I tried joining a TTC group on Facebook...

Smashbox29

I hope everyone is having a great Christmas or holiday celebration.

I decided a week ago to check out if The Bump had a Facebook group to join and post on as well and didn't find one. What I did find was a few groups called "Trying to Conceive" and boy were they worse than the Glow app. With Glow at least they have different rooms and not all are horrible.

I just left the FB group today I just couldn't take it anymore.

The things girls were posting and the pictures.

I couldn't get over the "I have been sneezing more than normal and today I sneezed and shat myself. Could I be pregnant?"

CajunSnowWhite89

Smashbox29 said:

I hope everyone is having a great Christmas or holiday celebration.

I decided a week ago to check out if The Bump had a Facebook group to join and post on as well and didn't find one. What I did find was a few groups called "Trying to Conceive" and boy were they worse than the Glow app. With Glow at least they have different rooms and not all are horrible.

I just left the FB group today I just couldn't take it anymore.

The things girls were posting and the pictures.

I couldn't get over the "I have been sneezing more than normal and today I sneezed and shat myself. Could I be pregnant?"

What?!?!? Yea, leaving that group was a good idea...

**Edited because it didn't post correctly

Lulucooks

I hide a group like that on FB and go lurk it when I need some entertainment

Smashbox29

They kept posting toilet paper with blood and asking if it was Implantation or ovulating bleeding.

No no that's your period...

PeggyOlsonFTW

Smashbox29 said:

They kept posting toilet paper with blood and asking if it was Implantation or ovulating bleeding. No no that's your period...

Lulucooks

One time I saw a lady post a picture of her stomach, shirt rolled up so you could see better, asking if she was pregnant.

Some people should not be allowed to Internet

PeggyOlsonFTW

What are the names of these groups? Curiosity has gotten the best of me...

Smashbox29

If I hadn't found this forum I am ashamed to admit,I may have been a few of these crazies. Not the toilet paper girl but I was totes SS like a crazy woman last month.

Smashbox29

@KDHB13 literally type in "Trying to conceive" that's it. There's two and I am still apart of one.

Xstatic3333

Smashbox29 said:

They kept posting toilet paper with blood and asking if it was Implantation or ovulating bleeding.

No no that's your period...

So, so gross. I just can't. Even on TB I'm usually too nervous to open any post with CM in the title.

izza2

Smashbox29 said:

They kept posting toilet paper with blood and asking if it was Implantation or ovulating bleeding. No no that's your period...

This is immensely disgusting!

There was this one time that I had what I thought was creamy CM and was like "Oh, TB ladies would know if this was actually creamy or not" because I wasn't positive. But I didn't think of taking a picture... I sat there wondering how I would describe it in a post for a good five minutes, and then promptly remembered FF and Google exist.

xiphos13

I had to leave a FB group like that about a month ago. The symptom spotting was ridiculous. I didn't mind it too much, but one girl they added was the final straw that broke the camel's back. She constantly posted pictures of pregnancy tests, and tried using different filters to try to see a BFP. (And by constantly, I mean at least 2-3 per day.) I never saw anything other than the control line on the tests. But all of the other ladies on there claimed to see it. I couldn't deal with any more "you're totes preggers!" comments.

I love being supportive, and I always wish a sincere congratulations to those that get pregnant. But I feel like they were just supporting each other without decent evidence and setting people up for disappointment. As entertaining as they could be, I just couldn't take it anymore. I'm sure there are FB groups out there that are wonderful, but that experience just wasn't for me. I'll stick to The Bump.

joyful08

I caved. Curiosity got the best of me and I downloaded the glow app. Holy moly I didn't know these kind of people exist!! My mind is blown

AmMcc12

Confession: I have the glow app and go there when I need a laugh or to calm my crazy by reading their crazy.

Lecool

I also lurk the Glow when I need a good laugh. Or when I find myself symptom spotting and I want to see how ridiculous I sound. That brings me back to reality pretty quick.

Smashbox29

I got myself voted of the island of "You're Totes Pregnant!" this morning.  I am no longer apart of the FB group I was still in.

A girl posted a harmless post she did say TMI but no pictures yet. I responded first, trying to help. She was nervous because she was having horrible cramps and clots that were not normal and her doctor wasn't worried about it. Obviously FB had the answer instead.

