Things your Dr said...

smeria

Went today for a checkup. My male Dr greets me with, "How are you feeling?" I reply, "pregnant". He says "You have only been pregnant for like a minute!". Im 10 weeks 4 days. I lost my wit and just glared at him but seriously that's obviously a male response. Constant nausea, MS, heartburn, I can't stop peeing, bloat ...wth doc? I wanted to shake him

horn16

At least he didn't tell you that you was making your pregnancy a excuse ....the father in law actually said that I was pretending to be sick like wth

megth

Someone needs to work on their bedside manner!

MrsRo731

OP - your dr. sounds like a douche!

Deepoet

The on call doc told me last weekend to "sit tight over the weekend since ultrasounds are hard to get on a weekend,since there is nothing we can do for you either way."

Nerdchild

My doc was my gyn for the entire time I've been in Cali. At my first appt with him, ever, he was so professional, until he found out my husband is military (he himself used to be in the military). He dropped all pretense and became so frank and real (which I have come to appreciate), and he flat out told me "It's time to start thinking about babies, you are getting old". I was shocked, as I had JUST turned 26.

Eveinshock

dr: you're measuring 6 days behind so we will change your due date to 7/28/16
me: is that something to be concerned about since it's not possible for me to have conceived...(cuts me off)
dr: you know what....forget I even said anything, we will leave the date as is. 

really? I don't care about the date. but he refused to discuss it, I couldn't even tell him I didn't have sex around that time period. I thought I'd feel much better after the US but I've been stressed ever since.

maddmama

@Eveinshock what!! That's so rude. I measured 2 weeks behind my LMP .. Which made me wonder if I should be concerned about, too. I'm so thankful my dr. is extremely nice.

Eveinshock

maddmama said:

@Eveinshock what!! That's so rude. I measured 2 weeks behind my LMP .. Which made me wonder if I should be concerned about, too. I'm so thankful my dr. is extremely nice.

it wasn't my obgyn, who i really like, it was the maternal fetal medicine specialist. he happened to be the one on duty when I had the ultrasound. he works thursdays. my next appt is new years eve which is a thursday which means i get him again! if not, i have to wait until the next week. but I want to tell people on new years!  so i am stuck with him again i guess.    

DobbysSock

My doctor is so funny. She's my age and has a daughter 3 weeks younger than DD. I'm not sure if she's like this with all her patients (I think she is) or if she's just like this with me since we're actually good friends in "real life". I had a back injury after DD was born and at yesterday's appointment I spoke with her about concerns I had regarding back issues during pregnancy and getting a spinal for my c-section. She started describing some exercises and yoga poses I can do to help, and then got down on the floor and up on the exam table to demonstrate different poses for me. Then she paused and said "Given what I'm wearing, maybe google the next one" (she was in a knee length dress and told me to try "Happy Baby Pose" - look it up, definitely not a dress-wearing pose). I love her.

carrieandr

My acupuncturist asked if I was having any pain and I said "just my uterus stretching." He said, "Good. ...well...easy for me to say."

maddmama

@Eveinshock oh yeah... It's worth putting up with him then haha. What a turd.

Puddles03

My doctor asked if I wanted to abort and implied my husband has cheated on me... Ya she's a bitch and I have come to accept that.

born2run911

Puddles03 said:

My doctor asked if I wanted to abort and implied my husband has cheated on me... Ya she's a bitch and I have come to accept that.

Woah, where the f$&@ did she get that from and feel she has the right to tell you that???


Eta: words.

Puddles03

@born2run911 I have a 1year old, I went in right after I found out and she was very concerned... I was extremely happy but she thought she needed to off this young mom all her alternatives...
2nd she tried to convince me to get a pap/physical by scaring me and telling me I might have an STI because my husband might have cheated... Ya no.

Y0urm0m

Puddles03 said:

My doctor asked if I wanted to abort and implied my husband has cheated on me... Ya she's a bitch and I have come to accept that.

Yes can you please explain this story

DarkCat

Puddles03 said:

My doctor asked if I wanted to abort and implied my husband has cheated on me... Ya she's a bitch and I have come to accept that.

Story time! *grabs popcorn*

Y0urm0m

Puddles03 said:

@born2run911 I have a 1year old, I went in right after I found out and she was very concerned... I was extremely happy but she thought she needed to off this young mom all her alternatives...
2nd she tried to convince me to get a pap/physical by scaring me and telling me I might have an STI because my husband might have cheated... Ya no.

i still feel like there is more to the story and you're leaving something out.

soberkfell

Had spotting with DS due to low progesterone levels. Several months into the pregnancy at one of my routine visits, long after the spotting had stopped, my doctor comes in and greets me by saying, "Well, we didn't think we'd make it this far, did we?" Um... we didn't? She's a little kooky, so I brushed it off.

mimigoldblack

Son of a bitch of a dr.... he thinks is easy to be pregnant

DobbysSock

Puddles03 said:

@born2run911 I have a 1year old, I went in right after I found out and she was very concerned... I was extremely happy but she thought she needed to off this young mom all her alternatives... 2nd she tried to convince me to get a pap/physical by scaring me and telling me I might have an STI because my husband might have cheated... Ya no.

