DH has not started Christmas shopping. Which just means he'll get me some crappy gift. He does this every year. We've had conversations about this. But whatever, him and I have different approaches to gift giving. I didn't marry him for his gift giving abilities or lack there of. But he complains about not having time to shop and he has to get our trailer ready for camping Christmas night. I told him this last week. But he spent yesterday working on a buddy's dirt bike. Then my brother is texting today asking for help for his girlfriend's Christmas present. he hasn't shopped either. I told him that him and DH suck. Don't wait then bitch about it or ask for help.
Your DH could be related to mine. My Dhs problem is because he gets so excited he wants to give it to me right away. It's frustrating. I also get annoyed when he knows what he wants to get me, but won't take the 20 minutes it takes to stop and get it for me. I totally feel you pain
@Ready4theParty Your posts have convinced me never, ever to rent to friends or family. Sorry you're having to deal with this.
@pinottoparenthood Agreed, I found the glucose test to be a complete non-event. I think this is less a confession than a public service message for FTMs! Like so many things in pregnancy, you can't know what your experience will be, but this is one of the few where it's at least possible it won't even be uncomfortable.
Another MIL post - she won't stop rubbing my stomach. At least 6 times today I've looked down to see her hands on me. DH was then kind enough to rub my feet after an eventful day, and she started RUBBING MY TOES. I have touch and space issues to begin with because of a previous relationship and rarely hug even my immediate family. She also insists on my drinking milk and sitting on a special pillow when we drive - so I won't "shake her baby." I mentioned first that she's so well cushioned in there that she won't get shaken. That wasn't enough, so I said we want to rough her up now so she's tough. And yes, she refers to my unborn daughter as "my baby." I asked DH to not share the name but he did anyway, as soon as we found out the sex. Her middle name will be Jane; MIL's name is Juanita and she goes by Janie. Now, she doesn't use the first name but only calls her baby Janie. I keep telling myself that I can deal for 6 days without complaint considering how much DH adores MIL and hasn't seen most of his family in a couple of years, but it's only day 2. Give me strength.
And the very worst part is that she's so damn sweet and well-intended that I feel like a raging bitch for being as annoyed as I am.
Screw you impatient patients who cannot comprehend the fact that the doctors are busy with people who have appointments and have not gotten around to answering your stupid ass question about a med you learned about on Fox News. I'm busy! I have no extra time in my day to walk away from the dr or patients to call you back until the end of the day!
For fuck sake people! It's a short week ! Stop being surprised the docs are only in 2 days this week ! It's not my fault ! Yes we are booked, no you can't be fit in, yes you can go to urgent care for the cough you have had for a month that you are just now calling about. Merry Christmas assholes! FTW! I seriously hate shitty people
Another MIL post - she won't stop rubbing my stomach. At least 6 times today I've looked down to see her hands on me. DH was then kind enough to rub my feet after an eventful day, and she started RUBBING MY TOES. I have touch and space issues to begin with because of a previous relationship and rarely hug even my immediate family. She also insists on my drinking milk and sitting on a special pillow when we drive - so I won't "shake her baby." I mentioned first that she's so well cushioned in there that she won't get shaken. That wasn't enough, so I said we want to rough her up now so she's tough. And yes, she refers to my unborn daughter as "my baby." I asked DH to not share the name but he did anyway, as soon as we found out the sex. Her middle name will be Jane; MIL's name is Juanita and she goes by Janie. Now, she doesn't use the first name but only calls her baby Janie. I keep telling myself that I can deal for 6 days without complaint considering how much DH adores MIL and hasn't seen most of his family in a couple of years, but it's only day 2. Give me strength.
And the very worst part is that she's so damn sweet and well-intended that I feel like a raging bitch for being as annoyed as I am.
OMG, I am dying about this- are you serious?!
MIL also likes to touch my belly and it drives me nuts, but she is generally more hands off than yours sounds!
