Am I crazy?

MacBaby0805

My partner and I have been fighting nonstop over the smallest, dumbest things. I realize that my hormones probably play a huge part, but...what is his excuse?! I've always had this idea in mind that while you're carrying a guy's baby, he should treat you extra special. Is that ridiculous of me? Am I completely delusional in, not expecting, but hoping to be treated with extra care, love, and patience? Even like a freaking queen?? Maybe that's crazy, and again, I don't expect that, but is it too much to ask that I don't have to defend every one of my moodier hours? Someone please tell me if I'm out of my mind to hope for more consideration in this time, because I feel pretty insane right now.

bananers

Meh, I don't expect DH to treat me any differently. I mean, I would hope he wouldn't ask me to mow the lawn 7 months from now, but right now I'm still me.

I do think it's normal for many couples to bicker more during pregnancy. You're both nervous and your lives are about to change. My advice as a STM though, is to talk about it now and let him know how you're feeling. Keep communication open and practice keeping it open. Because you're really going to need to be in a solid place once there's a newborn in the picture.

MacBaby0805

That's good advice. I'm having a hard time with coping with losing our son earlier this year and a lot of conflicting emotions that come with it. I'm sure I'm a lot more sensitive than usual, but I guess I'm hoping for more consideration on his part than may be fair. Hmph.

bananers

I'm sorry for your loss. That definitely can put more of a strain on an already stressful time. If YH is anything like mine, he is probably scared of another loss and treating you like you aren't pregnant may be his way of coping. I hope you're able to come together to support each other.

Bookhousegirl

I agree with PP that you should talk it over with your DH. I have asked my husband to do a bit more recently just because I'm so tired and sick but it required us sitting down and having a conversation about it. He's been amazing now, but before he just didn't really understand how crappy I was feeling so he didn't realize I needed the help. I tend to assume he knows how I'm feeling when that isn't fair to him.

bearsandbeets7

Honestly I think it's kinda easy for DH to, not necessarily forget, but not take into consideration that you're pregnant at first. Once that belly starts growing things may change because there will be a constant reminder that your not capable of doing everything you can normally do not pregnant. But, I'd rather him help out more once baby is here than while pregnant.

dblock0626

My husband is seriously amazing. He doesn't treat me too much different which makes me feel like I'm still human. But when I get moody or emotional he laughs at me and that is the best thing he could do, because then I start laughing too