She definitely could have had more tact and I think it's pretty offensive that she broached the topic of termination when you were excited for your pregnancy. However, as for the STI testing, it is standard practice for all pregnant women to be tested for STIs, whether they are in monogamous relationships or not. STIs can cause very serious, sometimes life-threatening complications for the baby so any good doctor will push for STI testing, even if their patient is sure that their partner has been faithful. 

That said, sounds like your doctor has brutal bed-side manner and could have approached both topics way differently by asking you how you felt about the pregnancy before assuming, and by explaining why STI testing was important without making you feel like she was questioning your marriage.

Puddles03

DobbysSock said:

Puddles03 said:

@born2run911 I have a 1year old, I went in right after I found out and she was very concerned... I was extremely happy but she thought she needed to off this young mom all her alternatives...
2nd she tried to convince me to get a pap/physical by scaring me and telling me I might have an STI because my husband might have cheated... Ya no.

She definitely could have had more tact and I think it's pretty offensive that she broached the topic of termination when you were excited for your pregnancy. However, as for the STI testing, it is standard practice for all pregnant women to be tested for STIs, whether they are in monogamous relationships or not. STIs can cause very serious, sometimes life-threatening complications for the baby so any good doctor will push for STI testing, even if their patient is sure that their partner has been faithful. 

That said, sounds like your doctor has brutal bed-side manner and could have approached both topics way differently by asking you how you felt about the pregnancy before assuming, and by explaining why STI testing was important without making you feel like she was questioning your marriage.


------------qbf------------

So I talked to a girl friend of mine and apparently she goes to the same doctors office, different doctor and she was also asked if she wanted to terminate... May it's just common practice in that clinic to give you all you options? Not really sure.

With the STI testing I declined because I had it done a year ago with my daughter and everything was fine, I completely trust my husband so I didn't see a point in doing it again. I do know that had I had one it can be very harmful to my unborn child. I still said I would do the HIV testing as that is something you can get through blood contact. It's not that I don't want to be safe, I just think it is unnecessary. I explained my reasons to my doctor and that's when she said well you know you have been faithful but you can't be sure your partner has been... So ya it was implied not directly "your husband is a cheater" but same thing to me. I agree that my doctor could have had more tact/better bedside manner. It doesn't matter she won't be delivering my child so she can have all the opinions she wants and I can make all the decisions I want, in regards to my body.

Eta: qbf

HMcDade1

I hadn't thrown up at all until I hit eleven weeks and then of course the morning of my appointment I threw up. He asked how I was doing and if I still had nausea as bad as the last appointment and I told him yeah but that I hadn't thrown up until today.

Then he says " well did you really think you could make it through this whole thing without vommitting at least once ? " we both laughed about it.

Sheepishly - I mean yeah sort of that what's I was hoping for doc. Lol

noelietrex

During my preconception visit, likely baby was implanting that day, I had a pap. I asked what my cervix looked like (just trying to figure out when ovulation was happening) and the midwife said "Do you want a picture?!" I said sure so she called in a nurse and I now have a photo of my cervix on my phone. We all laughed- it was kind of unorthodox but they've got such a women's tribe comfy girlfriends feeling I love them more for it!

matryoshkadoll

I got some weird questions when I saw the GP for them to refer me to the OB. It was clearly a list from the computer that she had to check off, but still awkward. "Have you taken a pregnancy test?" "Was it positive?" "when was the last time you had sex?" And to be fair, @Puddles03 they also had to ask "do you want this pregnancy?" and "is it possible you have any STIs?" My dr was super nice about it though, or I also would have been kind of offended.

DarkCat

I was actually asked the same question (termination) now that I think about it. It was my very first ultrasound and after my pap the doctor asked "Is this a pregnancy you want to continue?" I was surprised but of course I said yes. This wasn't at a clinic but at a legit midwife/OB practice. I think it's standard care to offer you all options.

betheliz

At the end of my first ultrasound appointment, which my husband had attended to see the heartbeat, the OB asked if we had any questions.  My husband asked the OB if there was anything new we needed to know about with our second pregnancy.  The doc (whom I adore) said, "Everything is twice as uncomfortable and annoying."  Um, thanks for your honesty?