Another MIL post - she won't stop rubbing my stomach. At least 6 times today I've looked down to see her hands on me. DH was then kind enough to rub my feet after an eventful day, and she started RUBBING MY TOES. I have touch and space issues to begin with because of a previous relationship and rarely hug even my immediate family. She also insists on my drinking milk and sitting on a special pillow when we drive - so I won't "shake her baby." I mentioned first that she's so well cushioned in there that she won't get shaken. That wasn't enough, so I said we want to rough her up now so she's tough. And yes, she refers to my unborn daughter as "my baby." I asked DH to not share the name but he did anyway, as soon as we found out the sex. Her middle name will be Jane; MIL's name is Juanita and she goes by Janie. Now, she doesn't use the first name but only calls her baby Janie. I keep telling myself that I can deal for 6 days without complaint considering how much DH adores MIL and hasn't seen most of his family in a couple of years, but it's only day 2. Give me strength.
And the very worst part is that she's so damn sweet and well-intended that I feel like a raging bitch for being as annoyed as I am.
OMG, I am dying about this- are you serious?!
MIL also likes to touch my belly and it drives me nuts, but she is generally more hands off than yours sounds!
I wish I wasn't. I know she's just excited but seriously... And she won't let me lift or do anything. I'm in the army - I literally make a living doing physical activity. Pretty sure my 5-lb bag isn't going to hurt the baby. Ugh!
@JadaBlue we actually aren't friends. They were referred to us by a realtor and we became friendly. They really wanted to buy the house we really wanted to sell it. They couldn't afford to buy right away and we wanted to do more than break even on the sale. They friended DH who is rarely on FB. When they figured this out, she friends me. I want to unfriend her but our realtor and her lawyer think we may want to keep it open until they move out and all is settled incase they try to bring some kind of lawsuit which they have threatened to do.
Why is it that everybody assumes that because you have a child of one sex that you are solely set on having your second be the opposite sex? Don't get me wrong, I am incredibly thrilled to be having a little girl this time, but every time I tell somebody they say "One of each! How perfect! That's exactly what I hoped for you!" Which just makes me wonder what people would've said if we were having another boy - "oh, there's always next time to try for a girl!" yada yada. Why does it matter so much? Can't you just be happy there's a healthy baby in there? Le sigh..
Why is it that everybody assumes that because you have a child of one sex that you are solely set on having your second be the opposite sex? Don't get me wrong, I am incredibly thrilled to be having a little girl this time, but every time I tell somebody they say "One of each! How perfect! That's exactly what I hoped for you!" Which just makes me wonder what people would've said if we were having another boy - "oh, there's always next time to try for a girl!" yada yada. Why does it matter so much? Can't you just be happy there's a healthy baby in there? Le sigh..
Overheard this conversation between my mom and aunt (her SIL, who is generally great) Saturday at Christmas: Aunt - Aren't you just thrilled to have a grandson to go with Lily? One of each! Mom - oh we're just excited for another healthy baby. We would have been just as excited with another girl. Aunt - oh, well of course...
My mom has three daughters - I think she's got some practice
A teenage/early twenties cashier gave my DD a candy cane the other day because she was whining/crying on our way out of the store. She probably thought she was helping because DD stopped complaining about the stroller recline (wanted to go down, then up, then down, then up, then down and l was not having it), but what she really did was reward my kid for being a brat (I was a "mean" mom and didn't let DD eat the candy cane until we were home a while later, but I am sure that connection is there -- whine and cry: get candy... great).
I do wonder if the whole "how great, one of each" reaction is just small talk/chit chat. I'm having a second girl so people say "how wonderful, they will be so close, have so much in common," etc. I think they're just trying to say something positive/nice rather than imply if I were having a son they wouldn't be close, etc.
A stranger touched my belly for the first time ever in two pregnancies a couple days ago!!! A woman working at Brooks Brothers in the outlet mall (we are baby mooning at the beach). As she did it, she was mumbling semi-incoherently about appropriate business wear for pregnant women. I was all like....
I don't care when friends/family touch me, but a stranger has never even attempted to touch me before. Normally my bitchy resting face scares them off....
Amanda
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Why is it that everybody assumes that because you have a child of one sex that you are solely set on having your second be the opposite sex? Don't get me wrong, I am incredibly thrilled to be having a little girl this time, but every time I tell somebody they say "One of each! How perfect! That's exactly what I hoped for you!" Which just makes me wonder what people would've said if we were having another boy - "oh, there's always next time to try for a girl!" yada yada. Why does it matter so much? Can't you just be happy there's a healthy baby in there? Le sigh..
