WTO Friday

JamieK1882

Cycle/Month:

CD:

WADTGKTF:

R/R/CS:

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household?

JamieK1882

Cycle/Month: 2/2

CD: 6

WADTGKTF: still waiting on AF to get the heck outta here. WTF why is this cycle so long?! Only adds to my confusion with O day. Anyways, temping, PNVs, getting ready to try the OPKs

R/R/CS: I think I missed a letter in the "WADTGKTF" abbreviation

GTKY: I wrote this as I was putting away laundry lol. We have a cleaning woman every other week which is awesome, so rarely do we actually have to do some of the bigger stuff like bathrooms or kitchen. In general I do the laundry, including putting it away, and DH takes out the trash and takes care of the cats littler box. He is also pretty good about cleaning up the kitchen at night, and I empty the dishwasher.

sldp123

Cycle/Month: 7/7

CD: 13

WADTGKTF: Temping, OPKs, trying for sex EOD

R/R/CS: I forgot to use an OPK this morning, so I was going to bring one to work but I forgot to do that, too. I'm contemplating going to buy one somewhere at lunch time, but I think I'll just wait until I get home. Hoping I don't miss my surge, but I think it's still a little early. Although one month I did O on CD13 so who knows.

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household? We don't really have a specific division. DH does his own laundry, and I do mine and DS's and any household laundry like towels, sheets, etc. And there's kind of an unspoken rule that when one of us cooks, the other cleans the kitchen after dinner. Other than that, we both just pretty much do what needs to be done.

babymish

Cycle/Month: 4/4

CD: 12

WADTGKTFU: Everything and I am officially fertile. I have not and will not tell SO this is happening, I will just pounce in him as soon as I get through to door after work.

R/R/CS: I have EWCM and I do not yet have a +OPK, this is good as far as I'm concerned as I have only got EWCM in small quantities after my LH surge the prevous cycles. Maybe I am actually going to get a fertile run up to O this month! I did take EPO up until CD5 when someone mentioned it could delay O I stopped immediately as I'm not interested in that. However I have been drinking my new Mango & Lychee Green tea which is beaut! And I'm sure I read somewhere in passing that green tea can also help with fertile CM. I'm yet to actually look into that.

So for now I am sitting at my desk trying to hold it all in for tonight incase I run out.

 GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household?

I do the cooking and SO does the washing up. He does the litter tray since I told him I shouldnt touch cat poop incase I am KTFU or even if we are trying. This may not be 100% true but he is non the wiser and has been game. We split the rooms in the house once a week to give them a deep clean and rotate the bathroom. It doesnt take long to clean as its a relatively small neat flat.

cjt121413

Cycle/month: 1/1 (TTCAL - not including before the loss)

CD: 4

WAYDTGKTFU: pretty soon we'll HIO. Temping, etc.

R/R/CS: I'm just happy to be (maybe) having my first normal cycle in a very long time.

GTKY: we also have a cleaning person every other week. I'm pretty lucky that DH does the laundry, the dishes, the grocery shopping, and the lawncare. I organize things and do any extra cleaning that's required. I also work ridiculous hours.

MrsDannyOutlaw

Cycle/Month:1/2

CD: 3

WADTGKTF: All the things!

R/R/CS: My current to-do list is a mile long. Its cold and raining so I just want to climb back in bed and ignore the list. 

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household?
We don't "divide" per say. We just get stuff done. I am a SAHM so when DS is in school I take care of as much as I can. When DH is home he does anything that needs to be done as he notices. Sometimes we just wait until the weekend and tackle the whole house together in a couple hours or so. DS is the only one with a set responsibility - I do not allow toys to remain downstairs when not in use - so he must pick up after himself by bedtime each night.

Blonde1817

***Chart stalk please!***

Cycle/Month: 4/4 (1 NTNP, 1 Benched)

CD: 15

WADTGKTFU: At this point... BBT, CM, PNV, Still BD EOD just in case...

