HELP!!!..... OPK's, BD, CM, DHubs gets me sick, Loss mentioned...

kmartinez209

Ok ladies I know there's a lot to this, but I need advise. DHubs and I have been trying for over 10+ years, this year in Aug we had our first BFP EVER! Unfortunate as it is, it ended with a MC in September at 6wks, we are under the care of an RE although we've taken the last few months to try on our own... It hasn't worked so far, I started using OPK's last month and thought I tracked very well, we BD'ed but kept getting BFN so this month is our final month of trying on our own as we are to have our 2nd FET come January. I had my AF on 12/4 I've been using Ovia and OPK's to track, I thought my peek would be this Sunday 12/19 (as Ovia stated) --but over the last few days I've had from what I can tell and understand from descriptions and photos on the internet: It started with like watery cm, then went to like glue real thick, and now it's stringy like egg whites, DHubs and I have BD'ed Sat and yesterday he has MFI with low everything so I was told BD everyother day, I'm feeling very crampy and kinda sick to my stomach, I'm not sure if you ladies feel like this with your DHubs but after he does his business in me I'm sick to my stomach, a little itchy down there (which goes away) but no other symptoms I've asked my OBGYN and RE about being alergic to one another but they say no we are not because when we retrieved my folicals and put them together with his sperm they met perfectly and made us 8 beautiful little embryos, my question is should we BD every other day or every day? I took an OPK yesterday that was super faint and I took one this morning that instantly was way darker then the control line so I'm assuming I ovulated early this month (or maybe I always do, not too sure) so I'm assuming I'm not ovulating on the 19th which technically the 19th would be 16 days past AF and if I'm reading my body right with cm I'm really ovulating 11 to 12 days past AF so should we BD tonight or tomorrow? I'm really not trying to worry about it too much on our own since I know were transferring next month but I hear all these stories about Miracles and I'd love to have that be our story "We were trying on our own and BAM" we were blessed with you!" Ladies please help my crazy mind..... THANK YOU!!

decoycandy

I apologize for not having any advice, but I just wanted to say what a journey you've gone on. You sound like a very strong, kick ass lady. I wish you all the luck and love you so greatly deserve. May 2016 be the year. Fingers crossed for your little Christmas miracle.

penelope4612

It sounds like you're certainly in your fertile window. Most people ovulate 24-72 hours after a positive opk (assuming you ovulate, it doesn't always happen) so it's impossible to know if you'll ovulate today, tomorrow or the next day. If you were told to BD every other day I'd probably stick to that, but I really don't have any good reason why. Good luck.

ssnova

Sperm can live in fertile cm in the female body for 3 to 5 days that's why you can get away with the every other day for sex...they usually recommend every other day then increase to every day when you are in your fertile window. Hope that helps

FireInWonderland

If your DH's sperm count is low, I would stick to every other day because it helps the numbers rise. As for your ovulation, it sounds like you're getting ready to ovulate and PP was right - 24-72 hours after a positive OPK is usually when you ovulate, if it's not an anovulatory cycle. I've honestly got so much respect for you for trying this long to get pregnant, I would probably have given up in your shoes. It sounds though like the app you're using isn't working with you or you're not giving it enough data. Also, taking your BBT every morning could really help you and also confirm ovulation. You start at the beginning of a cycle and track your temperatures through the end, and the fluctuations can confirm ovulation. If you're going to a doctor next cycle it might be a moot point to get started, but that information could also be really helpful to the specialist you and your DH see.

Good luck to you and I hope you get a Christmas miracle this year that sticks for 2016. You are incredible for holding out this long!