. I can't comprehend anything! And taking the newborn and the toddler out to viewings is a royal pain in my ass.

carlyhammond

PedsIsHardcore said:

MissMheMhe said:

MIL came over and has been on my nerves. All. Day. She woke the baby up and he was crabby. She was telling me he needed to eat even after he was on my boob for an hour. She's telling me I should put him on his stomach because he'll sleep better and that Dr's don't know what they are talking about being safer to sleep on the back. Aaarrrgggg.

I would totally tell her off! OMG!

I am a very mean awful negative Nancy today. SO and I went to pick up 2 boxes of formula so we have over a months worth when baby gets here. One Target was out so we went to the nearest one and there was a lady with her 2 kiddos completely blocking the aisle. Other people, along with us, had to back up and go some other way to get to what we needed because sitting and talking to people while blocking an aisle is more important than being a considerate person. This is one of the way bigger aisles no less so most of the time 2 people with carts can pass by each other but she had her cart completely across the aisle. I was livid. I am uncomfortable, I hurt, I can't breathe as well, I'm tired, I'm 9 months pregnant and the list goes on. We got the formula and booked it out of there. I am not leaving our home unless I am going to the doctor now. I have no patience or tolerance.

Uhm nope, I would ask the lady to move.
I'm actually one of the worst people to go shopping with. I'm obnoxious - if people do stupid stuff like that OR walk slowly, I will go up behind them and tell them they aren't the only people in the store and they need to move...
People have stopped going shopping with me.... I wonder why

hannahduff3

My uncle died a couple days ago and today was the funeral. I didn't think I would be effected as much as I was. I'm mentally physically emotionally exhausted and sad. I can't help but just want my baby to come now (due 1/30) to give us a little happiness.

carlyhammond

Weekend self pep talk-

Carly, you are an awesome human being... That last statement was a little conceited, but you are awesome! You've never been afraid to do things before, never been the one to back down from a challenge... So why are you afraid to drive with Denver in the car? Well yes, people in spartanburg don't know their ass from their elbow when driving and the fact that you can't see him while driving.. God forbid he starts crying and you get distracted.... But seriously! You have got to get over this, if you don't then you will never go anywhere and if you don't leave the house then imagine how pale and pasty you will get, Denver will get bored and for christs sake you can't depend on people to always be available to drive you around so that you can ride in the backseat to watch Denver...

Suck it up buttercup, you didn't pay that car off for nothing...
Tomorrow you shall go somewhere!



Edit: I didn't drive today
I copped out, called my mom and she drove us to target...
There's always another day.

GAgirlinSDakota

Hell just froze over. SO just texted me something slightly erotic that he plans to do to me when he gets home in 20ish minutes. The man has almost no sex drive (we have to schedule that shit with meds.) He's a once per monther and I'm up for it twice a day, so this is a big deal. Yay! Extra sex and off schedule! This is what passes for a wild side here.

carlyhammond

My child is rebelling against sleep.
I'm exhausted, SO is exhausted, LO is exhausted.. Soo why are we all still awake?!
Goodness I can barely keep my eyes open - kid go to sleep!

failuretofly

GAgirlinSDakota said:

Ugh! Apparently I really needed this thread today.  I'm about 30 seconds away from rehoming (not really!) my dog.  First it was the constant lick lick lick, then when I'd tell him to knock it off, he'd go in his crate and sulk.  The last few days he's gone in there to sulk around 5pm and just gone to sleep, only to get pissy and whiny when I close the door at 10pm.  This leads to whining and crap at 7am (b/c he's been in there too long), when the toddler sleeps until 8:30, so my butt is NOT getting up. 

So, today I shut the crate door around 4pm and he's not happy with me.  He's pacing the house, licking my feet, up my ass constantly, and any time I get up he runs to his crate.  He refuses to use his second bed that's in the living room (usually his fave spot) and is instead laying on a bed made out of my shoes.  He's lucky the toddler and SO love him so much.

ETA: And now that I've kicked him off the shoes, he's sitting right in front of me, giving me sad puppy eyes and doing that English bulldog snuffle.

