Babies on the Brain

Baby bug, yet we're waiting

Hello,

I'm Kendra and I have the "baby bug." My husband and I are waiting until next spring to "pull the goalie," so I figured I'd try to set my mind, bank account, physical needs at rest and begin preparing for things now.

Any and all... scratch that. Most, not the scary stuff unless you think it's pertinent, advice, tips, tricks, memories to look out for are most appreciated. Thanks for the support.

Re: Baby bug, yet we're waiting

  • Research the 4th trimester. "Happiest baby on the block."
    Get "the wonder weeks" book. It's accurate.
    Consider fostering an infant with the intent to adopt. One less human brought into the world when there's one already in need of a loving home.
  • Love the hockey reference.  ;) I have read "The Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy" a few times, and love it - very informative and witty, so it's not at all terrifying. 
    Married: 10-2-2010
    Punk's birthday: 3-28-17
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  • I don't know if you plan on going the NTNP route or actively trying, but I really liked reading "Taking Charge of Your Fertility". I learned a lot and it helped to make me feel like I have a better understanding of how the whole conceiving process works. I'm a nerd and like researching things though. ;)
  • Start saving extra for a nice cushion for any unexpected expenses. Other than that start getting your body ready... Start taking prenatals with 800mg folic acid if you are not already and consider taking fish oil if your chosen prenatal doesn't include DHA. Make sure you are eating healthy and just overall taking good care of your body. Pick up a few books, although always take any of the advice with a grain of salt because some of these books can scare you silly with things that are really not that big of a deal. Same with the Internet. I drove myself crazy with reading when I was pregnant with my son and it ended up just giving me anxiety. Once you start ttc, try not to put too much pressure on yourself or your husband... Try to keep it fun. Our bodies our more receptive to becoming pregnant when we aren't so stressed out and it makes it easier on our partners as well.
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  • KarliQ88KarliQ88 member
    edited January 2016
    We were in your shoes last year...wanting to try but knowing it's smart to wait and save money do another vacation etc. Well great we are a year later and still don't feel ready. April is our month to "pull the goalie" ( i liked that by the way. Thanks). I'll tell your i don't think there is ever a true "ready." on paper it looks like we are ready. Nice new home, both great jobs, good money, both healthy, savings built up for it, traveled together, high school sweethearts ( started dating when we were 14 now 27...awww ha!) it's a confusing feeling. Like i know we are ready but at the same time there is always that hesitation "are we really?" now that the time is nearly here. Ive been off BC since November. We will continue with plans because us not being ready is fear and that fear doesn't go away if i wait a year or two years. Fear is a good thing! It's normal to be scared. It makes you a cautious person. Good luck. In the mean time get on a multivitamin, develop healthy eating habits, start exercising. That goes for your spouse as well. The best vegetable garden starts with healthy soil so get your soil ready :-)
  • Posting to follow. 

    DH and I are in a very similar place. We are emotionally ready, but we are waiting until January/February 2017 to start TTC. Not going to lie, some days I want to just throw caution to the wind and start TTCing in the next few months, but we are staying committed to the course. It's so hard sometimes, but we are confident that preparing over the next year will set up for a better position over the next 18+ years of our future child's life.
  • bmo88 said:
    Posting to follow. 

    DH and I are in a very similar place. We are emotionally ready, but we are waiting until January/February 2017 to start TTC. Not going to lie, some days I want to just throw caution to the wind and start TTCing in the next few months, but we are staying committed to the course. It's so hard sometimes, but we are confident that preparing over the next year will set up for a better position over the next 18+ years of our future child's life.
    DH and I plan to start TTC in Jan/Feb too!

    I have to be honest in that I want a baby sooo badly, but I am respecting DH's wishes and know that another year will put us in a much better position. It is just so hard to wait!

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    Me: 28  Him: 30

    Married: 11/15/14

    TTC: 02/2016

    IF DX: MFI (low count & morphology) & mild PCOS

    June 2016 BFP - MC @8w2d

    August 2016 BFP - MC @6w1d

    June 2017 - 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP 7/6/17!!

    Beta #1 = 422 (14dpo), Beta #2 = 810, prog - 12.3 (16dpo), Beta #3 = 5023, prog - 18.9 (20dpo)

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  • @Heatho620 : We can wait together! Even though it won't be very fun to wait...
  • Heatho620 said:
    bmo88 said:
    Posting to follow. 

    DH and I are in a very similar place. We are emotionally ready, but we are waiting until January/February 2017 to start TTC. Not going to lie, some days I want to just throw caution to the wind and start TTCing in the next few months, but we are staying committed to the course. It's so hard sometimes, but we are confident that preparing over the next year will set up for a better position over the next 18+ years of our future child's life.
    DH and I plan to start TTC in Jan/Feb too!

    I have to be honest in that I want a baby sooo badly, but I am respecting DH's wishes and know that another year will put us in a much better position. It is just so hard to wait!
    That year goes by SO fast. Trust me. Last year we decided april 2016 and here we are almost there. Right now not trying not preventing but April we will be trying :-p enjoy this year with your SO. Both of you use this time to get healthy. Loose weight if you need to. Start healthy eating habits. Start a budget. We waited to have a savings built up enough to take time off work so i don't need to use vacation days or god forbid if something bad happens (like having a sick baby or if something happens to me). Luckily we have amazing insurance and it will cost us almost nothing. 
  • We just started trying this month, finally, and did the BD 4 days ago, and today based on temps and CM/CP I believe I'm ovulating, either yesterday or today (future temps will confirm). Thing is, three months ago I donated eggs, and told the agency that DH and I were going to start TTC afterward, but that I'd be open to donating again if I wasn't already pregnant.  Well, two days ago we were planning to BD again because I had EWCM, but I was contacted because another couple wanted my eggs, so we did not BD. I'm thrilled, of course, to donate again, but I'm still a little sad that our TTC date is pushed back a few months again.  There's a tiny chance that the BD 4 days ago (maybe 4 days before ovulation) could turn into a pregnancy, which in that case I won't be donating, and which in that case I'd be happy either way. Either I end up pregnant, or help another couple become pregnant, so it's a win win :)
    Me: 30 |  DH: 33
    Married: 8/11/2007

    DD: Born 2/3/17
    BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
  • I actually enjoyed reading Get Ready To Get Pregnant. So informative!
    I went off the pill in the beginning of January to get my cycles straight before we start TTC (turned out to be a good idea, my first cycles were all over the place...). I'm charting my BBT, take folic acid, work out and eat well. Basics I guess. Hope to start TTC this summer! #excited
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