Overheard this conversation between my mom and aunt (her SIL, who is generally great) Saturday at Christmas: Aunt - Aren't you just thrilled to have a grandson to go with Lily? One of each! Mom - oh we're just excited for another healthy baby. We would have been just as excited with another girl. Aunt - oh, well of course...
My mom has three daughters - I think she's got some practice
My parents have 4 grand daughters. They always get asked idiot questions about "needing" or "getting" a grandson and if they were bummed that the latest (she's only 3 months) was "yet another girl". It pisses my mom off so much.
She always replies that 4 healthy grand kids are more than she ever hoped for and anything else is just bonus. Boys, girls, doesn't care, will take them all.
It's just so rude when people do that. I think my sister and I are particularly sensitive to it BC between us, we've lost 3 pregnancies and neither of us care what we have!
Dhs stepdad likes to rub my belly, it's kind of creepy and makes me that much happier that we are done after this one. I dont have personal space issues per se but most people keep a decent six inch distance. This man is pressed right up against me rubbing away...really??? Why do my in laws have to be so weird?
I also think the child of one sex is just chit chat. I am the only girl out of three and I don't have as tight of bond as my Bros do but that is to be expected. I still have a close relationship with my brother closest in age to me and the three of us get a long just fine.
On the belly touching thing, now that I actually have a legit bump I don't mind if friends and family do it on occasion. I saw a girlfriend for the first time in months last night and she touched my belly and it was actually very endearing, she was so genuinely excited. @AmadorRose your MIL sounds like she is going way overboard though and that would irritate me too. One little touch when we first get to the house or are saying goodbye seems fine, but doing it all through the day? No. And for some reason I feel it would ESPECIALLY annoy me if it was my MIL doing it. Probably bc she made a comment a month or so ago about how DH "is the only "thin" person in the family but eventually he'll get fat like the rest of us". Umm excuse me? I'm pregnant, not fat, nor was I overweight pre-pregnancy. Speak for yourself lady. Now I definitely feel self conscious around you and don't want you touching me!
Dhs stepdad likes to rub my belly, it's kind of creepy and makes me that much happier that we are done after this one. I dont have personal space issues per se but most people keep a decent six inch distance. This man is pressed right up against me rubbing away...really??? Why do my in laws have to be so weird?
I also think the child of one sex is just chit chat. I am the only girl out of three and I don't have as tight of bond as my Bros do but that is to be expected. I still have a close relationship with my brother closest in age to me and the three of us get a long just fine.
Yeah it's like 100000x weirder if it's a man....
Amanda
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A teenage/early twenties cashier gave my DD a candy cane the other day because she was whining/crying on our way out of the store. She probably thought she was helping because DD stopped complaining about the stroller recline (wanted to go down, then up, then down, then up, then down and l was not having it), but what she really did was reward my kid for being a brat (I was a "mean" mom and didn't let DD eat the candy cane until we were home a while later, but I am sure that connection is there -- whine and cry: get candy... great).
So I was at Publix the other day and DD was behaving just fine, but the cashier asks if she's old enough to color, and being 2 of course I said yes (she looooooooves to color). They proceeded to hand her a box of crayons and a coloring book...HER. Not me. I'm heading out the door. I do not want my child having crayons in the car...that will fall into cracks and sit in the Florida heat. But god forbid I try and take it from her...sigh.
This is a day late but my BFM goes out to my stupid DH and ILs. We agreed that we would hold off on telling ppl the sex of the baby until later in the pregnancy. MIL and SIL knew that we were going to find out the sex and pestered him until he cracked and told them. I don't understand why ppl don't respect our wishes and I don't understand why he couldn't keep his flipping mouth shut!! I'm so annoyed!!
My immediate family members were opinionated about the sex of the baby. It drove me nuts. My dad really, really wanted a girl...which is weird, because why do you have an opinion about the sex of someone else's first baby? And my sister was really rude when she found out we were having a girl and talked about how that's not what she wants and how boys are gross. DH and I were happy that it's a boy but we just wanted a healthy baby first and foremost...
