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texasmama2014

Crickets....
Guess I'll start...

I absolutely cannot stand when someone refers to their child as a "little"...
Example:  "My little is the smartest 2 month old on the planet, she can read. I swear."

I don't think it's cute.

DressageDarling

I'm getting tired of reading no symptom posts. I'm 11 weeks and even though I am often reassured it should be better now, it's not. I would love to not be nauseous, exhausted, and have headaches.

Also, why can't we all just follow some of the board organization suggestions? It makes me a little crazy.

1faceinacrowd

I feel like I've gotten nothing done this week. And now, it's almost 11:00 on Friday and all I'm doing is waiting for it to be 4:00... I need to get my rear in gear, but I just don't have any motivation this week.

suprsuz

I'm so over the nasty attitudes in this group when someone just wants to have a little fun. 

cbpalagi

@1faceinacrowd I also feel like I've gotten nothing done this week...I just stare at the clock and wait for the work day to be over!

juleswalsh

Hmm...Here are a couple things going on with me.
This is my second time in a month to have strep ...I NEVER get sick. So between that and being completely nauseated, I'm done.

Second, I'm super glad I never posted anything about "what gender is my baby". Yikes! I didn't realize that was a hott topic...I do get it though. However I might not really care enough to post a passive aggressive or flat out aggressive reply to those women who obviously had no ill intent .

With that being said...I do strongly dislike new threads popping up and crowding my feed.

Man I apparently have turned into a stereotypical mean pregnant women. I'll be her today and tomorrow I'll be me.

amandazap

Judgy crunchy moms.

Sorry.

emmeline714

I need to go to the store but no energy at all whatsoever I just been blah this week so drained more than ever

texasmama2014

@juleswalsh @SuperSuz   I think the reason people get a little snarky and frustrated is that the posts that got a little out of hand today was a random woman who had never posted before posting the same thing 2 times within a 24 hour period which is a little extreme.  Also, none of us are trained to tell the sex of babies (that I know of, maybe we have some professionals), but also at this point there really isn't a good way to tell if the baby is a boy or girl. You may see it as all in fun, but I see it as walking into a room of strangers and saying "HI HERE'S A PICTURE OF THE INSIDE OF MY UTERUS.  THE BABY IS THE SIZE OF A GRAPE. TELL ME WHAT GENITALS THEY HAVE!"

I'm here to build a group of women who I can trust and help carry me through the pregnancy and beyond.  Its hard to get to know people who drop by to post an ultrasound and then never come back. If not organized this board would be ultrasound pictures and people introducing themselves and no real way to get to know each other.

texasmama2014

Also, Since its confession time, I haven't been taking my prenatals very well.  Which is ridiculous because I have been taking them religiously since I got pregnant in October 2014, and continued since I'm still breastfeeding my 18 month old.  Its such a struggle because I have to physically get them and chew/swallow them... 

suprsuz

@texasmama that has all been discussed and part of me gets it.  But maybe the way people respond is the problem. 

amandam925

suprsuz said:

@texasmama that has all been discussed and part of me gets it.  But maybe the way people respond is the problem. 

I get this -- some of the responses come off as hostile and I definitely do not come here for hostility (I don't think anyone does), but I wonder how much of it is *actual* hostility and how much of it is *perceived* hostility.

I've read a few posts and thought "wow, that was harsh," but when I took the tone up a notch (written things always come off a notch more negative than they are intended to be), they sounded more frustrated and less hostile to me.

One way to encourage positivity is to assume the best in others, and to be positive yourself.

Snaps816

Confession: It's almost 11:00am and I have done no real work at my job, with the exception of fielding incoming calls and responding to incoming emails. But I have taken no initiative on my own. 

In my defense business is super slow and I'm looking at some real bottom-of-the-barrel tasks to fill my day. So I am mostly bumping and reading pregnancy stuff. 

Kjack85

texasmama2014 said:

@juleswalsh @SuperSuz   I think the reason people get a little snarky and frustrated is that the posts that got a little out of hand today was a random woman who had never posted before posting the same thing 2 times within a 24 hour period which is a little extreme.  Also, none of us are trained to tell the sex of babies (that I know of, maybe we have some professionals), but also at this point there really isn't a good way to tell if the baby is a boy or girl. You may see it as all in fun, but I see it as walking into a room of strangers and saying "HI HERE'S A PICTURE OF THE INSIDE OF MY UTERUS.  THE BABY IS THE SIZE OF A GRAPE. TELL ME WHAT GENITALS THEY HAVE!"

I'm here to build a group of women who I can trust and help carry me through the pregnancy and beyond.  Its hard to get to know people who drop by to post an ultrasound and then never come back. If not organized this board would be ultrasound pictures and people introducing themselves and no real way to get to know each other.