*** Possible TMI/TW below***

She then decided to post a picture of the clot, which looked like a leech from hell, to prove that it wasnt normal.  I posted "OMG this can't be unseen"

The rest started commenting on how I was judging her and asking her how it felt and if it was hard and can it dissolve in water. 

I tried defending myself but it only got worse.  Someone decided she must have been pregnant and you can assume what they claim it was from that statement. Even though the doctor said she wasn't. They even posted articles.

I just can't...

I will stay here if thats okay with you all.

joyful08

Smashbox29 said:

I got myself voted of the island of "You're Totes Pregnant!" this morning.  I am no longer apart of the FB group I was still in.

A girl posted a harmless post she did say TMI but no pictures yet. I responded first, trying to help. She was nervous because she was having horrible cramps and clots that were not normal and her doctor wasn't worried about it. Obviously FB had the answer instead.

*** Possible TMI/TW below***

She then decided to post a picture of the clot, which looked like a leech from hell, to prove that it wasnt normal.  I posted "OMG this can't be unseen"

The rest started commenting on how I was judging her and asking her how it felt and if it was hard and can it dissolve in water. 

I tried defending myself but it only got worse.  Someone decided she must have been pregnant and you can assume what they claim it was from that statement. Even though the doctor said she wasn't. They even posted articles.

I just can't...

I will stay here if thats okay with you all.

What is wrong with people???!!!!

sarah0985

When I first went off the pill I downloaded "p tracker"
I liked it as a way to track my periods and eventually discovered the "social" aspect of it. Total special snowflakes, rainbow farting unicorns, and tmi photos!!!! I was mortified!!! I can't believe people do it on Facebook!!!!!

Eta: thank God I found the bump. You ladies keep me grounded and in check of reality and science. Over there I probably would have been pregnant about 8 times by now. Especially with my 45 day cycle a few cycles ago! They see imaginary lines on EVERY THING!!!

izza2

So you guys had me curious, talking about other groups -- I, thankfully, found you ladies right away and have stuck it out since Day 1 of community-searching.

I just looked at WTE's TTC community, and holy shnikes. I looked at 5 threads with pee sticks, all of them asking if people saw lines, and everyone said they saw faint lines! I saw nothing! Nada! There was not a gosh darn thing on those tests! WTF?!

MrsDho11

So these people who say, "yes! There's totes a line there" to negative tests... Do they also ever even say anything like "try confirming on a digi"? Or you know, is that too much reality?

sarah0985

@MrsDho11
Nope! On the site I somehow wound up "following" someone. I don't know how. But so all her posts came up. She has been pregnant "4 times" and each time moves onto a pregnant board but every test is nothing. No one says anything to her. They're all "congrats"
I feel bad for her as she thinks she has had chemicals each time but it's super bizarre to watch it play out. It's even more bizarre to watch all the people allowing this woman to be convinced she's pregnant when it's clearly a negative test.



Eta. She goes to the doctor and her bloods come back at 0. She still assumed it was a chemical and her doctor is missing it.

tripledaggerWed95976

Smashbox29 said:

I got myself voted of the island of "You're Totes Pregnant!" this morning.  I am no longer apart of the FB group I was still in.

A girl posted a harmless post she did say TMI but no pictures yet. I responded first, trying to help. She was nervous because she was having horrible cramps and clots that were not normal and her doctor wasn't worried about it. Obviously FB had the answer instead.

*** Possible TMI/TW below***

She then decided to post a picture of the clot, which looked like a leech from hell, to prove that it wasnt normal.  I posted "OMG this can't be unseen"

The rest started commenting on how I was judging her and asking her how it felt and if it was hard and can it dissolve in water. 

I tried defending myself but it only got worse.  Someone decided she must have been pregnant and you can assume what they claim it was from that statement. Even though the doctor said she wasn't. They even posted articles.

I just can't...

I will stay here if thats okay with you all.

***trigger warning********
We had a girl here in the bump a while back who SWORE she had miscarried twins because when she got her period she saw two clots. So wildly offensive to those who have experienced actual miscarriages and losses.

paigeed

Welcome! Snark and science are welcome here. If you haven't, it's recommended around these parts to chart basal body temp and use fertility friend. Looking forward to getting to know you.