A teenage/early twenties cashier gave my DD a candy cane the other day because she was whining/crying on our way out of the store. She probably thought she was helping because DD stopped complaining about the stroller recline (wanted to go down, then up, then down, then up, then down and l was not having it), but what she really did was reward my kid for being a brat (I was a "mean" mom and didn't let DD eat the candy cane until we were home a while later, but I am sure that connection is there -- whine and cry: get candy... great).
So I was at Publix the other day and DD was behaving just fine, but the cashier asks if she's old enough to color, and being 2 of course I said yes (she looooooooves to color). They proceeded to hand her a box of crayons and a coloring book...HER. Not me. I'm heading out the door. I do not want my child having crayons in the car...that will fall into cracks and sit in the Florida heat. But god forbid I try and take it from her...sigh.
Ugh, yes. A few times when I've picked DD up from MILs house she's offered her a popsicle or a sucker on our way out the door, and I want to murder her for giving my child a messy choking hazard that I will have to take away and cause her to scream all the way home. Just one of many reasons she's not attending "Grandma's free day care" anymore.
Of course we have to fall in love with the most expensive nursery furniture in BRU. *sigh*
I can relate.. We fell in love with furniture from buy buy baby.. And the closest one is 3 hours away.. And they only deliver to the store, can't ship to home. Grrrr.
Guys! I know it's technically Wednesday, but I failed my 1-hour glucose test! I am so bummed/annoyed.
Oh man, that sucks. I failed mine with DS too, apparently by a very small margin. The three hour follow up was so damn boring, I wish I would have brought a pillow to take a nap in between draws. Luckily, it all turned out fine. Hope the same goes for you!
Re: BFM - 12/21/2015
@pinottoparenthood Agreed, I found the glucose test to be a complete non-event. I think this is less a confession than a public service message for FTMs! Like so many things in pregnancy, you can't know what your experience will be, but this is one of the few where it's at least possible it won't even be uncomfortable.
And the very worst part is that she's so damn sweet and well-intended that I feel like a raging bitch for being as annoyed as I am.
For fuck sake people! It's a short week ! Stop being surprised the docs are only in 2 days this week ! It's not my fault ! Yes we are booked, no you can't be fit in, yes you can go to urgent care for the cough you have had for a month that you are just now calling about. Merry Christmas assholes! FTW! I seriously hate shitty people
MIL also likes to touch my belly and it drives me nuts, but she is generally more hands off than yours sounds!
MIL also likes to touch my belly and it drives me nuts, but she is generally more hands off than yours sounds!
I wish I wasn't. I know she's just excited but seriously...
And she won't let me lift or do anything. I'm in the army - I literally make a living doing physical activity. Pretty sure my 5-lb bag isn't going to hurt the baby. Ugh!
As if being pregnant and giant and awkward wasn't bad enough, now I also have to have a burny, itchy crotch?
Aunt - Aren't you just thrilled to have a grandson to go with Lily? One of each!
Mom - oh we're just excited for another healthy baby. We would have been just as excited with another girl.
Aunt - oh, well of course...
My mom has three daughters - I think she's got some practice
I don't care when friends/family touch me, but a stranger has never even attempted to touch me before. Normally my bitchy resting face scares them off....
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Rhys - born 04.17.2013
Harry - born 04.18.2016
She always replies that 4 healthy grand kids are more than she ever hoped for and anything else is just bonus. Boys, girls, doesn't care, will take them all.
It's just so rude when people do that. I think my sister and I are particularly sensitive to it BC between us, we've lost 3 pregnancies and neither of us care what we have!
I also think the child of one sex is just chit chat. I am the only girl out of three and I don't have as tight of bond as my Bros do but that is to be expected. I still have a close relationship with my brother closest in age to me and the three of us get a long just fine.
@AmadorRose your MIL sounds like she is going way overboard though and that would irritate me too. One little touch when we first get to the house or are saying goodbye seems fine, but doing it all through the day? No. And for some reason I feel it would ESPECIALLY annoy me if it was my MIL doing it. Probably bc she made a comment a month or so ago about how DH "is the only "thin" person in the family but eventually he'll get fat like the rest of us". Umm excuse me? I'm pregnant, not fat, nor was I overweight pre-pregnancy. Speak for yourself lady. Now I definitely feel self conscious around you and don't want you touching me!
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Nov siggy challenge: animals eating Thanksgiving food
Rhys - born 04.17.2013
Harry - born 04.18.2016