R/R/CS:  In need of a CS! So I'm not sure if it's my thermometer going on the fritz but my temps having been weirdly jagged this cycle. Some history...
November: + OPK on CD12; O on CD 14; 12 day LP
December: + OPKs on CD12 & CD13(AM); O on CD 15; 12 day LP
January: + OPK on CD12(AM&PM)
I believe that I had a temp spike this morning and EWCM yesterday, so probably O'ed yesterday, but because of my wonky temps FF gave me CH for CD12.  I know you're regular until you're not, but I'd like to know if I can trust FF on this one!  And I'm aware I'll probably have to wait for more temps, but i'm just curious what you ladies think! 


GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household? Some things we divide up equally, like laundry, cooking, doing dishes.  Other things we both kind of take charge of.  DH does almost all of the yard work and fixing things, I do most of the deep cleaning inside.  It sounds so gendered, but really that's just what we enjoy (relatively, for chores!) and are good at. 

babymish

@blonde1817 That's an odd one as I can see why FF put them at CD12 and if I was just looking at your chart and knew nothing else thats what I would say too. It's possible you just had a shorter surge this time before O. Either way your timing is great!

PeggyOlsonFTW

Cycle/Month: 3/3

CD: 10 I think

WADTGKTF: temping, charting, pnv

R/R/CS: I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning.

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household? Ugh. We don't and we were just arguing about this. DH is delusional and thinks he helps soooo much and he thinks I'm delusional because I think he doesn't. He says he takes care of "outside" stuff and I take care of inside stuff, but in the winter, that means I do EVERYTHING except the trash/recycling. But, oh right, DH never puts a trash bag back in the can after he takes it out, so I do that too, or I throw the trash directly in the can and wait for him to notice and make a stink about it. I do all the laundry, sweep, mop, dishes (although DH is convinced he does dishes, but starting the dishwasher does not count and neither does moving dishes from counter to sink), I empty the dishwasher, wipe counters, make beds, etc. DH will help clean if we're getting ready for guests or something, but day to day cleaning he's awful at. I've actually considered writing down everything I do cleaning-wise throughout the day and everything DH does, but I think it'll backfire and he'll get all defensive and pull the, "well, you're home all day!" card. Rant over.

ETA: I realize that I'm a SAHM and naturally, I'm going to end up doing more than DH, I just get frustrated when he leaves clothes all over the bed or on the floor or glasses next to the sink or juice on the counter. He's really just making more work for me when he's home and could take care of those things himself. 

iceandsnowflakes29

Month: 3

CD: 15

WADTGKTF: NTNP and acupuncture

R/R/CS: not much

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household?

We don't divide it. Seriously, I do almost all of it. I'm a SAHM and H works long hours. He does help with dishes and trash and a few basic things but it falls to me.

Eta I put my foot down on yard work. That is all H. If I'm going to clean the house I refuse yard work.

ShallowSeas

Cycle/Month: 14/15

CD:13

WADTGKTF: all the things

R/R/CS: My temp shot up this morning so I'm fairly certain I O'd yesterday, which is a day earlier than usual.  My timing is still great if I O'd yesterday though, so I'm okay with it.  

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household? DH does the laundry, trash, dog puke/poop, feeds the dog, and does the mowing in the summer.  I do the dishes, cook dinner every night, and take care of the cat.  When we clean house we 'divide and conquer' the house.  I take the kitchen and bathrooms and DH takes the living rooms, entryway, and does the floors.  We both do the bedrooms.  Its been this way since we started living together and it works for us.

br0co1ii

babymish said:

@blonde1817 That's an odd one as I can see why FF put them at CD12 and if I was just looking at your chart and knew nothing else thats what I would say too. It's possible you just had a shorter surge this time before O. Either way your timing is great!

I second this!

momtoleo

Month: 8/8

CD: 1

WADTGKTF: Right now, waiting for AF to leave and PNV

R/R/CS: This is the first month that I'm jumping into the WTO and TWW threads since it's the first month I'm going to attempt to temp. Bear with me as I get a hang of things! 

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household?

Divide? HA! I work from home and my one splurge for sanity sake is that we do have a cleaner come and take care of the major stuff so I just do a lot of tidying. But I also do the dishes, take out the garbage, manage the household, etc. 

joyful08

Cycle/Month: 7/(3rd cycle ttcal)

CD: 12

WAYDTGKU: every. thang.