I totally feel you on the dog annoyance! I think it's a combo of him being anxious that's something's up and me being irritable but he just sits and STARES at me all sad looking all day everyday. And when he's not doing that he's pacing around the house and all I can hear is his nails clicking on the laminate! Plus everytime I get up from the couch or table he jumps up and sprints at me like something really important is no it to happen and I'm like just chill dog!

EC2016

I currently have pregnancy insomnia and I've been up for over 2 hours. I'm also starving but can't eat for another 3 hours. This is fun.

ambercakes92

EC2016 said:

I currently have pregnancy insomnia and I've been up for over 2 hours. I'm also starving but can't eat for another 3 hours. This is fun.

Why can't you eat?

I'm currently holding baby after nursing so that she falls asleep. It took over three hours to nurse her and put her back down by 1am, and I was so exhausted that I cried! I'm still super tired, and this girl keeps fluttering her eyes open! Sleep, for goodness sake!!

Cricket99

It is a poonami in my house! OH MY GOD! How can a less than 7lb baby make so much poo?!?!? Seriously guys, we are going through 20-25 diapers a day. He poops when he sleeps, so we change him before he feeds, then he poops right after I feed him, sometimes during! At 10-12 feedings a day the diapers add up. At least the explosive fart noises when he poops are funny (he farts louder than his dad...). At this point I'm considering buying stock in Pampers

carlyhammond

I'm ashamed and mad at myself...
For the first time in three weeks I got fusterated with my child.....
He cried off and on all night, refused to sleep, if he did sleep it was on me - I would put him in his bassinet and he'd wake up...
I was awake all night, SO finally took over at 6am and I fell asleep hard.... (SO went to work at 7:30am) LO woke up at 10 hungry and with a wet diaper.. Naturally he cried.... I got so fusterated with him...

I'm so tired! I just want to sleep, I wish there was someone I trusted to watch him for a few hours so I could sleep... I feel guilty for even thinking that. But I literally can't see clearly, my head hurts, my eyes feel like there's sand.

Those high school all nighters back in the day were a cake walk compared to dealing with a crying baby all night and not being able to sleep it off the next day.

Here's to hoping he passes back out for a few hours...

Edit:
I mean, how can I get upset with this face?! (Yes he fell back asleep after eating, I'm just scared to put him in his bassinet )

GAgirlinSDakota

@carlyhammond It's ok. It sucks, but it really is alright. It won't be the last time you are frustrated (or maybe even angry!) with him. Just remember, if you get to that point when you are by yourself, it's alright and mentally healthy, to put a crying baby down in a safe place and take 5 minutes to walk away. Wash your face, get a drink, scream into a pillow, or step outside on the porch. Whatever will rebalance you for a bit.

GAgirlinSDakota

Not sure if I'm making sense. Just woke up.

Monilee1017

I agree with PP. If you know the baby is safe, changed, and fed it's ok to put him somewhere and take a moment to yourself. Your sanity is important for baby.

GAgirlinSDakota

I almost feel bad now talking about how my toddler slept from 8pm to 10am.  I'm sure it will screw his entire day though.  Have hope!  He was one of those babies who refused to be put down ANYWHERE for the first month or so, and now he does a solid 12+ every night.

kqualls5

I know EDDs aren't an exact. I know your first child is rumored to go over 40 weeks. But. For 32 weeks I have been dreaming about January 17th. I guess that's my bad for getting so in my head about a specific date, but at one appointment I was told that he was measuring a little ahead but not enough to give me a new due date, so of course I'm an idiot and had in my head that I'd have him here by the 17th.

Well. Still not dilated. My cervix has softened but I'm not sure if I'm effaced because she didn't say that. And I swear he's moved back up into my ribs this morning after dropping 2 weeks ago.

January 17th went from being the most exciting day to my least favorite day.

SDaniels19

@kqualls5 I feel you... I was due Jan 14, and even though I've tried to mentally prepare myself the entire pregnancy that he would likely go past that since this is my first, it's entirely different once you actually get to/past "the big day"..

Also, my niece and nephew who I'm very close with were born Jan 24 and 27 so now I'm afraid he'll be too close to their birthdays and I won't have a chance to really celebrate with them from here on... Which is probably a silly concern, but that's pregnancy for you!

kqualls5

@SDaniels19 I mean I'm glad you feel me but I'm sorry you're dealing with it too! Maybe we should've just taken a week from our due dates and told ourselves that that was our EDD lol.