You said my thoughts so eloquently! I also think that's it's a tad inconsiderate. Some people have experienced losses and they're more concerned with just having a heathy baby. Also, what does finding out the gender early really do for anyone? unless people intend to buy things/start decorating early ... I don't see the point.

Kjack85

emmeline714 said:

I need to go to the store but no energy at all whatsoever I just been blah this week so drained more than ever

I asked DH to go to the store for me because I just can't find the energy. It sucks. Hope it gets better for you though.

TerraMae80

This thread just made my day. 

pelorunningmama

@Snaps816 Sounds like me every day this week. Oops. There is seriously nothing going on at my office this week though which leads to way too much online shopping for me. 

juleswalsh

@texasmama2014 I completely appreciate the comments that direct the moms to a different site or even address the fact that they shouldn't open up a new thread. I find it annoying...I just feel bad for some of these women who post and are genuinely excited. Then...the comments are not very uplifting.

Totally agree with everything you said, I just wish we as a group could do this in a mature and caring way. Which a lot of women are doing!

Snaps816

LWC1112 said:

@Snaps816 Sounds like me every day this week. Oops. There is seriously nothing going on at my office this week though which leads to way too much online shopping for me. 

Me too! I've found some good maternity clothes on clearance this week! 

jamiesc58

I thought the "daily check in's" were supposed to be used on the day when your week changes. Don't get me wrong...I love hearing things from all ladies here and it is especially great when I have no motivation to do anything else. But, for one person to check in everyday is a little redundant. 

amandazap

Snaps816 said:

LWC1112 said:

@Snaps816 Sounds like me every day this week. Oops. There is seriously nothing going on at my office this week though which leads to way too much online shopping for me. 

Me too! I've found some good maternity clothes on clearance this week! 

Ohhhh where???

Snaps816

amandazap Motherhood maternity. I am not sure if it's still going, but recently they've had a lot of items marked down, and then they were doing 40% on top of that so once you put the item in your cart it's discounted even more. I ordered a skirt that was reduced to like $12 and two dresses at around $20 each. 

karaszoo1

Where should I start....
I have no motivation for anything.no joke.
Dear nausea, go the F away.
Dear 17 mo old stop stripping ur clothes n diaper off or ur gonna be duct taped.....(kidding before anyone gets panties in a wad lol)
Dear girl at work ,1) shave wax or bleach ur mustache please for the love of all things holy and 2) stop talking about your period and possible pregnancy every 2 days and 3) stop asking me how I'm feeling.....
Holy hell I'm in a mood.ok sorry apparently I hate the world today.....

karaszoo1

Did I even post a fffc or just a rant ???? sorry lol

haboobjob

texasmama2014 said:

@juleswalsh @SuperSuz   I think the reason people get a little snarky and frustrated is that the posts that got a little out of hand today was a random woman who had never posted before posting the same thing 2 times within a 24 hour period which is a little extreme.  Also, none of us are trained to tell the sex of babies (that I know of, maybe we have some professionals), but also at this point there really isn't a good way to tell if the baby is a boy or girl. You may see it as all in fun, but I see it as walking into a room of strangers and saying "HI HERE'S A PICTURE OF THE INSIDE OF MY UTERUS.  THE BABY IS THE SIZE OF A GRAPE. TELL ME WHAT GENITALS THEY HAVE!"

I'm here to build a group of women who I can trust and help carry me through the pregnancy and beyond.  Its hard to get to know people who drop by to post an ultrasound and then never come back. If not organized this board would be ultrasound pictures and people introducing themselves and no real way to get to know each other.

Totally. My first pregnancy I was totally excited and jazzed about getting my ultrasound analyzing by strangers. You have to know your audience... TB really isn't it. I would consider some of the responses tame compared to my last board. Luckily they have lots of places online where people who have looked at a million of these things and even have real experience in understanding them can share their opinion.

I also find it concerning that people are posting ultrasounds with their full on information on it or even their last names when asking about baby names.

I just want a place where I can talk about how terrible nausea is to people that understand, share opinions on favorite baby buys and drool over what people are eating. Btw... I had a grilled cheese and a virgin Bloody Mary for lunch and it was totally awesome.

charmedlifex3

FFFC - I totally took three hours of vacation time this afternoon to nap. 

I have 8 weeks of maternity leave, a week of sick (which will cover all my doctors appointments) and three weeks vacation (plus a week I carried over from last year, and has to be used by March 31st) Sorry - not sorry. 

