Scheduled c section on my birthday?

melisaleigh

Opinions...
Is it weird to plan my c section on my birthday?
Will my daughter think it's cool to share the same bday with her mom

yodiggity

Will she think it's cool? My opinion: When she'll little, yes. When she's a teenager, no. When she's an adult, yes.

imrachellea

What is your reasoning for having a scheduled c-section? And how far along would you be on your birthday?

sarahufl

I am due about 5 days after my birthday. I keep telling H I hope the baby comes on my birthday because I think it would be cool! He disagrees.

I say do what works for you/your family/your doctors, but don't rule it out (or insist on it) just because it is your birthday.

Ready4theParty

No. Not cool. If you go into labor and delivery on your bday that is one thing. Scheduling your csection for your bday...no.

imrachellea

My questions were kind of getting at what @Ready4theParty said. If you do not medically need a c-section, then no I do not think you should schedule one, for your birthday or otherwise. However, if you medically need to schedule it as per your OB, and the day of your birthday is one that is of optimal timing as per your OB, then sure why not.

melisaleigh

My OB is recommending I do a c section. I will be 39 weeks which is optimal timing for a scheduled c section. Not just picking the day out of thin air because it's my birthday

olivemomma

General question - why is 39 weeks ideal for a c-section? I would think they would want you to at least reach your dd unless you have gd or some other medical concern in which baby needs to come out early so I'm generally curious as to why this would be.
How old will you be this birthday? I'm not big into birthdays anymore but would like to be able to still specially celebrate milestone birthdays in the future (40, 50, etc). If you will be at an age where you would share milestone birthdays (baby will have sweet 16 the same day you turn 50) I personally wouldn't schedule that. Wow that's thinking way in advance but there is no way they are going to want to share a big birthday with mom in their teen years, especially if yours is a big one too. 

helleebellee

My dr does c-sections a little early to avoid the mother going into labor and needing an emergency c-section.  

cosmobella

I'm scheduled for a repeat c-section (two previous) and the policy is to schedule it during week 39. I was able to avoid scheduling on my sister's birthday, the anniversary of my grandfather's death, and one day with a doctor from the practice that I don't like. Of course I know that anything can happen if I go into labor (which has never happened on its own at 40 weeks). I would not want it on my birthday for a number of reasons (can't eat that day, can't celebrate with family and friends, possible bad reaction to meds, PAIN, etc.). I say have your birthday and schedule the c for a day or two later. Of course this is just my opinion.  

kdebesche4

My son was born the day after my bday and I am personally glad we don't share. Being close is fun, but this way he gets his own day. If he had come on my bday it would have been nbd, but it isn't something I would schedule specifically.

Ready4theParty

SweetBriarBee said:

My dr does c-sections a little early to avoid the mother going into labor and needing an emergency c-section.  

Is this just for high risk pregnancies? When I went over with DD they wouldn't talk to me about induction/cs until after 41 weeks.

I don't understand why the dr would want to avoid labor?

rebelone

I'll also be scheduled at 39 weeks to do a repeat C-section. C Sections are usually scheduled at 39 weeks to avoid the mother going into labor, which will complicate things. I think the scheduling would be okay if it's at 39 weeks with a couple days flexibility, it doesn't "have" to be right at 39 weeks.

Personally, I would not want to share a birthday with my kid, I'd want for them to have their own day so if I had to schedule around it, I would do a day or two away. That way one day you can celebrate them and you can have your own day.

My due date is April 22, but at 39 weeks puts me having a C Section on Friday, April 15 (tax day).

AnnikaD20

My BIL was born on my MIL's birthday, and he's cool with it. And we had our son on our wedding anniversary. Neither of those were planned, but sometimes things work out that way.

If you're not super rigid about celebrating things on the exact day, it helps a lot with making sure everyone gets their own attention. So you could celebrate your daughters birthday the weekend before and yours the weekend after the actual date or something like that, until you get to the stage where she thinks that having a joint party actually sounds more fun.

mrstrax

Ready4theParty said:

My dr does c-sections a little early to avoid the mother going into labor and needing an emergency c-section.  

Is this just for high risk pregnancies? When I went over with DD they wouldn't talk to me about induction/cs until after 41 weeks. I don't understand why the dr would want to avoid labor?

