Sadness in 1st Trimester

KBeall000

I am 9 weeks pregnant and of course emotions are running high and the cry spells happen randomly but i was wondering if anyone else out there has started missing home (where they grew up?) I live down the road from my parents and i miss them like crazy. I didn't start having these feelings till i became pregnant but it almost makes me feel like a bad person because i did't go threw the feeling of missing home and missing seeing my mom and dad till now. I've been married a year and i am 20 years old, I moved out quickly and everything happen so fast and i pretty much just stopped calling and seeing my family just because no real reason and now i'm thinking about it and it makes me feel horrible. 

Snaps816

If you moved out of your parents' home, got married and become pregnant all in the last two years or so, you've done a lot of growing up in a short time. Many people take ten or fifteen years or more to hit all of those milestones! It is not surprising at all to me that you're feeling emotional/guilty/nostalgic. Plus, if you're anything like me, being pregnant and the whole idea of raising a child is pretty scary, and when we're scared, we tend to want our mom and dad no matter how old we are. 

KBeall000

The weird thing is everything i knew or felt is not the same since i became pregnant; before i could tell you what i wanted in life and that i wanted to move away, move out of state and now i can't see myself being far from home or leaving my home state of VA. It's like my train of thought has gone blank. My pregnancy was planned but everything i ever thought changed...very enlightening to me, guess it's part of spiritual growth. I am only 20 haha

Abfisher

My wants changed so frequently when I was 20. I don't think that I would have emotionally been able to handle getting pregnant and married at that age. I am 26, almost 27 now, and I have been making frequent visits to my mother down the road. I do think this is a time that bonds mothers and daughters. I, too, have been nostalgic and emotional. I find myself frequently reminiscing living at my parent's home, which I haven't done in 6 years! Making a baby is a huge life altering event. We will not be the same afterward, and it's like our identity is changing. You are not alone!

bunfactory

I have dreamt of home, as in the state and places I grew up, 3 or 4 nights. It is normal. You have a very easy solution to your problem. If you only live a little ways away, call your parents and have them over for dinner.

KBeall000

I feel from being an only child growing up just me i found ways to be okay spending my time alone. I wasn't very social in school i couldn't stand hanging out in large groups...such as dances and parties. I had a dream last night of going to Disney World with my mom and dad it was a found child hood memory of mine and it was the best dream i've had in a long time. I find myself still trying to figure it all out what sparked these feelings so deeply. I never missed home till now and i have lived within my husband on our own for over a year now and it never hurt me when i left. I feel i never went threw that change, i think thats why i feel so guilty because i never called or visited my family till now. I see them like everyday.