R/R/CS: I should O this weekend!

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household?
I do it all. I have a home business so I am home all day. DH takes out the trash when I ask and then he will help with other things if I really need him to. But I have to ask him he doesn't help on his own. I don't mind it though.

fitlady21

Cycle/Month: 7/7

CD: 9

WADTGKTF: PNV, temping, starting OPKs next week

R/R/CS: none right now. Just glad it's Friday!

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household? I do all the laundry and cooking and he does all the yard and car work (he washes cars and vacuums them once a week.. It's wonderful!!)

Since his schedule is one week on, one week off, we typically just clean whatever when the other is working. We are both clean freaks so it's always super clean.

DiFazette911

Cycle/Month: 3/3

CD: 3

WADTGKTF: hoping my BBT and TCOYF arrives today - Amazon is claiming it will, while all of my notifications say Monday. Prime - don't fail me now!

R/R/CS: sorry for the dissertation but I need to vent: I need a day where I'm not solving everyone else's problems. H had his phone stolen from his job site yesterday and was helpless. Once I reported it, erased all data and switched him back to his old phone, we get a call there was fraud on his American Express. On top of fighting with BCBS now for over a month about our new benefits because they blatantly ignored our requested policy on the enrollment forms and have 2 out of 3 birth dates wrong, my son is sick and needs his nebulizer treatment meds - which became a shit show yesterday with the insurance thing needing 3 hours of my attention. My son's school called (4x in a row) to tell me they thought he was 'having trouble breathing' and needed me to come ASAP - if my kid is struggling to breathe, please call 911. His nebulizer is not an emergency inhaler. Had a nice 'talk' with his director at school about that one.

Raves because I hate to be so negative: potty training is going really well! Don't want to jinx myself but it's easier than I was anticipating.

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household? I do the majority of the terrible things because I WAH/SAHM both part time. Husband helps a bit on the weekends. I wish things were cleaner/more organized but.... Life.

Paturkey

Cycle/Month: 7/7

CD: 5

WADTGKTFU: pnvs, temping, CM and sex soon

R/R/CS: My dear son has woken at 5:45, 5:15, and 5:40 the last three days. My temping time is thus consistent, but I'd prefer it to be an hour later. I am anticipating a bunch of open circles this cycle depending on if he gets the memo that he needs a lot more sleep than that.... Otherwise looking forward to moving past AF and properly into WTO.

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household?
Hmmm, very similar to @sldp123 with me doing most of the laundry except MH's and we have a spoken rule that the cook doesn't clean. He usually cooks while I'm putting DS to bed. We also just got cleaners so they are doing the majority of the stuff. But I've recently been making a bit of a stink about the dog- MH decided to stop walking her at night and just let her out back, but she never does anything when we do that so I've decided I'm walking her every night before bed. He whines about it because he doesn't want to do anything after dinner, but suck it up, buttercup, she's your dog and I insist that we take care of her. If that means you have to help tidy the kitchen while I walk the dog, deal with it. I've been so much happier the last couple days that I've been walking her; I feel like less of a terrible doggy parent (we both work full time so she doesn't get enough attention).

@blonde1817 I agree with @babymish

SpartyCat

Cycle/Month: 10/8

CD: 27

WADTGKTF: temping, OPKs, preseed

R/R/CS: I wasn't crazy yesterday, my OPK was so dark in the afternoon, it was almost positive! If this cycle is like past cycles (hopefully!) I'll get a +OPK this afternoon and O somewhere between tomorrow and Sunday.

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household? Great question! I do all the cooking and DH does all the cleaning. He does the laundry, I fold it and put it away.

@blonde1817 - I actually agree with CD14, this happened to me last cycle. Interested to see what your temp is tomorrow!

MrsDho11

Cycle/Month: 4/4

CD: 7

WADTGKTF: lots of things

R/R/CS: lots of time before I even start peeing on the WTO sticks, so not much TTC related bothering me today.

GTKY: for the most part, I do. Though I've been purposely unemployed the last 5 months, so I think that's fair. I make DH deal with the litterbox during the TWW though.