Kay6519

tripledaggerWed95976 said:

Smashbox29 said:

I got myself voted of the island of "You're Totes Pregnant!" this morning.  I am no longer apart of the FB group I was still in.

A girl posted a harmless post she did say TMI but no pictures yet. I responded first, trying to help. She was nervous because she was having horrible cramps and clots that were not normal and her doctor wasn't worried about it. Obviously FB had the answer instead.

*** Possible TMI/TW below***

She then decided to post a picture of the clot, which looked like a leech from hell, to prove that it wasnt normal.  I posted "OMG this can't be unseen"

The rest started commenting on how I was judging her and asking her how it felt and if it was hard and can it dissolve in water. 

I tried defending myself but it only got worse.  Someone decided she must have been pregnant and you can assume what they claim it was from that statement. Even though the doctor said she wasn't. They even posted articles.

I just can't...

I will stay here if thats okay with you all.

***trigger warning********
We had a girl here in the bump a while back who SWORE she had miscarried twins because when she got her period she saw two clots. So wildly offensive to those who have experienced actual miscarriages and losses.

Those are the worst! I find it exceptionally offensive when ladies post whining about how they had a heavy flow during AF so they want to know if its OK to mourn their loss even though they never had a BFP.

Ally0221

sarah0985 said:

@MrsDho11
Nope! On the site I somehow wound up "following" someone. I don't know how. But so all her posts came up. She has been pregnant "4 times" and each time moves onto a pregnant board but every test is nothing. No one says anything to her. They're all "congrats"
I feel bad for her as she thinks she has had chemicals each time but it's super bizarre to watch it play out. It's even more bizarre to watch all the people allowing this woman to be convinced she's pregnant when it's clearly a negative test.



Eta. She goes to the doctor and her bloods come back at 0. She still assumed it was a chemical and her doctor is missing it.

Whoa



Eta: gif

_darth

So... I may or may not have spent cycle 3-4 trolling Glow forums with pictures of obviously negative tests, artsy instagram filters, and increasingly ridiculous edibles "for focus". I'm really glad I found this community. You're not gross or boring.

ETA: Started with a small pretzel because I was annoyed with the ring showcase, escalated to a chocolate dipped strawberry.

hlvonb

Being bored + reading this thread = Curiosity

I told myself to not go to FB and look. I didn't listen. I think I may have lost a few brain cells reading / seeing some of those things. I have returned back to TB with a sigh of relief lol

g8rmama_16

Ok, so you guys made me curious and I got the Glow app. First post I read is from a woman who got a BFP and started to bleed. While most ladies told her to go to the ER, she was most likely having a miscarriage, many told her that they had been bleeding for weeks in their first trimester and one offered up that she had implantation bleeding from weeks 12-14. Wow. This is going to be entertaining.
I love you, Bump.


ETA GIF TB ate AGAIN!

mrsdee15

Curiosity got the best of me too.  Wowza.

I've been wondering this for a while with the posters who do the "am I totes preggers?!!?!11" posts, and the people who see lines when there are no lines on the test:  Why would it be beneficial to have people tell them they're KU, only to find out they aren't?  That sounds awful.  Sort of related, how can the posters that make those posts on here make a profile, wait the three days, still not test, and THEN come on here and ask about their symptoms?  I just don't get it.  

It just looks like a sure-fire way to set themselves up to potentially go through a huge let-down, why would anyone want that over finding out conclusively that they are pregnant, even if that is a little further down the line?

Ash9614

I too have downloaded Glow after reading this thread. I really like the interface! But yes it's nutty in there!

_darth

Ash9614 said:

I too have downloaded Glow after reading this thread. I really like the interface! But yes it's nutty in there!

It's a very nice interface but their algorithm prioritises first LH surge, has issues with temp confirmation, and bases advice tips and conception chance percentages on questionable studies. Also, bodily fluids. Bodily fluids everywhere.

zwink1

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Spam bot strikes again.  How did you even find this thread Nigerian computer hacker?  Talk about a deep dive zombie thread.  

I actually clicked on this in the first place because TB told me I had 7 unread posts on this thread.  I didn't remember reading it, so curiosity got me.  Then I realized it was from 2015 and TB came full circle for me.  It's really something when you're alerted to unread posts from 6 years ago lol.