Hey everyone. Not sure if I'm being too sensitive, but my fiancé told me recently that he had invited his mother to stay with us for a few days after our baby is born in March.
His mom isn't by any means an intrusive presence to me whatsoever, but we have a small house, and I already know that personal space is going to be a big necessity for me after I come home from the hospital and have to be dealing with bleeding, possibly healing from an episiotomy, breastfeeding issues, etc. Personal things that I'd rather she not be present for as I'm struggling to overcome them with the man whose child I just delivered.
And that's another thing. I feel like those first few days home are going to be very important for US to bond during. Just the two of us. In private. He's only taking two weeks off from work after I deliver, and I'd like that time to spent alone, with just me.
I'm not by any means opposed to having visitors that come, stay for a couple of hours, and then leave...but I don't want a third person crammed into what is going to be an even smaller living space once we bring this baby home.
I don't know. I'm really offended that he didn't discuss this with me before inviting her, I'm offended that she accepted his invitation without pushing him to talk to me first, and I'm just generally displeased with having someone in my personal living space at a time when I'm going to need it most. Important point: This is my second baby (my first is 7 now), and not to make it sound like I'm an expert when it comes to newborns, but I don't need that "supportive mother-in-law" presence the way I may have the first time around.