NamelessAria

Cycle/Month: 13/9

CD: 3

WADTGKTF: All the things. Probably going to try SMEP plan again with some slight modifications for a longer cycle since I don't normally O on CD14-15. So instead of starting SMEP on the recommended CD8 I'll probably wait till CD12-13 or so.

R/R/CS: AF is mostly gone. I'm just having the tiniest bit of spotting now. I always have these super short, very light periods and I've been wondering if it should concern me. I'm not a doctor but it seems to me that it could indicate that my uterine lining isn't very robust or something. Then I ran across this study while I was looking for something else and apparently ladies with a period of less than 4 days have lower chances of pregnancy. The study apparently also found that ladies with periods lasting more than 5 days had lower chances of MC. Considering that my periods are usually 2-3 days with one of those days often being a toss up between light flow and spotting... that study isn't making me feel especially great. I'm tempted to research it more because one study doesn't mean a lot. I'm a little worried though that there will be lots of other studies that found the same thing and then I'll be all gloomy all day.

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household? DH takes out the trash normally and I do everything else.

@kirby1220 sorry about CD1

@severmilli12 Yay for good timing and early O!

@iceandsnowflakes29 That sounds like the system my DH and I have, more or less. I stay at home so I do pretty much everything. Which is fine. I'd rather do housework than actually go work a job.

@PeggyOlsonFTW Your rant made me laugh because it sounds exactly like my rants about DH. He really thinks he helps but his idea of helping is that once a blue moon when he showers he actually throws his dirty clothes into the hamper. I mean he showers everyday but normally the clothes end up on the bedroom floor or on the bathroom floor or on the closet floor or.. you get the idea. He occasionally rinses out his coffee cup and leaves it in the sink for me. About once a year he loads or unloads the dishwasher for me. And if he is up before me and our cat is going crazy he'll feed the cat. Yep, DH, you're right. That's all the work that ever needs to be done around the house. You're very helpful. Men...

@blonde1817 I think you could have O'd when FF says you did. Or you could have O'd CD14. It's really sorta a toss up. My November-December cycle was like that where I had a couple of days of ambiguous temperatures. Turns out, I ovulated after the ambiguous temperatures on the first day of an actual clear temp shift. At least judging by my luteal phase in hindsight after AF showed. Not that what my chart looked like directly affects yours or anything. But because of that I'm inclined to lean toward your O being CD14. Plus CD14 makes more sense with your CM.

@mchrisgarcia you're probably the only sahm/housewife I know that actually has a husband that does things around the house. On behalf of ladies everywhere: I'm very jealous! Sorry about the long to-do list on a blah rainy day.

@cjt121413 ah I'm glad that you appear to be having a normal cycle and you're happy about it! I like happy news.

@babymish I'm not sure about green tea helping CM. But I know I've read staying well hydrated helps CM. And that tea sounds delicious. I did see someone post on here yesterday that green tea can affect the absorption of folate if you take your PNV when you drink green tea. But either way that's good that you're getting more fertile CM this month.

@sldp23 Hopefully forgetting to do an OPK today won't matter on catching your surge. But on the bright side is that even if you miss it if you're having sex EoD you should be good. So at least there is that! I'm always a stressball around O time worrying that I'll miss it or something so little things like that really go along way to making me feel better.

@JamieK1882 haha I do think you missed a letter in WADTGKTFU but that's okay! I didn't even notice till you pointed it out. Also, as frustrating as a long AF is, according to the research I posted apparently it's a lot better for TTC. So, at least there is that. But sorry for the long AF. AF outstaying her welcome is never fun.

ETA: Apparently several people posted while I was typing up this monstrosity. I'll get to y'all later!

NordyMN89

Cycle/Month: 13/9

CD: 10

WADTGKTF: 150mg Clomid, Dexa., Trigger, IUI

R/R/CS: It's finally Friday!

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household? DH and I have very different opinions as to what the term clean means. He thinks if the blankets are folded and pillows on the couch that it's clean in the living room. Whereas I still see the mail on the end table, the dust on the blinds, the fact that it needs to be vacuumed...DH helps quite a bit though. He cleans his bathroom, has gotten into cleaning the floor (which he can manage to do to my standards!), takes out the trash and does the dishes. I cook, vacuum, dust, etc. Ugh, I hate laundry, so we split that.