Not necessarily "high risk", but medically necessary. They wait to schedule until later if you're just not going into labor and could theoretically still deliver naturally. For cases like repeat c-sections, especially if it hasn't been very long since the last one, it can actually be dangerous for Mom to go into labor because of the stress on the uterus/previous incision. My understanding is also that being in labor makes the surgery more difficult for the doctors and more dangerous for Mom and Baby than if you are not naturally contracting when they get started. Plus then the whole situation is just calmer for everyone involved. 

thaisac1

olivemomma said:

General question - why is 39 weeks ideal for a c-section? I would think they would want you to at least reach your dd unless you have gd or some other medical concern in which baby needs to come out early so I'm generally curious as to why this would be.
How old will you be this birthday? I'm not big into birthdays anymore but would like to be able to still specially celebrate milestone birthdays in the future (40, 50, etc). If you will be at an age where you would share milestone birthdays (baby will have sweet 16 the same day you turn 50) I personally wouldn't schedule that. Wow that's thinking way in advance but there is no way they are going to want to share a big birthday with mom in their teen years, especially if yours is a big one too. 

olivemomma said:

General question - why is 39 weeks ideal for a c-section? I would think they would want you to at least reach your dd unless you have gd or some other medical concern in which baby needs to come out early so I'm generally curious as to why this would be.
How old will you be this birthday? I'm not big into birthdays anymore but would like to be able to still specially celebrate milestone birthdays in the future (40, 50, etc). If you will be at an age where you would share milestone birthdays (baby will have sweet 16 the same day you turn 50) I personally wouldn't schedule that. Wow that's thinking way in advance but there is no way they are going to want to share a big birthday with mom in their teen years, especially if yours is a big one too. 

If one is to have an elective cesarean, the OB schedules at 39 weeks because it's late enough in the game that baby will be mature, but it also avoids the mother going into labor. The last thing you want is your elective cesarean becoming an emergent one because you're in labor and there is a problem ... you want a medically controlled situation.

fourtsixand2

I personally don't think it's cool.  I also am not a fan of unnecessarily scheduled c-sections (not saying yours is unnecessary).   
My due date is April 14th, which is 2 days before my stepson's birthday, and I'm really hoping my son isn't born on his birthday.  
My stepson thinks it'd be a cool thing to have a brother born on his birthday, but I think once they get older it will be more of a pain than a "cool" thing.

cortney626

My brother was born on my aunt's birthday. At first my mom thought it was neat that her son shared a birthday with her sister, but over the years she realized her son's bday took precedence over her sister's. Which is understandable. As parents, we do everything for our kids. If I shared a birthday with my kid, I would imagine my birthday would become less significant. Some people don't care to celebrate while others do. 

AmadorRose

DH's oldest daughter shares his birthday, and he thinks it's the coolest thing ever. He even asked me to cook this one until June so she could also share his birthday (HA!). He doesn't want or need more than a happy birthday wish for his birthday, though, so the day is still about his daughter rather than him.

Ready4theParty

I get doing it at 39w for rcs or medical purposes but not for elective reasons.

I am due on th 18th and DD1s bday is the 17th. There is a very real chance the two could share bdays.

linzoirv

I'm due 2 days after my birthday. (EDD: 4/10/16). I mentioned on a previous thread (one of the 10 Things Tuesdays) that I would love the idea of sharing a birthday with my son. If he happens to come on 4/8/16 naturally (no C-section), AWESOME! I would feel like it was destined to be, if that makes sense. If I had to have a C-section, I would schedule it according to the recommendations of my OB based on my/baby's health, risks, etc.

Whatever your choose, I hope that you'll be happy with your decision. If you go along with it, look at it as another bond that you will share with your LO for a lifetime. If not, see it as a way to give your LO her own day of celebration.

Missingchampagne

It's hard to know what type of personality she'll have, and what she will find "cool". I would think she wouldn't mind, since family is more likely to put emphasis on the baby's birthday than yours going forward. It's your birthday that is the one likely to be kind of glazed over, if the dates are shared. So in that sense, she probably won't mind one bit. I would schedule them one day apart, personally (assuming medical necessity, of course).

cmjenkies

DD is due 4/24 - DH birthday is 4/26, FIL 4/28, mine 5/7. There's a very real possibility that she may share a birthday with one of us. DH would love that, and in the grand scheme of things, I find it kind of special.

As far as scheduling your cs, whatever day is optimal for baby is the best day to do it. I see no issue with it falling on your birthday - sounds like a wonderful gift to me!

Poppy16

I assume you have a good reason for your c-section, but personally, I would try to schedule it as far away from my birthday as possible. That way everyone gets their own day and it's a lot less confusing. 

mumidi

I probably wouldn't.  I'm having a RCS and will likely schedule it soon.  I'm due on the 14th so anything in week 39 is ok.  I think it would be cool to have the 10th because my birthday is May 10th and DDs is June 10th but it's a Saturday and I doubt they would schedule it on a Saturday.  It will likely be on Thursday or Friday since I'm due the following Thursday.  Since I'll be in there for a few days I'd like part of it to be over the weekend so DH is taking time off to sit in the hospital with me.  I prefer his help when we get home.