Thanks for the head ups about VS. I was just telling myself today I'm getting tired of taking off my underwear and trying to determine if it's panty lines engrained into my skin, or just new stretch marks. Unfortunately, they don't have much in the way of full coverage to hide the 70s porn bush I'm rocking these days.
My bitching for this weekend was directed towards my family. They've been great this whole time, but are getting onto me about my wardrobe, and how I need to change it up. Sorry, nothing fits right now. Unless you're going to go buy me shit, then you have to deal with the Darth Vader choking hazard shirt and sweatpants.
Speaking of not fitting into VS anymore.. Do people just go commando during pregnancy? My big girl panties are not fitting the way I like them to anymore and it's pissing me off.
@benten24 I am a firm believer that pretty underwear makes me happier in life, but with ds I went the way of the cheap undies. If I remember correctly my mom got me some at kohl's. Nothing fancy just REALLY BIG boy shorts that fit very loosely. I used a couple of those "free panty" cards from vs and to get the right size they had to be those crazy full coverage ones that go up to your damn belly button. Ugh SO not worth it. I just bought regular undies that were low slung and like 3 sizes too big and that got me through towards the end. Your pants are already up to your boobs, you don't need your undies following suit.
@benten24 I learned in my first pregnancy that thongs were about the only panties that still fit comfortably. Specifically, the ones with a wide lace waist from Target.
@jen11797while they do fit best, I'll have to disagree with you on the comfortable part; however, that's coming from a person who had a lot of issues with hemorrhoids toward the end of my first pregnancy. Also, I read an article last night that said that thongs can contribute to UTI's and the spreading of bacteria from your back door to your vag as the string slides back and forth throughout the course of the day. Just another thing to keep in mind before you go crazy buying g-strings!
@benten24 there's such thing as maternity underwear and Thyme maternity has them. They are way overpriced for essentially being parachutes, but so worth it.
I've been wearing all the cotton underwear that were near the end of their run anyway. My thought is that they'll stretch with me as I get bigger and then I'll toss them on the other side.
The Lacey from VS is still working for me - it has the wide, stretchy lace band like what @jen11797 found. I think that thongs are fine. The long part never goes too far in on me so I figure it's just like regular undies.
I am a little over 12 weeks and my husbund and I were looking forward to making a cute announcement this week to family and friends (especially after the heartbreak of 2 MC). I look on Facebook today and my parents have posted 'so excited to announce we're going to be grandparents'. I'm an only child...so pretty obvious connection. I understand they're excited, but I am so mad. Seriously, how many opportunities do you get to share this kind of happy news? I just told them a few days ago the plan to tell family and some distant aunt posting 'congrats on the baby' on my FB wall is the tackiest way for my friends to find out. Ugh, what a shitty day. Social media and seniors should never mix.
I bought a few bigger pairs of underwear towards the end of my last pregnancy, and just went cheap. They were really nice to have after I had DD too, especially since I had a c-section and needed underwear that would sit above my incision. Also needed underwear big enough to hold the humongous pads they give you. They were just plain boy short underwear, cotton, super comfortable.
@soulie12 I'm so sorry that happened. My mother-in-law pulled something really similar the day we were going to announce, but luckily I was able to delete the stuff she posted on my fb wall before too many people saw it. This may be petty, but I told my husband she lost her right to be the first to know any more big news (sex of baby, first pictures when born, names, etc.) and he agreed. You're out of the circle, Focker.
@benten24 I will be rocking thongs till I no longer can. I just have to buy them in bigger sizes now since I'm wider now. I tired wearing boy shorts but they just were not working with me!
Married: August 2012
TTC #1: July 2015
BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
This morning my DH said...those underwear are getting a little tight, they're starting to look like the kind where your cheeks hang out. I recently bought some bigger ones which are great but only bought a 4 pack. Thinking about getting another pack but in the next size up as my butt just seems to be getting bigger daily.
@soulie12 that really sucks! I know the feeling. When we had DD there were some complications and she was taken away for monitoring, xrays, and IV antibiotics. I knew she was fine but hadn't met her yet, and MIL announced on Facebook her birth, sex (we were team green), and name. DH and I had agreed that we couldn't settle 100% on her name until we met her, but were pretty sure we'd go with our top choice from before we had her, but technically at that point it wasn't her name yet. I didn't meet her until 17 hours after her birth.
MIL is really amazing, I love her and even if I wasn't married to DH and I met her I would want to be friends with her. She has never overstepped boundaries before and hasn't since, but that was a huge overstep. We had enough to deal with at the time so we never said or did anything, and once some time had passed I decided it wasn't worth making a big deal over. Plus I knew that she would be absolutely devastated to know that she had hurt me, especially in such a vulnerable time. I'm over it, but I have learned from it and I've already told DH that NOBODY will be getting a text or phone call until I'm out of surgery, back in recovery, holding my baby, and I am ready to post my own announcement. Not even a "mom and baby are fine" - nobody gets one word until I'm ready for the world to know.