After reading about all you lucky ladies with a cleaning person I'm really considering hiring one to come out and take care of the stuff I just hate doing, even if it's just once or twice a month. 

linnea625

Cycle/Month: 5/5

CD: 12

WADTGKTFU: sex in FW, preseed

R/R/CS: got ewcm today but opk is still negative so I guess O will be in a couple days, we shall see.

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household?

DH does the vast majority of the cooking. I do laundry, clean the bathroom etc. we split stuff like vacuuming and taking out trash and recycling pretty evenly.

beary67

Cycle/Month: 3/3

CD: 12

WADTGKTF:  BBT, CM, CP, OPKs

R/R/CS: It's Friday, I get to leave work at 11am today, and then it's a 3-day weekend!  Besides dinner plans each night, nothing major going on so I am excited to be able to relax, catch a few yoga classes, and spend time with my DH.  

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household?  Honestly, we just do what needs to be done.  For example, if I get home from work before him on Tuesday, which is trash night, I take out the trash.  If he is home earlier--he does it.  I usually start the laundry but he always goes and switches the load or helps fold/put away.  He does all of the outdoor work at the house, so I really appreciate that.  And I usually clean the bathrooms and he does the vacuuming.  Although, if I asked him to clean a bathroom, he would totally do it.  We are both type A, so it's not often that anything in the house is really messy.  We work well together when it comes to the chores! 

teamginger13

Cycle/Month: 14/15

CD: 22

WADTGKTF: Everything

R/R/CS: Still just waiting for this cycle to be over

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household? DH pretty much just does whatever chore I tell him. I usually make him scrub the showers b/c I hate that. He takes out all the trash but I still have to pretty much remind him to do it. He is very easy going so anytime I tell him something needs to be done he is ok with it.

picklesplease

Cycle/Month: 5/5

CD: 2

WADTGKTF: Right now? Taking PNV, exercising, and getting the weight under control. After AF leaves, we'll start HIO, then BD EOD. I'm just thankful that I didn't have to contact my doctor about my abnormally long cycle.

R/R/CS: It's Friday and we have a casual day at work, which means I'm in jeans. It was total surprise, so that's really exciting. It's also payday, which means a couple of my co-workers/friends and I are going to get our nails done after work. And we have a three-day weekend! Yes, I'm not KTFU, and yes I have cramps that really suck balls, but there are a lot of positives right now. So I'm just going to focus on those.

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household?

DH really likes to clean. Like, he really enjoys it, so he doesn't even really want me to do it. I have one job, to make dinner. I help with the bills and the finances and I really enjoy the yard work. So, since it's snowy and cold here, I get a couple more months before I'm going to tear into our yard and start cleaning stuff up. He does everything else, including cleaning out the litter box. Whenever I try to help with anything else, he gets really annoyed and tells me to stop. So, I don't even try anymore. I'm kind of spoiled.

NamelessAria

@BerkeBaby If you want to trade for a day or 2 so you can have the cleaning experience I'd be good with that. Sorry about CD2 and cramps. At least you're staying positive about all the good things!

picklesplease

NamelessAria said:

@BerkeBaby If you want to trade for a day or 2 so you can have the cleaning experience I'd be good with that. Sorry about CD2 and cramps. At least you're staying positive about all the good things!

You know, that's so tempting, but I think I'm good. lol! The funny thing is that I really am good at cleaning...he is just slightly more OCD than I am. I guess that's why we work so well together. I'm just trying to keep my bucket full to keep myself from getting stressed out. Being worried about what happened last cycle isn't going to help and I can't go back and change the past. Just trying to move forward!  

LizaKate1213

Cycle/Month: 8/8

CD: 3

WADTGKTF: EVERYTHING after AF leaves

R/R/CS: I just ordered my first batch of wondfos! I'm hesitant to try OPKs because they are always positive on the brand's I've tried thus far. Idk why, but the line is always there and darker than the control. Hoping these work better for me.