I feel you also on the birthday thing. Only the farther away from my actual due date the better. My moms was the 7th, my nephews was the 16th, and my sisters is the 19th. Next time I decide to have a baby I need to plan for the birth month to be in like March. Haha.

GAgirlinSDakota

I feel better about my parenting today.  The toddler still watched too much Max and Ruby or Blue's Clues, but he ate real food and made it out of his pjs.  We even managed a bath.  I'm calling it a win.

MissMheMhe

@carlyhammond  I've been there as well. I've only done it once since DH went back to work this past week, but one day I was so overwhelmed, I put him in his crib, which he already doesn't like, and jumped into the shower and just cried and cried. I needed it. I was still exhausted when I got out, but having gotten the tears out I felt recharged and ready to help my son figure out what he needed. He hadn't fallen asleep while in his crib, but he had exhausted himself enough so we both could pass out for a couple hours.
Good luck!

GAgirlinSDakota

@carlyhammond

I have a short story that might make you feel less alone in your frustration (and anyone else who is dealing with it) though I doubt you'll make it to this point.  With my first baby I had just barely turned 20yrs old.  My H deployed 4 days after he was born.  My parents lived 45 minutes away, but I saw asking for help as weakness.  For days all ds1 did was cry and refuse to be put down.  In the space of 4 days, I'd had a total of 3.5hrs of sleep.  I was mentally fried. 

Then one night it happened: I hit a point where my frustration and exhaustion was dangerous.  I was so flucking ANGRY at that tiny baby for not sleeping that I actually pinched him!  I pinched him right where his diaper met the top of his thigh.  I immediately felt so much horror at what I'd done.  I put him down and ran to puke my guts out, called my mom to come help (midnight), and then sobbed and sobbed apologies as I rocked and soothed him.  Mom took us back to her house and stayed up all night with the baby while I slept.  I still feel horrified when I think of it, and it was 13yrs ago this month.

No one had ever told me it was okay to walk away from a crying baby for a minute.  No one warned me how alone and frustrating it would feel every night.  No one told me that just 5 minutes to re-center myself was something I should or could do.  I could have seriously hurt that precious little boy that night, so I want to make sure EVERYONE who reads this knows just how important taking those few minutes is.  I learned the hard way, and I've never hit that level of anger (with my babies) again. 

I'm not sure how I feel about putting this out there, but I hope it helps someone.

carlyhammond

@GAgirlinSDakota
I'm sorry you reached that point!
I too see asking for grok as a weakness, I HATE asking people to drive me places because I feel like a burden. Or I don't know how someone can help me.
If I ask for help so I can nap I feel like a bad mom, why should I ask for a nap? I try to sleep when he does.
Usually he sleeps pretty well and he is usually NOT a crier, I think he's starting to get colic which is a problem.
He stays awake for hours at a time and then he gets pissed off because he's tired.. Then at about 6am he passes out and wakes about 10am and promptly eats, needs a diaper change and passed back out until one.,, that's when he starts fighting sleep again,
This kid needs to go on a schedule!

I didn't hurt him, but I was so tired as so angry I yelled at him (cause that makes it better) and then I shoved his bottle a little forcefully in his mouth and he was quiet.
I felt awful for using force but I was so angry..

SO works, and he tried to stay up last night with us but he works about 15hrs today and he needed sleep.
I'm hoping when SO comes home he will give LO a bath and makes the kid pass out so we can at least get a solid 4hrs tonight....

Since this morning he slept ok I guess. I took him to target, he woke up in the store and my mom and I had to carry him around because he was ill an starting to cry. That was about 3pm when he woke... He didn't go back to sleep until recently (8:15ish)
He only scream cried once I can't stand when he scream cries and tears come out I always almost cry with him.
But I pick him up, cuddle him and he calms down.

I pray he sleeps tonight. My headache can't take anymore sleepless nights

SDaniels19

@GAgirlinSDakota Thank you for sharing that, I'm sure it's not easy for you to talk about! As a FTM I do find your story helpful.. Still waiting on baby to make his appearance, but it's good to know I'm not alone if/when I experience moments like that