ETA: I forgot my point - you are totally justified to make them the last to know anything from this point on. Sorry that happened to you, it is really disappointing when things like that are taken away from you.
Yikes! Thanks for the tip, @soberkfell ! I was very fortunate to not struggle with either of those issues in my first pregnancy, so I didn't know that thongs could be a contributing factor. (Sorry, I have no clue how to quote box.)
@soulie12 I'm sorry that happened. You are so right -- seniors and social media don't mix. When my cousin's husband asked my uncle for his blessing to propose to her, he posted on fb that his daughter was getting married. She responded that he hadn't asked her yet. It's bad enough to announce it before she does, but so much worse to ruin the surprise. Also, when I miscarried the first time, my aunt posted something on fb about how she was so sad for DH and I. I hadn't ever posted I was pg, let alone that I lost it. Everyone was asking what happened.
TTC#1 since Jan 2015 BFP 2/19/15 • MMC found at 9 wks • D&E at 11 wks (age 36) BFP 8/29/15 • CP (age 37)
BFP 11/18/15 • DD born at 41 weeks (age 37/38)
TTC#2 since May 2017 BFP 10/18/17 • MMC found at 8 wks • Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39) BFP 2/16/18 • CP (age 39) BFP 4/13/18 • CP (age 39) BFP 5/07/18 • MMC found at 10.5 wks • D&E at 11.5 wks • Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40) 9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied) RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy. BFP 9/24/18 • CP (age 40)
BFP 5/11/19 • Fraternal twins • MMC found at 10w5d (Baby A 6w, Baby B 10w) • Misoprostal at 11 weeks (age 41)
Just a small update. Texted Mom, told her to avoid announcing on any other social media and said in the nicest way possible she had messed up. She then responded ON MY FB WALL apologizing for letting the cat out of the bag and she only told people because she's so happy. So if friends were unsure about the 'congrats, we're so excited for you' from an aunt, they sure know now.
I'm over it now, and most of my friends thought it was a hilarious story. They will be informed last on any future news. Luckily today the Harmony genetic testing came back normal, so I am much more chill about everyone knowing
Just a small update. Texted Mom, told her to avoid announcing on any other social media and said in the nicest way possible she had messed up. She then responded ON MY FB WALL apologizing for letting the cat out of the bag and she only told people because she's so happy. So if friends were unsure about the 'congrats, we're so excited for you' from an aunt, they sure know now.
I'm over it now, and most of my friends thought it was a hilarious story. They will be informed last on any future news. Luckily today the Harmony genetic testing came back normal, so I am much more chill about everyone knowing
No. Way.
Just...what?????
I cannot process how anyone would do this and think they were anywhere near reasonable.
Just a small update. Texted Mom, told her to avoid announcing on any other social media and said in the nicest way possible she had messed up. She then responded ON MY FB WALL apologizing for letting the cat out of the bag and she only told people because she's so happy. So if friends were unsure about the 'congrats, we're so excited for you' from an aunt, they sure know now.
I'm over it now, and most of my friends thought it was a hilarious story. They will be informed last on any future news. Luckily today the Harmony genetic testing came back normal, so I am much more chill about everyone knowing
Re: Weekend Bitchfest
Married: May 16th 2015
My bitching for this weekend was directed towards my family. They've been great this whole time, but are getting onto me about my wardrobe, and how I need to change it up. Sorry, nothing fits right now. Unless you're going to go buy me shit, then you have to deal with the Darth Vader choking hazard shirt and sweatpants.
Married: October 2014
TTC #1 since September 2015
MIL is really amazing, I love her and even if I wasn't married to DH and I met her I would want to be friends with her. She has never overstepped boundaries before and hasn't since, but that was a huge overstep. We had enough to deal with at the time so we never said or did anything, and once some time had passed I decided it wasn't worth making a big deal over. Plus I knew that she would be absolutely devastated to know that she had hurt me, especially in such a vulnerable time. I'm over it, but I have learned from it and I've already told DH that NOBODY will be getting a text or phone call until I'm out of surgery, back in recovery, holding my baby, and I am ready to post my own announcement. Not even a "mom and baby are fine" - nobody gets one word until I'm ready for the world to know.
ETA: I forgot my point - you are totally justified to make them the last to know anything from this point on. Sorry that happened to you, it is really disappointing when things like that are taken away from you.
BFP 2/19/15 • MMC found at 9 wks • D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
BFP 8/29/15 • CP (age 37)
TTC#2 since May 2017
BFP 10/18/17 • MMC found at 8 wks • Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)
BFP 2/16/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 4/13/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 5/07/18 • MMC found at 10.5 wks • D&E at 11.5 wks • Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)
RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.
BFP 9/24/18 • CP (age 40)
Ugh. I hate when people make other's news about them!
I'm over it now, and most of my friends thought it was a hilarious story. They will be informed last on any future news. Luckily today the Harmony genetic testing came back normal, so I am much more chill about everyone knowing
Just...what?????
I cannot process how anyone would do this and think they were anywhere near reasonable.