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household? We are under renovations and DH is doing all of it himself. As a result, the bulk of the regular housework falls on me. I don't mind though because he also works longer hours than I do and then comes home and works his butt off on the reno. When he sees I'm overwhelmed he will jump in and do some laundry or the dishes while I'm at work, which is a nice surprise to come home to.

mrsdee15

Cycle/Month: 2/2 (3 NTNP)

CD: 16

WADTGKTF: Temping, OPKs, PNV, HIO

R/R/CS: This morning I woke up to our dog snuggled up to me with his body under the covers. Cutest thing ever.

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household? He walks the dog and takes out the trash, I take care of the cats and mostly cook and do dishes. We both do everything else.

momtoleo

@NamelessAria I'm totally in the same boat period wise. Super regular, but super short (which is a total change from before I was on BC, making me wonder if that has something to do with it or if my body just really changed that much during the time I was on the pill). I brought it up at my annual because I was worried. My doctor wasn't concerned at all. However, I'm going to look into that study you referenced...and probably get sucked down the hole into looking at a bunch others.

ShallowSeas

@NamelessAria  AF is the same way for me.  2-3 full days and by day 3 or 4 I'm only spotting.  My RE wasn't concerned with this at all. 

NamelessAria

@kirby1220 @severmilli12 Thank you ladies.   It definitely makes me feel better to know other people having the same light, short AFs have discussed it with a doctor and the doctor wasn't concerned at all.

I'm a little bit of a worrier....okay fine! I worry way too much about pretty much everything. haha

MissAmeliaPond

Cycle/Month:  5 (1st after CP)

CD: 12

WADTGKTF:  too lazy to write everything out today, but all the things

R/R/CS:  *TMI* So, I thought I was done spotting, but this morning when I checked CM there was some light brown tinting... ugh. I guess all bets are off after a CP. I do not think this is going to be a normal cycle at all... 

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household?  I've been wanting to ask this question but I'm never up early enough to start the threads! (West Coast and everything) DH actually does a lot because he is on east coast hours, so he gets home between 3:30 and 4 every day, and has time to run errands and start dinner. We wouldn't eat until 8 every night if I was the cook! He does 80% of the grocery shopping, I do the Target shopping, we divide dog care duties, house cleaning, and dishes. I do all of the laundry because he can't be trusted. And he does 90% of the cooking (I make my own breakfast every day lol - he leaves before I get up). He likes cooking and he's really good at it. I sous chef sometimes, but I have no confidence in cooking my abilities. I really only cook on Thanksgiving and Christmas (I make sides!).  

strickland8052

Cycle/Month: 3/3 (1 TTCAL)

CD: 12

WADTGKTF: all the things!

R/R/CS: 3 day weekend, we have a romantic getaway planned, and it is FW. *wink wink

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household?  I am proud to say that we are very equal. I cook dinner; DH cleans up afterwards. We both tend to just take care of what bothers us personally (For example: DH handles vacuuming. I dust/clean bathrooms).

housewifehobbyist

Cycle/Month: 6/6

CD:5

WADTGKTF: AF is gone! Let the HIO commence! And also bbt,opks,cm,cp, etc

R/R/CS: We're getting a semen analysis done if I'm not pregnant after this cycle, just to cover our bases before going another six months (yey charting to know that I'm ovulating and have a decent LP).  We usually end up HIO ED during FW, because my sex drive skyrockets, but we're going to try EOD this cycle. 

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household? H's salary is almost twice what mine is, and he works 50/60 hours to my 40, so I end up doing the laundry, cooking, and 90% of the cleaning.  He does help with things like taking out the trash or unloading the dishwasher, and in the fall he rakes the leaves (in the summer he'll mow the grass).  I'm satisfied with our arrangement, and maintaining a nice home is something I enjoy.

iceandsnowflakes29

@NamelessAria there are days I wish I had more help but, I remind myself that his job is his job and housework and kids are mine. Plus, he sucks at housework. He thinks if the dishes are done and the floor is swept that he's "cleaned the house" and I'm like Um no.

