Well, I started spotting today. Am drinking beer and eating chocolate turtles. Won't be trying again until March because my RE recommends I get the chicken pox vaccine, as it can be fatal in pregnancy. I'm feeling all the (yucky) feelings.
I'd love to hear, from those of you who have done so, how it's been helpful to have a break and how I can keep my brain from thinking about missed opportunity. Thanks.
Re: Positive stories about taking a break from TTC?
As far as taking a break, we had to take 2 months off this summer when my DH was dealing with some health issues. I won't say it was easy to banish thoughts of missed opportunities, but it was a weird sort of relief to just know that after 26-28 days AF would show up. It wasn't a disappointment. It wasn't a surprise. It saved me a lot of anxiety and emotional ups and downs. It wasn't a break I wanted to take--just like you--but, it did provide a bit of respite from the roller coaster. Also, I enjoyed caffeine and some beer!
I hope this is at least a little bit encouraging for you. You are doing something that will be good for a future baby. And that's a good thing. It's still "progress" in a way--just not the BFP kind we all want. Hopefully it will be one step in your journey toward that BFP though.
I appreciate your perspective and kind words. Thank you.
7 IUIs, 7 BFNs.
2 IVF attempts, both cancelled and converted to IUI, both BFNs.
Decided that my tired old ovaries are ready to retire.
Next step- reciprocal IVF, using my wife's eggs, my uterus!
fresh 5 day transfer (2 embryos) 4/17/17- BFP!
Identical twins "due" 1/2/17 (but anticipated arrival sometime December)
I've had to take some months off for medical stuff, sometimes for me, sometimes it was DH. Either way it did sort of take the pressure off, and the whole ups and downs and hyper vigilance on certain aspects was not missed at all. Plus I got to enjoy lots of coffee whenever I felt like it. That's one thing I just can't seem to fully give up.
Husband: 40
TTC#1 since 9/2014
Unexplained Infertility - Trying naturally
That was 3mo ago, and I can say that my approach is way more relaxed now. I think it was good I had to back off. I was getting way too stressed out about temps.
I think a break can be a good thing if you can embrace the down time and nurture yourself. I don't know that I've been able to really do that for myself, but I did allow myself to chill.
One of the ladies here encouraged me by saying that the time off will fly by, and it kind of did!
I wish I could remember who said that...I'll look back.
Hang in there and allow yourself to indulge in the quiet time. That's the best I've got! Xoxo