Hello, I just turned 40 and was just married last year - we've been together for 6 years at this point. We decided to TTC just before we got married last fall. Well, I had some back issues and the treatments required me not to be pregnant, so there have been several months in our year or so of trying when we didn't try. In addition to that, you can count out the week of ovulation that my husband had the flu, then at some point had a bad cold, etc., you get the point. So I could probably count on one hand as to how many months were legit months of trying. Plus, what I'm facing now is the fact that my husband seems to want to try less and less, yet talks about our future with a kid/kids as if it's a guarantee. I've tried to tell him in the beginning we need to do it a few times every other day during my prime week of ovulation. I took my BBT for several months in a row and have a good idea of when I ovulate. I tried to use the ovulation tests but they test positive any and every time during the month that I try them, so they are of no help to me. I'm getting resentful of my husband not wanting to have sex. We've never been a sexual couple, so going for a while without sex is not out of the realm of possibility. I get angry when I know it's my week to ovulate, and sometimes don't want to tell him it's our week to try, because many times he has not acted upon it. I'm tired of initiating, I'm tired of caring to be honest. I've already started preparing myself for not having a child and I know I will be ok. My husband does not focus on that so much and just thinks it's going to happen. We've had our arguments about me being negative about it, but at this point, his non-action is all I see. I don't want to become a nag. I don't want to be the one who has to do everything, initiate everything. I'm at a point where I just want to either decide to not have a kid so I can do some other things I want to do career-wise...my plan B if I don't become a mother. I have not been to the OBGYN about this. I have talked to my PCP a few times and she's advised me on tips of getting pregnant and prescribed me prenatal vitamins. I invited my husband to attend an OBGYN appointment with me and he said he would, but I have yet to make the appointment. I thought that if he hears it from someone else that you have to have sex more than once a month, or more than once every few months, maybe it would actually get through!