H4aPartyof5

Month/Cycle: 6/6

CD: 6

WAYDTGKTFU: PNVs and waiting for AF to leave

R/R/CS: My lack of sleep/disturbed sleep is catching up to me...I was in an awful mood when I woke up this morning.

GTKY: If any cleaning is going to get done in the house, typically, I'm the one doing it. DH does all the outdoor chores though.

MamaMunn

Month/Cycle: 4/3

CD: 13

WADTGKTF: BBT, HIO

R/R/CS: It's Friday and I'm really looking forward to the weekend! My temp dropped a little this morning, but I still have crosshairs on FF. I'm going to hang out here for a couple days to see what my temps do. I don't really believe that I O'd this early in my cycle, so I'm thinking my temps are going to go back down. We'll see!

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household? In all honesty I do most of the chores. If we did have a yard I would for sure make DH take care of those things. Most of the time DH will help on the weekends, but I usually have to ask him to tell him what I want done. Its not that he wouldn't help its that he doesn't notice that things need to be cleaned up until they are so dirty it drives me crazy!! 

whiska

Cycle/Month: 10/10

CD: 2

WADTGKTF: bbt, opk, eod during fw

R/R/CS: Not happy to be back at square one, but another chance is better than no chance right!?

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household?
Hmm, how do you divide something that neither really does...   I do 99% of the cooking and he takes out the trash.  I think I've done it 3 times in the 8 years we've been married, so that's nice.  For everything else it looks like: collective freakout when it's 11pm and we realize there's no clean underwear for tomorrow. We would have to have a really lazy, relaxing weekend on our plates to voluntarily pick up a vacuum/swiffer/tub scrubbie.

FiancB

Cycle/Month: TTCAL 2

CD: 13

WADTGKTF: Starting to do the sex. I haven't bothered with an OPK yet today but all other signs point to approaching fertility, hoping they're right. I will be pissed if I don't O this month. Yay for a 4 day weekend! It would be ideal if we sex all weekend and then I O on Tuesday or something. 

R/R/CS: I sent my TTC friend my copy of TCOYF and she got it. Yay! FX we both get and stay pregnant at around the same time. She's been trying for longer so I felt bad when I got KU first, then she felt bad when I mc'd. 

GTKY: How do you divide the chores in your household? I try to do most of it since I'm in school and home a lot, so it isn't hard to do during study breaks. I find I get more done if I just allot time to clean and prioritize from there, so I try to do 30-60 minutes each day of cleaning or about 8-10 hours per week. It's enough to stay on top of dishes, laundry, and clutter. H usually vacuums because that's one thing I rarely get to, and he does the dishes frequently enough that I end up getting to other random tasks. I do all the cooking and pet care. He does finances, yard/snow blowing and obsessively cleans the cars.

He's another one that thinks he helps sooooo much. He's in for a rude awakening if his dream comes true and our roles are reversed. But I really can't complain too much. I just get annoyed when he wants a medal for it "taking forever" to clean "the whole kitchen" but actually he didn't take out the trash or wipe down the stove or put dishes away. Or the kitchen's messy so he thinks I haven't done anything all done but actually I did a fuckton of laundry that I guess he thinks some fairy does. 

NamelessAria

iceandsnowflakes29 said:

@NamelessAria there are days I wish I had more help but, I remind myself that his job is his job and housework and kids are mine. Plus, he sucks at housework. He thinks if the dishes are done and the floor is swept that he's "cleaned the house" and I'm like Um no.

I have to admit this made me laugh. My DH sucks at housework also. One time he helped me clean before company came over. Apparently, in his mind, if you take all the clutter and toss is haphazardly into a closet somewhere (ya know, like if all the odds and ends cluttering the living room are suddenly thrown all over the bedroom closet floor) then you've put things away and cleaned. Sorry DH, that isn't how it works. Also, he believes that if something needs to be washed/vacuumed/mopped/wiped down/whatever because it smells bad the answer isn't to clean it. The answer is clearly to Fabreeze it and put an air freshener in the room.


I suspect that my DH is bad at cleaning on purpose so I won't ask him to do things because I'll think "oh but he's so bad at it." Well played DH, well played.