Also.... I really enjoyed my nap in the winter sun coming through our skylights WITHOUT my husband snoring. 

charmedlifex3

@karaszoo1 DH's dad actually did duct tape his diaper on. Lol, it was the 1970's but even still his mother was HORRIFIED when she got home. "You ... did.. what?!"

jamiesc58

@karaszoo1 I saw a post on facebook the other day that said to put the kids zip up one piece pj's on backwards so they cannot unzip it themselves. Obviously you would have to get the ones without feet as you can't turn their feet backwards. Helps mommy stay sane and won't get you in trouble lol.

bearsandbeets7

I didn't breastfeed with my daughter because I was too scared to. With this LO my main motivation, besides all the great things it does for baby, to breastfeed is hoping to lose the pregnancy weight!

texasmama2014

@Lynnlove28 I get that, its very rewarding, and I did lose all my pregnancy weight.  However, its also such a frustrating and hard thing sometimes.  Some women really beat themselves up about not being able to do it, and that breaks my heart!  Having TB community after my LO was born was probably the biggest help for me!

cm716

I really don't want to do anything today or tomorrow thay doesn't involve me eating chick fil a, texas roadhousr rolls, or that cheese bread from little Caesars quietly by myself.
Preferably with a giant diet coke.

tryingforbabyf

I really have no motivation to do anything at all this weekend. DH and I made several plans, some with friends and I feel like flaking out on all of them.

ramoseecology

@tryingforbabyf I'm right there with you. I know it's a three day weekend and we have plans but all I want is cheese pizza, netflix, and my couch to fall asleep on.

kwilliams3402

Confession: I don't know how ladies do this that are nauseous for the whole 9 months. 10 weeks and 4 days, and I am so over the constant pukey feeling. We are one and done if this goes on for 9 months, unless we can figure out how to give the man the sickness. And I feel like the biggest wimp saying this.

jbird771

I have also struggled with getting prenatals down and started placing each one in a bit of plain yogurt and honey. They seem to go down and stay down that waY, but who knows if it will last since my tastebuds change daily.

Okay random rant...I hate the smell of popcorn since getting pregnant and my hubby is addicted to it. I have to leave the room every time he makes it and I know he feels bad, but really fighting nausea is number one right now. I feel heartless putting my nausea prevention above snuggles, popcorn, and generally being touched by anyone, but I'm more b@$chy if I don't. Ugh!

JournoGrl23

I did absolutely nothing for two days straight. I work weekends, so my days off are Tuesday and Wednesday. I had planned to run errands, clean the house and get some things done. However, I other than walking my dog each day, all I did was lay down in a recliner, eat and watch Netflix and took two naps each day. I was feeling really nauseous and SO fatigued I could barely function. I felt slightly guilty, but I'm glad I did it. It was just what I needed before the start of my workweek. Thankfully, I now feel better.

Also, @jbird771, I do the same thing. I can't stand the smell of Greek yogurt since becoming pregnant. It makes me puke the second I smell it. But my husband is trying to lose weight so he eats it every day for lunch. I make him eat it in the other room.

WinterPumpkin

While I obviously enjoy the babies that come as a result of the pregnancy, I've decided a long time ago that I hate pregnancy itself.

I know, I know everyone is sick and tired of reading about how much pregnancy sucks but hear me out. I am not talking about "I'm nauseous all day and getting fat" sort of problem here, thankfully I don't seem to care about that (and man do I gain weight!) This is more because throughout each pregnancy I get mildly/moderately depressed and to echo some of the other ladies - my motivation to do anything goes down, way down...

I am normally a very active person, I like to achieve things throughout the day - as does everyone else I assume. When I am pregnant, I feel like I become one of the worst version of myself, terribly lazy and just a bit sad all the time... As a PGAL mom and a mom of two kids, I expect more from myself in terms of enjoying the pregnancy - unfortunately each time I seem to end up as Zombie mom for 9 months...

Perhaps to some this is not exaclty a flame-worthy confession but believe me the judgement is out there, I've heard plenty of "well thank God you deliver healthy babies" or "after all you've been through with your losses" - yes ladies I am eternally grateful, it is because I feel blessed that I am willing to put myself through this over and over again, but man I can't seem to get out of the funk...

searchingforameaning

My son was recently diagnosed with anxiety and adhd. My husband and I have been on the fence about meds... I just filled the first script and will try it out this weekend without telling dh to see what difference it makes before telling dh. Dh really does not hold any faith in health care so I feel like I need to make decisions solo. Especially when talking mental health- and a lot of difference is our culture.

WinterPumpkin

@searchingforameaning sorry you are facing such a difficult decision, I really hope the meds help him... Where is your DH from if you don't mind my asking? I ask because when we first met, DH and I also discussed our way through significant cultural differences in terms of our understanding of mental health...

searchingforameaning

@WinterPumpkin dh is from DR Congo. Met him there 11 years ago. We moved to states 8.5 years ago... In Congo the physical needs are so overwhelming that mental needs never even register- think Maslow's heierichy of needs.