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Are any other ladies here struggling to keep up with basic housework?
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Hello lovely ladies!!
I'm 23 weeks today. My husband works at a very big accounting firm and works very late hours. I'm really struggling to do all the house chores as usual. Work is pretty relaxed at the moment which is good but still at home I can't do as much as before. It puts me on the verge of panic! I have asked for help from my mom and she helps when she can but otherwise feel like I'm stuck in a messy house and unable to have as neat as I am used to
how are you all dealing with your newfound belly and aches and pains?
I'm 23 weeks today. My husband works at a very big accounting firm and works very late hours. I'm really struggling to do all the house chores as usual. Work is pretty relaxed at the moment which is good but still at home I can't do as much as before. It puts me on the verge of panic! I have asked for help from my mom and she helps when she can but otherwise feel like I'm stuck in a messy house and unable to have as neat as I am used to
how are you all dealing with your newfound belly and aches and pains?
Re: Are any other ladies here struggling to keep up with basic housework?
I do the wood floors floors, trim, and dust all rooms on Sunday's as well as wash the sheets and clean the bathrooms. It's turned into a all day thing now.
I haven't scrubbed our tile shower in almost a month because I'm not allowed to. It's driving me crazy
I'm 24 weeks
Problem solved !
I work in the home for a living-- my husband STILL helps when he can because we are a team & that helps this ship plug along. Division of labor is important but honestly, you are a living medical condition. Take it easy or divide each chore up into little chunks.
I did cleaning one job at a time then rested in 2nd & 3rd trimester.
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He's a neat freak too, but under circumstances he understands if the house isn't picked up. Same when the babe gets here, we both have to find our balance and lean on each other when we need it.
We are moving in the next month but we have till after the baby is due in our current lease. We have agreed to use this time to really pair down our crap (we are moving in with my father who lives 2 minutes away). Hopefully by doing it this way our rooms will be easier to keep clean.
My parents are both neat freaks so I never became too concerned with keeping things neat but with baby on the way it needs to happen! Plus I keep my daycare classroom so clean and organized I know I can do it, I've just let DHs laziness affect me for too long.
I'm passing the time by window shopping for a new car
My toddler has been up since 6, didn't go to bed until 12:30. I try to make sure dishes are done every day (I have a pile on the counter right now calling my name).
I just set goals, I do what I can, and I forget the rest. Once you have a kid, the house goes to hell anyway. Happy family, sanity, clean home - pick the 2 you can live with.
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I try to break chores down and do a little each day. I do the dishes everyday, but I'll dust and vacuum one day, clean the entire bedroom the next day, clean the bathroom the next day, etc. Otherwise, I'm just too exhausted to do a decent job.
*whispers* I haven't mopped in quite a while and I keep putting it off because I'm scared to see what the mop heads will look like.
Just today I was saying to myself how bending/squatting low is getting to be utter bullshit. I feel like im 90!
Our house looks tons better and I think having the help to get things under control was a huge help. I didn't feel alone and he was able to do the things that I couldn't do. If you can get your husbands on board to help you for a few days, it may help. Upkeep is far easier than getting going with cleaning, especially if you already have a LO like we do!
>I have come to terms with the fact that I just need to get done what I can get done. When the MS starts going away, I start doing more on those days...and rest more on the days when I feel like poop.
Now that I feel better, we're back to our regular routine. We pretty much split the house work 50/50, because we both work and it's 2016 and I can't imagine being in a marriage where the house work was all on my shoulders. Generally, he vacuums and I do laundry because we both hate the other chore.
We're not really obsessive cleaners, but we keep the house pretty tidy (except the bedroom, where I throw all my clothes into the floor like a slob). It's a lot easier when there's not a lot of junk to pick up and we can just do the floors and wipe up every once in awhile.
All that being said, we're snowed in for the weekend and I know I should be cleaning, but it just sounds awful so I'm watching a lot of mindless tv instead.
We've been in our new home 1 month so housework is a total joke - we haven't even fully unpacked our own bedroom yet! When we get enough unpacked we'll get help again I'm sure. But being pregnant in this situation is odd - I want to nest and get everything put together in the new house, but I also really want to lie in bed and watch figure skating while eating Chinese food... Oh the dilemma!
DH just texted me after he cleaned our master bath could I maybe please start cleaning up after myself a little better since my makeup was caked about 1/2 on the sink. Le sigh. At least he said please.
I have been super bad about all things house work but by some miracle DH has totally picked up any slack I've left even though we were pretty 50/50 before I got KU. Gross mushy moment warning, but I am feeling pretty lucky to have him.
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
DS2 due 12/12/18